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By Anonymous - / Monday 27 September 2010 15:20 / Canada
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By  fatalkiss  |  16

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  randomlettrrs  |  16

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  spidermonke  |  16

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  boopityboppity  |  16

I agree, 76. When saddened, I lose my free will and the ability to think. It's a perfectly legitimate excuse for cheating, and not the sad one's fault at all. Yes, less attentive people, I am being sarcastic.

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  spidermonke  |  16

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  boopityboppity  |  16

Rape is a vastly different circumstance from what you mentioned and is totally impertinent to the discussion at hand. "she could say he comforted me and a few drinks later it happened. Then it's negotiable..." No, it is not. No matter what way you spin it, she had a choice, the possible consequences and implications of which she knew, and she chose poorly. It is her fault.

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  spidermonke  |  16

There is NO reasoning with any naive person. I have yet to find a single person who looks at something differently than for what it is. Meaning everyone ALWAYS sees the bad side of something and NEVER attempts to find out the reasoning as to why, or lookin for a brighter side in ANY situation. There is always a reason behind an action. No one knows the reasoning for OP's fiances action, thus I'm just throwing it out there that it's not always as bad as it seems, and they're might be alot more to it than she jus blantently did it. Etc etc. I'm holding adamant to my thought on this, criticize as you wish, this is how I think. The world isn't always bad, the naive and immature may not see it thoroughly, thus perceiving it being bad. But look for brighter things, be optimistic and it works out.

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  boopityboppity  |  16

Oh, there were undoubtedly rationalizations she used. I'm not arguing that. It seemed to me you were implying she had somehow relinquished some of her free will. If not, and the first sentence of this comment is all you were trying to get across, I apologize for the miscommunication.

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  4R0X1Gep  |  16

I'm pretty sure that the whole "taking advantage of a sad girl's weakness" thing went out the window when she recorded it and kept it on her computer... Just sayin.

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  CableX17  |  16

spidermonke. You are wrong. In this situation, it has to be her fault. Now the few situations you described that would (very *very* slightly) take some of the fault from her, were not at all valid, simply because she lied about it. She had sex with one guy while dating another, then she tried to toss out a lame excuse to make it seem like she hadn't.

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  CableX17  |  16

That is her fault. I don't always focus only on the bad, and refuse to see alternatives. But in this situation, there simply cannot be one, because of her blatent lie. Without it, maybe. But that lie seals it, it was clearly not a situation in which you could remove some of the fault. Plus she recorded it. I mean really, if she's all broken down and vulnerable, she's certainly not gonna record it and save it.

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  starile  |  16

OP's gf recorded it, and lied about it. There is no remorse there, and no way it 'sort of just happened' because she was sad and vulnerable-- you don't whip out your video camera at a time like that. spidermonke probably cheated on her man at some point and is trying to defend her bad judgements by making up nonsensical BS in support of OP's lying cheat of a girlfriend.

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  Falcon0221  |  16

Well I agree that the guy friend should get the shit kicked out of him and probably castrated, but she's a lying cheating whore. In this case you can't say its not her fault, and in almost all cases its the cheaters fault. If you don't love someone at least have the decency to break up first. I say take back that ring, and dump her. Good luck to the guy this is about, I know that must hurt.

By  Cinn_fml  |  34

Did you actually point that out to her? Because if that's how she treats you, she needs to know that it's over and you want that ring back. However, if you really don't want to lose her, you should get her to admit the truth and find out why. If it is just something you weren't doing, then it might be a salvageable situation. However, if it wasn't, then you need to know that as well.

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  Cinn_fml  |  34

Personally, I feel the same way. But there are many cases where a person choses to stay with someone even after they know they cheated, for whatever reasons. The OP might be that kind of person for all we know.

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  RedPillSucks  |  34

I agree with Cinn. Trust doesn't have to be perfect for the relation ship to continue. Different strokes for different folks. OP might be willing to work it out.

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  TwoZeroOZ  |  34

What is with women always saying "If it is just something you weren't doing"... No, slut, it's never something the guy is or isn't doing. It's because you're a slut and can't control yourself. If a girl thinks there's something that seriously wrong with the relationship, then it needs to end. Cheating is never an appropriate response.

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  Cinn_fml  |  34

TwoZero, I never said cheating was right. I think it's horrible, made even worse in this case by her lying. However some people are willing to forgive, especially if they know it was only a one off. It all depends on the individuals and the circumstances. Also, who are you calling a slut? And if something is wrong with the relationship, it's usually advisable to talk it over before ending it.

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