Today, my mom made the (not) very wise decision to once again inform me that my grandma is in rapidly declining health, and as a result she is not long for this world. My brain took this as an opportunity to push my anxiety into overdrive. I can't stop thinking about what will happen when my grandma dies. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, and for the past week, my grandma has been talking about her oldest cat not living much longer. This morning, my mom called, and I could instantly tell by the inflection of her voice what had happened. I immediately, correctly, assumed that he had died… and then I got yelled at for being "pessimistic." FML
Today, my mom was talking about my grandma's approaching death. When she saw I was getting upset, she gave me a weird look and asked me if I was PMSing. FML
Today, there was a massive thunderstorm in my area. My first instinct - as well as my parents' - was to go to my sickly grandma's house and make sure she was okay, as she lives alone. As we prepared to step outside, we all remembered a rather crucial detail: My grandma is dead. FML
Today, I just came out of a two-year long depression. I'm finally starting to feel normal, so of course I get a message that my grandmother might have less than a year to live. FML
Today, without telling me, my mom dropped me off at my grandmother's house, and drove off. Now I'm supposed to spend the next month with her. Guess she forgot my grandma died six weeks ago. FML
Today, my mom asked me to help pick out clothes for my grandma to wear in her casket. I didn't know she'd died. FML
Today, at the end of my great grandmother's funeral, her daughter (my grandma) told me and my mother that she doesn’t have a reason to come back and visit anymore, and that everyone in her life is now gone. FML
Today, I went to visit my grandparents, as my grandmother may not have long left. When my stepfather wasn't grilling my visibly uncomfortable grandad about Bible passages, my mother was trauma-dumping about how hard her life has been, and how awful her marriage to my father was. They're his parents. FML
Today, I was talking with my Grandma, who lives on the opposite side of the state, and congratulated her on reaching 87. She said she was hoping to reach 90. My brain went in a very morbid direction as I quietly wondered if she'd live to 90. She didn't hear it but my dad, her son, did. Apologizing didn't help. FML
Today, while at my aunt's funeral, my grandma who has terrible memory loss asked me whose funeral we were at. I had to explain to her that her daughter had died. FML
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Chazzster 32
Would you rather Mom had waited until after Grandma dies to tell you? … I get that feelings can be difficult and uncertainty is difficult to deal with. But life is full of those things and you have to be able to deal with them - It’s part of growing up… Call Grandma and tell her you are thinking of her. It will make her feel better and you too most likely. It’s always better to deal with uncomfortable things than to ignore them until it’s a bigger issue.
poopface82 25
Sorry for your impending loss. Try to see her before she dies.
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Chazzster 32
Would you rather Mom had waited until after Grandma dies to tell you? … I get that feelings can be difficult and uncertainty is difficult to deal with. But life is full of those things and you have to be able to deal with them - It’s part of growing up… Call Grandma and tell her you are thinking of her. It will make her feel better and you too most likely. It’s always better to deal with uncomfortable things than to ignore them until it’s a bigger issue.
poopface82 25
Sorry for your impending loss. Try to see her before she dies.
melijoray 4
Your mum knows you suffer and is trying to cushion the blow. Give her a break, she's suffering too.