Today, my boyfriend of 4 years proposed to me. I wasn't expecting anything too romantic, but I would have liked something more than an email from facebook requesting my confirmation that we were engaged. FML
I agree, your life sucks (61169) - you totally deserved it (3085)
On 06/08/2009 at 6:41am - love - by Anonymous (woman) - Singapore
Oh wow. FYL. that's almost worse then being dumped via facebook, although I'm not sure.
a lot of people are going to say ydi because you chose to date him in the first place... But I don't think anyone deserves facebook relationship status changes before real life relationship changes...
#5 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:22am by justaquietghost
Maybe he was planning to propose to you that evening and was just wanting to make sure you said yes?
Imagine if he got rejected? He wouldn't be at all happy.
#9 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:23am by SenorLanky
Off topic, but does it piss anyone else off that there is no way to communicate with other FML users? makes no sense
#10 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:25am by Ilovelife07
So you guys are 'engaged' over Facebook..
What ever happened to reality?
#11 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:25am by MaiLouIsLegend
Ooh wow that sucks I'm sorry. We're living in a virtual world, what can I say. Talk to him about it.
#12 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:26am by dol567
Yeah..... that's not a proposal..... I would deny that request ASAP.
If he wants to come face-to-face and retry that .... then you can reconsider.
#9- that comes with the risk of the relationship. No one deserves to be proposed to via facebook.
should have declined and sent an email back saying, 'not until you do it in person'
#22 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:36am by baysidebird88
That's pathetic. Exactly y I don't have FB. it's an excuse for people not to communicate properly
#31 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:53am by Jord111222333
I'll bet either he doesn't know what 'engaged' means or is being silly with Facebook. I worked for the Secret Service with a guy on facebook 25 years before I was born. I also have several female friends supposedly married to other females, all of whom are underage. Man, we can dream, can't we??
#32 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:55am by regalarius
I would ignore the request for a week, pretending I didn't see it. Let him sweat it out. After a week tell him to his face that unless he comes up with a better way to propose, he'd never hear even one wedding bell.
Maybe you can send back a picture of you banging some other guy and say no. Don't forget to seat the Sims next to you at the reception. Ugh.
#36 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:06am by droppinloads
I'm sorry but that's just hilarious. But seriously, I would take that as a sign that you need to leave him and never look back. Or at the very least, keep that decision on ice until he proposes to you in person like an actual human being.
#37 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:09am by C_Wicked27
Keep waiting..... He might send u a virtual ring too!!!!! Hahaha
#39 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:20am by PinkityPink
Okay, Let me say this:
How is this an FML? Your boyfriend proposed to you! Albeit in a completely silly way, but still! Don't be such a brat, just accept it! As long as he loves you, isn't that what matters? Jerk
#41 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:22am by thatisnotanFML
this isn't an FML. at least he proposed, granted it wasn't in the 'traditional' way.
i hope you weren't so shallow as to say no, just because he didn't do it the way you wanted him too.
#42 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:24am by ashbaby010
i dunno i like the idea, if i was gunna do it i would engage ya on facebook... then when you came in questioning me i would be on a knee with the ring...
#43 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:25am by legionofone
I woulda denied it and sent him a message telling him to pull his balls outa his ass and ask you in person! What an idiot!
Just like a woman; always wanting more, never satisfied. I hope he gives you an onion ring and not a real ring.
Don't feel bad, that's how my boyfriend asked me out
And we started dating when he got into my account and accepted the relationship request for me
And apparently 54's having a bad day?
#58 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:49am by xohxbrittanyrae
Have u met him or could he be a 12 girl having fun on a computer
#60 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:55am by xox_what_now
I'm sorry, that sucks - maybe he was planning to do what one of the above commenters said? Wait for you to go questioning him, and be ready with the ring there.
#54, nerdrage much?
#58, that's kinda cute :D
Maybe you should turn him down and tell him you would like him to do it the old fashion way
#62 - On 06/08/2009 at 11:57am by shelby0716
i think sometimes it hard to tell what guys want, and the way a guy proposes to you is important because it expresses his feelings for you. and it really questions how he feels about you if he does it over facebook. it really isnt about the ring, expecially if u are getting married i think you should have a better relationship than to propose to someone over the internet.. or maybe you should tell him its fine but you are only going to have online sex to go with the online engagment.
