By aireeahna - 09/06/2014 02:42 - United States - Cedar Rapids

Today, I'm 5 weeks pregnant and just found out that my boyfriend has such a phobia of holding babies, that he's going to be the one most in need of a diaper change when I give birth. FML
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aireeahna tells us more.

Op here. So to start off I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. The issue never really came up over the years because we were never really around babies, he is really good with children so I just assumed that he was good with babies as well. When it did come up we were at his little brother's graduation party. I was holding a cousins newborn baby and asked him to hold him so that I could go to the bathroom but instead of taking the baby he backed away from me almost stumbling over his own feet because he was in such a hurry to get out of the situation. I asked his mother what his problem was and she just said that he has always been scared to hold babies since his brother was born. I have yet to tell him that we are expecting because our 5 year anniversary is at the end of this month and I wanted to tell him while we're on vacation. The baby is obviously unplanned but I don't regret getting pregnant and I'm sure that my boyfriend will be just as happy as I am with the news. The only other person who knows right now is my best friend who is due in September and she is going to let him practice hold the baby so that he'll be more comfortable but until then I think we'll stick to dolls and toddlers :p

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markcallanan_ 20

Maybe he's scared of dropping it on accident..?

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Well if he's planning on staying I guess he has 8 more months to get over it?

my husband wasn't comfortable with little babies. Like newborns. The further my pregnancy progressed, the more comfortable he became. When our son was born 4 weeks early and only weighing 4 lbs 12 oz I basically had to take aiden from my husband just so I could hold him. Don't worry, I'm sure by the time the baby gets here, he will be fine with babies.

sarahtolkien 8

he's going to have to suck it up. if he's not scared of making a baby, he can hold one.

so will you lol you're gonna poop during delivery

Teach him. Start with a doll. Then someone else's baby.

Never heard a man afraid to hold a baby till now. But he will be fine in time of the arrival of the baby and good luck to the both of you :)

If he is simply afraid, then he has plenty of time to face his fears and overcome them. If it is, as you say, an actual phobia, then you're likely out of luck. Phobias are extremely difficult to reverse due to the "reward" that comes with avoidance of the feared thing, but just because he can't hold the baby doesn't mean he can't still be a good father.

He will get over it :) the first baby my husband held was our own a d he's a wonderful father now

Condoms are easier to use than a baby

jeragonm 15

See, getting married and planning prevents this from happening