By pregnantfatty - 19/06/2015 00:58 - Canada - Calgary

Today, I'm five and a half weeks pregnant. One of my coworkers told me that it sucks that I'll have to wait so long to show. I asked her what she meant; she replied, "It's always harder to tell when big girls are pregnant. Can't tell what's fat and what's baby." FML
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OP here. There are two reasons anyone at work knows I'm pregnant at this stage in the game. Background: I stopped taking birth control 2 years ago and have had six periods in that time. I work in a doctor's office-I'm a nurse. My coworkers that work directly with me often convince me to take pregnancy tests because my cycle is so irregular. I was experiencing what I thought were PMs symptoms-breast tenderness (to the point that it was painful to take my bra off at night), much more fatigue than usual, hormonal headaches, and some nausea when trying to eat in the morning but especially at night. I wasn't too concerned because the headaches had me convinced it was my period. My coworkers thought otherwise and told me after about two weeks of these symptoms that I was taking a pregnancy test on a Monday if I didn't start my period over the weekend. Well, I didn't get my period, obviously. I came in to work and that was the first thing the girls asked. I said no and was handed a urine sample cup. At that point, I was still convinced there was no way it was positive, so I did my sample, came back and gave it to the girl who was 100% sure I was pregnant, telling her "I don't even need to watch, I know it's negative!" Well, lo and behold, my pink positive line came up before the control line even showed up and my coworker rushed to my desk and said "congratulations!!!" I took 4 more tests that day and swore my coworkers to secrecy until I could tell my boyfriend-who was shocked because we had unprotected sex literally once and bam. I told one of my other coworkers the next day-she's also a nurse and was one of my preceptors when I was a student. I wanted to know what I should tell our boss. I am currently covering someone's maternity leave at work, which ends in December, and then I theoretically go back to being casual. She told me I had to tell our boss immediately-apparently you have to work a certain number of hours to have maternity leave regardless of whether or not your position is permanent so she said "tell her and get your leave!" I told my boss, who was completely thrilled and told me that whatever I decided, there was a job for me in some capacity at our clinic so it went well. As for telling everyone when it's so early, I spoke with one of the docs I work with regarding prenatal testing because I don't have a doc. I put my name in his schedule so he could bill for it and stupidly thought that nobody would look in my chart. As for my coworker, she's less than 5 feet tall and probably has a good 30 lbs on me. I'm not a stick, but I'm not "plus-sized" either. Before finding out I was pregnant, I had lost 20 lbs in order to help facilitate my boyfriend and I having kids... Down the road. If you stayed with this novel of a follow-up, thanks for reading!

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Well I would say to her, "Fortunately, you can always easily tell when people like you are being a complete twat..." Ignore the nonsense she's spewing and perhaps chalk it up to jealousy. And congratulations (:

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I'm an "average" sized woman and it's true that when you have a bit more padding it's more difficult to see, but it's not necessarily true for every woman. Each of us are different. She was rude to say this though.

moosetracks22 10

In about 8 months. Math and common sense FTW!

#28 was mimicking what she thought OP should of said back. Notice the quotation marks.

Some people are never happy until they are insulting others. Don't let her ignorant mentality ruin your wonderful pregnancy experience...congratulations and all the best wishes for you and the baby.

skyeyez9 24

When has it become to the point people are purposely rude to each other? She should have kept her mouth shut.

Sincere congratulations!! And I'm completely confident that you will raise this child to be more polite and pleasant than this cretin of a coworker.

