Today, I told my boyfriend I was afraid he would no longer love me when he returned from basic training. Hoping he would reassure me his feelings wouldn't change and we'd still be together, he replied instead, "Shit happens." FML
I agree, your life sucks (19002) - you totally deserved it (4459)
On 11/04/2009 at 9:00am - love - by reality_stricken (woman) - Guam
Sounds like a typical female to say something she doesn't mean to get a man to say something he doesn't mean..... YDI
Exactly. When someone does or says something just to get a specific reaction, they deserve exactly what they don't expect.
YDI for fishing for complements. We can see right through that, and we HATE it when you try and manipulate us into saying what you want us to. It tells us that you're insecure, and that all you'll do is cause problems for us in the long run.
I dunno, it is reasonable for her to be concerned somewhat and for her to voice her concerns.
She wasn't fishing for compliments, she wanted to be reassured because she was uncertain.
Indeed. Fishing for compliments is stupid, especially when being all naggy when he doesn't say what you want to hear. I doubt I'd love you if your always trying to put words in my mouth and whining and worrying about '"if you love me" shit, its the army, and he's joining up to protect polutants of the gene pool like you, unfortunately. But its about him, not you - give him a break.
I thought relationships were about TWO people. Sure she sounds whiny, but maybe he is always vague. People just need to be blunt. None of this fishing for compliment stuff. Op stop sounding so needy. If he always says "shit happens" then maybe he wants to break up or get away. Maybe you need to rethink your life and relationships...
Don't bother him with such useless babble and maybe try to be constructive. Men don't need your emotional baggage, espeially when they're training to be in the military.
That phrase wasn't made into a bumper sticker for nothing.
#4 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:07pm by FernandoTorres
What do you mean when he is done? He's probably looking forward to be bunked in with all those hot, sweaty, man-chests. Dang, gurl.. don't ask and hear no evil :]
I can understand why she'd be devastated. But, honestly, that's a ridiculous question to ask. If you honestly have to ask that type of question, be prepared for heartbreak, because you're not going to last. Have some trust in your relationship and support his decision. Don't make his leaving for basic training about you. Asking a question like that shows him that all you care about is whether or not he'll still care for you. It's not about you. It's about him. Stop being so selfish.
#7 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:10pm by the1truebob
Sorry right but nothing gets on my nerves more than people who say something to get a certain response back. And, and when they don't get it, go mental as if it's somehow the other person's fault for not having the same thought process as them. Not saying that's what you're like, but jesus christ FUCKING JUST SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MAYBE YOU'LL GET WHAT YOU WANT.
#9 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:13pm by repyourcliche
I think a response like "Shit happens" has a lot more going on behind it than just 'our thought processes are different'... just sayin'
Yeah having the one you love go off leaves you wondering if the same him will come back. I feel your pain.
#74 - On 11/04/2009 at 9:33pm by very_bad_idea
I woulda been like "Ya kno what babe, your right. Shit does happen. That's why if u die, I want to reassure you with the fact that i'm gonna fuck your best friend, just like in the movie Pearl Harbor. And then maybe I'll do your brothers, and a couple of their friends. And hey, what the hell, yor dad's pretty hot, why not fuck him too. Have fun at training baby! And don't you go dieing on me!"
That's how it's done bitch ;)
#11 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:26pm by pinkdancer
You're a single, bitter, ugly woman who never found a man who loves you, aren't you? because only that type of person would be so incredibly unsupportive and bitchy to someone they should love.
yeah .. but the guy who said "shit happens" in reply to the OP treats the people he loves wonderfully, right?
You sound like a typical, nice girl and he sounds like a typical, rude, annoying man.
My answer to that: Dude, do you even care about me?! If he'd say no, I'd grab something that hurts and Id hit him and send him outta the house
#14 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:35pm by DovdGraaf
"typical, nice girl"
"typical, rude, annoying man."
and you sound like a sexist.