#64 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:06pm by xaesthetics_
I seriously would have denied that confirmation request and said to his face something along the lines of, "If you want me to be your wife until death do us part, you can have the balls to look me in the eyes and ask."
FYL
I agree with #43. If it fits you as a couple, then it's sweet. If not.... whatever, he still proposed! A good story for the grandkids!
#67 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:08pm by nativebacon
Maybe he thought he was being cute by asking via Facebook, sort of a 21st Century way of proposing. I hope he followed up with a visit in person!
33 has a good idea.
Okay, this whole business of "at least he did..." nonsense is ludicrous. There is no such thing as "at least he proposed", as though the boyfriend deserves an A for effort and a cookie. Seriously. Those who think people should be happy with the crumbs people throw at them because they're better than nothing need to reexamine their standards.
Also, the way Facebook is set up will have him appear as Engaged and the OP will have to accept to show he is engaged to her. If she declines, his status will remain as solely Engaged and hers will be unchanged. If their relationship was linked, then she will no longer appear as In A Relationship With Joe Blow; she'll be In A Relationship, and he'll be Engaged.
So he has already shown his entire friend list that he's engaged *WITHOUT EVEN ASKING HER* So he's made a private moment very public, invited everyone into their business and essentially let potentially hundreds of other people know about the proposal first because the OP had to be online to see it and lord knows how long between his actions and her checking.
The guy is a clod. A proposal requires putting forth a question-- not announcing an engagement for all to see prior to receiving an answer.
Also, if she says yes, he's removed all possibility of the OP from calling friends and family and telling them personally, which is what most normal people who were raised properly would want to do.
Oh, this is really unfortunate for both of you. Is he really socially awkward? Because if he is, this may be the best you get. Maybe you should unplug his Internet for a bit.
Tell him that interwebs proposals aren't as nice as IRL proposals.
#76 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:28pm by cutebutpsycho
Came here for the predictable, materialistic & snarky "if there is no expensive ring involved than there is no engagement" comments.
/Leaving with my lack of faith in females intact.
#77 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:28pm by el_bastardo
#77, there doesn't have to be an expensive ring involved, but a confirmation notice on FACEBOOK about a change in the relationship, something as big as an engagement or a dumping, it's better done face-to-face.
(Thought at least it wasn't a text message; will u b my feeance?) FYL.
so does he live in another country with no phone or stamps? the internet should not take over everyones way of 'communication' especially on something THAT important.. thats ridiculous.. instead of getting on myspace to write your cousin PICK UP A PHONE!!! its highly annoying
#46 is right.
Always looking for the Bigger Better Deal. This goes to show how pathetic and shallow women really are.
#82 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:46pm by WomboCombo
Yeah, while it's not the worst way in the world to have been proposed to, it most certainly wasn't the greatest. Things that important definitely should just be left to text/internet methods.
I've gotta agree with the person who said they wouldn't say yes unless he found another way to propose, haha.
#83 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:48pm by CheshireAna
agree with #1. THe internet has taken over our minds...we'll slurp our your brain last....HULU!!!!!!!!!!
#84 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:54pm by carrie_bear_319
Thats really bitchy of you. 2 of my good friends got engaged that way because they officially became a couple was through facebook so he thought it was cute that he would propose in the same fashion. If you are that upset then break up with him and find someone more romantic in your opinion. You should just be happy that he wants to commit to you.
#86 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:56pm by ohJeeznotme
#1 has it all right......but yes your life is fucked. Even though ur pretty lucky to be getting married. but yes that is a jerky way to propose
#87 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:57pm by carrie_bear_319
Deny it, act like u didn't see it! Or Just be like what's that about? Maybe it was his friends? If he says it was for real say "you don't honestly believe I'd accept that as a proposal?"
oh wow!
what an idiot!
I agree with #88: pretend you didn't see it and make him ask you about it in person.
You're ungrateful. Just be glad he proposed to you in the first god damn place. YDI
#92 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:00pm by mattmalin11
You're ungrateful. Just be glad he proposed to you in the first god damn place. YDI
#93 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:00pm by mattmalin11
#1 has it all right......but yes your life is fucked. Even though ur pretty lucky to be getting married. but yes that is a jerky way to propose. But also i agree with 86, a lot of people find relationships on facebook through chats, and at least he's willing to ACTUALLY marry you... i mean your lucky for that. Your just lucky he's not a player and dumped you already because it should't matter how or when he proposes, just so he does and that you two have a happy and healthy life together. Also, 86 she's not being a bitch, she's shocked and somewhat surprised her "prince charming" isn't as romantic as he should be.
