Today, after having finally summoned the nerve to report a guy at my workplace who has been sexually harassing me for months, I got a phone call from my boss. He said that there was nothing he could do about it, because the guy "wouldn't confess." FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, after many years of being single, I finally worked up the courage to ask my coworker out. He said no and gave me "fair warning" that he's going to report me for sexual harassment. FML
Today, my ex harassed me at work again. I can't complain to my manager, because they're brothers. I can't report it to the cops either, because his uncle works at the police department. FML
Today, after telling my boss that trailing a hand up someone's leg and leering at them constantly is counted as sexual harassment, I got called an "unappreciative little whiny bitch." FML
Today, I called in sick to work for a second day. After months of my boss trying to get me sacked by spreading vicious rumors about me, taunting me into retaliating, and generally making my life a living hell, he finally got his chance. He sent me a text saying, "yeh dont bother son ure fuckin fired." FML
Today, HR informed me that they would not be investigating my formal complaint against my boss. This after four months of relentless bullying, including calling me while I was on vacation to tell me to do work, and eliminating my position when she found out I had gone to HR. FML
Today, yet again, my boss whined to me like a baby over being "friend-zoned" by his secretary. Not only does he basically stalk her and make her eat lunch with him every day, she's a lesbian in a committed relationship. He suspended me after I lost it and told him to see a fucking therapist. FML
Today, it was a coworker's last day. Over the last 6 months, he has been talking smack about me because he assumed I'd ratted him out for a Facebook post, ranting about our place of employment. I decided to confront him after work to let him know that I didn't do it. He then reported me for harassment to all of my supervisors. FML
Today, I went to deliver some reports to my boss in his office. He was facing away from me and ranting about his "useless employees", so I slipped in and waited for him to put the phone down. Turns out he was talking to himself. When he noticed me, he bitched me out and threatened to fire me. FML
Today, my boss refused my resignation and acted like nothing had happened. FML
Today, a coworker grabbed my ass for the third time. I went to my boss to complain about the sexual harassment. He told me to suck it up and enjoy the attention, and that it was my fault for having a huge, round ass. I think it's time for a new job. FML
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asoptavlo14 6
Leaving may be your best bet :(
babygirl_015 11
Sucks for you. Report him to a higher authority then. Or get him caught in the act.
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asoptavlo14 6
Leaving may be your best bet :(
rodgersfan 6
Do they not have cameras at your workplace?
thatASIANman 2
Hell no, go tell his wife/girlfriend. And if he doesn't have one, just kick him in the nuts and when he tries to tell your boss, don't confess >:)
Idonebeenhad 17
Your boss is a ******* dumbass.
gr82bhere 9
Why should she leave her job? Maybe she worked there for years, got education for it, who knows? So your saying she should let one jerk ruin her career? There are other options, and if it's only one jerk quitting should defiantly not be the first move.
Wederoney 16
Lure him into a trap and make sure your boss walks in on him touching you... and problem solved!
biggestfan23 11
I agree with #1 if it's that bad of harassment it may not be worth it to still work there
soupey_fml 0
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
for all you guys know,"sexually harassing" means telling her her hair looks pretty.
RrLSf19 0
Ugh reminds me of a teacher at my old high school who touched a girl. She reported it but everyone laughed it off since no one else saw. Makes me sick to this day.
dcg1375 7
Call HR yourself. No boss. Nobody else. Just Human Resources. It will get taken care of.
THE_A_TEEN 28
Really Soupey? The defenition now for Sexual harassment is a simple complement? (Face-M82 rifle)
gribbles 12
34 - in defense of soupey, a compliment on physical appearance that makes someone of the other sex uncomfortable can be considered sexual harassment.
emilymac420 0
I think OPs boss is a retired preschool teacher..
yahoowizard 16
Also in defense of soupy, it is part of the sexual harassment training at work
downtime 13
34, The laws on sexual harassment are so broad that you could breathe on me and if I feel uncomfortable about it I could claim sexual harassment. It's not about the act of the individual its about the feelings of the "victim". The way it is handled is equally as useless as the policies themselves.