#70 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:54pm by Plumppotato
Pretty sure a lot of girls feel this way. Who knows how long they have been dating? She was just looking for a little reassurance and kudos to her for being brave enough to express how she's feeling. He sounds like a typical army douche bag. She could do so much better. FYL indeed for dating an insensitive jackass.
#16 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:37pm by MandyRulesAll
I'm not so sure about this. Personally, if I happened to be this guy, I'd be a bit hurt (and probably irritated) by a girlfriend saying something like that. It seems like an insult almost, like she's underestimating whatever bond they have. This probably wasn't OP's intent, but when you think about it, that message sort of makes itself clear.
The boyfriend definitely could have been a bit nicer here, but he was probably a bit upset by what she said and responded accordingly.
#34 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:42pm by Tequilamockngbrd
exactly how many people do you know in the army? clearing enough to call them all douche bags right?
#71 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:56pm by Plumppotato
I have no idea what to say apart from the fact that I want to tell you that I have no idea about the commends represented for me and also about how I can say that I can say that and a whole bunch of other stuff talking about how all of this fits together.
#19 - On 11/04/2009 at 2:57pm by polico_wolf
Well, I think you know now.
But, you knew ahead of time that if you told him that, he might tell you something you don't want to hear.
You set yourself up for hurt. I'm tempted to say YDI, but... I won't.
#21 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:06pm by MermaidSongXOXO
MermaidSongX0X0... I love how you act like you'd act any differently in that situation. Just because you might think that someone MIGHT say something hurtful, it's not a guarantee, and it shouldn't stop you from saying anything at all. It's nice that she said it, too bad he's an asshole!
#22 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:10pm by MandyRulesAll
You make a valid point, but the OP shouldn't post on FML if she knew that was a possibility.
#25 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:20pm by MermaidSongXOXO
The guy is going to risk his life to protect you and your country and all you can worry about is some made up problem? I hope he finds someone lower maintenance.
#23 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:14pm by I_am_stupid_also
I_am_stupid_also, yes, yes, you really are stupid. Just because he's joining the army doesn't give him an excuse to be a dick to his girlfriend. He so clearly doesn't deserve her, and I hope she finds someone better while he's away. Then when he comes back she can tell him, "Shit happens."
#24 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:20pm by MandyRulesAll
you really have no way of knowing if he deserves her or not. she could be a completely manipulative bitch, or not, you can't know it though. so don't assume he doesn't deserve her.
#91 - On 11/05/2009 at 2:06am by miserycompany
Probably he learned to plan for the worst in preparation for basic--you could die while he's there, for all you know.
my boyfriend just got out of the army and he never said anything like that when i always told him i was afraid to lose him.
If this man is saying stupid shit like that then you don't deserve him if he shows he dont give a shit
#27 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:30pm by youngartist
I completely agree with youngartist. There is no excuse to say things like that or treat your loved one so callously. She is wasting her time on him, I hope she ditches his ass.
#29 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:33pm by MandyRulesAll
I went through Basic training for the Army. He will come back loving you more than ever.
#30 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:36pm by Ninjagrunt117
First off, there is more than one branch of military. Second, military men aren't more likely to cheat and military couples don't have higher divorce rates. Both those opinions are common but incorrect. Third, have some respect for the people out there that have more balls than you and put their lives on the line so you can post grossly inaccurate ramblings on the internet without government reprisal.
#87 - On 11/04/2009 at 11:53pm by LoveMySoldier
You really ought to have the confidence to approach the subject in a different less accusing manner. At least you learned a lesson.
Just because the OP is afraid of her boyfriend not loving her after he gets back from basic doesn't mean she is high maintenance. My boyfriend is at Marine Corps boot camp and I was terrified of anything happening to us. Going through boot camp can completely change someone. But the fear of them leaving you isn't a feeling you'll understand unless you go through it.
OP trust me, unless you have plans for a future after he gets out, it is not worth it. It is a lot of frustration and if thats the way he treats you now, don't put yourself through it.