#96 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:02pm by carrie_bear_319
To all those saying that she should be glad she was proposed to in the first place: There is nothing in here saying that she is not happy about his want of commitment. She just says that she feels like she got screwed over by the proposal because she didn't even get to see him when she was proposed to. Most girls have this idea in their head of the perfect proposal and it's big and fantastic. Though their perfect proposal most likely won't happen, they at least get to see the love of their life down on one knee committing his life and love to her alone and they are so happy, that the proposal BECOMES their perfect proposal. This proposal hardly constitutes as a perfect one though (in most cases). This proposal didn't even have the words I love you in or around them. It was an insensitive e-mail from facebook telling her that her boyfriend is ready for the next step. Not many people would be okay with that, and I don't blame the OP for posting her FML.
off topic but does facebook ask you to say "accept" or "deny" or "i do" and "i don't"? hahaha
as for your fml: some couples put their status as engaged just for fun and not really to propose. based on what you've said in your fml, it's hard to determine if he's doing this just for fun or if he really wants to marry you. it's best to get that sorted out first!
if that was his actual proposal, walk away with a seductive cat-walk and tell him to try harder. that'll tell him that you actually do love him, keep him hooked on to u, and make him try harder.
or if he's more of a shy, introverted person, either give up or tell him face-to-face to try harder.
good luck!
#98 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:09pm by CryingHowls
#65 - Exactly. Proposals should be done with the two people face to face. Unless he was in the same room with the ring ready, this is a pretty cowardly way to propose.
#99 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:09pm by _elly_beth_
I actually think that's kind of cute, but to each her own.
Nevertheless, your life is not fucked. Get over it.
You now know what kind of guy he is (if you haven't already figured it out in 4 years). If you choose to marry him, you have chosen to be with a guy who's not very romantic.
What you'll probably end up doing is torturing him for the rest of his life because even though you went into this thing KNOWING he's not romantic, you're going to try to change him into something he's not.
It's all up to you.
Oh, and congratulations!
#103 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:13pm by NonchalantSavant
Neither confirm nor deny and wait for tonight. See if he's actually planning to propose in person first.
#104 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:18pm by AshleyRose784
I've heard of people using how they met or some other big event (first kiss, first place he realized he loved her etc) to propose to people, so like under a specific tree in the park, at a certain restraunt etc, so if you met that way then maybe BUT not by updating his status to seem as though you had already accepted, maybe posting a comment on your page asking you would have been ok but his presumption is a horrible way to do it.
Rings are not important to the actual proposal, neither my Granddad nor my Dad proposed with a ring, they took their fiance out to choose their own after they had accepted.
Engagement rings don't have to be flashy and expensive they can be any ring you want them to be, doesn't have to be diamonds and platinum. The thing that you should be focusing on if you are asked is the person who asked you not what ring they bought to ask you with.
#105 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:21pm by catatonicsleep
just remember if this is how he proposed
if you were to get a divorce, would he just end the marriage via facebook without telling you?
history tends to repeat itself.
and if you want to be with him
you need to have a serious talk about how to communicate with each other.
because obviously that has to happen if you even want a snowflakes chance in hell to make your possible marriage work.
did he send you a nice ering in the process?
jokes aside, that is just ridiculous. are you guys like eharmony status? long distance?
#109 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:36pm by srpkinja31
It takes a LOT for a man to propose... In any way that Is (unless he was just joking around) even though it wasn't in a conventional way.. It still counts on my book. Good luck!
C'mon! It's not that bad. I'd find that oddly cute because he's so shy to do it in person.
#111 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:41pm by melanijade
It's the idea of him wanting to spend his life with you that counts. :)
#112 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:41pm by loveurlifeJK
#71 you're hilarious!
I'm getting really tired of so many people taking marriage so lightly. I'm sick of hearing about 17 year olds engaged. They have no idea what they're getting into. I'm not married, never have been, and I realize what a huge commitment it is. It sounds to me like this guy doesn't know how hard marriage is and just wants to get married just to get married. I wouldn't be surprised it he works at burger king. Find a someone else who will actually spend the money on buying you a ring and especially someone who will ask you in person. You found yourself a real loser. Congratulations, you'll be divorced in about a year.
