Today, I told my ex boyfriend I lost 20 lbs because of the stress of the break up. His response was "you're welcome." FML
I agree, your life sucks (38076) - you totally deserved it (16437)
On 04/09/2009 at 6:11pm - misc - by blutownie13 - United States
YDI trying to make him feel bad of course your gonna get a witty ass comment like that
#7 - On 04/09/2009 at 7:55pm by ZiggyMorrison
haha. he's funny. you should get back together with him. because you apparently have no sense of humor. he would balance you out, and you'd have a boyfriend, and now that you're skinnier maybe he wouldn't dump you next time. three birds with one stone? i think yes :D
This is stupid. Why are you trying to guilt-trip your ex (GET OVER HIM ALREADY), and why is he so dumb that he can't use "you're" correctly?
These questions will probably never be answered.
Why would you tell your ex that you lost weight because of being stressed by the breakup? Were you trying to show off? Look for pity? Im just confused as to why you would say that.
And what do you expect your ex to say? Hes your ex and by the sounds of it the breakup wasnt the greatest so hes probably not viewing you as his best friend right now. Did you actually expect him to be nice to you or apologize for it?
I'd say you're lucky to be rid of him, but anyone who doesn't know it's YOU'RE welcome probably deserved a jerk like that.
Or you could just get over him AND eat food. That way, it's impossible for you to lose.
#18 - On 04/09/2009 at 7:58pm by TurtleGenius
Why would you tell him that?
It sounds kind of clingy and unnecessary to tell your EX that...
Maybe that's just me.
But you definitely deserved a comment like what he gave you.
#19 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:00pm by woahcomments
he did you a favor and got you to lose those 20 lbs. now, you're bitching about it.
Ungrateful bitch.
#20 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:00pm by michellefleeger
I'm with #7, and #13. You were trying to make him feel bad and he made you feel bad. You my friend had just gotten a much deserved pwning.
#21 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:02pm by cheetahh45
You tried to guilt trip your boyfriend and he threw it back in your face. YDI.
#22 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:03pm by officerpat
When will people learn to differentiate between 'your' and 'you're'?!?
And maybe you could look at it in a better light? Unless you're underweight, which is a problem. Like someone above said, better than the opposite!
#25 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:05pm by dol567
That's life's way of showing you that he was never a good boyfriend to begin with. FYL for wasting time with a jerk like him! If I were you, I wouldn't even talk to him anymore. Oh and #25, people make spelling errors. Big deal? What does that have to do with anything? Ugh, I hate people like that.
wow
and i thought losing 5 lbs was a lot from the stress with my boyfriend and his bitch of a mother O_o
#28 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:09pm by FMLover269
Well you are welcome are you not? He did you the greatest favor ever. Now just hook up with another guy, get him to dump you. Repeat. Best dietary plan ever.
If I was a girl I'd rather lose 20 pounds than have a boyfriend. You actually are better off living a healthy lifestyle.
It was your inability to deal with the end of your relationship like an adult that caused you to lose weight, not the breakup itself. Also, why in the world would you think that your recent ex would want to hear your sob story? Leave the poor guy alone.
#33 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:18pm by FrostyNorth
you fail for trying to show off to your ex or make him feel bad for you. He dumped you. Move on. I'd give you a witty comeback too.
Sounds like you were trying to brag to your ex hoping he'd want to get back together with you. :/
#41 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:29pm by _mcs_
seriously, everyone on this forum is a bunch of idiots, do you honestly think her boyfriend typed "your welcome" ...SHE IS THE ONE WHO MADE THE GRAMMAR ERROR, NOT HER BOYFRIEND YOU IDIOTS
Why the hell do you idiots keep talking to your exes if you know they'll continue to say mean and hateful things? What, hanging on to the hopes of you two "hitting it off again"? Idiots.
#50 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:53pm by Clearsky18
so what was the point in telling him that?
did you think that trying to guilt trip him would make him realize that hes actually still in love with you?
youre not the brightest crayon in the box.
ydi.
