Today, I was supposed to finally go out with my guy-friend that I have liked for a long time. He told me he would text me, and after waiting for hours for the text, I finally got it. It said, "Guess what!? I just got laid!" He forgot our date, had it off, and I congratulated him. FML
I agree, your life sucks (36870) - you totally deserved it (5268)
On 08/11/2009 at 4:13pm - love - by denied (woman) - United States (Kansas)
Awwww, what?
Who tells their opposite-gendered friend their sexcapades, anyway? Dunno, seems weird to me.
How cruel, but maybe this means he's not worth it.
#1 - On 08/11/2009 at 7:16pm by DameGreyWulf
Ahah... my best friend who was a girl, I told her all about the girls I thought of and she told me about all her guy problems... And then we ended up dating... and still are :)
There's nothing wrong with that... Just 'cause you dont do it.
#45 - On 08/11/2009 at 10:52pm by plasticbag88
holy shit im almost in the exact same position as you...my best guyfriend tells me about his sex life all the time and i like him....you should stop focusing on just him and start checking out other guys,theres prolly one out there that likes you, its not like your pathetically inlove with him right? put yourself out there and soon enough youll either find someone or the guy will realize that he likes you too =]
#77 - On 08/12/2009 at 11:54am by gtfwdr
Woah replies showing up, then disappearing. My reply to someone else got moved. What....
Also #4, it's weird because she must have said something if she asked him on a date, even if she didn't imply how strongly she liked her. What I mean is, it's inconsiderate of him to not consider her feelings, even if he did forget the date.
And... apparently a lot of people secretly like their friends.
But what mostly seems weird to me is that it would probably be awkward if I randomly went up to one of my guy friends and was like "I got laid last night, high five me bro!"
I suppose it's not as weird for a guy, though, since usually it's the guy doing the... anything. Ahurr...
Hopefully this doesn't get moved, but at least I identified who I am responding to this time...
[edit]EXCEPT FOR WHEN THERE ARE TWO NUMBER FOURS WHAT OH GOD...
So THIS is the 4 I was replying to last time... man FML you screwy something you.
#19 - On 08/11/2009 at 8:20pm by DameGreyWulf
Indeed. It sucks, but she kind of deserved it for being a doormat. Show some dignity, for god's sake. Why would you congratulate him when he just stood you up??
#64 - On 08/12/2009 at 4:31am by crazy_cat_lady24
FML made two fours, and switched my replies to both of them...
I don't whaaaaat
#20 - On 08/11/2009 at 8:22pm by DameGreyWulf
Why would you Congratulate him? He had sex with another girl on your date.. I'd be livid if that happened to me. You don't deserve it but grow a back bone and tell him what he did. If you want something go for it
#9 - On 08/11/2009 at 7:43pm by prettykitty123
"Guy-friend", so probably not a date. He just thought the two of them were good friends who could ditch the other for action. She should have either told him her feelings or at least not congratulate him and told him she was expecting his text earlier/his company.
Y would u be lived? ur best friend just had something great happen to him obiouly they have a freat friendship whereeven somthing like this can't stop it
#53 - On 08/12/2009 at 1:07am by PostToastIes
Yeah, I was going with an FYL until you said you congratulated him...
Should have ripped him a new one instead.
#15 - On 08/11/2009 at 7:59pm by skippydoda
YDI for congratulating him. Either grow a backbone and tell him how you feel, or STFU and stop whining.
#21 - On 08/11/2009 at 8:27pm by deaditegirl
wtf you don't have to suck a dick to let him kno that you care dumbass ahaha
#35 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:21pm by candiixo
Something remarkably similar happened to me. Except instead of congratulating the guy, I bitched him out. Severely. To the point that everyone else in his apartment left. The next day, we went to the zoo with his roommate. The end.
#24 - On 08/11/2009 at 8:47pm by melissanthropy
ooph, that's rough. Sounds like my life! Hang in there, darling. Hang in there.
#25 - On 08/11/2009 at 8:53pm by justmeagirl
Hm. It amuses me how many people are degrading the OP for congratulating the friend. I thought it was very mature on her part and showed that being friends with this guy is more important than her probably fleeting crush on him. It also actually SHOWS the fact that she does have strength because she didn't flip out and show the typical weepy/bitchy traits associated with this type of situation.