Haha aw, what a great surprise that must have been though! I would have fallen straight out of my chair. Maybe he intended it to be a fun surprise for you. :) Plus I kind of doubt he realized that his own status would change to Engaged before confirmation from you.
Congratulations regardless! Maybe you could hint to him that you were hoping for something romantic too, and see what he comes up with. If he's not terrified by the fear of rejection maybe he'll let his true romantic side show and come up with something really amazing.
wow he's pathetic. but then so is 99% of the male population.
#117 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:49pm by atty11
i'd pull him off to the side and tell him that he needs to find another way to propose.
either that or find a different guy that will actually take the whole thing seriously.
fyl dude... i'm sorry
did he at least give you a ring??
#120 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:01pm by notFUNNYtoMEass
#49, you're a real prick. Good luck finding a girl to marry you, with that attitude.
#122 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:10pm by endless_text
To everyone begrudging females here- I'm with you. Seriously. I hate my own gender sometimes.
But females are hardly "shallow" and "always wanting" just because the majority of them know they deserve better than mediocre, and won't accept your delusion that lifting a single finger is putting forth a TON of effort with these things and we're never satisfied.
You. are. clueless. We're not shallow material-hungry bitches, we just see engagements as romantic (like normal people) and if we are to marry you, you should probably at least attempt to let your intended know how you feel and make her feel special. The majority of us don't expect big giant expensive rings, just something nice that didn't come out of a plastic container in a vending machine shows you put thought into trying to show your S.O. how serious you are.
It's not even about being a materialistic bitch, it's about women having some self respect for once, ..and when you want to be a lazy pompous jerk, you call us shallow. Strange. It feels like the 1950's in here!
I definitely don't blame you for posting this FML. All girls are different and have different ideas about how they want to be proposed to, or if they want to propose themselves! Nevertheless, its probably safe to say that most girls, whether or not they'd like a big extravagant proposal, want some kind of Direct real time talk...
And being in a long distance relationship would not be an excuse.
#128 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:25pm by Muse_89
That does suck, he could have at least asked you irl. Congrats all the same?
And #125 - win.
#130 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:26pm by BreakingCoil
maybe he thought he was being really creative and that you might be really surprise he asked you that way.
still I agree- I wouldn't want someone to ask me to marry them that way
You know, I was gonna give you a FYL, but I have this sneaking suspicion that you're one of those people that lives on Facebook. And then you jumped straight over to FML when you got the request. If that's the case, I'm not really surprised what happened, happened.
I'm feeling pretty annoyed by all those guys saying women are shallow just because they expect a proposal to be more than a matter of a couple of mouse-clicks. I hope I don't have to stress that getting married definitely is a big deal. A proposal should be the same. I'm sure the OP wasn't expecting "Will you marry me?" to be written in the sky, accompanied by a $1.000.000 ring. All she was asking was being able to look her boyfriend in the eyes while he was popping the question. Is something so small, so easy to fulfill to much to ask?
wow what a loser. I would dump someone for being that lame because I couldn't imagine being married to someone like that.
#136 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:38pm by noshitsherlock
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#138 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:42pm by princess243
i agree with #123, OP didn't say anything about "FML, no giant ring!" she said "FML, he can't even propose in the same room!" and while i can kiiiinda see people saying she's whining and at least she HAS someone who wants to marry her, she's not materialistic, at least not so far as we can tell in the post.
i don't want to get too into this, but i'd like to say that for every materialistic, bitchy, controlling girl there's a materialistic, bitchy, controlling dude out there. and then there are also cool people who are pretty chill all around... until you ask them to marry them via facebook.
#139 - On 06/08/2009 at 2:43pm by amazingkate
This isn't an FML. I love inappropriate use of technology to ask a serious question, that can greatly affect two people's lives.
Did he send a ring via facebook as well?cuz tht would relly suck
#142 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:06pm by koala_king
I think its kinda cute. Would be cuter if he changed it while you were sitting together or was waiting with a ring after you read it...
Sure it was unexpected, but still!!! I would have denied it and told him to do it in person and surprise me.
#144 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:13pm by SexyMami15
can't be too picky.. wait.. yes you can!!
soO you weren't expecting anything too romantic but you knew a proposal was coming? ..at least he proposed? haha .. booo....
#146 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:21pm by sheils_INVISIBLE
Wow, not only does that break a facebook rule: Don't change your relationship status without consulting the involved party, but it also breaks a basic social rule wherein he needs your permission to be engaged to you.
