Today, my fiancé and his family accused me of being with him only because he's rich, refusing to go ahead with the wedding. I accepted his marriage proposal 4 years ago, when he was penniless and unemployed. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my fiancé asked for money to bail his brother out of jail, the same brother who happily spent a whole day recently trying to convince my fiancé that I've been cheating on him with my own cousin. So I said no. He shook his head in disgust and said that I'm "unbelievably spiteful". FML
Today, my boyfriend called me explaining that he is getting married this weekend to a woman he met on Craigslist. Why? Because I won't marry him, and he'll make an extra thousand dollars per month having a wife since he is in the army. FML
Today, my dad is refusing to let me marry my fiancé because he said no when my dad asked for a loan of £10,000 to help clear some gambling debts. Apparently that shows my fiancé has poor family values and will be a bad father and an alcoholic husband. Impressive logical thinking there. FML
Today, it's been two years since my fiancé proposed, drunk, and with no ring. Recently, I overheard him on a Zoom call with a work colleague who'd not talked to him since he was with his last girlfriend, who was much more attractive than I am. The colleague asked if they were still together and he lied and said yes. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he's prepared to commit to marriage, but only if I buy my own ring and tell everyone he surprised me with it. FML
Today, I was out with my boyfriend, when he started browsing wedding rings. He found a ring, proposed to me right there in front of a crowd, and then was promptly denied a payment plan. We left without a ring. FML
Today, my fiancé told me that he expects me to agree to quit my job to cook and clean after we get married, or he will not show up at our wedding. He earns minimum wage and my salary is 17 times higher than his. FML
Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
Today, I was supposed to get married. Instead, my sister made up a story about me cheating on my fiancé at the bachelorette party. He bought it and dumped me, despite there being no evidence of this. Turns out it was all a plan because they were secretly seeing each other for months. FML
Today, my dad had a chat with my fiancé, telling him he can do better than me, and to think carefully before going through with our wedding. FML
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fader48080 10
4 years ago he proposed and he is still just your fiance? I'm not judging just curious.
Scrambled 21
They are well aware of the fact that you met him before he was rich, they just don't like you.
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Comments (76)
Dick_diamond 22
Damned if you do and damned if you don't, right?
djurmel89 30
Sucks. Doesn't sound like true love for him or anything.
fader48080 10
4 years ago he proposed and he is still just your fiance? I'm not judging just curious.
acommonman 23
I respect OP's patience, marriage can be quite a leap for some couples.
Theater_Chef_3 30
They might've been waiting until they were both more financially stable, but the ring was a promise that it wasn't a dead end relationship.
acommonman 23
Just realized my original comment didn't make much sense in the context of the FML. I respect OP's dedication, and it is more than likely that her future in-laws simply don't like her.
RadikulRam 16
"my fiance and his family" It seems the fiance is accusing too. He probably found himself a new girl, BECAUSE of his new found wealth, who will **** him poor. He would rather date her than OP.
acommonman 23
I missed that entirely, great observation. In that case, the fiancé himself is also refusing to go through with the wedding, which is making him out to be a complete asshole. OP would probably be better off not married to such a man, IMHO.
snazzymcwho 21
Nothing too surprising here. My husband and I were engaged for four years before we could afford to pay for our wedding. We also moved to two different states in that time period and had to resettle ourselves before saving and planning. Not every situation or engagement is ideal. Sounds like they were saving up and becoming stable before they got married. Sucks that he wasn't as committed to the relationship. :(
Dominatrickz 7
He's just a dick making you out to be the bad guy so he doesn't have to be. Its yours and his relationship, not the parent's. Hell, the parents are probably afraid he'd give you more money than him if he married you, therefore not liking you. He sounds like a little boy stuck on mommy's teet, lose him!
JustinJK 21
It might be a different situation since my father and his girlfriend are both 51. I'm not sure if age is a factor. But they've been together for almost 10 years and engaged for almost half of that. They're just moving in together this summer and planning on officializing their relationship through marriage. Sometimes it's better to wait.
wiccaantje 21
I'm actually engaged for 8 years at the moment. He's only getting married because I want to so he pretty much let's me decide whatever I want when it comes to the date. We love each other, we know we want to be together, so there's no rush behind it. While 8 years of engagement sounds mental, it doesn't if you got all the details. I got engaged before starting my higher education (at 17,5 years old), we moved in during my 3rd year of education (and I wouldn't want to get married without living together) and I recently finished my bachelor's degree (about a year ago). I didn't want to get married during school, that's hectic enough and afterwards I wanted to focus on getting a job. Now that I've got a steady job, plans are moving forwards, for 2018. I'm recently employed, I still need to save up some. So by the time we are married we'll have been engaged for 11 years and together for 12. Sounds like a lot but it really isn't?