#54 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:12pm by oooh_dear
I gained 30 pounds when my boyfriend left me. But that was like a year ago.. I pretty much lost it all.
That sucks, though. What a jerk. Being heart broken sucks.. =[
#10-- LOL!
#48-- I believe YOU are the only idiot here...
#57 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:16pm by LuredIntoCorners
Fat Chick turned Skinny Chick-
get back 2geth w/ him....maybe now that you're not FAT he wont DUMP YOU
congrats on the newfound skinniness
#59 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:18pm by hawt_leah_foshiz
YDI foor talking to your ex. there was clearly a reason why he's now your ex. so you're stupid enough to get him to feel pity for you. i dont have pity foor you at all. it was totally your own fault
why are people saying hes a douche, how do you know she wasnt a bitch and thats why they broke up. YDI, bitch. Btw if ur that fat to begin with than you should be thankful
#61 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:19pm by lolzorspoop
and you're complaining because...? you lost an asshole bf and lost some weight. I say it's a win-win.
#63 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:22pm by timeisindustry
Next time don't guilt trip the boyfriend you obviously had an unfriendly breakup with. What he said was mean, but you were trying to be just as mean by trying to make him feel bad. Now all you have to show for it is that your ex thinks you're a fatass. Way to go. YDI.
#66 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:41pm by ffpoisongirl
For all of you saying that she should quit whining because she lost 20 pounds because of the stress of the breakup: have you ever experienced the losing of weight because of the stress of a breakup? Right before until a month or two after my breakup with my first ex i lost about 15 pounds. Sure, I ended up looking great when I finally recovered, started eating normally, and put on a little more weight, but going through the loss of weight was the most horrible feeling in the world! Try to imagine, on top of feeling sad, lonely, and unloved, the feeling of wanting to eat, but physically unable to. How about your parents and friends begging you to eat something, and when you do, you end up feeling sick to your stomach and throwing up. Stop being superficial about the exterior of the OP and sympathize more with the interior! She probably wasn't telling her boyfriend that she lost 20 pounds because of the weightloss alone, but the cause of the weightloss and all the shit she went through during the process!
Hope you are doing much better now! Find someone more considerate to your feelings!
#67 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:44pm by Opera_Ghost
Am I the only one who thinks that this isn't FML-worthy?
#68 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:52pm by Dip_Fartson
well i think your ex-boyfriend's comment just confirms that he is insensitive and that you are better off without him. you deserve better.
#69 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:58pm by justtryin2help
To the people saying the boyfriend is dumb because he used "your" and not "you're", you realize that she was talking to him. How the hell would "your" or "you're" sound any different when spoken? I mean seriously the OP is the one with the grammar issues since she posted the comment and typed in what his response was. It would be different in a text format but since it's spoken I'm pretty sure grammar has nothing to do with this.
Ok, so what he said was rude. But at the same time, you shouldn't have been nagging/whining/complaining to him because he chose to break up with you.
Grow up and don't act like you're 2 years old and try to find a better guy. There are TONS of other guys in the world, not just him.
So yeah, you deserved that comment from him for being clingy/obsessive.
How are people saying "hes an asshole" he just made a joke and this whinny bitch complains about it, if she had a sense of humor, and wasn't such a bitch he wouldn't have broken up with her. If shes whining to him, what do u expect him to say... and #67 shut up, your a pussy. Clearly if her boy friend dumped her she is a bitch and deserves to go through shit, and if she dumped him, well then why is she feeling so damn sorry for herself.
#77 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:19pm by lolzorspoop
Jesus you people are assholes. Stop telling her that losing weight is a good thing, not everybody is FAT and needs to lose it. Some people actually need to GAIN that weight. It seems to me a few fatties are just jealous..
#79 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:32pm by cobrakid77678
I'm not going to go through all the comments to see if anyone's pointed this out yet... but...
YOU'RE not your
basic grammar...
when composing a sentence, use you're when you are trying to say YOU ARE...
how can this be so confusing when it is so simple?