#150 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:26pm by catiepants
It might not be a proposal, don't be too assuming. Some people change their status to engaged for nothing. they just think its sweet.
Dump him. I would do it on facebook too, just so he can get a taste of his own medicine.
#154 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:36pm by Clumsychelsea
... Oh im sorry i must have missed the fml here *checks again* oh wait THERE ISNT ONE! STOP CRYIN OVER IT!
#156 - On 06/08/2009 at 3:49pm by lolzforfun228
hahahaha...my boyfriend did that when i was 14
but that was just cuz he wanted to have sex with me...
i think thast acually really cute. not that i would want that, but i think its original, and although he cannot see your face, its still slightly romantic.
at least it was a surprise
#159 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:01pm by optomistic21
Look up lazy on urbandictionary.com. After reading the defenition it'll show you an example, you might wonder what that example would be: Your boyfriend asking you to confirm your engagment over a facebook message.
P.S. douche move on his part
#160 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:05pm by looking_glass
lemmie guess he also sent you an attached picture of a print out ring?
#164 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:21pm by JiggstheMan
For everyone saying that she would be a brat to say no:
A proposal is meant to be something you remember your whole life making your heart pound. It should show that the guy is ready to make sacrifices. She deserves something better. If he really cared he would put some effort into it. I'm not saying he needs to get down on one knee or even buy her a ring. Just do something nice.
FYL. If he really loves you he'll try again in a better way.
#165 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:26pm by misssweetie
I think that's cute and funny. I know a lot of girls that would be thrilled.
Not an FML. If you're so tech illiterate that you didn't see something like this coming, FHL for being with someone so incompatible with his interests.
#166
You obviously have no idea what physical contact is.
#167 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:33pm by misssweetie
okay in my opinion... not an fml... whereas i am a guy that feels a great deal of emotion should be put into somethign like this... it might also be that he has a hard time with such things.
be happy that he wants to spend his life with you, and i bet years down the road when your married, you both might laugh a little about this (the fml posting mostly)
OP: That is just sad. Two words: request denied. I'm sure someone else has already said this, but still. I'd click "no" now and kick his ass later.
#172 - On 06/08/2009 at 4:53pm by ChampagneAngel87
i kinda agree with #173, but still modern electronics dont take over everything
#174 - On 06/08/2009 at 5:02pm by thatrocker
My boyfriend (of 2 1/2 yrs) asked me out that way... But I would think that someone would warm up enough after 4 yrs of dating to ask that in person.
OMG STOP THATS SOCIALLY AWKWARD AND INCREDIBLY ADORABLE!!!!!!! AWWW!!!
#177 - On 06/08/2009 at 5:07pm by pick3l51
...
Definitely not an FML.
Or a YDI.
That's just silly.
I mean, you're freaking engaged now!
That's amazing!
Just enjoy it, and now you have a funny story for your kids.
FYL. If it makes you feel better, my parents have been happily marries for 24 years and my dad proposed over the phone while recounting his total debts.
"Today, I was trying to be funny and changed my relationship status from "in a relationship" to "engaged" because my girlfriend kept nagging about us getting married. She thought I was serious, now were engaged... FML"
#180 - On 06/08/2009 at 5:20pm by sparda4355
the irony of modernism... i guess it makes rejection easier?
#187 - On 06/08/2009 at 6:10pm by MissBunnyfufu
My husband had a long planned out engagement proposal it was really sweet. But to this day he still says the best part of asking me to be his wife was the expression on my face. I was so happy i couldnt talk he didnt even show me the ring til a while after because i couldnt have cared less about it i was too busy calling friends and family about our good news. Thats why the guy needs to get off the computer and put forth some effort to sweep her off her feet and give her the proposal she deserves. And maybe she'll have something better to tell the grandkids than he sent me an invite on facebook to be his fiance.
OP good luck marriage is hard but a ton if fun.
lol that kind of sucks, but Ive heard plenty of stories of geek couples proposing online so its not that uncommon. Maybe he assumed you would be into this public display of nerdy affection (and I mean nerdy in a good way).
Also as a girl I know how important engagements can be, but I really think some girls set expectations too high for it to be this fairy tale event and place waaaay too much importance on the engagement itself. Some of the happiest couples I know got engaged sitting on their couch just talking. At the end of the day its not the way you got engaged that counts...its quality of the marriage that counts.