OP here. There are two reasons anyone at work knows I'm pregnant at this stage in the game. Background: I stopped taking birth control 2 years ago and have had six periods in that time. I work in a doctor's office-I'm a nurse. My coworkers that work directly with me often convince me to take pregnancy tests because my cycle is so irregular. I was experiencing what I thought were PMs symptoms-breast tenderness (to the point that it was painful to take my bra off at night), much more fatigue than usual, hormonal headaches, and some nausea when trying to eat in the morning but especially at night. I wasn't too concerned because the headaches had me convinced it was my period. My coworkers thought otherwise and told me after about two weeks of these symptoms that I was taking a pregnancy test on a Monday if I didn't start my period over the weekend. Well, I didn't get my period, obviously. I came in to work and that was the first thing the girls asked. I said no and was handed a urine sample cup. At that point, I was still convinced there was no way it was positive, so I did my sample, came back and gave it to the girl who was 100% sure I was pregnant, telling her "I don't even need to watch, I know it's negative!" Well, lo and behold, my pink positive line came up before the control line even showed up and my coworker rushed to my desk and said "congratulations!!!" I took 4 more tests that day and swore my coworkers to secrecy until I could tell my boyfriend-who was shocked because we had unprotected sex literally once and bam. I told one of my other coworkers the next day-she's also a nurse and was one of my preceptors when I was a student. I wanted to know what I should tell our boss. I am currently covering someone's maternity leave at work, which ends in December, and then I theoretically go back to being casual. She told me I had to tell our boss immediately-apparently you have to work a certain number of hours to have maternity leave regardless of whether or not your position is permanent so she said "tell her and get your leave!" I told my boss, who was completely thrilled and told me that whatever I decided, there was a job for me in some capacity at our clinic so it went well. As for telling everyone when it's so early, I spoke with one of the docs I work with regarding prenatal testing because I don't have a doc. I put my name in his schedule so he could bill for it and stupidly thought that nobody would look in my chart. As for my coworker, she's less than 5 feet tall and probably has a good 30 lbs on me. I'm not a stick, but I'm not "plus-sized" either. Before finding out I was pregnant, I had lost 20 lbs in order to help facilitate my boyfriend and I having kids... Down the road. If you stayed with this novel of a follow-up, thanks for reading!

Thanks for the explanation. And though it's very early, congratulations. As for your coworker, pay her and her stupid comment no mind. It sounds like she's clueless, projecting, or both.

kellyem2 20

Well, first of all congratulations! It's great that your irregular cycle hasn't harmed your chances of getting pregnant. But seriously, I don't know why people say he most insensitive, stupid things to pregnant women. It's like your body becomes communal property to touch and talk about as people please. I hope you kindly told her that comments like that are a little inappropriate.

mwali02 32

Congratulations OP! Best wishes for you during this new season of life! Good luck! :)

usaidwhat82 21

congrats OP !!! good luck to you and your boyfriend !

That's really rude, OP. Sorry you had to go through that. Congrats on the new tiny human though! But people do need to grow filters... I had a teacher with a thyroid problem so even though she was muscular everywhere else (gym teacher) her weight tended to gather in her stomach naking her look like she was pregnant. She always told us stories about people touching her stomach and asking when she was due. I hope you and your boyfriend are happy.

Doc's right, sounds like she's projecting due to her own poor self-image. Congratulations, and good luck!

Congratulations OP!!! Hope everything goes well in your pregnancy on such a wonderful gift.

congrats on the baby. I work for a chain of hospitals and it's a cause to get fired for going into someone's chart without a legit reason. I hope they get reprimanded for that. And if they blabbed, that's privacy violation.

I love how everyone gives the girl shit for saying op is a big girl, when everyone usually would say that being a big girl was completely okay and attractive. Such hypocrisy. The coworker obviously didn't think of being a big girl a bad thing other than her showing later. Make up your mind society, is it good or bad to be a 'big' girl?

Evil_Wench 16

You're a nurse, you had unprotected sex, and you were surprised that you got pregnant? Ok then... Your co-worker was a bitch, but your follow-up seriously made me facepalm.

MonstreBelle 28

I don't know much about privacy laws in Canada, but wouldn't that be a violation of them? In the US, a nurse snooping through a co-workers medical records is a violation of HIPAA, even if you work at the same facility where you received treatment. I'm also a nurse and if I was you, I would be reporting them. They have no right to look at your medical record like that.

well unfortunately it's true. but I hope she's just a vain anorexic bitch who thinks that normal people are fat.

Yeah because people with anorexia are vain bitches, that's their problem!

congrats on the baby. No one shows at 5 1/2 weeks, not even a skeleton. She sounds like a jealous witch. Pay on mind to the mean/stupid people. Good luck OP and be happy, you having a baby!