In my opinion, kudos to you, OP, for showing that not everyone on this site is an emo retard.
Yup, the OP has a certain class and grace. She'll be bummed for a while but she should just leave this guy behind and leave herself open for better opportunities to come.
which says wonders for her being friends with self involved jackasses. the fact that she congratulated him and therefore plans to continue the friendship is exactly what makes it YDI. what you said would make sense if the situation was respectful on both sides...but it wasnt. shes just stupid.
#43 - On 08/11/2009 at 10:29pm by organisedchaos
It does not make you an "emo retard" to not congratulate the person you like when he bangs some other girl while he's supposed to be hanging out with you.
Whether you congratulated him or not, you should not have made it seem ok that he ditched you. Even if he didn't think it was a real date, it is still disrespectful and immature behavior.
On the other hand, he clearly doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him. So, maybe it's time to try and find a guy who's actually into you?
#31 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:09pm by cherlana32
I am guessing you probably assumed it was a real date, not just you and him going out as friends, and clearly he didn't. That is a BAD thing to assume. In the slim chance he knew it was supposed to be a real date, and still ditched you, you should not have congratulated him on getting laid. But you still should have shown him it wasn't okay to ditch you just for some action, doesn't sound like a good friend.
#33 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:17pm by KarasuFyre
Pretty sure I read an FML from the girl he had sex with's prospectivee lol :)
#34 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:18pm by live_your_life
(perspective)
for some reason "prospective" made sense to me for a minute...scary...
#39 - On 08/11/2009 at 10:03pm by KarasuFyre
LOL , you know what I think , I think he ment to send that text to someone else.. possibly a guy .. I bet he sent you it by accidentt
#36 - On 08/11/2009 at 9:25pm by candiixo
They hadn't even had their first date yet, why would you assume he's not "allowed" to stick his penis elsewhere?
#92 - On 03/11/2010 at 1:16am by a_borshunist
So.. Are you stupid? Why the fuck didn't you call him or just go out and get your own? YDI for being dependent.
"He forgot our date,"
*Hovers over FYL*
"had sex"
*Prepares to click*
"and I congratulated him."
Oh. YDI.
#47 - On 08/11/2009 at 11:06pm by MoobyTheCow
Obviously he meant go and hang out, you thought "date". Guess what if you never tell him how you actually feel, he'll never know. Then you congratulate him on getting laid. WTF! Now he really will think you're just "buds". You two may get a drunk fuck someday, but he doesn't see you as girlfriend material, otherwise that would have happened already. Move on and quit whining about feelings you never shared. He's not going to assume.
PS: Mind reading is not something taught to guys, or women but y'all like to assume you can or we can.
++ to #54, totally right.
OP doesn't share her feelings nor communicate well. Better change that, or brace for a ruff life. Fairy tales are only in books and movies.
It seems to me you THOUGHT you had a date, when in reality he just told you he would text you. and he did.
#58 - On 08/12/2009 at 3:02am by DiscountKing
Have you seen the movie He's Just Not That Into You? You should never have to wait for a text for a date. And have some dignity I hope you said "congratulations" and that's it for the rest of the night... ;) you deserve someone into you!
guess what - ''he's just not that into you!!!!!!''. in fact he's not into you at all. i kind of can empathize...but only to a point, i mean everyone has a friend that they feel something more for. with guys though you cant assume that they ''get it'' - most of the time they don't. you cant be subtle or they will MISS IT. having said that though, he did forget you were going out (and to him it was clearly only ever as mates) which does make him a bit of a douche, i wouldn't let my guy mates get away with that if they missed a coffee date. but then they txt ahead if they cant make it. but fuck...congratulating him was just stupid. to congratulate is a guy response...at least in my experience. there was this guy in the year above me at school and one of my guy friends was saying he thought this guy had the perfect name for in tekken (don't ask lol) and i was like ''have i ever mentioned that i hooked up with him once?'' his response? ''really?! nice work!'' and another time my younger brother was telling me about this girl in his year at school dating this guy who was a few years older than her and i was like ''meh thats not much...guy i hooked up with on new years was 28'' (i was 17 at the time) my little brother's response? ''skank!....but high five! nice!''