#80 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:34pm by LLsuperfly
#80: because this is an internet site and not school. Nobody gives a flying horse boner.
#81 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:37pm by cobrakid77678
@ 82 - She was most likely talking to him in person or on the phone.
And when talking your & you're sound the exact same.
So basically it's a fail @ the OP for having bad grammar.
Okay... well I'm underweight (still am since I have trouble gaining weight) but I lost 15lbs when I was with my ex. So you can't call me out on being jealous of her or what not.
Still I say the OP deserves it. She went about it all wrong, especially if she was trying to get a nice response outta him. You shouldn't make your ex pity you, you should make him regret breaking up with you. And instead of telling him you lost 20lbs cause of him, you should have showed it off. Make him think he gave up something good and have him realize that it's too late to want you back. It's all about playing the situation in your favor.
#85 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:45pm by mini_munny
YDI because you expected your ex to feel bad for you. FYL because your ex can't tell the difference between "your" and "you're".
ive seen so many fmls like this. i totally agree with #50
#90 - On 04/09/2009 at 10:53pm by Not2farWAY2close
Sounds like you were looking for pity. Why else would you bother to say that? Make him feel guilty? He was right to not give you that.
#91 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:01pm by zebendyone
#67 you need to go thank your ex too, just like the OP
#92 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:06pm by michellefleeger
Um...why did you even tell him that in the first place? I'm guessing if the breakup was stressful enough to make you lose that much weight then it probably didn't end on good terms...that just seems like it's asking for an insulting response.
#94 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:12pm by l33tm0nk3y
HAHAHa....ok so this definitely happened to me last summer. i dumped my gf...about a month we got back together she lost 15 lbs. the loss of weight was one of the reasons i got back with her. rofl.
#95 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:13pm by possumassaliant
Unless you and your ex are very, very close friends now, I fail to see why you would tell him you lost 20 pounds.
My latest ex and I are better friends now than when we dated, and we talk about the stresses and problems we had when we broke up sometimes so each of us understands where the other is/was coming from.
By the sounds of it, though, that is not the case with you.
Guilt trip = fail.
#96 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:16pm by Clandestine_x
You have terrible grammar. You need to learn the difference between your and you're.
#97 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:19pm by brokenrecord07
What's so bad about this? You lost weight, he found his witty side, and everyone goes home happy. Well except you for being pwned, and him for failing in grammar. So really, you got nothing to complain about.
#98 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:23pm by AreYouSure
#60, you cant even spell FOR. not FOOR, you idiot.
and OP you shouldnt have guilt tripped him, it would have went smoother. but why are you talking to your exes anyway if you had a bad break up?
YDI/FYL
#102 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:38pm by ohhhhshizzz
If he's that much of an asshole, why are you talking to him in the first place?
Take your new 20lbs-lighter-self, buy yourself a new outfit, go out with your friends, and have a good time. Don't let him stress you out anymore.
#106 - On 04/09/2009 at 11:56pm by goodnightgracie
any guy who would say that is definitely not worth your time.
but guys are assholes and almost all of them would have come out with that exact same response. he's boring and predictable and a douche.
move on.
#113 - On 04/10/2009 at 12:44am by stfux327
ydi because you shouldn't have tried to make him feel bad in the first place.
and because you spelled "you're" wrong.
not really sure if that was verbatim or not.
I agree with #67. Maybe she wasn't fat to begin with? Maybe she was skinny. All of you people are insensitive and judgemental. Maybe her ex didn't break up with her because she was a bitch, and more because he was an ass? Maybe she still talks to him because she still cares about him and he called her? Maybe he asked how she was doing, so she replied honestly. Or even if she was trying to pull a "guilt-trip", it doesn't make her a bitch, but maybe just hoping he still cared, even if just a little. Maybe even if she was larger before the twenty pounds were lost, it's not like it was lost in a healthy way. People need to stop being stupid.
Your life is not fxcked because you lost weight. You're probably better off without those 20 pounds. Now you can probably walk upstairs, you should be grateful to your ex for that. Your life is fxcked because you can't spell, and that's not your ex-boyfriend's fault.