YDI for being insecure about your relationship. If you really had nothing to worry about you would'nt have asked that question in the first place.
Okay , first of all ..Pinkdancer is totally right, if hes going to to blatently tell you that Shit happens, hes probably already cheated on you, or will. Also hes a piece of shit for saying that or being in a relationship and expecting you to wait around for him and waste you time with not even giving you a simple reassurance, my boyfriend of 2 years recently went away to the Army, and i will tell you first hand that if a man loves you he will reassure all the time spilling his heart to you ,even when you dont ask, HE WILL BE THE ONE SCARED TO LOSE YOU , and thats the way it should be.. my adive. I know its easier said than done to break up with his stupid ass.. but you really need to do it. You'll be better off =]
you dont even know how long theyve been together. what if he doesnt lover her. so what. he doesnt have to. you dont know.
#72 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:58pm by Plumppotato
I'm an army wife. just be prepared, if you can't handle the amount of time he's in basic, how will you handle a year long deployment? Will you be able to go days, weeks, maybe even months with no contact with him?
#37 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:49pm by 5m4r7ch1x0r
Its the military crap...trust me hes in that mind set of i dont give a f*** about anything, dont read to much onto it- im a army wife, and its hard to handle but you just gotta deal.
#38 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:55pm by brocksbabe
Maybe he is stressed thinking about other stuff, don't take it personally
#40 - On 11/04/2009 at 3:59pm by chellinha93
I love the divide between male and female comments on these kind of FMLs.
Just tell him to STFU, GTFO and make you a sammich!
How is he supposed to know whether he is still going to feel the same about you?! Fair enough you wanted some reassurance, but tbh you just sound whiny and insecure.
#43 - On 11/04/2009 at 4:31pm by lmaoatyourlife
If you're worried about your man's feelings changing while he's at basic...surrounded almost entirely by other men...well I think that's a whole other issue.
Sounds like you'd be better off with him away at basic training, anyway...but in his defense, what you said was just asking for it. I HATE how my gender fishes for compliments and reassurance like that. So freakin' annoying! If basic training doesn't ruin your relationship, your insecurity will. Trust me on that.
I got news for you. He doesn't 'return' after basic. He'll get stationed somewhere. And deployed. And then stationed somewhere else, and deployed again (and again).
What part of "I'm joining the Army" don't you understand?!? I think I can see why he's leaving you.
so it doesnt sound like the men are being sexist im gonna comment with my input. YDI for attempting to manipulate him into saying a compliment and im happy he said what he said!!
#51 - On 11/04/2009 at 5:21pm by kibbleznbitz0
he's probably just scared. i understand your concern, but he just needs you to support him. just give him a big hug and tell him you are there for him when he needs you. he needs reassurance more than you do right now.
while he's gone, keep yourself busy instead of worrying. hang out with your friends, make new friends, get a new hobby. but still write to him and talk to him whenever he can. it will be hard, but if you are there for him, he will be there for you.
just explain to him that you trust him and you have a strong relationship. you will probably get an apology. :)
#52 - On 11/04/2009 at 5:25pm by mileycyruslvrrrr
Ouch.
I have that same fear- My boyfriend's heading off to Basic Training in August.
He's assured me he'll be fine, he's not gonna leave me, but I'm still worried.
Honestly, that's a dick move on his part. He could've done more to comfort you. :)
I just hope it works out!
#53 - On 11/04/2009 at 5:33pm by Everlasting
uhm, he is the one going on a completely new track in his life. she is just gonna be staying in the same place. he probably needs more comforting than her.
#93 - On 11/05/2009 at 2:12am by miserycompany
I agree, but it still wasn't very nice of him to say.
They should both seriously consider caring more, being sweeter about it.
Boot camp's definitely not the most fun thing in the world,
but being alone for months isn't lovely either.
#110 - On 11/05/2009 at 7:53pm by Everlasting
That's what you get for not trusting your significant other. The lack of trust shows that you don't really love him.