Climaxx 11
You can sue that company for not doing anything about it, OP. But it does take guts to take that to your boss, so good on you (:
girl112891 7
Don't quit. If this had been going on for so long then it's not a so called compliment and you're not exaggerating. Be brave. If telling this guy to stop hasn't worked and your boss isn't willing to help, then find help else where. Whatever you do though, just don't run, don't hang your head. You can't leave every job because you come across that 'one guy' who deliberately makes you uncomfortable. That's never okay! you know your rights, fight back!
fymother 13
Sexual harassment law was born from the Civil Rights Act and is legally a form of anti-discrimination law (as opposed to criminal or tort law). Document your boss's response, and lack of appropriate response, and file a claim with the EEOC and your state's equivalent. If, as you said, it took you a long time to report it, document how you felt. Sexual harassment is recognized only if it is "severe and pervasive" by an "ordinary woman standard." if you can document its effect on you (your own words, testimony of friends and relatives, or a psychologist), you have a better chance at getting a settlement and changes. You should NEVER have to give up a job you like doing, or a job you must have due to economic circumstances, because of someone else's poor behavior.
tracker7 5
Wrong, get fired severance check
tjv3 10
Report them to the employment commission
MedKits 9
Dear God, what the hell is "ordinary woman standard"? ...I fear for my life.
marti1497 10
wow that's really dumb.. :p sorry OP!
EatnBeef 7
Use protection.
babygirl_015 11
Sucks for you. Report him to a higher authority then. Or get him caught in the act.
Dragons_corner 6
Or a witness
Redoxx_fml 22
Time to press charges
claiiire_fml 17
So? That's a stupid reason. Gather evidence, then get a lawyer.
SAMMILLER098 2
That's ****** up
downtime 13
Actually it isn't ****** up. I'd much rather know that they require evidence of wrong doing and don't just go "well, a girl has filed a complaint, we better reprimand the male". There will be further action from here, there is just nothing they can do right now since he hasn't confessed.
MustangGirl72 9
What happens if he doesn't confess? He just gets away with it? It is ****** up.
downtime 13
110, No. It instigates a process in which the individual is monitored and/or they put in place measures to ensure there is no chance it can happen again. I would also rather this idiot gets away with it than promoting a system that allows a barrage of bitches to ruin the lives of their co-workers or threaten to do so simply by making up a story about what the individual apparently did. You don't know the level of harassment the individual is talking about either, which can completely change the severity of the situation and the response required.
missamazinggg 12
Because a guy will confess to harassing a girl and face possible sex charges.
TSN619 7
Ok you women are taking this way too far. The level of sexual harassment is unknown. Also, downtime is right, even though no man would admit that he sexually harassed someone, the system would be extremely flawed if a person was disciplined or fired simply because of an accusation with no evidence. Furthermore, if you have any common sense you know that there will be an investigation and it's not over simply because he denied it.
randombaxer1 11
'Innocent until proven guilty'. Ever head of it?
GovernorGeneral 8
Lol. That sucks. Record it next time or have other proof and show it your boss. Then show him whos boss >:D
jonriise18 3
Wear a wire, like a boss.
idontknowyou123 0
seems like your boss is protecting him. go above ur bosses head
mieks 18
Exactly, your boss is not acting as he should be in a situation like this!
cosmosis 12
This same situation happend to my girfriend at her old work. She filed a complaint against the guy, but it wasnt until i got down there and beat the shit out of him that something was done about it. The whole system is messed up! If any guy does anything like that to a girl he deserves an ass kicking!! Regardless of who he is or what he does! Cases like this need to be taken far more seriously!!
cosmosis 12
I have been....
lebronesque73091 12
You're boss is a guy, right?
meade34 2
Thank you 63.
LookOnBrightSide 12
*your
4ugu4 7
It says "he" in the fml. :)
Namerkp2 8
Of course the boss is a guy... He's a BOSS *Waits for the barrage of thumbs down
Namerkp2 8
... or not
OfficeNinja 5
The burden of proof is on the accuser. That is how it works. Otherwise, anyone could say anything about you. I'm not saying you are making false accusations. Just that you will need witnesses.
Isoldael 27
I wish that were always true. Wouldn't be the first time someone made a wild accusation about sexual harassment and someone got fired unjustly. People often can't even get a normal job anymore when they are accused of something like that, whether they were convicted or not. That being said, I sort of agree with OP's boss - I wouldn't take action based on nothing but an accusation, I'd want some sort of proof.
maskedman 9
That's right! It sucks for the OP but she is going to need proof. Especially with every teenage girl calling any guy that makes eye contact with her a stalker or creepy.