I really want to know what happened next. Did he mean it as an actual proposal? Because there are a lot of people on Facebook that are Married to their best friends or even their boyfriends, but in reality they aren't.
But if he actually did propose to you that way... fail for him. Thats the worst way you can propose. People will know that your engaged even before you find out! Lame.
#193 - On 06/08/2009 at 6:34pm by luckyducky123
aw thats actually kinda cute.
but still, FYL.
its not cute enough.
#195 - On 06/08/2009 at 6:44pm by takingbackallie
Aw that's adorable. I think that he should have done that right before he took you out though.
#196 - On 06/08/2009 at 7:09pm by SarahLynndotlove
Awuh(:
I actually find it cute.
Like a nerdy love thing...
But I get some girls want romance.
I don't plan on being married:P
I hope you said no, although if you've stayed with this jerk for four years, you probably said yes.
#199 - On 06/08/2009 at 7:23pm by jmarie
Stop whining. If it bothers you that much, tell him "I'm saying no until you do it properly". He's probably not a bad fellow if he bothered to propose: it's an engagement, not your wedding, and it's not like you're owed a fancy proposal, although I'll admit that doing it over FB lacks class.
#203 - On 06/08/2009 at 7:48pm by godyourethick
72 and 123 FTW...
All the desperate 14 year-old girls who said "At least he proposed", set your standards a little higher and expect your man to show you respect, otherwise you're just going to end up with losers for the rest of your lives.
OP: FYL, I hope you declined until he did it properly. I'm not talking about a huge ring and an extravagant display of affection - just show some respect and commitment, that's all..
genius, but this sounds more like a case of shyness and fear to me. ur bf feared rejection and its much easier to deal with it on the internet than it is in person
if you really love him I understand, but really...facebook, that sounds like he didn't put much thought into it.
#210 - On 06/08/2009 at 8:40pm by samantha15
I'm sorry, but that's kind of funny. It does suck he didn't do something even remotely romantic, though :/
#211 - On 06/08/2009 at 8:52pm by thescrutonator
reject the request and tell him he has to tell you in person!
#215 - On 06/08/2009 at 9:55pm by wallythedolly
it could have been cute where he sends that and then you turn around and he's on his knee. but if not, yeah not so fun.
#219 - On 06/08/2009 at 10:14pm by sucks_for_you
OMFG.
AHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH.
that is terrible.
but LOLOL.
#221 - On 06/09/2009 at 2:06am by staciieee_x3
I agree with #10. FML STAFF PLEASE TAKE THIS INTO CONSIDERATION!
OP - That sucks. It would be even worse if he was in the same room with you at the time. If you really love him (I mean, come on, four years to be with someone is a freaking long time), then you should probably ask him yourself. Or maybe he just wanted your answer just in case he proposes on a later date. If he doesn't, and this is I guess 'his way' you should bring up that he might have a communication problem.
#222 - On 06/09/2009 at 2:13am by redbluegreen
why would u complain about this on FML? clearly everyone knows that that's just wrong, so tell him to his face how ridiculous that is, if ur marrying him u shuld b able to talk about pretty much anything right? tell him to sac up and propose like a normal person, at the least
#225 - On 06/09/2009 at 2:45am by naijaboy28
Oh come on, that isn't that bad. That's really quite adorable. So yes, FYL. Not for being proposed to through Facebook. But for being stupid and not being happy that he actually asked you, no matter how he did it.
#232 - On 06/09/2009 at 5:58am by amberalexandria
well he did ask you...so thats good.
but it would have been much much better if he had been right there when you saw it to get down on one knee and ask you to marry him...
I guess it has to do with the dynamics of your relationship, but I'd honestly love to be in one where the fact you were going to get married was so obvious that it was Facebook official first. I mean, I personally wouldn't have cared much for the Facebook proposal, as I don't particularly like Facebook, but if, say, a long-term boyfriend had proposed with something equally nerdy but more in line with my own taste- like opening my computer to find the Sims paused at Sim-him proposing to Sim-me- I'd be pretty happy.
I'd much rather get a break up over facebook then a marriage proposal. I'd honestly tell him no and to do it right. He needs to grow some balls.
Hey this is me, the person who posted this. Ok well that was a few days ago, heres what I did.
I called him up afterwards and asked him if that was how he was proposing to me. He replied with yeah babe, i thought it would be appropiate seeing how we met on facebook and all. WE DIDN"T MEET ON FACEBOOK!!! We bumped into eachother at a shopping mall!!
