Today, I proudly informed my boyfriend that I am now a size 4, down from an 18, after months of dieting and exercising after he told me he would like me to be a size 6. He broke up with me for "not listening to what he wanted" and "being an overachiever". FML
I agree, your life sucks (50470) - you totally deserved it (4428)
On 07/18/2009 at 5:35pm - misc - by overachiever - United States (Illinois)
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grats on your diet but a size 4 is nasty skinny.
#88 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:07pm by purplestuff
Nasty skinny? If your defnition of nasty skinny is looking slim & sexy while still having curves, that's pretty effed. I wear a size 4 and I'm nowhere near what you'd call rail thin (5'5, 127lbs). Anything < size 2 would be crossing the line, IMO...but size 4/6 is perfect.
#96 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:21pm by cutebebe778
Then I must be disgusting if I'm a size 3 (in a Pac Sun) or a 0 (in American Eagle)
To the OP, congrats on your dieting and weight loss. I'm sure you will find someone that will actually appreciate how you look. This guy sounds like an idiot.
#98 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:21pm by Fade_2_Black
Ok I forgot to mention size varies with different clothes you wear. You can be a size 8 in shorts but wear an extra small t-shirt.
GENERALLY speaking though most girls who are less than size 2 (in everything) are too thin..
#102 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:34pm by cutebebe778
I'm 5'1 and 109 pounds, I eat like a pig but don't gain weight, and I range from a size 0 to 1/2 in jeans and shorts...I am thin but nowhere near nasty skinny. Sorry if some chubby girls are trying to feel better about themselves by insulting healthy people.
#106 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:41pm by kaleid0scopeEyes
yup, im size 0-1, and saying "nasty skinny " is just as bad as saying a size 8-10 is "fucking obese"
of course, im only 14, but still , theres no difference.
Theres also the size difference of what country you're in. If you're a size 2-4 in the US/Canada, chances are you're a 6-10 (I'm not quite sure of the exact difference) in the UK. =)
#127 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:45pm by XOfiestypixie
pixie, in canada thats not true.
unless your clothes are american,
when i go down to america, nothing fits me.
Canada isnt as obese as america.
There IS a difference between a 14 year old and a fully developed (22 years plus) woman.
#170 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:25am by amandawins
Actually, Canada uses the same measuring system as the UK. The States is the only one that's different.
#174 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:34am by omgitsLindsay
#106 you don't sound healthy at all. You say you eat like a pig but you don't gain weight, well you are probably fat on the inside. You should get your cholesterol checked out. I knew a girl who was disgustingly thin who ate like a PIG and never gained weight, sure enough she was a fatty on the inside and had to take medicine for her high cholesterol.
or they are just really small/short. I have met girls who have weight to them visually, but their bone structure is just really small so they were double 00's. it's weird, but they are healthy.
#177 - On 07/19/2009 at 3:15am by wenchywench
wtf are you talking about? there's a difference between UK and US sizing, a US 4 is a UK8, which is a small. UK6 is a size US2, being extra small and a UK4 would be a US size 0, which is extra, extra small. it's not that they use different numbers because people in each country is bigger, or whatever. it's just the measurement system they use.
#184 - On 07/19/2009 at 4:18am by stargazer89
I find that vaguely offensive. I'm 5'7 and 145, I wear a size 6-8... Just because I don't wear size 4 or whatever suddenly means I'm chubby? And by that, being chubby means being unhealthy? There is also a thing as being unhealthy skinny, and losing weight unhealthy fast... And my doctor says I have a near perfect BMI.
I mean, congrats on losing the weight... But make sure you're still eating a health amount of food... health amounts of healthy food.
#185 - On 07/19/2009 at 4:25am by masquerade08
are u serious, im like a size 1.... and i acctually cant get any fatter. a size 4 is perfect.
his a jerk ignore him, ur better off :D
Sure...but what does that mean?! When I was 14 I was 5'6'' and weighed about 110 lbs, now I'm 22, I'm still 5'6'' and I only weigh 5 lbs more, making it 115 lbs. The only difference is that my boobs and my butt got a little more round...and I'm nowhere near "stick skinny and nasty"
#205 - On 07/19/2009 at 7:37am by Puolukka
I'm 18, and just because I eat a lot doesn't mean i'm gorging on fast food every night like you. I eat healthy food for the most part, just a lot of it. And I swim, ski and surf. I'm such an unhealthy skinny freak *eye roll*
#255 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:21pm by kaleid0scopeEyes
Right. I'm size 0~2, down from 4~6 last year. The number of people checking out my butt has dramatically increased.
Men just say they think 0~2 are too thin. The reality is they already bought into the media standards and think thin is beautiful.
I'm 5'7" and 125 lbs, no where near "underweight".
well, I'm 5'0 and 102 pounds and I can't go over a size 2 in things because it'll be too big. I'm not a stick. I have well-defined muscles from bike riding every day and I have a flat stomach. I'm just short and thin :)
#280 - On 07/20/2009 at 10:20am by Princez121
@ #106
Thank you!
Seriously.
I'm 5'3", 106 lbs and a size 1/0 and I don't look "nastily skinny".
I love how it's considered rude and looked down upon to talk bad about overweight people, but it's fine to bash thin people.
Congrats on losing all that weight! You definitely deserve better than that treatment though.
#3 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:42pm by kmapes
Part of me wants to say YDI for losing weight just because your boyfriend told you to. That's a sign he's not the best guy. It's good to be at a healthy weight but you should put the effort in for yourself, not someone else.
However, I think your boy was just using your weight as an excuse and probably didn't want to be with you regardless. He'd just an ass so forget him, you'll find someone better. And at least all your dieting and hard work paid off, with or without him. :] So I'm gonna say FYL and YDI for this one.
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Did you ever think that maybe she was unhappy with her weight and just needed a little extra push to start exercising and caring for her body better? I really hope you're not one of those "bitter and proud" fat chicks that despises anybody who really wants to better themselves by losing excess weight. There's nothing attractive about being obese, regardless of what people want to believe. Unless you have a LEGITIMATE medical condition that causes you to gain excess weight no matter what you do, you are a fatty and deserve all the shit people give you.
#31 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:02pm by avoidthegirl
"It's good to be at a healthy weight but you should put the effort in for yourself, not someone else."
Clearly you are one of those people who do no read a person's post thoroughly, as I mentioned right there that I agree with maintaining a healthy weight and find it important, but that it should be done for the person losing the weight, not some one else. Also, you might want to refrain from making false accusations, as I'm not even overweight in the least, never mind obese, and I DO encourage people to be healthy. I'd also like to point out that the OP mentioned that she began losing the weight after her boyfriend said he'd like to see her at a size 6, implying that he was the motivation for her weight loss--Hence my comment about not losing weight for someone else's sake. True, she could have wanted to lose weight for a while and this was the extra push, but it seems that her boyfriend's opinion is what ultimately made her decide to lose weight rather than her own motivation for a healthy body. I'm all for people losing weight to reach a healthy size, but I wouldn't advise doing so just because your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to. That's all I was trying to say, not that losing weight is bad in general.
You very obviously fail at life. This was insensitive and crude, and just plain wrong. There are cultures that prefer a chubby woman to an anorexic one. Which is besides the point; you replied to a comment talking about OP losing weight for OP, instead of for OP's boyfriend. I think that #4/36 took the words right out of my mouth, I was going to say the same thing.