#55 - On 11/04/2009 at 5:42pm by capthavoc123
Sounds like he has more important shit to worry about... like his life
#56 - On 11/04/2009 at 6:13pm by donkey_hang_down
57 comments and no one noticed the grammatical nonsense of the second sentence?
#58 - On 11/04/2009 at 6:28pm by Nonamerequired
It makes enough sense if 57 people understood it and commented.
#60 - On 11/04/2009 at 6:50pm by Tequilamockngbrd
Nope, Nonamerequired is right. Dangling prepositions are never okay.
#105 - On 11/05/2009 at 1:17pm by LoremIpsumDolor
HAHA, for those hating on my grammar, you're picking on something that's not even an issue. Most of your FMLs must be about how you absolutely abhor terrible grammar. Get over it. This world is stupid. Deal with it. At the very least, I try to make my stories understood by the majority.
#112 - On 11/06/2009 at 1:46am by reality_stricken
Come on! The OP was fishing for her boyfriend to say something like "oh my god I'm going to love you forever and ever and ever and you're the greatest thing that ever happened to me". And she didn't get it (obviously because the BF doesn't feel that way). Don't go fishing for compliments. It's silly and rarely results in anything good. YDI!
YDI for being so emotionally needy that you need validation from your boyfriend.
#61 - On 11/04/2009 at 6:52pm by lostfaithinpppl
Interesting fact about Basic Training: people don't get a lot of time to contact home. If your man is spending what little personal time he has contacting you, be grateful. It means he still cares. But if you keep saying stupid crap like that, he'll probably stop. Do people change at Basic? Absolutely. That's what they're there for, which is what makes it all the more frustrating when the people back home completely fail to understand what the Trainees are going through. They need your support, not to be loaded down with all your personal issues. They have enough to deal with.
#62, Holy shit thank you. Half of the people on here have no idea what basic is like.
#65 - On 11/04/2009 at 7:57pm by DeathShad0
if you have to hope and think about him reassuring you, you probably weren't too afraid in the first place.
reassure your own self.
#66 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:21pm by rihannalover
I went to basic to find my boyfriend couldn't take it and moved on without telling me. He doesn't seem like a keeper and you don't need any distractions during basic. I'd lose him. you'll be a different person any can find someone better anyways.
#67 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:22pm by armybarbie
what did you expect? some sappy ass love movie answer? "ill always love you babe."
i like how alot of the guys see where he is coming from and all the women agree with her.
i agree with number 8.
but i at least would have said just kidding and gave her a hug or something.
#68 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:24pm by imeverywhere
Several things:
She just wanted reassurance. She wasn't fishing for compliments, and when most people ask a serious question, they either want or expect a certain answer. It's probably a good thing that he responded so honestly, because now she knows he doesn't care enough to make it worth her while to pretty much live for the times when this person will be able to see her.
Even if she is being supportive of his decision, he should at least have the decency to reassure her that he'll try not to let it change the way they feel about each other. That kind of decision doesn't only effect one life, and takes reassurance and support from both ends.
The majority of people who join the army are not "risking their lives" to protect us. Everyone who joins goes to basic. Even if they'll be sitting at a desk filing paperwork.
OP, if he's not just an asshole, chances are he's worried about the same thing. There are A LOT of guys in the military that get cheated on and left while they're gone, and he's probably heard the stories. He may just be trying to protect himself by acting like he doesn't care.
#69 - On 11/04/2009 at 8:30pm by hey_its_me
bitch. not the OP. all of you. shitting all over men. sexist bitches.
#73 - On 11/04/2009 at 9:00pm by Plumppotato
Wow, so it's ok for him to say, "shit happens" or in other words "i don't care what happens to us"? I'm not saying that the op was right to fish. No one likes a fisher, and if he did care, that would offend him. But she can do better. The fact that we say she can do better means we don't just think it's men. It's this particular man.
