So you are 53...13 years of marriage so if you divorced this year that means you married at 40, with someone 20years younger, so 20 years . Or even younger, because you might have been divorced for longer. Sir, that marriage does NOT defend your position.

You are both wrong. The person you replied to is wrong, because at 30y old, they can decide for themselves whether or not to date 20years older or not. You don't need to call people out for being creeps, we can call them creeps ourselves as we are not young adults. You are wrong, because it's still sketchy. I just had my 32th birthday, all the +50y olds at work were going "ohhh to be that young". Most of them have kids my age...OR OLDER. They constantly vibe protectiveness towards me. And there's still a HUGE generation gap there, I grew up with the internet becoming a thing, they're the one's that either don't trust anything on the internet or give their banking info to a nigerian prince. Just because you don't need to defend anyone because they can take care of themselves, does not make it not sketchy. It is however none of our business. People are allowed to be sketchy.