People like you are incredibly annoying. You spoke intellectually but... seriously... opinions like that are just crass. The world's fucked up but doesn't mean ya gotta add to the hatred. Especially with something like weight... where the topic is incredibly sensitive for people who ARE in fact overweight.
#92 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:12pm by leyalu
so you whine about the sensitivity of overweight people, yet call thin girls "anorexic." okay...
#109 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:52pm by kaleid0scopeEyes
Sorry to butt in, but I know what you're saying. Because socially speaking, thin women are considered to be attractive while fat/chubby women are not, people feel it's alright to say things like "omg anorexic omg" etc. It's like criticizing anything mainstream. While criticizing people who are overweight is considered "insensitive", like criticizing a minority group.
But the point was, the OP was implying that she lost weight because her boyfriend suggested that it was what he wanted - to imply that it was that "extra push" towards something she "already wanted" is an inference you can't really make.
I absolutely do think people should be healthy/maintain a healthy weight, and I'm glad that the OP did it. However, the means by which she came to that decision show, as far as her story proves, a weakness in character that would suggest that she 'deserves' to be dumped. In other words, it's the wrong means to get to a good end.
also - @ kaleid0scopeeyes: you said in your previous post that you "eat like a pig" and are still thin. I'm not implying that you're unhealthy, but in general, just because someone IS thin does not mean that they are healthy. (But again, being fat pretty much does imply that you're unhealthy. I'm just saying, especially with young people with faster metabolisms, it's not a given)
#119 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:15pm by kiteofnight
Alright, forgive me. I take back the term anorexic. That was blunt of me, and I didn't mean to be crude like that. Sorry.
#154 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:39am by leyalu
That's fucked up to say and really narrow minded of you.
#161 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:22am by GreenDaysGeekGrl
You know what? I'm pretty skinny myself and I H-A-T-E it when people call me "anorexic". It's rude, insensitive and not ok at all. I have no idea why people would think it would be. I don't go around and point out all the fat fuckers that I see, so it'll be nice to get the same treatment.
#201 - On 07/19/2009 at 6:41am by taoxyeuxmay
Except what is in magazines is Not mainstream or healthy. It should not be embraced or encouraged. A healthy weight with muscle tone and some fat (an important part of the endocrine system) should be. Mainstream IS fat, at least in the US.
That does not mean that a size 4 is anorexic, for me it was, but on someone of a different build it could be their ideal weight.
#307 - On 07/23/2009 at 2:07am by willothwisp
awww your boyfriend shouldn't make you lose weight, you should do it for you! be proud of what you accomplished and fuck that neurotic asshole.
I couldn't agree more, you should have broken up with him the second he tried to make you lose weight. I just hope you dieted healthily.
Well, to be fair, we don't know that he told her he wanted her to lose weight. For all we know, SHE brought up the topic. I know my boyfriend and I have had similar discussions. I'm overweight, I'm working on it, and we've discussed what we both think would be an "ideal" size for me. So we don't know that he just flat said, "You're a fatty. Be size 6!"
I'm not saying he's not a douche, because he very obviously is. What kind of asshole dumps someone because of that?
Congrats OP!
She could be the one who suggested it. A few years ago I wanted to lose weight, I was about 150lbs and I wanted to be around 120, my boyfriend at the time said I should aim for 130. He didn't say 'you're fat be 130' it was a reasonable goal.
Having said that the reaction to your success was nasty, your ex is a bastard
#182 - On 07/19/2009 at 3:50am by catatonicsleep
#112 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:59pm by giebs22 "you should have broken up with him the second he tried to make you lose weight."
Are you dumb? A size 18 is pretty unhealthy/obese depending on the height and body type of the person. Yeah what kind of douchebag boyfriend want his girlfriend to be healthy, right? Nevertheless, this specific dude is a douchebag since he dumped her after getting down to a 4 >.>
It doesn't sound like her ex-boyfriend had her health in mind, since he specified a size and not a weight. Seems to me that he cared more about the size of the clothes she would wear, rather than a healthy weight. She's better off without him, though, that's for sure!
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this disturbs me. size 4???? that's so small are you still healthy??? good job losing weight though
yes a size 4 is healthy. im either a size 1 or 0 depending on the designer, and im in perfect health-i doubt the OP would loose so much weight that she'd be unhealthy.
4 isn't that small. Just because the US average is a size 12 [to 16] doesn't mean that's the healthy size. People have different body types and different natural weights. A size 4 is perfectly healthy if that's her natural body type. Just as a size 12 or a size 0 may be for others!
This sounds like a condescending jealousy comment, to me.
Absolutely not!
Size 0 is extremely unhealthy.
People have died solely from being so underweight.
A BMI of less than 16 means you're torturing your body.
Also, perhaps the boyfriend doesn't find underweight girls attractive? Maybe the difference between 6 and 4 broke the deal.
However, congratulations OP. That is truly incredible. You deserve congratulations.
A 0 is NOT unhealthy in the least. As the above poster said, just because the average American can be a 12 to a 16, doesn't mean anything lower than a 10 is ~extremely unhealthy.~ I'm a 0, and I'm in great shape. I have a naturally small frame, just like some women who are larger sizes have a naturally large frame, and either way is fine. Gaining weight is actually difficult for me as my metabolism is too fast, and that's how I was born.
I agree. I'm a 0-2, and no matter how much I eat I can't gain weight. Like the above poster, my metabolism is too fast. It doesn't mean that I'm anorexic or anything. I'm just petite.
My sisters are sizes 0,2, and 4, respectively. I wear blue jeans sized W30/L34. None of us are "extremely unhealthy," as #87 puts it. We eat healthy amounts of food and get a decent amount of exercise. That's it. No more, no less. Actually, I'd say my sisters and I are healthier than a lot of our friends, because we actually walk to places that are nearby rather than driving, so we don't find ourselves short of breath when we have to climb a single flight of stairs.
i'd have to disagree. according to my BMI i'm starving myself and unhealthy, but every time i go to the doctor they same i'm fine. I eat regular healthy (most of the time) meals. I've always been tiny, and i take after my grandma who never reached 100 lbs until she got pregnant.
btw, keeping track of one's BMI is becoming more harmful than helpful as some schools are sending them home with elementary kids in their report cards and causing kids to worry too much about their weight in a bad way.
Anyways, congrats on the loss of weight, but any guy who tells you to lose weight (unless they're worried about your health and try to help you) isn't a keeper. You'll find someone who's worth your time. :-)
#121 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:23pm by helloxmygoodbye
ummmm i wear a size 0-1 and many doctors have told me i'm a fine weight. iplay sports and swim alot, everybodys Naturally healthly weight is different. a size 0 may be fine for some while a size bigger may be fine for someone else.
sorry for spelling
#130 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:47pm by sydsayslol
I know I already posted this above, but try not to get too offended/defensive with people who think a size 4 is REALLY skinny, because outside of North America, the sizes differ quite a bit. =)
#133 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:51pm by XOfiestypixie
It depends on height, and body type. Due to my height, and my bone structure, it would be unhealthy for me to be a size four. 5'7, and i have decently wide hips (meaning the bones, not the fat.) ... it also depends on the style of pants, and where they sit, on your hips, on your waist, etc. For some people, with naturally thin bone structures, size 0-4 is fine. For people like me, who have wider hips, and somewhat broader shoulders, it's not fine. If you want to talk healthy, they say a BMI of 22 is the healthiest. Aim for that, then find pants to fit that. Not change your BMI to fit your pants.