Basic training is 18 weeks (or close to that at least). Just think about that. You'll see plenty of people everyday and how can you be so sure that you'll still want him? That is over four months and he's just a boyfriend, not a husband. I've personally never seen a military based relationship work. Fuck him find someone else.
My girlfriend asked me the same thing right before I left for boot camp. I reassured her that I'd always love her and she said the same to me. Once out of boot camp I went to tech school and proposed to her she said yes. 3 weeks later she dumped me for another guy...FML...it could be worse...
#75 Proven Correctly LOL. Sorry man, long distance relationships just never work. I hope you've got someone now. If not, keep trying buddy!
I was reading the comments posted, and most people seem to have no idea what the hell basic training is like. My boyfriend is in the army and it has changed many things about him we don't get to talk wednesdays, and two weekends a month and then whenever he leaves for exercises. Its hard on a relationship when your boyfriend is constantly gone and unable to talk. And basic training is not a simple training camp, my boyfriend will be gone for 2 and a 1/2 months and who knows what will happen over there and what will change him. I don't doubt our relationship but you never know what will happen and I have had the exact same thoughts run through my head that I just keep to myself because this is something that he has always wanted to do so I support that. It doesnt make it easy though, I have already heard of many stories of his fellow army buddies and their wives and girlfriends have cheated on them or they came home not wanting the same things anymore. It can be difficult but it is also very possible, even if you get to talk 3 or 4 times through out his basic that obviously means something. Chances are the same thoughts are running through his head as well he is just less than likely to discuss that with you.
#82 - On 11/04/2009 at 11:30pm by jacksta2405
I have been with a lot of guys who have been away on training and there are a few different things that can happen. Firstly, I was with a guy and as some of you have said, we said we'd be together and he'd always say he'd call etc etc but after training he changed and he gave up and nothing was ever the same and we eventually broke up.
This time, I am with a guy who is like the one you are with. He doesn't make promises he can't keep and understands that training is a lot harder than expected. In fact, he is away training for 2 weeks right now. And we don't ask questions like will you still love me or want to be with me, instead we promise each other that he will contact me at least twice while he is away.
It is you who makes the effort a lot of the time while he is away, but by being in the relationship, it is you who has said "i can deal with this".
Saying what he said does not mean he does not love you. Being away is hard, it changes people and like anything, you can't predict the future. People deal with things in different ways and if "shit happens" is his way of dealing, surely you would've known that if you are already dating him!
Well. My boyfriend is about to be done with basic he just had a pass over the weekend ad i got to see him. he writes about 3 times a week and tells me how much i mean to him. You wont get to talk to him but here and there. Though it means everythig. When you get those phone calls. But things might change whe he gets there. Its hard but if he or you truely care it will work. but i think you should have not thought so much about him not loving you aymore and think about the support you needed to show him instead. because that will make all of the difference and is scared and nervous and doest really know what expect.
#86 - On 11/04/2009 at 11:39pm by r924210990
YDI for being manipulative and immature, and for dating a jerk. FYL- sounds like you guys deserved each other.
#89 - On 11/05/2009 at 12:43am by justmeagirl
Joining the military has probably been his dream for most of his life. Hooking up with you until death do ye part has probably not been on his mind that long, if at all. He's about to embark on a major life-changing event. He doesn't know what he's facing, how he'll handle it, nor how he will be if he succeeds. It was a self-centered question to ask him and his answer was probably about as honest as it could get.
#94 - On 11/05/2009 at 2:18am by doof_fisch
When my ex went to bootcamp. Of course I satyed faithful the whole time, thats just me, and was easy. And 2 weeks after he got back he cheated on me.
Shit does happen.
My husband it at boot camp right now. I had the same worry as you, but he was nice about it. He did the whole, "romance movie" thing. But we're married so it doesn't count.
But unfortunately for you, you are a girlfriend and not a wife. And to the military, girlfriends are disposable. And even more bad news for you, once he graduates you still won't see him a lot(if at all) until after A-school because you are a girlfriend. Even then he could be stationed somewhere else away from you. If you were his wife you could move with him. Sorry. Shit happens.