#116 - On 04/10/2009 at 12:59am by nicolas
You totally lead yourself into that one. But, looks like you are better off? I would be grateful if he made me lose 20 lbs without any effort.
#117 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:08am by tokyooo123
i agree with #115.
so many people on here are so rude to the people who post fml's about 'bigger' people.
and bad spelling.
not everyone here is amazing at spelling and grammar. english might not be their first language.
#120 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:19am by fueledbyamy
Did he say "your welcome" or "you're welcome"?
...either way, that sucks.
#121 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:22am by WendlaMimii
congratulations fatty, you now could be potentially boner-inspiring, but given the fact that 20 pounds shed off of you due to stress your still probably fuckin huge. unless youve been broken up for a long time and youve developed an eating disorder. still, good work on being less disgusting to the populus.
#122 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:26am by guitardedman
why are most people on here complete assholes?
everyones so rude.
the poster might not have even been big to begin with!
and the camel one, thats so f**king rude.
#123 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:30am by fueledbyamy
That happened to me too. Except, it was thirty pounds. His response? "Well, then I'm extra glad I'm not with you anymore- your tits are smaller." [I wasn't overweight to begin with either]
#27 - I guess you didn't see the one where the girl got a picture of the guy's nuts because she didn't spell "you're" instead of "your"? Yeah, it makes a difference.
dont see wats so bad i would have said the same i mean like b/c of me u lost 20 pounds be happy
#127 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:19am by love_is_pain
you guys are seriously all jerks...I've watched a friend who was originally a size 0 lose 15 pounds after a bad break-up, so stop being so ignorant and assuming the OP was "overweight"! and who really cares it still sucks either way!
aaanndd...you do not know the context of this conversation, it could have easily been her talking with her ex. ages after the break-up and it came up, and he replied in a douchey way...so I agree with #115...
and I apologize if I spelt "douchey" wrong, since slightly improper grammar and spelling is so offensive to some people! get off YOUR high horse, YOU'RE just trying to be a smart ass...not amusing
In response to #115:
-If she wasn't fat to begin with, maybe she should be consulting a nutritionist / psychiatrist / family / friends for advice and/or relief through conversation.
-Whatever the reason was for their breakup, why would she continue talking to him in the first place? 'Cause she's an idiot who can't let go.
-People break up for a reason. Unless the reason was something akin to: if he didn't break up with her, her parents would put a bullet in his kneecap or something, people need to stop being idiots and take a hint. YOU ARE NOT COMPATIBLE WITH EACH OTHER SO YOU BROKE UP, STOP TRYING. It'll save you lots and lots of anguish and open up lots and lots of better opportunities.
To the OP: You deserve it, idiot.
#131 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:44am by Clearsky18
#131, not all exes just ignore each other.
my best friend and her bf broke up about 4 months ago, and they were together for 2 years. they're still friends and talk to each other often. just because you talk to your ex doesnt mean you 'cant get over it'.
and anyway.
if she was with the guy for a long time, it would be hard to let go.
#133 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:48am by fueledbyamy
you probably shouldnt have told him that.only gave him satisfaction.wasnt making the situation any better.maybe youll think next time.but that sucks that he said that.kinda sounds like a dick.
#134 - On 04/10/2009 at 3:03am by thatgirl2009
FHL you deserve a lot better :) dust yourself off and walk away ;)
#135 - On 04/10/2009 at 3:10am by i_like_chicks
131... Does it say anywhere in the FML that she didn't talk to a nutritionist? If it does, I didn't see it. And hey, talking to her ex technically IS relief through conversation. She just got a jerk reply. And like 133 said, not everyone who breaks up just drops off the face of the earth and never speaks to one another again. Maybe this was a parent situation like you said. OR they could just remain in contact. I still talk to nearly every ex of mine, and not because I can't let go, but because there is an interest in how things are going for one another. If they were together for a while (which is likely since the stress of the breakup obviously meant she cared) then it would be hard for someone to just drop out of their life. Have you never cared about someone enough that you want them in your life forever? I hope you do one day, and when you do, remember this post and feel like an ass for assuming the OP is a clingy idiot.