And really, it's the focus of our failing sociological system. Empires in the end of their reigns tended to have greater focus on aesthetics. It's simply because we're in the middle of the fall of the great American Empire. And I say that with no political bias.
#187 - On 07/19/2009 at 4:39am by masquerade08
All you people saying size 4 is healthy haven't been a size 18 or anywhere near it. So this girl is unhealthy not because of being a size 4, but because she dropped down to it in a matter of months.
#194 - On 07/19/2009 at 5:52am by boatiebanter
Whoa. Hold up #187. "The great American Empire"? Are you joking, or just ignorant? Superpower, yes, but empire??
Let's take some time to consider some actual empires: Roman. British. Ottoman. See how they're empires, and not just a single country trying to police the world?
America hasn't existed long enough to be an empire, they've only not been part of the British Empire for two centuries. It's a tiny baby country throwing tantrums.
The one thing you are right about is that it's on its way out. Good riddance.
#195 - On 07/19/2009 at 6:02am by boatiebanter
Don't lose your shit over semantics friend, just cause you got a small country to match your small dick doesn't mean you have to throw a tantrum. America bears a lot of the qualities of an empire: size, military/economic power holding territories far outside the borders of the central body such as Alaska, Hawaii, Puerto Rico, not to mention former control of the Philippines. Furthermore in all of these places and in the mainland of America itself there are oppressed minorities that are still trying to stake their claim to sovereignty, with greater and lesser degrees of success.
As for only being our own country for 2 centuries, so what? In our modern age with our communication and transportation technologies, among others, a lot changes a lot faster. Furthermore age of a nation is kinda less important than it's stability. Take France; sure it's been called France and people there have spoken French for a lot longer than there has even been a U.S.A., but how recently and frequently has it undergone major institutional changes? Same goes for many European nations. Can you really say that the France/Germany/England today is the same France/Germany/England of 150 years ago? If you can, how do you justify that? If not the institution, then the people? So because you've had the same race being predominant in the same place for a longer time makes you older and wiser? Sounds pretty racist to me... Or maybe you're not talking about race or institution, maybe you just mean the land itself, but in that cause, American soil is just as old as yours, we all live on the same planet, it's not like America surfaced out of the water when European sailors started popping up here 5-6 centuries ago.
So grow up, get over your infantile "it's cool to hate America and blame it for all the worlds problems" attitude, grow a set, and get a life.
#210 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:26am by lunaticsol
true. if she lost that much weight in a short amount of time then thats not healthy.
#240 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:51pm by sydsayslol
Erm, being a size 4 is nowhere near unhealthy for some people. It all depends on the OP's height and body structure. I'm 5'0" with a tiny bone structure, so I wear a size 0 in US sizes and weigh about 100 pounds. My doctor says I'm very healthy at this weight, and I have never had any issues with people telling me I'm freakishly skinny because I'm very well built for my height. Don't make assumptions without knowing all the facts please.
This isn't a FML. I congratulate you! You should be glad to be rid of that douchebag! You should have dumped him when he asked you to be a size 6. What a jerk, seriously. I'm sure you can do better.
#7 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:45pm by liquidskyfire
Ditto. Whether you would like to believe it or not, he was probably just looking for an excuse to break up with you. If he wasn't, he has major issues for breaking up with you over 5lbs (cause really..that's the difference between a size 4 and a size 6)
Nonetheless, huge props to you for losing all the weight. I'm sure you look fabulous and he sure as hell can't handle you. ;)
#89 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:08pm by cutebebe778
Who cares, you'll be attracting more guys now and you can replace him with a better one.
#9 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:46pm by OperationNicole
I agree. Congratulations on your weight loss. Now you can go find a more attractive, respectful guy to replace that douchebag. ;D
#59 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:56pm by sakurachan04
seriously?? how the hell did u get from an 18 to a 4? that's awesome i hope you did it in a healthy way. but really forget that loser!
You shouldn't have done it just because he told you to - if that infact was the ONLY reason you did it, then YDI. But on the other hand, well done! Now you can go out, feel awesome and get someone 10x better with the new you. :D Just...don't get someone who just wants to go out with you cos you're thin. That'd suck. 0_o
#11 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:47pm by LadyOfLannister
Congrats on the weight loss, that's awesome. Of course, what your tard boyfriend doesn't realize is that clothing makers have been changing the way sizes work. A size 4 is at least what a six 6 used to be. Go out and get yourself a new hottie b/f.
what a jerk! but who cares bc your skinny and hot now! go find a new boyfriend that will respect you! :]
#13 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:48pm by cheertigers
im sorry that happened to you! at least you can find some body better that appreciates the new you!!
Look at it this way, you're now a health(ier) weight, yea you lost your boyfriend but if he's going to quibble over something like that is he really worth it? Maintain a healthy lifestyle and you'll have to beat them away with sticks, dudes like healthy chicks and they're in seriously short supply in the US
that guys an ass. You definitely deserve better.
Congrats on losing the weight!
be who you want to be and dont transform into someone elses idea of who you should be.
#17 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:50pm by heyitsselena
I was just about to say this. Any guy that dumps you because you lost more weight than he wanted is a fucking moron.
#33 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:04pm by avoidthegirl
He was probably just telling you that so you'd get offended and break up with him, but now that you're skinnier and single, go and live your life and find a man that'll love you for you =)
#19 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:51pm by chyeaitskim
it's your fault for caring about someone's opinion to that degree...i think at least. if you're happy with it, then fuck anyone else, and if they have a problem with it, explain to them nicely where the door is ;)
Well done on losing the weight and ditch that asshole. Get a new guy who'll love you six four or six eighteen, and enjoy your new body!
On the bright side of all this, you did a wonderful job dropping the weight, so it shouldn't be too hard to find a man who isn't a bitch like your now-ex.
Think of how much better your off now? Your healthy, probably in great shape, so go to the gym and meet a new guy. one who loves and appreciates you...
or....
GO HAVE FUN. Who needs a man? its nice to be free and single for a bit
He's fucking fired! Who does that? He was probably just looking for an excuse to break up with you. FYL indeed but hey, now your fit and asshole-less. You should be happy.
#27 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:56pm by kionnalexus
Fuck it, at least you lost the weight. Hopefully, YOU think you look good, because that's all that matters. Forget that idiot, and get a new man to go with the new you =)
#28 - On 07/18/2009 at 7:57pm by ihatestupidppl
what an asshole. you deserve better than him. and congrats on the weight lose.
#30 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:01pm by sucky_a_m
Congrats on setting out to lose weight and actually doing it! Sure, it's not awesome that you were motivated by his wants, but who cares now? Don't let that asshat back into your life and enjoy your new healthy body!
#32 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:04pm by SomeonePosting
What an ass. Good thing he dumped you. I have a feeling he would of made you miserable.
#34 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:05pm by DeathShad0
hun u were to good for him if u lost all thaat weight and he was suck a dumb ass as to dump u! welll ggoooood job on the weight loss
You may not realize it, buy you were in an abusive relationship.
Anyone asking you to change, and than breaking up with you because of it, doesn't love you.
Congrats on loosing the weight! That in itself is a commendable achievement.