#96 - On 11/05/2009 at 3:58am by saint_faith89
I agree! I definitely know what it feels like! I have been with my boyf for a while and they have a really different attitude to us.
These boys are surrounded by mates who can be bad influences and do things (like travel everywhere) that make it difficult to keep up with them if they aren't married. The guys in there who have wives are loving and are faithful to their wives, but as saint_faith89 said, girlfriends aren't a high priority.
You have to realise they go through so much that they realise, today you are with someone and tomorrow you aren't. You can't base your whole life around someone!!
If it's meant to be, it will be!
Honestly, I don't see how this counts as fishing for compliments. It makes perfect sense to be concerned that distance will affect your relationship with someone, and to voice that concern. It could've been worded a little differently, but I don't think the OP was looking for 'OMG SAY YOU LOVE ME'. She probably just wanted him to say 'we can write/text/it'll be okay'. And even if she was fishing for a compliment, if it's someone you're dating/emotionally invested in, you should care enough not to be an outright ass to them for such a small thing.
#98 - On 11/05/2009 at 4:37am by paprikacha
YDI for making a scene and presuming he would automatically be different.
#99 - On 11/05/2009 at 4:40am by blastvortex
Can I also ask, what would you have expected in the situation? Because the fact that he's going away would not change and I'm pretty sure whatever he would've said would have probably not been good enough! Even if he said I love and will try and keep in contact, I'm sure you would have found something wrong in that! It's easier to be angry at someone when they are leaving then to be happy they are gone! Just a thought!
dump him. he doesn't deserve you. BT is tough enough for you without a guy who's in it, and just not willing to tough it out himself.
#102 - On 11/05/2009 at 6:44am by toxic08
Aww poor thing. I know how hard it is. My bf is away at basic right now too. Just remember that this time is really hard for him. they are doing everything they can to break him and he needs your support right now
#104 - On 11/05/2009 at 12:03pm by mala_aneczka
sometimes guys really cant be arsed with the bullshitty things women say and having to repeat the answer your supposed to give
#106 - On 11/05/2009 at 1:51pm by leoofbodom
the shit they go through...he probably wont. military boys can be straight ass holes... good luck i hope you guys have a strong relationship before he leaves...
#107 - On 11/05/2009 at 3:14pm by courtneycoutts
don't worry. i was completely confident in our love when my boyfriend left for bootcamp and yet i asked the same questions. don't worry if its meant to be it will be. when he got back he proposed we're now married with a 2 n half month old daughter. chances are he will love you more when he gets back most guys the only thing that keeps them going is the letters and pictures you send them. :)
ahhh!
this is really really not comforting....
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year, and next fall he is going away to basic instead of college, and im really afraid of whats going to happen....
i'm really sorry, and im sure im going to end up knowing exactly how you feel....
#111 - On 11/05/2009 at 10:04pm by confuzzledBunny
Well, shit does happen. What are you going to do? Dump him for saying that? FFS, don't be pathetic. At your obvious age, the chances are in two years time you'll move on to someone else anyway.
#113 - On 11/06/2009 at 3:32am by cartoonelvis
of course everyone's right in a way. I'm selfish for hoping I don't get hurt again; I'm stupid for my insecurity when all of our relationship's ups and downs prove correctly; I'll probably be the one to not feel the same; whatever the case, I don't have to deal with it until he comes back. As for now, I'm freaking enjoying my semi-single life.
#114 - On 11/06/2009 at 3:38am by reality_stricken
So you're a manipulative butthead as this thread has played you out to be.
Either he was really into you when this happened, loved you, and was being fatalistic when he said what he did... Or he never gave a damned in the first, and you were trying to fish for confessions of love right before he's going out on tour.
Either way, you're a horrible person and you better not be in his reality when he does get back home. You're an urchin.
