If mama planned it, then mama can pay for it. All you need is the groom and a preacher. Possibly a judge or a boat captain. Why would you agree to pay for someone else's billls?

Boat captain? Wah?

12- OP is a guy...

@30 A boat captain can marry someone on open water.

12- You've never been around wedding planning before, have you? Six weeks is almost no time to come up with enough money for a wedding if you were planning on someone else paying for everything, adult or not, you find me someone who can come up with 10k in six weeks legally, because it's next to impossible.

I can think of several legal ways to get ten grand in six weeks. One is day trading or online poker, either one can net you huge amounts of money if you're skilled and patient. The other is getting and maxing out credit cards. Perfectly legal. And if you pick the right ones you'll get air miles or the like, possibly enough to defray the airline tickets for the honeymoon.

Starting a marriage with that amount of debt is probably not the best idea though. While I agree those are legal ways to do it, they aren't exactly ideal for a wedding. You don't want a ton of credit card debt as the foundation for the marriage.

When you have six weeks left to your wedding there are no ideal ways. There are only ways that work and ways that don't. I don't think people should get under the CC debt bus either, but it is a legitimate alternative.

12- My parents insisted on helping pay for my wedding, even when I argued it was my responsibility. Some parents feel it's their duty, some don't. Maybe OP's mother did the same and is now backtracking?

#41 most of the time it is the wifes family paying for the wedding, he was making a logical assumption

#70: Bill Gates

If by first, you mean second.

Break tradition - Elope

Wow I didn't know that. It sounds like like a dowry :((( I don't thing either the groom's or bride's parents should be "supposed" to pay

I don't know about y'all, but it's always the groom's family that traditionally pays for the wedding when I hear about it.

Its worth a shot to try that. Ive never heard of that though.

She needs to call JG Wentworth @ 877-CASH-NOW!!

Lol (let the thumbs down commence)

I tried to reply to someone else and I tagged 18 because I was saying that you beat him to the JG Wentworth joke. So to look a little bit less like a dumbass I changed it. Is there a way to delete comments?

I dont think so.

Tell her that since she's not paying, you have to find ways to save money/costs. Her invite is number one on the list.

Charge her the same amount of money for the seat that she cost you for the wedding.

She can sit in the car outside her house

If the mom didn't have the money, she shouldn't have planned and offered to pay for their wedding.

Exactly, #13! OP, what can you downscale or cancel at this point, like catering or music or decoration or flowers? Some things like a reception hall or banquet plan may have a nonrefundable deposit, but sometimes that deposit plus the cost of a cheaper alternative is still less than the full price of the original. Maybe you can send a shout-out to friends or family to organize a pot luck instead of a catered meal, or have a gathering to make favors or decor yourselves, and so on. But don't feel obligated to stick with what your mother wants/planned if she won't pay for it. Why run up a lot of bills for one day and start your life together with a big debt burden when you can instead have a wonderful, joyous, lower-key party that will be just as memorable? Or heck -- elope. 8)