I agree with everyone else: he was lucky to have someone that would go through all that effort for him, and if he dumped you for "not listening to what he wanted" then maybe you were saved from a potentially controlling relationship...
#38 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:16pm by CrimsonFury73
what a jerk! at least he broke up with you after you got skinny, Im sure other guys have noticed the loss and can't wait to ask you out!
way to go on losing weight!
#40 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:17pm by pieofchrist
You TOTALLY deserve it for keeping him as a boyfriend, even after he told you you had dramatically change your body for him to like you.
Well, I think you're ex sounds like a total pig, and congrats to you for losing that weight, now you can go find a new boyfriend who accepts you for you :)
#44 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:30pm by spill_the_beans
What. The. Fuck?!?!?
Whatever, congrats on losing the weight! Good for you and good riddance to that douche
#45 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:31pm by _musical_addict_
i guess that was fate :) because not only did you lose all the weight but you are ALSO single (a) hahaa congrats!
#48 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:33pm by xij3ss
Never lose weight for someone else. If my boyfriend EVER told me I had to get down to a specific size for HIM, i'd dump his sorry ass. If he really cared about you he'd be supportive and you would have lost the weight for only yourself. I decided I wanted to lose weight, and my boyfriend is excited because he wants me healthier, and yeah, in his words "you'll be even more sexy" but he loves me whether I shed a pound or not.
#49 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:33pm by jemstone25
I agree with what most everyone on here is saying, but wanted to say it as well. You deserve more than someone who will treat you in those ways. Be proud of what you accomplished and go out and do the things that make you happy without that guy hanging around to bring you down.
#51 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:39pm by 12frisbees
Probably was planning on breaking up with you from the start.
But look on the bright side, you're now a size 4!
Your life is NOT fucked; it is in fact better now. Your ex-boyfriend was a douche for telling you he would like you to be a size 6 as if he was the shit and what he says goes. The fact that he had it down to a specific number size says a lot. Now you can enjoy being single or find someone else better! =)
#54 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:42pm by englishmuffin
If you wanted to lose the weight for yourself and were able to do so without starving yourself, good for you. Regardless, losing weight for another person is never a good idea and you're clearly better off without this asshole. Others don't get to decide what a healthy weight or size for you is, and anyone you're dating should love you and be attracted to you for who you are. There also happen to be a lot of men who do find larger women attractive.
I understand his reaction was unexpected but good riddance. You should be proud of yourself for what you accomplished. What matters is that you're feeling good and healthy. In time, you'll find someone who really cares about you.
#56 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:47pm by FleshForFantasy
WTF? he's probbably just scared that his gf is now too hot for him.
good riddance I say!
#57 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:51pm by danettestrong
Hi
First I want to say congrats on losing all that weight & working so hard. You need to pat yourself on the back for setting a goal & achieving it.
I'm sure it must be hard to know your relationship is over.....but if this is the way that this man deals with change, I think you are better off without him. I'm sure he is already kicking himself in the butt for being a jerk. I know there is some guy out there that will treat you right & support you no matter what.
Good luck.
#58 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:52pm by wordtoyourmother
ooh good job! now that he left you and you lost all that weight, you can find a much hotter better man
#60 - On 07/18/2009 at 8:59pm by hahahehehahaho1
Congratulations on losing all that weight!! That takes so much commitment. Your ex is a complete douche, you're better off without him.
#61 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:01pm by dancercuity922
Congratulations on losing all of the weight! I'm glad you feel better about yourself, but it's unfortunate that you're boyfriend was that much of an ass. It sucks that your ex had to be a motivator, but it's fantastic that you were able to lose the weight, and become a size you really wanted.
#64 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:05pm by SiLveRStaRLIGHT
her boyfriends not an ass at all. she was obviously overweight and honestly, no one wants to date a fat person. so congrats on losing the weight, but don't diss on the boyfriend for wanting a girlfriend with an attractive figure.
#67 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:10pm by rhcpbeezy
Well, that's quite simple, isn't it? If he didn't want a girl who was a size 18, he shouldn't have been dating one in the first place. He has every right to dislike larger bodies, and there are plenty of size 6 girls out there, but anyone who gets a girlfriend he finds unattractive just to try and change her, is a complete ass. And is also likely to totally destroy her self steem and all sense of self worth in his quest for a "hot girlfriend". But hey, it's ok to do that because she was fat, right?
There's nothing wrong with wanting a girlfriend with an "attractive figure." But the thing is, he should go find one instead of dating someone he doesn't find attractive in hopes of changing her. And then to COMPLAIN and DUMP her when she exceeds his expectations. WTF? Yes, he is an ass.
#86 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:06pm by englishmuffin
You are looking at this the wrong way.
Since your ex was willing to date a size 18, I'm going to assume he isn't exactly the biggest catch out there. Now that you are a size 4, you can probably do way, way better than you're loser ex. You should've dumped him, his fml would've made more sense:
Today, my girlfriend, who I had been urging to lose weight, broke up with me after going from a size 18 to a size 4 because she said she is too attractive for me now. FML
#69 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:13pm by AtLeastImHigh
Yeah, that's really going to make her feel better. People don't understand that you're the same person inside, even when the outside changes. I've lost over 75 lbs in my life, and it's the worst thing ever to know that you are somehow a "better" person when you're skinny.
#173 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:34am by amandawins
I agree, I really hate when people think you need to lose weight to be "better" and that if you are bigger, there is something "wrong with you"
#287 - On 07/20/2009 at 10:00pm by chocolemonade
Let your controlling asshole of an ex go on to be some other woman's misery while you find someone who loves YOU. You'll be fine.
Congratulations on your success. Hard work certainly pays off. If you were able to go from a size 18 to a 4, you should be able to find a much better boyfriend than the one that couldn't accept you for who you are.
#77 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:45pm by Boundless01
Well, at least you look good, now you can get whoever you want, right? You did a great job reaching that goal :]
#78 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:49pm by emilyecstasyTM
However many pounds you lost to get from a size 18 to a 4, add the weight of the idiot who dumped you to that total.
CONGRATULATIONS on your major accomplishment. You're better off without this controlling jerk.
YDI for agreeing to meet his "requirements" in the first place
#80 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:51pm by Flounder
That seriously sucks. FYL but really be glad it happened because you don't have to spend any more time with this ass. Congrats on losing weight! It's an awesome achievement :)
You can now find a nice guy bc you look good :)
#81 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:51pm by capricaz
well first being a size 18 is unhealthy..so good job n congrats for pullin down to a 4..especially since the average size is like wat 6-10 or sumtin? i dunno..so 4 is like slender so congrats :)
on the other hand i hope u didnt do it for a guy cuz thts just stupid..no guy shud eva tell u tht he wishes ur body or personality was any different..n love u for who u r..so hopefully u did it for ur own good..n also
ur boyfren is a complete douche..
#82 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:51pm by southparkfan92
You deserve better than that guy. You're better off without him, although I'm sure that's not what you want to hear. More than anything, congrats on losing the weight! That's an amazing accomplishment.
#83 - On 07/18/2009 at 9:54pm by tasha2010
Congrats on losing the weight. And on losing that douche. You deserve better.
He'll be back when he sees you with a better guy. Trust me.
#91 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:12pm by drinkupgorgeous
Well now that you are a size 4, getting a new boyfriend shouldn't be difficult.
#97 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:21pm by GothamKnight
Yeah bullshit. That is totally not the reason he broke up with you.