#115 - On 11/06/2009 at 8:39am by ChicagosWorst
you are a terrible person. at first i could sympathize with you because my husband is going thru the same thing. maybe if you weren't such a selfish bitch, he would cry over you every night because of how much he misses you, which he probably will while you enjoy your "semi-single life". i hope he doesn't waste his paper writing you precious letters because you don't deserve them, i also hope he can find some off base tang once he gets to a.i.t.
enjoy your single life because you don't deserve a solider.
Wow, what a horrible thing to ask a person while they're going through such a stressful time. I've been in his shoes, and he's totally right. Shit happens. You can become a totally different person when you graduate Basic Military Qualification and yeah, maybe he won't love you anymore because he realizes that you're not fit to be a military girlfriend/wife. He has balls to go out there and want to defend the country well guess what, you have to have balls to let him without being so insecure and whiney. Basic training is a very short and simple course in comparison to preparation and being on a tour. BTW I read your comment on how you think you're "semi-single" well you'll be one of those girlfriends who will, while your man is on tour, be screwing his buddy from batallion and when he gets back he'll find the house empty and he'll never hear from you again.
You totally don't deserve any man (or woman) who has the guts to defend your country.
haha, i'm flattered you think i'm a bitch when none of you even know me, him, nor our relationship history. if your definition of 'enjoying' semi-single life is cheating, then i'd hate myself too because my definition has nothing to do with cheating. more of the keeping myself busy with fun, happy friends because he asked me to.
#120 - On 11/06/2009 at 5:47pm by reality_stricken
Yeah, when my ex decided to join the Marines, he actually said the same thing. I cried, and he rolled his eyes and told his mom that I was "overly emotional." I feel your pain.
#121 - On 11/06/2009 at 7:34pm by xmusicxaddict13x
why on earth would you be flattered to have people think your a bitch? Honestly that is very immature. And perhaps we are all thinking this because you say things like semi-single life and that your the idiot for doubting everything when its probably you who will feel different. Thats such a load of crap.
Yes I worry about my boyfriend being in the army and how it will all play out, and before he got accepted to the army I did not think much of it and he totally opened my eyes.. and after hearing stories of all his buddies being cheated on and abused by girlfriends and wives I would never say things like you have been. Chances are you would be the person to cheat on him or completely leave his side in a time of support. If you are saying things like this I do not blame your boyfriend for saying shit happens. Instead maybe try supporting him and becoming involved in his dreams instead of being so self absorbed because your scared of being emotionally hurt. People get over emotions, being the in army has so many greater risks and traumatizing experiences that will change a persons life.
#122 - On 11/06/2009 at 9:00pm by jacksta2405
well if you just so happen to cheat on him "shit happens"
#125 - On 11/07/2009 at 4:03am by wh0givesafuxck
Lol.
When I was dating my ex.
I was like "So are we alright now"
And he was like "I don't know. It's something I have to go home and think about"
And I was like "Oh, Ok, because you said you were in it for the long term"
And he was like "Yeah, well. shit happens"
#126 - On 11/07/2009 at 6:04am by courtneysoraya
i cant believe you just said thaat. are you going to want him after he kills people. First of all i am a army gf and theres a huge difference in killing someone and killing someone for our freedom. huge. He is a ranger and he is putting his life in jepordy to do so. I am there to support any desicion he makes. Also have the someone that cares about you and love you when you get home. He means the world to me and always tells me how much i mean to him. But if your the type of girl that needs to see him all the time for it to make you think he loves you. you are going to have it extremly hard. Its not easy but if you love him enough you will make it work
#129 - On 11/08/2009 at 7:36pm by r924210990
my boyfriend just graduated from basic training- he's in tech school now- and i felt the same. guys are such dicks and they don't understand how girls minds work. It is frustrating how stupid they can be!
#136 - On 11/16/2009 at 7:53pm by cheesepuff419
so hes leaving for basic and is gunna have his life run for him and wont be able to do anything but what they tell him to do. your staying home and can do whatever or whoever you want. shouldnt he be worried if youll still love him when he gets back? just a thought
