By soulebelius - 07/09/2014 22:50 - United States
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Just a quick update from the OP: this isn't the first threat my mother gave me about this. She actually influenced my sister to have the same stance. Me and my sister worked it out, but my mom crossed the line. She brings this up when it benefits her ulterior motive to reunite the family (ain't mad at her for that), but it shouldn't be brought up while we're announcing our engagement, or introducing both families for the first time, or a casual conversation months later about us getting on the same insurance. The saddest part is... Me and the missus were planning on having only our closest immediate family. It was going to be around 10 total people. I told her she doesn't have to worry anymore: no need for them to go. Not even bitter. I just want to keep the focus on the happy couple and not use our day as a family counseling session.
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May aswell send him an invite, if he stopped talking to you not the other way around why would he even want to go?
Not married here, so can't say I know this from personal experience, but I can tell you that *everyone* I know who is married, said the most stressful thing about their wedding was trying to please everyone else. Quite literally all the couples now wish they'd just done whatever the hell they wanted. 100% can't be wrong...
Damn that'spretty low of them
Tell them it's your wedding day and you'll do as you please. He should be the one apologising anyway.
We can't really make that judgment, as we don't know the reason for their estrangement.
Still her wedding right.. Why should she be told around that day?
*his/her. We don't know the gender. Also, your right. It is his/her wedding and he/she can do what he/she wants.
Well invite him then, if he stopped speaking to you, what really are the chances he actually shows up? Just send out an invitation to get your parents off your back so you can focus on more important things.
I hope you told them they already had :( Sorry OP.
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Show it anywayHow about reconciling with your brother and inviting everyone?
Tell her he IS invited, but never send him an invite. :)
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That definitely sucks, OP. They say they don't want to choose sides, but by not being a part of the most important day of your life, it seems as if they have. Just don't let it stop you from enjoying your day. Get relatives or close friends to stand in for them, and when it's all said and done and they see your beautiful pictures, I'm sure they'll feel quite bad for letting a family dispute get in the way.
If you're confident he won't come anyway, you can send out an invite and simply tell your parents it's his choice not to be there.