#101 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:29pm by mikeshepardson
i don't believe you. either you made this up or he has a real reason for breaking up with you and is hiding it
#103 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:35pm by limegreenqueen
At least you got something out of it: a slimmer body. So you're not entirely empty handed. As a plus, your boyfriend who obviously didn't care for you is out of the picture. It's a win-win scenario for you!
#105 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:36pm by skippyelgato
BTW people, calling thin people "nasty skinny" and "anorexic" to make fat people feel better is really hypocritical.
#107 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:43pm by kaleid0scopeEyes
You should have dumped the douchebag the second he told you he wanted you to lose weight, if he doesn't like you the way you are then he's not worth your time
Well, I don't know. That this guy was a grade a douche bag isn't even a question, he was, and OP is obviously much better off. On the other hand, there is a point where overweightness becomes a health issue, and wanting someone to lose weigh could be a sign of wanting them to be healthier and around longer.
#124 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:26pm by Corey_Helfand
Be proud of yourself anyway, you don't need a douchebag like that. Congratulations on the weight loss!
#111 - On 07/18/2009 at 10:54pm by McLaughlane
Well Ms Overachiever, congrats on getting dumped by the douchebag, ur sexy self can do much better than him.
#113 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:06pm by soprettyinpink29
He is an ass. Be happy with ur great new body and stay fit like that and u will be able find a great guy
#114 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:07pm by suckstomyasthmar
okay first of all congratulations for losing so much weight and your ex boyfriend is an asshol for saying that you lost too much he shouldve been happy that you went from a size 18 to 4
second of all skinny people arent nasty and most of us arent anorexic im 15 and i weigh like 110 and am a size 0-1 in jeans also (which btw is almost impossiible to find in stores) i eat as much as i can when i can im purposely lazy so i gain weight but i was cursed with a fast metabolism and used to get made fun of for bein so skinny just as much as some fat people do and you know what really pisses me off is the fact my 16 yr old friend stephani weighs like 90 lbs and gets called fat and she thinks she is no matter how much people tell her shes not and no shes not anorexic she jus has back problems and other shit
your better off without him. he sounds like a control freak & you don't want or need a relationship like that. also consider this, he was probably expecting you to fail so he could use that for a reason to break up with you. bottom line if someone doesn't accept you the way you are, they don't love you, also a person that loves you, wouldn't ask you to change who you are. be thin, because you want to be, not because someone told you to be.
Congratulations on losing all that weight, an amazing achievement. And you just managed to lose a couple extra hundred pounds of dead weight in a single day... now time to find a better quality man who treats you well!
I'm size 0, but i'm a thirteen year-old dancer. It's almost impossible for me to gai weight. I evem eat like a pig. Lol
#122 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:23pm by nanoflacka
Congrats on losing so much weight. You are so much better off with out him though. He's such an ass for dumping you. So what if you are a 4 instead of a 6? He is such a douche, but be proud of yourself. You are healthy now, and there are so many guys out there who will treat you better. And for all the people calling skinny people Anorexic, stop. I'm almost 15, and I was a size 5, but then I got really depressed a dropped to a size 1. The counselor at school and my parents think I'm anorexic, but I'm not, so stop. It hurts peoples feelings.
#123 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:26pm by potatosrulz
Congratulations on losing all that weight! That must have taken a lot of effort and determination and should definitely not have been rewarded with such a douchebag bringing you down. Now at least he's out of your life and you can find yourself someone who will love you no matter what size you are. Seriously do not think he's right about what he said; it just sounds like he's using your weight as an excuse to break up with you, and in the end it sounds like *you're* the one who dodged the bullet there.
Wow, I just went from a size 6/8 to a 4, And that was with working out six hours a week, and eating less. Good job losing that much weight!
Good for you! That guy is an idiot! It's so awesome that you have gotten healthier, and now you will look amazing for meeting the guy who actually deserves you.
#135 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:54pm by ModernDayHippie
Get a better man! You go girl! That's something to be proud of!!!
#139 - On 07/18/2009 at 11:58pm by Stevieebabyy
WHAT A DICK! and you're an idiot
i mean awesome for losing weight props to health, but doing it solely because your boyfriend told you? hmm
#140 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:01am by danceydancetime
Obviously, you're a LOT better without him and he did you a favor by breaking up w/u so now u can find some1 better. Congradulations on making it 2 a size 4!! That's quite an achievement.
#143 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:07am by ichat21
There is no way that is the actual reason he broke up with you... I'll expect it was something he was either embarassed to admit, or he thought would hurt your feelings more. He might have pulled the "dick card" hoping you'd be angry instead of hurt.
Though, of course, he might just be a loathesome idiot. Congratulations on your diet, by the way.
#144 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:08am by DoctorDoomed
Congrats on the new weight hun!! Who cares, forget him! Sounds like he just wanted any reason to end it to me.
#146 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:12am by Princess_LC
Omg major congrats!!! Ur ex is stupid!!! Nd to all the comments saying she's too skinny... Ur all wrong! I'm a double zero!! I'm too skinny she's just right!
Okay, first of all, you don't deserve him (which you probably realize now) even if you were still a size 18. You deserve to be liked no matter what size, and if that is a determining factor in a relationship, it's not gonna be able to last. But then I understand we are all human and outward apperance is a factor in finding someone attarctive (at least initially). I just hope whatever you did-lose weight and anything you changed about you-you did it for you, and are happier for it, cuz if you're not, you might as well be who you were before and get wherever you want to be for the right reasons-YOU!
#152 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:35am by fulltimepinklady
You mean, 'He doesn't deserve you...' Saying it the other way around makes it out that he is somehow better than she is. >3
Girl, you need to tell everyone you broke up with him because of his small penis. And I hope you lost the weight in a healthy way! His life is fucked up, not yours. He's obviously the controlling, abusive type, and you do not need that in your life.
#155 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:48am by cecilia_weasley
Congrats on all the weight loss! Because really, a 18 to a 4? That's serious (I'm an 11 trying to get down there - WHAT IS YOUR SECRET? ahaha). Anyway, screw him for breaking up with you. :| Now that you're thin and beautiful, you can comb the town for a real man, who will appreciate your newfound sexiness.
Because seriously. What a douche.
Congrats! :) And you're better off without him - "overachiever"... Sounds like he has some insecurities of his own.
#162 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:23am by sympatheticlstnr
awhh dang what a toool.
Well that's good for you thoughh.
#164 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:29am by passion4soccer
I CALL BULLSHIT. There is no way this would ever happen. Everybody, read it to yourself again slowly.
#165 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:29am by biskitbukit
I agree. He would have noticed her losing weight ... it's not like *plop* all the fat's gone, eww, you're too skinny...
#169 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:18am by gavintlgold
Congratulations! You are an inspiring person with a fulfilling life ahead of you! I wish you love, luck, and an awesome life ahead!
#167 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:47am by JesykaArlene13
Man that's awful!
Congrats on the loss of so much weight...including your shitty ex. You're better off without him. :-)
#168 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:02am by Darling_Cherry
Congrats on losing the weight! I know how hard it is break unhealthy habits. Your ex is a wanker, if he doesn't love you for the way you are then he aint worth it. Who the hell does he think he is to request a certain size from you?
#176 - On 07/19/2009 at 3:12am by pee_mail
Your fucking retarded you should have broke up with him.
you should only diet for yourself, not to impress any one else other wise that shit is going to come back ten times faster.