OP kinda asked for it... Why are you even talking to your ex if he's such a huge jerk in the first place?
#140 - On 04/10/2009 at 4:06am by poopooface
that seems really unhealthy, even if you were overweight before. also YDI for trying to make your ex jealous. just get over him.
#142 - On 04/10/2009 at 4:51am by leggomyeggo
Rofl, YDI.
What did you expect? "Wow, you lost 20lbs? Now I might be able to get hard when I look at you naked again, lets get back together!"
Don't try and make people jealous, and they wont rip on you. Pretty simple.
i lost 12kg when i broke up with my ex
it's not a bad thing
he's right
if i were you i wouldn't have texted him to tell him, it proves to him that it's affecting you more than it's affecting him; therefore, you deserve it.
#145 - On 04/10/2009 at 7:26am by dz_zb
Why the shit does everyone on this website have a problem with fat people? For fuck's sake, guys, they're still human. God damn y'all can be heartless.
#146 - On 04/10/2009 at 7:53am by thisisnotmyname
YDI! Don't call an ex! They're ex for a reason. You're b8r off without that jerk
#148 - On 04/10/2009 at 7:57am by tWitt3rBuG
One time I both caught pneumonia and got dumped within two days. I lost forty pounds. Hardly being able to eat for a month sucked, but I was also kind of pumped because I was a chubby fucker back then.
#151 - On 04/10/2009 at 8:42am by PTERONOPHOBIA
you guys are no longer going out. its not his job to feel sorry for you, and he doesn't have to be nice. if you were looking for pity, you should have gone to a friend. if you were trying to make him feel guilty, then its your own fault (karma). so are you unhealthily underweight now, or is this actually an improvement? cause if you look better, you shouldn't be complaining
It seems as if you were trying to make him feel sorry for you. He's an ex for a reason, you should never call or talk to your ex..ever.
Psh..my exes tried that. It didn't work. It just made them look more pathetic and I really saw the reason why I broke up with them.
lol learn to get over things.... looks like he has, maybe you should....
#157 - On 04/10/2009 at 10:14am by whereisbob
You know, even if he *does* still care about you enough to be concerned about your health, that whole guilt trip bullshit that you were pulling deserved a verbal smackdown like that.
Go whine to your friends about it, don't try to put that on him.
#158 - On 04/10/2009 at 11:59am by roachspray
why would you tell him that in the first place? tryin to put him on a guilt trip maybe?
bet you felt stupid when he said your welcome. no guilt involved. maybe it's best you
are thankful for losing the weight and go out and find another boyfriend. THEN thank
your ex for being the reason you lost the weight and found someone hotter :p
#160 - On 04/10/2009 at 12:20pm by heytherexoxo
His was entirely the correct response. Guilt-tripping is bratty.
#161 - On 04/10/2009 at 12:21pm by noclevername
#96- Agreed and I'm practically in the same situation as you.
Trying to make an ex feel bad makes you sound desperate. You're better than that.
:)
You must've really pissed him off.
And I don't get it, "you're" is the proper use when saying one is welcome, what's everyone freaking out about...
wut about hte ppl who end up GAINING 20 lbs when they go through a breakup ???
so really he did u a favour
It's probably better to just move on. Guilt-tripping him like that isn't going to do anything except make things worse, especially considering he doesn't seem to give a damn.
He's an asshole. Move on.
#167 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:18pm by musiquerobot
I don't think you should have been trying to guilt trip him, BUT at the same time, that was a jerk thing for him to say.
Take your nice thin self out there and find a way better guy! :)
Shit, you try to throw a guilt trip on someone and he retaliates? Who'd've thought that would happen?
