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By Anonymous / Friday 29 March 2013 01:13 / United States
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Totally agree with you #23 no 5 or 4 yr old should be talking like that op needs to put her parenting to work and fix it ASAP

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There's a fine line there.. You can hit to straighten them but it's how hard and how much you do that's the difference between them..

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@ #158. Wow. Child abuse is illegal, but spanking your children is not. Relax a little bit.

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Kids who a 5 shouldn't swear, however, kids ARE growing up really fast. I've been out in public, and have heard 9-10 year olds saying, FUCK, or SHIT, or BITCH.

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Parents can only do some much. At 5 they are in pre-k or kindergarten. I know my sister-in-law had my niece and nephew in a daycare where the children there all spit and cursed. We had to explain to my nephew that his behavior was not acceptable and correct him. All while looking for a new daycare since that one had gone down hill.

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To be fair, the kid is five. So he is probably at pre-school or just starting school. It's entirely possible he heard it from another parents or another kid in his class. Apparently it's not uncommon either. I remember when my daughter was in kindergarten, she learned quite a few bad words, including "fuck" and "cunt". I was horrified. I spoke to the teacher about it, and she told me that most parents come to her with the same complaint, but that it doesn't mean the parent i

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It's like a disease in the class room, in elementary school if one kid starts dropping the F-bomb they're cool. Other kids then want to mimic the behavior by cursing as well.

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It's not always the parent. It could be friends of the parents and/or other family swearing around the kid.

Definitely start taking small privileges away and see where he learnt these words from. Maybe from school?

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I'd say do what he says - don't treat him like a child. See how much he likes cooking his own food, doing his own laundry and so on.......

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or just toss him outside if he wants to be an "adult" and let him get his own place. when my husband was younger he threatened Hus parents to run away and they let him. he came back a your it so later apologising his ass off.

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124 - the kid is 5. He can't do any of those things for himself. He probably just learned how to tie his shoes, and you think he can operate a stove to cook for himself? Nice try.

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I believe that's true, however, kids also need to accept authority, especially if the authority is subjected to different standards.

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Oh yeah 33. I was spanked as a child and I sure as hell turned out terrible! kids need to learn to respect their parents. If I had even uttered those words at that kids age or behaved like that my parents sure wouldn't have let it continue. Spanking isnt the devil. Stop acting like it is.

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People now say that. What about my generation? I am 20 and I don't hold any grudges or suffer from any emotional after effect from being spanked. Neither does most of our parents or grandparents generations either.

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I agree with spanking, but another method would be clean the mouth with soap. That's what my parents did to me. Worked just fine.

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My parents did that to #76. One of the worst experiences of my life... I can still taste it... yuck!

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There's a difference between abuse and discipline. If I EVER talked like that to my father, he would've whooped my tail until it hurt to sit. And if I complained he'd make me stand facing the wall for an hour doing nothing and if I so much as TALKED I would get another hour. My father disciplined me not abused. Abuse is beating a child in the face and leaving marks like a black eye or a swollen lip. Spanking is a punishment.

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76-- I think soap now is bad for you. I guess you could always use ivory soap, though. For the spanking thing, each kid is different. My kid does not respond to spanking at all, but if you isolate him, he will correct his behavior. My cousin's kid only responds to spanking. I know a kid that will stop just by telling her to.

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Mama would've smacked the shit outta me i ever talked to her like that, hell, I bet she still would and I'm 20 years old. Anyway, I dont see how you can say spanking causes emotional trauma, it's worked just fine for hundreds of years with no discernable consequences and now all the sudden in the last 30 years we see a sudden rash of killings and shootouts.

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I hate when people act like the increase in school and public shootings is directly related to spanking your child. I'm sure it has nothing at all to do with the increase in violence in media, video games, movies etc. that has become acceptable.

Well get off here and go do you some parenting dude! Punish him for such behavior and let him know you wont just put up with it.

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By 5 children are most likely in pre-school. He could of heard it from there, and just repeated it. I hate how people assume it's from the parent. My son learned a few words when he was young. When he moved up to kindergarten he used them the first day. And, as his parent, I was literally screamed at for teaching him those words.

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Ok by the way I explained myself wrong. Quotes were supposed to be around "teaching" him those words. Obviously I didn't... I never swore and he STILL learned them.

I'm not sure if YDI or not. It sucks that you've to deal with this but it's your responsibility to raise them so they don't turn out like that. They're not even teens yet. Just imagine. Better do something about it.

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And kids are always by their parents side 100% of the time. The kids is five so he is probably in Pre-K so he probably heard it from the other kids, the parents, or even the teacher. Don't be so quick to judge the OP without knowing the whole story or all the facts. My baby cousin learned bitch in Pre-K from another little girl. Thats probably what happened here.

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Did he also learn to kick his mom after screaming at her too? If it's a problem maybe she should spend less time on the internet and more on correcting this behavior, even if she didn't teach it to him.

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75 - Read 9's first sentence again.... there is no judgement there. And this really isn't an FML or a YDI, it's just a common parenting issue. Teach your kids to behave the way you think they should OP. Personally, though, I don't see what everyones' problem with "swear words" is. They're just words, if they're used offensively, then sure, be offended. But if they're used to express or emphasize an emotion, then why do you care? Here's a direct question to anyone reading this:

Spare the rod and spoil the child. I know if I had done that growing up my mom would of tanned my hide then my dad would of too.

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He needs more than a time out! A time out is for stealing cookies, this deserves being locked in his room with all the good stuff taken out of the room. After a couple of hours screaming, he'll learn. It worked on me :L

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I said time out because the child is five... My five year old repeated everything until I thought him what was appropriate to say and what is not... I think the parents need to be more on their parenting game..

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#126 its seems like a contradiction to say the parents should be on their game and that kids that age will repeat anything. Even if the parents are "on their game", they have no control over how others parent so being around kids (at daycare, school etc.) who use vulgar language would, by your explaination, cause Ops kids to use vulgar language too since they repeat anything at that age. It wouldn't be the fault of OP if that's how it happened.

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