#179 - On 07/19/2009 at 3:26am by Starsmydog
even if its bs or not congrats on losing that weight :]
ps. to all those saying size 0-2 isnt healthy you're so wrong. im a size 0-1 and my BMI says im average for my height and weight so people like under size 2 isnt nasty skinny....
Wow, what a horrible, controlling person. The fact that you did it for him show how loyal and hard-working you are though, so you'll have no trouble finding someone who appreciates that.
#188 - On 07/19/2009 at 4:43am by noclevername
I am so happy for you (on the weight loss that is). The stupid dickhead is obviously undeserving of someone like you. I'm sure you will find someone much better.
#196 - On 07/19/2009 at 6:10am by sexy_mamasita
I though about clicking FYL but it is really a great day for you. You have shown you have great will power, you are now slim and to top it off you are free from someone who is clearly controlling and not worth your time.
Congratulations!
Wow, you're awesome! Congrats for sticking to your diet and exercise so adamantly. And you're better off without the idiot ex-boyfriend.
congratulations on losing all the weight, and you shouldn't lose weight just for other people anyway, you should do it for yourself =]
He was looking for an excuse. Your weight wasn't why he broke up with you, I guarantee it. But no worries, you got rid of a douchebag and now you can go show off your size-4 figure and find a guy who deserves it.
#207 - On 07/19/2009 at 7:48am by Ibeapirate
I have been in a relationship someone who I was aware wanted to lose weight, but to me he was sexy the way he was. On the other hand, I would be happy for him to be at a weight he preferred and was healthier at. I think it is best to the weight one is happiest is, regardless of what society thinks.
#208 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:17am by honeydoodles
Dear, I think I just wanted a reason to break up with you.
#209 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:19am by theghostofher
Am i the only one who thinks this is BS?
She went from an 18 to a 4 in MONTHS. Well shit she needs to give her secrets to that Ruby woman on tv and a few million americans. You lost the weight of multiple people, that does not happen in months, unless you got your stomach stapled and even then. You probably starved yourself. I can not deal with liars, sorry to say i don't believe your sob story.
#211 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:00am by countrygal926
Why doesn't anybody notice she didn't say how MANY months? It could have been 9 or 10. I went from a US size 16 to a 10 in 4 months without starving or undernourishing myself; OP could reasonably have made her journey in a little over twice that time. Sure, it would be more realistic of her to say "nearly a year" in this case, but it's perfectly correct to word it as she did.
It's easier to be a small size and look proportional when you're a teenager and your body hasn't fully developed yet. Most women over 25 who are size 0-2 look VERY skinny while a teenager in that size looks normal and proportional. Just generally speaking. Your body looks way different in your teenage, early 20 years than later on.
Oh and I was a 16 in March and wear a 4-6 now, it's possible to lose that weight with diet and exercise without stomach stapling. Not sure why the OP is drawing criticism for losing weight, seems like the biggest weight she had was her dude.
#212 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:07am by eggbrtshootsfire
I love how some people are calling "fake" on this. I've gone from a size 16 to an 8 in a month before (and no, that weight loss WASN'T healthy, it involved eating half a bowl of cereal a day and working out for 3 hours+ a day, but I was younger and desperate to be skinny, I'm more secure now) so it is possible to make those kind of dramatic changes to your body, especially if you're working out and toning up the weight you have rather than just trying to lose a certain amount. I know people who both fit a size four and one weighs like 30lbs more than the other...it's all about whether your weight is in your muscles and evenly spread out or in your fat, especially around the hips/stomach.
I'm a bigger girl (not obese, thankfully, and I can still rollerblade and bike all over the place, so not in such bad shape) and I would NEVER call a skinny girl "aneorexic". That is SO hurtful and just wrong. Skinny girls should enjoy that they can show off their nice stomachs in midriff-baring tops and slim legs in a skirt, and big girls should enjoy showing off their booty in tight jeans or a little bit of cleavage. Work what you've got and don't waste time being jealous, ladies!
#214 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:37am by SaphireScorpion
I like you ;)
You make some great points about muscle playing into weight. Ive always weighed more than my friends even though Im the same size or smaller, I just naturally put on muscle mass really easy (which can be annoying because I have to watch it otherwise I'll look like a female body builder haha). For a long time though I was very self conscious of my weight but as time has gone on Ive began to accept that its not my weight or even my dress size that matters...its how I feel and how my body looks, not what the numbers say.
Kudos to you for embracing your body and curves! Women need to learn not to rate themselves by numbers. I try to do that but admittedly sometimes I get sucked into thinking "I would love to weigh 115 lbs or be a size 2" but then I have to shake myself out of that and realize that if I weighed that much I would look bad...also Ive got hips and ass so unless I have my bones shaved I will never be a 2 heh.
And you nailed it, its all how you carry your weight! I know size 0 girls that look fat because they dont workout and have bellies and I know size 12 girls with hourglass figures and flat stomachs. At the end of the day its about being healthy and active, not comparing yourself to other girls.
For the OP kudos to you! Sounds like your ex was controlling and if 1 pant size is that big of a deal to him you dont need a jerk like that.
u were probably too good for him
good for u for being an overachiever
:)
#215 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:58am by sucks4you5
Congrats on your weight loss. Not sure why he's so particular. It's probably a creepy fetish. Be glad he's gone.
Congrats on your weight loss!! That's fantastic!! How did you do that??
And honestly, you deserve better. He should have been fine with you the way you were to start with. And then once you lost the weight, he should have been proud of you regardless of your size.
#217 - On 07/19/2009 at 10:49am by wolfpackchick10
Somehow, I feel there were probably other issues at hand that had been bothering him for a while. I've had a girl break up with me because I don't like to go to parties that much and I don't listen to indie rock, but I know for a fact that those weren't real issues.
#219 - On 07/19/2009 at 11:06am by AmpulexCompressa
Hey atleast you got some sexy curves to attract other guys.
#221 - On 07/19/2009 at 11:20am by Shyman4ever
Oh he probably is just a chicken and jealous that he wouldn't be able to fight such a strong fight.
Congrats to you! I'm sure you'll find a better guy with your "new body" :)
#224 - On 07/19/2009 at 11:46am by jessamyn_it_is
i say hes a loser.. but now with youre size 4 body you'll be able to get a better guy then that ;)
#225 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:00pm by ohemgee103
@OP-Congrats on losing the weight, your BF sounds like an overcontrolling ass, its best to be rid of him
@Some commenters-I am a size 14-16 and I USUALLY don't feel fat, except when i read a ton of comments saying 0-6 is perfect. I am not saying that all skinny girls are anorexic bitches, just that "perfect" is relative.
#226 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:03pm by chocolemonade
This is a double win. You lost weight and you got rid of somebody who doesn't deserve you.
Now you can find somebody who DOES deserve you.
#229 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:15pm by TheTragicReturn
Why would anyone put a YDI??
"Oh, YDI for excercising!" ?? hahaha. Either way, congratulations! Don't worry, you'll find a better guy than hiim. He's probably jealous that you can take off the weight and he can't ;)
#230 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:31pm by Gaby_peaceandluv
What a twat. But hey, you don't need him. If he can't respect the work you've done just to please him, then you're far too good for him.
I voted YDI since you lost weight for HIM and not YOURSELF. Congrats though.