Koalax3 18
Maybe it has a little to do with the fact that he was penniless when she accepted and weddings are very expensive?
KittyCat1991 13
Actually in the Indian culture they get engaged and they call it dating until the family and couple set a date. It is quite interesting on how it is done. I learned some aspects of the culture from my ex boss.
tdawg91 17
If you have intentions of spending your entire life together, 4 years is nothing, besides, if he was penniless four years ago and rich now then clearly he's been very career focused in that time
BShek 12
Have you told them that?
khaoticpanda 28
Haha your getting downvoted so much but this is my first thought. Its not immediately obvious as to whether or not they did anything about it or talked to the family/fiancé about it and I'm really curious too.
immaloser95 28
Now I wasn't saying you a gold digger,
immaloser95 28
But your crazy in-laws sure seem to
khorstmye 15
Why are you getting down voted!? I thought it was funny
photographer49 22
#56 I think it's because #5 separated the comment. Maybe some people didn't get the joke until they read the second comment?
immaloser95 28
My phone decided to post the comment halfway finished :(
enginsteve 17
i cant help but notice you are now #69! I love my dirty ass mind!
Scrambled 21
They are well aware of the fact that you met him before he was rich, they just don't like you.
Enslaved 38
The fiancé is also accusing the OP. Amnesia?
AcieMcG 21
Nope, just being a douchebag.
nix1993 41
It's amazing the influence some people allow their families to have on their decisions. Especially if he's a bit of a momma's boy.
siggy_mcsigx 22
In Indian culture the parents have HUGE influence on who one marries.
musoboy 22
He's probably just easily led by his parents' words. Also, I'm a little bit iffy about a lot of people calling him a mother's boy. He has a father too and the father could be doing most of the talking for all we know. In fact, "in-laws" could be referring to his entire family.
captain_crook 17
in parts of India marriage is like a business transaction. and often it is the grooms parents who call the shots. there is a belief that a bride is an 'investment' and even though dowry is illegal that factors in too. it's really miserable for women. and anyone wanting to have a non-arranged marriage
Brandi_Faith 34
I wonder if the fiancé is upset at all about the engagement being so long, if op is the one that wants to wait and has been pushing the date further and further away? Maybe it doesn't have as much to do with gold digging (for him) as much as him questioning why op doesn't want to get married yet? Just a possibility. I don't understand how the fiancé can really think she's a gold digger if she was with him when he was penniless. Maybe the in laws think she's a gold digger and he's questioning her commitment to actually getting married?
tdawg91 17
Sounds like my ex, didn't have much untill after we got together then his mother saw how serious we were getting and got scared he'd move out and take his money with him so she planted all kinds of ideas in his head about me and he actually believed it
DirectorLincoln 12
Now he will meet someone like that. His loss.
i8cake 12
Their greed is blinding them. You deserve someone who chooses you over money. Sorry for what seems to be a colossal waste of time on your part.
AHotCupOfCoffee 28
They lack common cents.
Marco_Vi 14
He must be that new breed of stupid.
buckdharma 38
I'll take rich and stupid over poor and smart.
Smooth_Criminal 24
Remember: stupid people will squander the riches. Then what?
DArthurVaderian 18
There we go #20!!!
buckdharma 38
What? Someone could have all the finest qualities. Loyalty, compassion, honesty, and be attractive as well, while dumb as a box of rocks. But their money allows you to travel the world, eat the finest foods, etc. Or you could be with a broke, smart ass who says, "This is why we can't have nice things."
Frillwee95 12
So....take advantage of the dumb rich person or cry because you aren't allowed to flop in riches with the smart, poor person? Not sure if I'm getting that right...
False_Stupidity 42
You know #20, it's not all about money, it's about genuine love. It sounds like you've never experienced that or you would know that it's more valuable than all the money and nice things in the world.
buckdharma 38
No, you're saying I can't love someone stupid. Being rich would just be a plus.
Joshery 14
Money makes people do stupid things
Frillwee95 12
Stupid things also make people money.