Outraged, I told him this...But he insisted that we met on facebook. I told him that even if we did which we did not that was the most unromantic way to propose ever and that he should grow some balls. I told him never to call me again (in hope that he would anyway) He hasn't. To make matters worse, my friend told me she saw him with another woman the other day. FML FML FML!!
I'll let you know the latest developments...
what do you think I should do???
I mean I know what he did was outrageous...but I still love him and I don't wanna be single...
PLEASE HELP!!!
#240 - On 06/09/2009 at 10:07am by hot_chocolate
That guy sure sounds like a dick and all hot_chocolate, but if you loved him why did you tell him to never call again. Most normal people take things like that to heart. FYL, but this new shit is all by your doing and you should try and make this shit right. Honestly, do whatever you want, its not my fucked life
#241 - On 06/09/2009 at 10:37am by ZombiePirate215
That's messed up...sorry u have a shitty & cheap bf...
Scenario 1: I woulda denied it, then beat the shit outta him & then leave his cheap ass!
Scenario 2: I would've accepted, then beat the shit outta him & break off the "engagement" on facebook!
LMAO
#242 - On 06/09/2009 at 11:07am by TriNiBaByDoLL
Comicmischief I completely agree. Well did you say yes? Oh better yet don't reply, make him nevous not untill you see him inperson. (that's what I would've done)
#244 - On 06/09/2009 at 12:13pm by moonlit_manga
fyl because someone proposed to you, "oh no my boyfriend of 4 years proposed to me whatever will I do" who cares if it wasn't romantic or not, at least he loves you enough to propose, get your head out of your ass you stupid twat. fhl for caring about you.
#245, you're an ass. It's completely ignorant and rude to sent a Facebook request for an engagement.
@ OP - I seriously hope you didn't click anything.
screw all the assholes who are saying she is ungrateful wanting a better proposal, and a nice ring... do you REALIZE what a woman is giving away when she accepts a proposal?? she is giving that man THE REST OF HER LIFE (if they actually stay married, which is usually the intention)... how little are you assholes willing to trade for your commitment for the rest of your lifetime???? in my opinion, women are actually being pretty gracious when they accept one knee and jewelry as a trade.
this lackadaisical attitude toward how MAJOR this commitment is MAY explain just a little why marriages fail so quickly nowadays.
#247 - On 06/09/2009 at 2:39pm by everydayisFML
#72 is my freakin hero!!!!!! btw, i'd say if thts his way to propose, he'll be dancin at the weddin' by himself
... are you sure it was even a real proposal? people get 'engaged' and 'married' on facebook for fun or for no reason at all to do with anything remotely real life.
#250 - On 06/09/2009 at 6:05pm by xxxerror
um, not cool. you should talk to him about the difference of the real world and the interenet. and how asking for a proposal is a special big deal, not just something you do over the interenet or any electronical device.
#251 - On 06/09/2009 at 6:14pm by EhLasalvadorena
......Wow... That's a whole new level of FAIL... So did you say yes or no? lol
#252 - On 06/09/2009 at 6:25pm by OrientlSoldr
shut the hell up 247, you act like the woman is the only one giving anything up fucking feminist piece of shit.
it takes two to get married and it affects both people not just one, rethink your position.
I love how people that really don't have anything useful to say calls names.
And yes, I am aware it takes two people.
Its just generally, the man is who proposes. And the person who proposes should do it in a respectful way that reflects how important it is.
If the woman proposes, I would expect her to do something more respectful than change her status on facebook as well as any man.
And you automatically assume me to be a feminist... I only referred my view from a womans point of view because the OP is, in fact, a woman.
The ignorance of some people astounds me.
#256 - On 06/09/2009 at 8:27pm by everydayisFML
it mite not b a proposal....he mite hav just been bored...or it cudve been a dare...or his friend being bored...im engaged on fb but not in real life...mite not hav been a real proposal
I only had a facebook for a week, but i think you can "facebook marry" someone. Maybe he "facebook engaged" you, not real life.
This is me again, the one who wrote it.
It was a real proposal. In short, I said no at first. And then we had a huge fight and he had an affair. Then he came over to my house apoligized, made me a candle light dinner, and got down on one knee :)
#259 - On 06/09/2009 at 10:39pm by hot_chocolate
Awww, I actually think that's kinda cute. The important thing is that he proposed, and he definitely caught you off guard. If he's serious about it, I don't see a problem.