#232 - On 07/19/2009 at 12:52pm by warmvanillasugar
That's definitely not why he broke up with you. That's just an excuse.
#234 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:28pm by madasahatter
Awesome congrats well idk if thats why he dumped u but it gives u a chance to find a better guy so right on! it was a win win situation :p
#235 - On 07/19/2009 at 1:43pm by Cammii
Congratulations on losing the weight you wanted, I hope you were careful and healthy about it.
Your (ex)boyfriend is an idiot and a douchebag for doing that, but it really looks like he was looking for ANY reason to break it off. On the other hand, he might just be really controlling, I mean he demanded a specific size and got upset when that didn't happen.
On the bright side, though, you probably look absolutely amazing and could get whoever you want. :D
And to those stating certain sizes are too big or too small, or calling those who say a certain size is too small must be chubby/fat girls, what is or isn't healthy on a person depends on their body type. Personally, I'm 5'11" and pretty broad at the shoulders and hips and my doctor says that if I went below 140 lbs, I'd start becoming unhealthy skinny. A size 4 on one girl may be perfect, but on another rail-thin. It varies, people aren't made with cookie cutters. Deal with it.
#237 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:28pm by Lawlipop
Congratulations on losing weight!! Now go get a man that doesn't suck, and appreciates you for who you are!!! Good luck!!
#238 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:36pm by HelloShitty
well now you can go out and get all the guys you want with your hot new body!
#239 - On 07/19/2009 at 2:45pm by uhmx3hii
if you went from 18 to 4 in just a few months, you are either on drugs or anorexic. Neither of which is healthy so its no wonder your bf left you - you need to get help now.
When I weighed almost 200 lbs, size 18 clothes were too large to wear, and I prefer my clothes baggy. at 130, Im size 14.
I call fake on you. Im assuming you are short (which you must be if you are a 14 and 130 lbs. Im 130 lbs and tall, I wear a 5) so when you weighed roughly 60 lbs more you only went up 4 sizes? That would not be possible for even a taller girl. Also the heavier you are the faster the weight drops off, so she doesn't have to be on drugs to loose weight.
#251 - On 07/19/2009 at 6:28pm by daydreambeliever
If your now ex bf asked you to lose that much weight in the first place.. you're the idiot for listening. No offence. Congrats on the weight loss.. but also congrats on not having that douche in your life anymore.
#242 - On 07/19/2009 at 3:20pm by ill_parcel
you're lying. no way that would have happened. a guy who told you to get down to size 6 from 18 wouldn't even notice the difference between 4 and 6.
if nothing else, ydi for being an 18 in the first place. enjoy all of the extra skin you have now...
i say fyl if you'd kept him, you deserve more respect if you're working that hard to make him happy...he should'a been grateful, try not date an asshole next time...
Why would you ever change yourself like that for someone?
People who try to alter others, body or mind, bug the shit out of me.
I'm going to call your boyfriend the straw that broke the camel's hump (that's how the saying goes right?). Although I doubt I'd ever make such a change just because of a boyfriend, it's not really a big deal to take his suggestion into account when making a decision to lose weight. Him saying to lose weight does not make him a bad guy nor does it make you somehow have a weaker character. Good for you for making a healthier improve to your life and good think he's out of it now. A good boyfriend should be supportive of your accomplishments, not use them against you.
God, what an asshole. He was probably just looking for an excuse to break up with you. If it had been me and my bf told me to lose wieght, i tell him to f*ck off and to not go out with me if he doesn't like the way I look.
#253 - On 07/19/2009 at 7:27pm by allysonface
Let's measure the pros and cons of this.
Pros:
You are now at a healthy weight.
You probably feel more secure about your appearance.
You can easily get a new boyfriend.
Cons:
Your douchebag boyfriend left you.
Hm... :)
#254 - On 07/19/2009 at 7:30pm by Ianslilgoofball
with a guy like that, it's a good thing you're rid of him.
#256 - On 07/19/2009 at 8:38pm by shit_happens101
don't listen to that complete asshole. you did the right thing.
#257 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:30pm by Skynet1121
dont worry about it. now that your 14 sizes smaller, lotsa wonderful NICER men will be chasing after you. :D
#258 - On 07/19/2009 at 9:44pm by dancingcutie1029
omg... that's awful... he's a loser and you're waaay better than that so congrats and you'll get someone amazing!
#259 - On 07/19/2009 at 10:21pm by imkindaawesome
god, why'd you have to go and lose too much weight? can't you think about someone besides yourself and gain a few dozen pounds again after all that hard work?
if its not clear, i'm jking. i don't know what the hell his problem was, but don't worry. you'll be able to find hotter guys than him now that you're healthy (and you'll be happier too :D). if you ask me, this is kind of a win. now that you're rid of your boyfriend, you can get guys that are hundreds of times better than him.
#260 - On 07/19/2009 at 10:43pm by ky_stone22
YDI for losing weight for your boyfriend and not your health. FYL for dating the asshole. Good for you that you're now healthy and without the asshole.
YDI for losing weight for someone else. If you're going to lose any weight, it should be for health. And I'm much more attracted to a size 18 than a 6 or 4. Gross.
#263 - On 07/19/2009 at 11:29pm by namelessfew
if you care so much about health, why are you calling a size 4-6 (a size for a healthy weight) gross and a size 18 (means you are overweight and unhealthy) attractive? wrong.
#283 - On 07/20/2009 at 11:22am by kaleid0scopeEyes
So you're thin, healthy, and got rid of a loser boyfriend! :)
#265 - On 07/20/2009 at 12:44am by echarperouge
all that people are saying is that from 18 to 4 is a BIG difference and it might not be healthy to drop quite that much weight. if you did it healthfully, congrats!!!!
#269 - On 07/20/2009 at 12:57am by erklizzy
That just left a huge WTF in my mind. First off, congratulations to you for working towards and achieving a new, healthy lifestyle, I'm sure your body and life in general has/will improve because of it. Sorry about the loser. He either 1) was just using that as an excuse and it would have been coming anyway, or 2) actually meant it, and is a bigger jerk than the first scenario. Anyhow, you're better off without someone like that, and I bet you could get any guy you want now!
#270 - On 07/20/2009 at 1:07am by Heavenguard
Hey. I'm so proud of you that you managed to lose all that weight.
And you're better off without that douchebag.
But I'm really hoping that it was done healthily, and that you went into the doctor's for a check up afterwards. Cause losing that much in a short period of time can be bad for your heart.
And to people saying it's fake. I've seen it happen. And if you lost that much would you not be bragging that you were now a size '4', hence why her bf would know what size she is.
Fuck it, you can go find someone else. The guy was obviously a knobend :)
#274 - On 07/20/2009 at 1:49am by Equinox987
this is an FML. you probably look amazing AND you found out that they guy you were dating is an asshole. congrats on the weightloss
#275 - On 07/20/2009 at 2:30am by riseandshine
YDI - Not because you did anything really wrong... except have a douchbag for a BF. Eff him for asking you to lose weight to begin with.
Chubby chix rOOl.
Well, you've got a bangin body baby, work it! That's fantastic! You deserve a nicer guy, keep up the healthiness for yourself.
Congratulations on losing all that weight! =)
I'm sorry your boyfriend was such an ass.