#65 - On 08/12/2009 at 6:48am by tori_ellen
What are you, 13? Don't worry, there'll come a point in your life when you grow up and realise that it's perfectly possible for two people of opposite sexes to be friends.
#68 - On 08/12/2009 at 8:18am by SimpleSimon
I've got underwear that's 13, fuckstick. I speak from year after tragic, comical year of watching these types of relationships fall apart because someone's "crushing"....now go play.
#69 - On 08/12/2009 at 8:43am by ohnoyouDINT
Maybe you just have immature friends then.... Whatever... Give me your email and I'll Paypal you the funds for some new underwear.
#71 - On 08/12/2009 at 9:37am by SimpleSimon
Gimme your email and I'll send you some top-quality CP.
#90 - On 03/11/2010 at 1:05am by a_borshunist
Look, horsefucker, you're 13. You know how I can tell. It's because you hang around with people who develop "crushes" instead of attractions. I'm a dude, I have many female friends. Some of whom at some point I have either fucked or wanted to fuck. It may surprise you that not everyone pines like a lost child over someone they're attracted to. This is why the friendships you see have turned awkward, it's because they acted like children instead of being normal. Get rejected? Big fucking deal, you fuck someone else and keep the friendship going. If one of your fugly friends wants to put his pen0r in you, big fucking deal, tell him straight up you're not attracted to him and keep the friendship going. Y'all muthafuckas don't know how to play it cool and be real and mature with people, it's why you have no friends and you're sitting alone in your basement fapping to kiddie porn. All your friendships died when you developed a sickly, co-dependent crush on them and were too weak to be around them any more once they finally made it clear that you're a failure and they don't want to date you.
#91 - On 03/11/2010 at 1:14am by a_borshunist
You maam,
are a complete pushover. You will never get anywhere in life until you get your shit straight. It seems like you have self-esteem issues and confrontation problems - the earlier you fix this the better it will be for you. I sympathize your circumstance, but YDI. My final advice:Stop letting ppl step all over you
#70 - On 08/12/2009 at 9:13am by YouGotPwnt
Sorry to burst your bubble, but you weren't going on a date with him.
#72 - On 08/12/2009 at 9:44am by Black_noise09
you have underwear that's 13 years old and tell people that? FYL buddy.
#73 - On 08/12/2009 at 9:45am by Black_noise09
You should be thankful. Any guy or girl that uses the word 'laid' is a shallow douchebag.
#79 - On 08/12/2009 at 3:28pm by p00p0ster0us
That happens to me all the time.
I have 3 guys buddies that tell me when they have been laid.
And I've only had a crush on two of them.
I take it as the nice way of saying "I'm not interested." then I'll gradually lose my interest on wanting to date them.
one of my guy friends tell me about their sex life. only because he looks at me as a sister. and i of course i look at him as my big brother..even though he younger than me by a day :P but yea plus hes with my best friend so i would no what happends anyway, if i wanted to know or not.
#81 - On 08/12/2009 at 6:44pm by chicadominicana
If you were willing to congratulate him, you kinda deserve to get stood up for sex. If you don't have the guts to stand up for yourself and tell him how angry that must have made you, what makes you think he'll have any respect whatsoever for you?
#82 - On 08/12/2009 at 8:19pm by unBrokenBeliever
YDI for being a pussy and taking too long to tell him how you feel. You snooze, you lose. And he gets laid.
#88 - On 10/13/2009 at 3:03pm by Emperor_Jim
YDI for being attracted to a goatsewatcher who brags about his sex life right after having them. As if they were such rare and important occurrences that he had to tell the world, just to prove he did it. That's the kind of shit you mention a few weeks or months later when it's clear that you're reminiscing and telling a good story, not rubbing it in everyone's face that "holy shit! Surprise surprise, someone actually bothered to fuck you! Whoooa dude that's so epic bro you win 34263452 man points!" Seriously, if he's so immature that getting laid is such a huge deal to him (not even good sex or sexuality, just being able to tell people he got laid), then you're an idiot with low standards for ever being attracted to him in the first place.
#89 - On 03/11/2010 at 1:03am by a_borshunist
