Today, my boyfriend of 3 years said he wanted an open relationship. When I asked if it was because I wasn’t good enough to fulfill his needs, he got mad at me and now expects an apology. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I caught my boyfriend cheating again. Not wanting to lose him, I suggested we try opening our relationship and being poly. He flew into a rage and swore I was just trying to think of an excuse to get back at him by screwing a bunch of randos. I can’t win. FML
Today, I caught my boyfriend with a prostitute. The prostitute actually got mad at me for yelling at him, because the few times he’s hired her, all he asked for was talking and cuddling, never sex. Her advice was I need to step up my emotional intimacy, because he’s clearly not getting it from me. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me. He said I was way too good at sex so I must have lied about not having much experience, and he "wouldn't be with someone who is hiding something." WTF? FML
Today, my boyfriend asked me for sex and when I said no, he asked me to leave. When I demanded to know why, he told me I had reached his limit: if I denied him sex for longer than 6 weeks in a row then clearly I’m not interested in an adult relationship, and need to get the hell out. Asshole. FML
Today, my boyfriend asked why I’ve been so grumpy lately. When I told him it’s because our relationship has been severely lacking in intimacy, he sighed heavily and said, “Ugh, fine, let’s just get it over with!” Gee, thanks babe. FML
Today, my boyfriend starting going off on me, calling me a psycho, all because I opened our bedroom door while he was in there. FML
Today, my boyfriend got mad at me because I refused to keep him company while he took a shit. FML
Today, my boyfriend blamed me for his affair, because apparently I "should have made it clear to him" not to have sex with other people. FML
Today, my boyfriend was telling me a story about his ex-wife. Just normal day-to-day stuff. He then got mad at me because I wasn’t mad that he was talking about his ex. I told him that I understood he had a life before me, and it wasn’t a big deal. Apparently, he wants a jealous immature brat. Sorry? FML
Today, my boyfriend broke things off, because he says I have a "horrible, horrible personality" and that I'm only really fuck-buddy material, which is a problem because he wants something long-term. We've been dating for three years. FML
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Forest Way 11
This is the start of a controlling man in an abusive relationship. His anger will make you stop asking him questions. That is exactly what he wants. He wants you to not question him.
mickymoose1 15
This entire situation is a red flag. No one deserves to be in an abusive situation. Not all abuse is visible and the mental/emotional abuse you're partner is inflicting on you is only going to get worse with time. It might even turn physical at some point. Run now before it's too late. You deserve better. If he wants to be able to sleep around and you're not okay with it, he can do it while single. If he truly cared about you he would recognize that he can't be what you need him to be and he'd leave and allow you to find someone who wants to love you the way you deserve. Good luck!
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Forest Way 11
This is the start of a controlling man in an abusive relationship. His anger will make you stop asking him questions. That is exactly what he wants. He wants you to not question him.
mickymoose1 15
This entire situation is a red flag. No one deserves to be in an abusive situation. Not all abuse is visible and the mental/emotional abuse you're partner is inflicting on you is only going to get worse with time. It might even turn physical at some point. Run now before it's too late. You deserve better. If he wants to be able to sleep around and you're not okay with it, he can do it while single. If he truly cared about you he would recognize that he can't be what you need him to be and he'd leave and allow you to find someone who wants to love you the way you deserve. Good luck!
alex_jaguara 33
Run fast and run far.
Bogrbon 27
Well, tell him he's welcome to have an open relationship with someone else, because he definitely sounds like a douchebag.
Blimix 9
Polyamory *absolutely* requires the willingness and ability to have mature conversations about any and every problem that can come up in a relationship. Conflicts must be approached with compassion, empathy, an open mind, the self-respect and self-understanding to set and enforce boundaries, and respect for your partners' boundaries. Jealousy must be taken as a sign of an unmet need or a fear of losing someone, rather than as a springboard for tightening control. Your relationship wouldn't last a week. However, let's address one little side issue: Nobody can fulfill all of another person's needs. Some people deal with this by having friends for the rest. Some become polyamorous. Some just live with unmet needs. The fact that he wants an open relationship isn't a critique of what you give him.
tounces7 28
He doesn't want an open relationship. He wants permission to cheat on you whenever he pleases without you "bothering" him about it. YOU will not be allowed to sleep with anyone else though, because he's extremely toxic and you should be running before you even finish reading this.
LeahMichelle 6
Agree to have an open relationship... Then open the door and wave him out. Bye boy 👋
Hangryko 32
Dump the jerk if you haven't already.