Today, my long-distance boyfriend was at my house for a 10-day visit. He told me that we'd never spent so much time together, so he didn't know me well and now, he'd finally met the "real me". He doesn't like it. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
My long-distance partner came to visit me for the weekend. When he arrived he seemed moody and tired, and refused any kind of physical contact. Upset, I asked him what was wrong. Turns out he's mad for coming to see me because I've put on weight, making the trip a waste of his time. FML
Today, I saw my long-distance boyfriend for the first time in 8 months. He dumped me on the spot because I was "uglier" than he remembered. FML
Today, my long-distance boyfriend wanted to spend time online with me. He kept quiet on Skype and went on a hundred different stupid websites, laughing by himself. Afterwards, he told me he really enjoyed our time together. FML
Today, I met my long distance girlfriend after two years of being separated by 900 miles. She brought her short distance boyfriend to the meeting. FML
Today, my boyfriend, who lives 100 miles away and whom I haven't seen in 2 months, told me he was visiting my city with some friends. I assumed this was an opening to an invitation, but no, he just asked me about the best places to get drunk. FML
Today, my long-distance boyfriend decided to tell me he found a girl in his hometown he’s become attracted to, and that he doesn’t love me anymore. He says we can "still be friends." I’d just driven 100 miles to see him. FML
Today, I learned that my long term/long distance (two hours away) boyfriend has had not one, but two regular "girlfriends" closer to his home. He'd told them that we broke up while still coming to visit me weekly. He did stop coming by a few months ago because "work was crazy" but that didn't stop him from sending "pics" though. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me that he becomes a boring version of himself whenever we are together. FML
Today, my boyfriend came home from college for the first time in weeks just to visit me. I was so excited that I spent two hours getting ready. Turns out he was only coming back to dump me. Now I'm single and out of foundation. FML
Today, my boyfriend is acting more distanced, leaving me on seen or delivered. We do long distance, he’s supposed to come visit me in three weeks. I don't know what to think. He’s always been sweet and stuff, but now it feels like he’s not trying. This makes my stomach hurt. FML
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amandawins 0
Honestly, long distance relationships are hard. A similar situation happened with me and my bf, but we worked through it - not that we didn't like each other, but we fell off the pedestal. It happens in every relationship, but it's worse in long distance.
kamichama 0
I feel your pain. Happened to me. 10 day visit, dating for 4 months. After day 6, he just kind of ignored me.
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leopardseal 0
Sucks, right? Well, people can only have a relationship if they spend time together to be able to know each other. Obviously, you've never spent 10 days with this person, and you didn't ever spend enough time to get to know each other. So now that you have, you're just not compatible. Long distance relationships don't work for that exact reason
wroughtinfire 0
This is not really an FML unless you had a lot of hopes and dreams riding on this guy. You know now that long-distance can be rough, and it's generally better to get to know someone in person. You'll be ok.
Superkenkun 0
Long distance has higher chance of working out if you saw the other in person first. Im not saying that what the OP did was wrong, but it was just unlucky.
InXTransition 1
GET MAD, GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! EF THAT! And #17, I hope you kicked his ass right out.
lovestinks456 0
break up with that bitch! There are better guys out there! Next time date a guy who lives in the same town as you!
DameGreyWulf 1
.... Then be more honest about yourself?
Kay34 0
I'll try to be helpful, for as I've read so far, no one here seems to want to be. I have a boyfriend that lives all the way in Winnipeg Canada, while I live in U.S. Florida, to be exact. This December we plan to have him come stay with me. It's a scarily nervous thing when you first meet your love, but it seems to me you two just need to keep working at it. I'm sure not everything about you both will be 'exactly' as it seems on the interwebs and it's a stupid thing for him to think you should be. But it doesn't mean all is lost, please keep trying. If you both are serious with having this relationship, then things will all work out. Try talking about what you each don't like, (if you have any complains,) and try to both improve yourselves. It's best that you personally WANT to improve yourself, than have the person you care about force it on to you. Good luck. :)
SimpleSimon 0
I have to disagree here. Trying to change to suit each other better is a sure way to end up breaking up further down the line. You'll end up deliberately acting different around you significant other than you normally do in other company, and essentially become two different people.
pleasetryagain 0
That's terrible advice. If you don't like someone in real life that's it. Just because those two were completely in love online, it still means that they were dealing with idealized versions of each other and not real people.
KeyLime 0
My boyfriend and I were long distance by 5 hours for almost 3 years. We had to be extremely honest with each other in order to make it work. We don't change who we ARE for each other, but because we lacked body language and facial expressions to make interpretations of what we were talking about, we had to say what we meant, and mean what we said. It was a lot more work than a relationship that is close by, and it moved a lot slower since we only saw each other for a weekend every month or two, but we got to know each other slowly. The one time we spent 10 days with each other, we argued a lot, but we worked through them. Then I moved in with him, and things are going great. Maybe I just happened to be lucky. It varies couple to couple. Some people just aren't good with distance and need the close connection and body language. Other people are more individual and like their space. So it always varies. But long distance is always worth a try, even if it doesn't work out.
fegd 0
Relação a distância é uma burrice. Você mereceu.
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jaxsk 0
Doesn't sound like he was your boyfriend then... if "10 days" was a long visit for you two.
letitbe56 0
Some people have jobs or school. Ten days is a long time to be away from those things.
cooorah 0
He sounds like an asshole. Stick with the close relationships, instead of the boys that live far away. That way they can get to know the real you, rather than forget and then come back and change their mind.