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I know I always struggle with what to say when someone starts complaining about their weight. I don't want to say something like "oh, no! You're not fat!" Because that really wouldn't accomplish anything if that person doesn't believe you, and something like "you look good to me" doesn't help that much either if the person doesn't look good to themselves. It's just a really awkward subject.

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Yeah, responding to someone who truly believes they're fat is really weird. If you tell them they're not, they won't believe you. If you tell them they are, they'll remember it for the rest of forever.

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I've learned to not even respond, they eventually will stop saying anything about their weight. Or...There was this one girl who always complained about her weight but was in fact skinny. So one day her friend took her cookies and ate them cause "she didn't need the calories anyways". The girl never fished for compliments again.

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It's all about subtlety. Ask them if they like the way that they look. If they say no, then kindly suggest doing a brief lifestyle makeover. Tell them it's about making THEMSELVES happy. Otherwise, tell them that they don't look bad, but perhaps they would look better in a different outfit (something black or any darker color, something flattering).

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preach, 56. Body Dismorphic Disorder (BDD) is a thing and people can't choose it. they aren't looking for compliments either. they see themselves as obese even when others see flesh and bones.

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It's a compliment in a way, saying you look good already and then knowing for sure you look good in pregnancy. Fishing for compliments won't get you the best compliments you expect.

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Yes yes, to 56 and 87 both you guys took the words out of my mouth. I get looked at like I'm crazy when I say I want to loose more weight because everyone already thinks I'm tiny but I don't see it. So yeah, not everyone who is a size 1 and complains is attention seeking, a lot of us have serious mental illnesses, so remember that next time before you think someone is just fishing for compliments.

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If you don't like like the way you look, then change the way you look. If you have a serious mental illness, see your doctor, take your meds, and do your work. If you have mild insecurities, stay away from mean girls and fashion magazines. If you want a compliment, say "Tell me I look nice" -- asking for it doesn't make it not count. Otherwise, STFU.

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#46, she could have an eating disorder and honestly believe she is fat. Like myself, who is a size 0. That's not always a correct assumption, and personally pissed me off.

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I dated a chick who claimed it was a health thing. Then i noticed her snacking 5x daily. She was getting her daily intake with chocolate alone

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I mean, he did say she would look good pregnant which means he thinks she's attractive exactly how she is even if she isn't the thinnest. It's a compliment. An ass backwards one, but a compliment all the same. Explain to him why that was a very poor choice of wording and get over it. Your guy genuinely thinks you're attractive, be glad.

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Or just let it go, at that point she would just be nit-picking. She asked him a loaded question and should be glad he didn't outright tell her she was fat, even just to be a smartass.

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Maybe OP wasn't fishing for compliments - she could have been seeking confirmation from her boyfriend - which I consider very different. Also! It doesn't matter if some people like "skinny" girls and some people like "fat" girls, people don't exist for the approval of others. So, if you're "fat" and feel skinny, if you're "skinny" and feel fat, or any mix - its no ones business but yours!

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I don't think it's about preference or it being anyone's business but our own, but about the way no one can be anything without being judged, like 3's comment here. I know there's nothing wrong with the way I am but it doesn't make it okay to say.

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Exactly number 7! Complaining about your weight won't do anything. If you're genuinely unhappy with your body, the whole pity party, fishing for compliments thing won't help you at all. Take things into your own hands and start exercising and eating right.

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Agreed, like hey, here's an out there concept; the cast majority of couples talk about their problems instead of breaking up at the drop of a hat! Crazy, right?

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