#170 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:00pm by depechemoses
how did you lose 20 lbs? most people eat and eat under stress, and would gain 20 lbs. i would think losing 20 lbs would mean you're in even worse emotional shape than if you gained it. of course, just because you're a nervous wreck doesn't mean it's his fault. there are a lot of super-paranoid girls out there, apparently (I've found a few myself) :S
#171 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:17pm by balanceMMX
what did you expect he'd say? i'm sorry you were fat...at least now i made you skinny?
#172 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:54pm by bobbysiegs
What were you trying to accomplish by telling him this? Did you think he'd actually feel bad for you, seeing as you've broken up and at least one of you doesn't like the other? I'm assuming its not because of issues like living far apart if you're in contact with him so much and it caused you so much stress, so what were you trying to do by complaining to him? YDI.
#173 - On 04/10/2009 at 2:54pm by qwerty123456789
waoh there #129 some1 woke up on the wrong side of the bed. and besides ppl only correct to teach you for ur on benefit!! don't take everything so negatively u asshole and tell ur friend im sorry for her and that she should learn to live w/ the flow and nothing lasts forever so treasure them while u can.
#174 - On 04/10/2009 at 3:02pm by love_is_pain
ok first of all
attention whore much? you called up your boyfriend to say you're so stressed out about your break up that you lost weight? was this just a way to appeal to him or to make him feel guilty? and second of all, if you did need to lose that weight, then you should be happy, not fmling.
You brought it on yourself by fishing for sympathy. RWYS.
#177 - On 04/10/2009 at 7:09pm by Six_and_the_Moon
#10: You're the idiot with poor grammar, and you doubly fail for trying to point out another's mistake that wasn't a mistake.
And OP: LOOOL, and you told him this because?
#181 - On 04/12/2009 at 1:59am by turtlellama
all of you, especially #13, you are officially stupid. how can anything you say be taken seriously if YOU are the one who can't use "you're" correctly?
YOU'RE welcome=YOU ARE welcome.
failed middle school much?
#188 - On 04/20/2009 at 9:00pm by aka_candy6
#188 - You weren't here early on when this post first showed up. The mods edited the post changing the original word "your" to "you're" after many complaints about that error . You should have noticed when EVERYONE was correcting that to realize something was a little odd about it. So... major fail on your part for lashing at people when they weren't in the wrong and making yourself look like an idiot.
#189 - On 04/21/2009 at 1:13am by mini_munny
first off...my bad I made a typo because I was on my way out the door to go meet my new boyfriend...I was unaware of the new lynch mobs on FML...and since you are all so interested in WHY I was talking to my ex it was because he called me trying to get back together with me and that was my reasoning for why I wouldn't. But yeah, we were together for 3 years so the insensitivity shocked me. I posted this because after the initial shock wore off I DID find it funny and opted to share the humor...never would have guessed the website was filled with hateful bitches that have to put everyone down to make themselves feel better :-)
#191 - On 05/06/2009 at 1:54am by blutownie13
you should thank him. it seems like he helped you and shouldnt feel sorry about that. You deserved it ;-)
#192 - On 05/30/2009 at 5:48pm by abriannaXOXO
You r welcome...now get some breast implants and stop complaining about anal sex u fat ass
#193 - On 06/09/2009 at 9:23pm by eastbaydad
OMG!!!!! DOUCHE BAG!!!! iM SRY... U SHOULD HAVE GONE AND SET HiS CAR ON FiRE :)
#194 - On 06/11/2009 at 11:30am by Rachelrayray
He's a damn bastard for not caring. But he is kinda right. He just didn't say it right.
#195 - On 06/14/2009 at 6:18pm by AsianHere
Apologies if it's been said, but I can't read all that.
YDI if you're still bitching about how you were hurt in SO many ways BY your ex-boyfriend, TO your ex-boyfriend. You're talking to him like you can be friends so you can have rationale to also bully him on a level he doesn't want you to be on.
y r ppl bein so mean break ups are hard n ur ex sounds like a jerk so ur better off..its always harder on the girl neway ..screw him, he sounds like an asshole
#198 - On 11/22/2009 at 5:19pm by herewegooo
