Geez, project much? She never said she expected it to be the BEST sex, but at least GOOD sex. Maybe he's worth it to try again and see if some communication can even things out but don't hate just because she's upset that he didn't perform well. Life's too short for bad sex.

Said like a ****.

#38 Don't be a douche for once and maybe someone would bang you

Life's too short for bad sex? Then how will anyone learn? Most people aren't born sex gods, you have to learn and get better at it. It DOES seem she raised her expectations up for some sex God because that's what our imagination does. Considering she apparently used the idea of him a LOT, she probably built this idea of him up to be the perfect pleaser. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you realize that's not going to happen. Instead of going "ew bad sex" why don't you stop thinking of only yourself and help.

I say OP give him a second chance. Try to guide him in ways to give her an ****** and better sexual experience. He probably doesn't even know he sucked. Tell him what you want OP.

I agree with #12. I don't think it's a bad thing to have certain expectations, but if they aren't met you shouldn't have such a bad attitude about it. Instead you should communicate a bit and try to improve things. For example, I'd expect kisses and hugs. If they didn't happen though, I'd let the dude know that those are important to me before/during/after sex and we'd work from there. And for people saying "but what if there was communication and stuff, but they either couldn't get better or refused to"...of course in those cases I'd understand more (since sex is an important part of a relationship) but that was CLEARLY not the case for OP. This was her first time with him, and her condescending tone strongly implies she'd like to keep it that way. No one is forced to have sex with someone they don't want to, but if they go around bitching and complaining without putting even an ounce of effort than they can hardly expect to gain our sympathies.

Never enough internet.

It actually sounds painful xD

I don't know why everyone keeps voting you down. Sometimes it's not as simple as communicating your wants and needs. The partner may be inexperienced with no expressed desire to learn and improve. Other times it may be a medical condition, such as erectile dysfunction and/or premature ejaculation and he's not willing to take the necessary steps to rectify the situation. I've heard it all.

Because she refuses to acknowledge op MIGHT have played a big role in her own disappointment and keeps saying things like "life is too short for bad sex".

I "refused"? I must have missed that conversation. I also said "life is too short..." all of twice. It's meant to be a light hearted jest but clearly I need to be more serious on FML. What evidence do we have that the OP was the cause of bad sex? She clearly has had good sex before so it's less likely that she is the bad partner. But like I said originally, sometimes first times are rocky and more communication is needed. It's not like I was being unreasonable.

You repeatedly refuse the thought that op built up her expectations. Which is also backed up by the username "whataletdown".

I heard it for the first time in the movie The Ugly Truth. I died laughing the first time I heard the term.