Okay, this is kind of going to sound like a form of victim blaming, but - if you both went into this relationship with the goal, or at least the possibility of getting married, why wait five years? You could've brought it up way sooner, or even popped the question yourself. No need to wait for him to hopefully act just because he happens to be a guy.

If he doesn't respect you now, do you think that will change? I agree with other posters that this should have been communicated much earlier and you would not have wasted your time. It shouldn't be any kind of role to believe you need to be a passive doormat in your relationship. Use this to go find someone you deserve. someone better.

Girl please do better for yourself and RUN! After two years and no talk of marriage LEAVE. You do not want to be married to that prick. He's the type to disrespect you at your wedding

Lets be real. A man usually decides whether they want to spend the rest of their life with someone within the first 6-12 months of dating. 5 years and no proposal? There could be two possibilities: Either 1) You’re giving him marriage benefits prior to marriage (ie. living together) so he’s not gonna pay for the cow when he gets the milk for free or 2) You got too comfortable in the relationship and based on what he’s saying, you let yourself go over the years. Ive seen relationships fail because of that. Whatever the case may be, take this as a hint and a lesson for the future. Next time, don’t repeat the same mistakes and you may end up with more favorable results (marriage.)

That's five years down the toilet. Hopefully, you have redeeming qualities beyond your looks. If not, spinsterhood is your future.

Does he look like a trophy husband?