#261 - On 06/09/2009 at 10:54pm by the23rdforward
I don't think this is bad, I think it is adorable to do it that way!
#262 - On 06/10/2009 at 12:47am by anitacs9101
instead of expecting him to propose why didnt you do it yourself instead of obey stupid gender boundrys??
#266 - On 06/10/2009 at 6:01am by whereisbob
Ouch, this is the same way I found out me and my boyfriend had started dating. Damn facebook addicts
#267 - On 06/10/2009 at 12:43pm by Sinful_Kisses
So... your boyfriend, who you apparently like since you've been with him for four years, just asked you to marry him. Yeah, you've really got a terrible life.
wtf? he asked you to marry him. thats a damn good way to do it to. he was going for the whole suprise suprise type thing. ur a bitch....
#270 - On 06/10/2009 at 7:24pm by asdfghjkl333
Am I the only one who thinks it's sad how everyone now thinks this guy is a tool or a loser? Am I the only one who thinks its sad that half the people suggested to only say yes if there was a ring involved?? Do we live in such a material world that a guy deserves to be dumped because he didn't use a ring? We know nothing about this dude. Maybe he can't AFFORD a ring. I'm sorry, these comments just made me lose a little bit more faith in humanity.
#274 - On 06/11/2009 at 8:14pm by Nerdfighter
I find this not so FML. Y'know, it was a different surprise, something he probably thought you would like, and a way of announcing it to all your friends at the same time.
Perhaps he should be saying FML because he asked someone to marry him who couldn't appreciate what she was given, no matter how it was expressed. I feel sorry for him, as a matter of fact.
#275 - On 06/11/2009 at 9:28pm by calicokitea
This shows a major lack of maturity on his part. I highly doubt he can handle this sort of committment if that's how he goes about asking.
And the people saying 'at least he asked' are most likely the girls planning an elaborate wedding before having a groom.
There are too many comments on here hating on women though. I'm female and it disgusts me that so many girls are more excited to walk down the aisle than about who they are planning to spend the rest of their lives with. Not all women want a flashy ring, way of engagement, or outrageous ceremony, but that doesn't mean they should accept the least amount of effort either. A ring isn't important to me and I think there's a variety of ways to show that you love someone and want to commit without it or even a wedding, but you have to at least be able to see that your partner is on the same level emotionally. I'm not getting that from this proposal.
TBH, I think people shouldn't be engaged until the way the proposal happens becomes trivial.
I know I wouldn't do what your bf did, but maybe he has a different personality, that's for you to judge.
IMO, if you're expecting him to be romantic and all and he's not that way, you're being the asshole, not him. Maybe he has a sarcastic sense of humor, and thought that it was original. I mean, he didn't write it on the wall with his own feces or anything. It's not that big of a deal.
i think thats like a real original way to do it, got you by supsise, what more do ya want??? lol
#278 - On 06/12/2009 at 3:15pm by bigwillydurkan
Why the FUCK would anyone propose and NOT BE THERE to see the other person's reaction? Fucking stupid. He probably thought he was being really cute -_-
#280 - On 06/12/2009 at 6:05pm by milkradio
I proposed to my wife first over phone. Yuck. It was nobody choice. Immigration service made me to do it; they did not want to let her again into the country where I was staying. Life is never easy. We are together over 10 years!
#281 - On 06/12/2009 at 10:47pm by biochemist
OMG that is almost as bad a breaking up with someone over MSN, so pathetic. There is absolutely no enthusiasm in that what-so-ever. Its like he could care less about asking you to marry him. I am not impressed.
When someone asks you to marry them, they should at least be in the same room as you.
And maybe some flowers??(Thats what I would like)
#285 - On 06/15/2009 at 2:22pm by niagara001001001
Maybe he wanted all your friends to know?
He should have done more though. =[
Say no and make him redo it, LOL
That's just a horrible proposal I would say no and dump him,unles u really like him then talk to him or sumthin
#290 - On 06/28/2009 at 8:03pm by tomberryboy
hahahaha. i understood why when i saw which country youre from! im singaporean too :P
#291 - On 07/01/2009 at 5:27am by twiddledeedee
i don't think it's the ring or anything material thats important about a marriage, but the way you communicate with each other. and if you can't ask someone somthing that important to their face than there's probably not going to be a good outcome.
#292 - On 07/18/2009 at 12:17am by perfectlyunperfe
