By pregnantfatty - 19/06/2015 00:58 - Canada - Calgary

Today, I'm five and a half weeks pregnant. One of my coworkers told me that it sucks that I'll have to wait so long to show. I asked her what she meant; she replied, "It's always harder to tell when big girls are pregnant. Can't tell what's fat and what's baby." FML
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OP here. There are two reasons anyone at work knows I'm pregnant at this stage in the game. Background: I stopped taking birth control 2 years ago and have had six periods in that time. I work in a doctor's office-I'm a nurse. My coworkers that work directly with me often convince me to take pregnancy tests because my cycle is so irregular. I was experiencing what I thought were PMs symptoms-breast tenderness (to the point that it was painful to take my bra off at night), much more fatigue than usual, hormonal headaches, and some nausea when trying to eat in the morning but especially at night. I wasn't too concerned because the headaches had me convinced it was my period. My coworkers thought otherwise and told me after about two weeks of these symptoms that I was taking a pregnancy test on a Monday if I didn't start my period over the weekend. Well, I didn't get my period, obviously. I came in to work and that was the first thing the girls asked. I said no and was handed a urine sample cup. At that point, I was still convinced there was no way it was positive, so I did my sample, came back and gave it to the girl who was 100% sure I was pregnant, telling her "I don't even need to watch, I know it's negative!" Well, lo and behold, my pink positive line came up before the control line even showed up and my coworker rushed to my desk and said "congratulations!!!" I took 4 more tests that day and swore my coworkers to secrecy until I could tell my boyfriend-who was shocked because we had unprotected sex literally once and bam. I told one of my other coworkers the next day-she's also a nurse and was one of my preceptors when I was a student. I wanted to know what I should tell our boss. I am currently covering someone's maternity leave at work, which ends in December, and then I theoretically go back to being casual. She told me I had to tell our boss immediately-apparently you have to work a certain number of hours to have maternity leave regardless of whether or not your position is permanent so she said "tell her and get your leave!" I told my boss, who was completely thrilled and told me that whatever I decided, there was a job for me in some capacity at our clinic so it went well. As for telling everyone when it's so early, I spoke with one of the docs I work with regarding prenatal testing because I don't have a doc. I put my name in his schedule so he could bill for it and stupidly thought that nobody would look in my chart. As for my coworker, she's less than 5 feet tall and probably has a good 30 lbs on me. I'm not a stick, but I'm not "plus-sized" either. Before finding out I was pregnant, I had lost 20 lbs in order to help facilitate my boyfriend and I having kids... Down the road. If you stayed with this novel of a follow-up, thanks for reading!

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Well I would say to her, "Fortunately, you can always easily tell when people like you are being a complete twat..." Ignore the nonsense she's spewing and perhaps chalk it up to jealousy. And congratulations (:

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I was always on the thicker side, but a slim top half of my stomach and a pooch of a lower belly that I could never get rid of! if you are the same way, don't let it get to you by 3 to 4 months you will start to show. don't let ignorant people ruin your day! you are carrying another life inside you, and that in a whole is the moat beautiful thing that a woman can do!

I know people who were sticks even until their 7th month when they finally popped. It depends on you abdominal muscles as well, if they are strong enough, they will hold baby in longer. I know bigger girls too who had fat on their tummies but little muscle strength so they started to pop sooner. Everyone is different. If you are bigger to begin with some people may not realize the baby is showing because it looks like a bit of extra fat. Regardless, people are insensitive and it seems to come out the worst around pregnant women (I am 32 weeks pregnant, I've gotten lots of stupid comments) try not to pay her any mind, she is just feeling insecure about herself. Congrats!

Hunkapoo 19

That's not okay. I hope you stood up for yourself! don't let this person (or anyone) walk all over your like that and just think it's ok to insult you. and congratulations, you deserve to be happy, not insulted.

Congrats! :D And even if you are plus size or not, you CAN show if you're a big girl! I was 310 pounds by the time I delivered my daughter, and it was fairly obvious even at that size that I was expecting. I nearly started showing almost a month after I found out!

First off congrats!! Second it would be a damn shame if someone accidentally served her laxative brownies.

Hunkapoo 19

damn shame if the weight shamer lost a little weight ....

Some people are just completely rude- don't be put down by someone who decides to spread negativity. Congratulations!

That's terrible you def don't tell a pregnant woman that you should just agree with her then ask when she's due lol

If it makes you feel better, I'm 18 weeks pregnant, was a size 6/8 pre-pregnancy, and I'm still not showing. Especially if you're a first time mom, it'll take a while to start showing.

fpants2010 18

Congrats OP! But maybe you should wait a little longer to start telling people; they say 12 weeks is a good time :)

tell her is harder to tell when retards like her are talking out of their ass or their mouth. smh. btw I am fat and had a wonderful baby bump that everyone thought was adorable. and it was ALL baby, my belly was rock solid by 25 weeks.