#279 - On 07/20/2009 at 9:44am by konekohotaru
omg that's great, how did you manage that??
dang lol oh and you shouldn't have done it caz he told you to....so wrong motivationg but still amazing
Now that you're down to that size, go out and find yourself a new guy who's not such a dick. Now that you look so dramatically different, you should be welcoming this opportunity; better health, more confidence and probably a ton of fun new activities that you can do now that you couldn't do so well before! Find a friend who's also active and KEEP UP your new healthy lifestyle. You might have regrets about the guy, but look where it got you now. Keep your chin up!
#282 - On 07/20/2009 at 11:12am by happyvalleygirl
(1) Congratulations on the wonderful achievement! (2) YDI because you changed for a guy. D: (3) FYL because he is a huge asshole for (a) making you change and (b) being dissatisfied with your effort!
All in all, YOU are awesome. You should go partyin' girl! Get some great new guy(s)!
#285 - On 07/20/2009 at 7:28pm by B0SSAN0VACHICK
Forget that ass! Seriously, how anal is he?
Enjoy your sexy new bod and have some fun! But make sure you don't fall into the trap of another superficial guy.
#286 - On 07/20/2009 at 9:35pm by dramakat11
I'm sorry but hate that you assume if you are a bigger size you AUTOMAICALLY must have to only get a loser boyfriend, because all the good ones are with the size 6's and 4's. All the good ones shouldn't care about your weight unless its a health thing, if your bigger and healthy, theres no reason it should be an issue. Weight shouldn't be a concern, health should. People forget that a lot.
But theres nothing wrong with the OP losing weight if she wants to, good for you :).
#288 - On 07/20/2009 at 10:03pm by chocolemonade
WOW!!!!! I'm entering eighth grade and at 5'6 I'm 165lbs. I've been trying to loose weight so badly but I eat horribly :( How did you do it?!?!?!?!?!?!!? PLEASE ANSWER!!!!
congrats on losing weight!!!
i'm in the same boat as #289. i've been trying to diet forever.
WHAT'S YOUR SECRET??? do you mind sharing?????
#290 - On 07/20/2009 at 11:06pm by 2NE1
What the FUCK?! Your boyfriend is fucking stupid.
And for those thinking size 4 is anorexic or something, I'm a size 1 and I look perfectly normal. Have a bit of pinchable baby fat around the tummy area, decent sized B cup, and cheek dimples when I smile. Although being only 5'2 helps as well.
Your boyfriend sounds like some of my guy friends. I'm 5'8 and 130 lbs and also a size 4, and they complain about me being flat-chested and having no butt! Haha, it's cool though because I'm comfortable with my body. I knew I'd never have a body like Beyonce, I just have a slender frame. And for all you people out there that think 130 is chubby, notice the height. It spreads out more. 8)
#292 - On 07/21/2009 at 8:46am by shelbums
i'm gonna go ahead and say YDI. did no one notice that she lost all the weight not for herself, not to be healthy, but because her boyfriend wanted her to be 12 sizes smaller? that's the moment when you dump his ass. seriously.
#294 - On 07/21/2009 at 11:37am by starvingxartist
I would just like to say, to those who feel a 12-14 is bad, I would be perfectly happy as a 12-14. In the summer before seventh grade I went from a size 14 to a size 24 due to a then unknown medical condition (hormone imbalance due to ovarian cysts). I was an after I found the problems 18 and was okay with it, because I know that it was mainly due to medication and not really any effort on my part. Im currently a 16 from diet and exercise and think that this is perfectly acceptable. Additionally, if I were a size 6 I would probably look extremely unhealthy. So Im just saying, sometimes being over weight is not your fault.
now you know your ex is a huge jerk.
so cheer up hun because your at a good turning point in your life. you are healthy! and you have a new chance at love. don't stay with a person like him. you have a new healthy body so go celebrate and find someone else =)
#296 - On 07/21/2009 at 2:53pm by winemysavior
american sizes are confusing! if a 4's like a UK 8 and then a 2's like a UK 6 then you guys have SMALLER than that? its hard enough to even find a 6 in Ireland, and hard enough to find a 16! If you aint in this middle range of 10-14 its really difficult to find clothes.
Its good to know other countries provide for the fact that people come in all different shapes and sizes. Especially since there are special larger size stores but very few petite stores, I have lots of tiny friends who have to tailor all their clothes.
Oh but congrats on the weight loss, well done! fuck the bf, if you get some confidence to match the new body then you wont be alone for long!!!
xxxxx
#298 - On 07/21/2009 at 6:44pm by blue892772
What's the big deal in losing him? The trash took itself out. You got someone when you were a size 18; it will be much easier now that you lost the weight.
Congratulations, OP! You don't deserve that. Any guy who would break up with his girlfriend because she "didn't listen to what he wanted" is a complete jerk and doesn't deserve to be in a relationship!
First off, you shouldn't change yourself for any guy. If they want you to change yourself, then why be with him? And for your diet congratulations! Now you are happy with your body AND ready to find a new guy who isn't an asshole! Enjoy being single!
#301 - On 07/21/2009 at 10:15pm by obamas_mama
Don't listen to him
You should be looked up to and praised
For the will power and strength you have
To loose that much weight is amazing
#302 - On 07/21/2009 at 10:17pm by HunterFalls13
Dont even listen to him, he is an ass and you deserve better.
you have worked so hard and a size 4 is amazing. Be proud of yourself and show off your new bod and find someone worth wild. Dont worry though, being single is way better and soon he will relize he was an idiot when you find someone nice.
#304 - On 07/22/2009 at 4:40pm by Canadianchick15
Dont even listen to him, he is an ass and you deserve better.
you have worked so hard and a size 4 is amazing. Be proud of yourself and show off your new bod and find someone worth wild. Dont worry though, being single is way better and soon he will relize he was an idiot when you find someone nice.
#305 - On 07/22/2009 at 4:40pm by Canadianchick15
sounds like he was going to break up with you anyways and used that as an excuse!!
#308 - On 07/23/2009 at 11:00am by jennee123
Good for you! I love when people have the motivation to actually get up and lose all that weight. As long as you're healthy and you feel good about yourself, who cares what other people think? You probably look so beautiful and sexy now that you'll have to fight men off with a stick. =)
Congratulations! You should've done this for yourself, though, NOT for your boyfriend. What kind of guy "would like to see" his girlfriend a certain size? Oh how about a douchebag asshole. Guys are never satisfied.
#312 - On 07/27/2009 at 10:18am by sickinlove13
ha ha, imma 4...congrats!!! I'm like exceedingly happy with my body and wouldn't want to lose or gain a pound...hopefully now you feel the same! :D wait, size 4 dress, size 1 pants..:S anyways lol I have a rather large ass but not in a bad way, B cups and very small amounts of fat round my stomach. I'm curvy enough that when I dress nice i can look stunning. (; so hun, go out there and getcha self a new guy!! :D
#314 - On 08/13/2009 at 12:57am by bubblybrooke
haha all i gotta say is damn u must look fine u should send me some pics ;) haha jk also tell him i said hes a fuckin dumbass!!!! haha congratz on the weight loss
Sounds like your bf is a douche bag. Congrats on losing all the weight. How did you do it?
#318 - On 12/03/2009 at 11:16am by Classicbeauty7
forget him! congrats on losing all that weight!! go find someone who deservesss to be with you!
#319 - On 01/01/2010 at 10:44pm by mylifeisfuckedd
