Thanks for noticing

Well, if that's the case, it could have been the boyfriend's fault too. Before I went to college, I met someone else who was going to be in my year online, and we talked online constantly and we were sure we would be best friends all four years. But while over the internet he had seemed witty and interesting, in real life, those aspects of him took on an obnoxious and condescending undertone, and what was worse, it turned out that he wasn't interested in getting to know any of the other people in our year, just in paling around with me. And I say that it was my fault I was disappointed because I had projected onto him the person I wanted him to be--humorous and socially charming--and ended up hurting him when I gravitated into a completely different social group. It's not that the OP was somehow concealing key aspects of her personality. It could be that the boyfriend completely misinterpreted them.

#30, Your experience =/= everyone else. Get off the high horse, yo.

#34 It does = a lot of people though, so STFU! Everything he said is true!

Long distance is acceptable no matter what. I have a close friend who has only ever had long distance boyfriends, usually guys she met online or through friends, because she's not as clingy as some girls are, and she knows that being apart makes the time together that much more important. And I agree with #32. The things people do or say online can take on a whole new tone or attitude when they do them non-stop in person. Whether long distance relationships will work depends on the people, and in this case, it could just be that things that the BF found cue or endearing in the OP over the internet, he found annoying in person. This isn't really a FML, it's just a misunderstanding. She needs to move on and find someone else.

Acceptable may have been the wrong word. Obviously, there's nothing wrong with deciding to have a long-distance relationship. I just think that people who get into serious relationships with people they've never spent time with do so out of a desire for attachment, and not necessarily a sense of commitment to a future with that other person. I think certain people feel a lot of pressure always to be in a relationship, and I guess for those people just the fact of the relationship is enough to make them feel happy about it, and maybe for those people having a long-distance relationship can actually make it easier for them. I just don't see how you can feel you really know someone until you've been with them a long time, seen them when they're upset, when they're sick, when they're going through something hard, etc. Interaction through a medium-IM, e-mail, the phone, Skype, whatever-- is always censored in some way. To know someone, you have to be by their side as they tackle life, and that just doesn't happen long-distance. That's why I think long-distance only makes real sense when you're with someone you're truly committed to, and the distance is temporary.