Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML
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Today, a week after my fiancé and I got engaged, his mother is already complaining that she isn't involved enough in the wedding arrangements. We haven't even set a date yet. FML
Today, I was told by one of my bridesmaids that she can't afford the travel costs to get to my wedding, after telling me that she didn't need me to organize alternate free travel for her. I'm getting married in less than two weeks. FML
Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML
Today, my wedding is scheduled for next week. Today is also the day my whole family had an epic falling out, resulting in my mother disowning my brother. Apart from having them taking turns sobbing at me through the phone, they're also not coming to the wedding. I paid the hotel rooms in advance. FML
Today, my mom and my step dad decided they're getting a divorce. They've been married for 2 weeks and I paid for a quarter of the wedding. FML
Today, I called my mom to make sure she could attend on the wedding day my fiancé and I had discussed. She started off with criticizing the venue we considered, then went on to criticize my fiancé, and then stated she would under no circumstances help out, but demanded to pick my wedding dress. FML
Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
Today, I'm getting married. A few months ago, I allowed my mother in-law to take care of catering. She begged to be a part of the wedding, so I gave her the caterer's number and order info. It appears that I will not be eating at my own wedding because she decided to order food I'm allergic to. FML
Today, my soon-to-be mother-in-law decided that she is going to be in charge of planning my wedding. All decisions must be approved by her, and anything she doesn't like will be thrown out. She also wants to go on our honeymoon with us to make sure I don't "defile" her son. FML
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lhazz11 23
I would uninvite her until she puts up the cash
d4m4s74 12
And that's why you should always have a backup. Try your dad.
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d4m4s74 12
And that's why you should always have a backup. Try your dad.
challan 19
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Try herself. It's her wedding, she's an adult, she can pay.
wlddog 14
If mama planned it, then mama can pay for it. All you need is the groom and a preacher. Possibly a judge or a boat captain. Why would you agree to pay for someone else's billls?
ScenicSubterfuge 39
Boat captain? Wah?
Zimmington 21
12- OP is a guy...
lexa1love 16
@30 A boat captain can marry someone on open water.
SunAndMoon427 12
12- You've never been around wedding planning before, have you? Six weeks is almost no time to come up with enough money for a wedding if you were planning on someone else paying for everything, adult or not, you find me someone who can come up with 10k in six weeks legally, because it's next to impossible.
Zebediabolical 45
I can think of several legal ways to get ten grand in six weeks. One is day trading or online poker, either one can net you huge amounts of money if you're skilled and patient. The other is getting and maxing out credit cards. Perfectly legal. And if you pick the right ones you'll get air miles or the like, possibly enough to defray the airline tickets for the honeymoon.
SunAndMoon427 12
Starting a marriage with that amount of debt is probably not the best idea though. While I agree those are legal ways to do it, they aren't exactly ideal for a wedding. You don't want a ton of credit card debt as the foundation for the marriage.
Zebediabolical 45
When you have six weeks left to your wedding there are no ideal ways. There are only ways that work and ways that don't. I don't think people should get under the CC debt bus either, but it is a legitimate alternative.
CaitiieBuggs 23
12- My parents insisted on helping pay for my wedding, even when I argued it was my responsibility. Some parents feel it's their duty, some don't. Maybe OP's mother did the same and is now backtracking?
Morgneer 2
#41 most of the time it is the wifes family paying for the wedding, he was making a logical assumption
SnuWolf 15
#70: Bill Gates
hoffmanam 13
woo, first comment
CharresBarkrey 16
If by first, you mean second.
hiitisbrooke 28
You could try your fiancée's parents?
monagro 22
Traditionally, the wife's parents pay for the wedding. Try making that point?
Alleged_Cranium 7
Break tradition - Elope
SpamPam 18
Wow I didn't know that. It sounds like like a dowry :((( I don't thing either the groom's or bride's parents should be "supposed" to pay
Mossears133 15
I don't know about y'all, but it's always the groom's family that traditionally pays for the wedding when I hear about it.
clever_name_here 7
Its worth a shot to try that. Ive never heard of that though.
lhazz11 23
I would uninvite her until she puts up the cash
HortonThelephant 15
She needs to call JG Wentworth @ 877-CASH-NOW!!
nelliegw 26
Lol (let the thumbs down commence)
nelliegw 26
I tried to reply to someone else and I tagged 18 because I was saying that you beat him to the JG Wentworth joke. So to look a little bit less like a dumbass I changed it. Is there a way to delete comments?
clever_name_here 7
I dont think so.
LaLince 40
uninvite the bitch
niallo 23
Tell her that since she's not paying, you have to find ways to save money/costs. Her invite is number one on the list.
fordneagles 34
Claim that you never invited her and that you never will!
Ashamed_Sister 60
Don't invite her. And if she insists on coming to your wedding you can charge her for a seat in the backrow.
practicallyjesus 7
Charge her the same amount of money for the seat that she cost you for the wedding.
kakarot2 11
She can sit in the car outside her house
Notyours007 9
Or you understand that not everybody has the amount money that they try to portray they have and then you need to understand that you and your wife might have to start hooking
melody309 35
If the mom didn't have the money, she shouldn't have planned and offered to pay for their wedding.
ComoEsJuan 24
Weddings aren't all about flash and fancy. People are too worried about what everything looks like, that they overlook the meaning. It's about two people coming together, as one. All that matters is the connection, the intimacy, the growth, and the fact that (in most cases) paying bills just got easier! Don't worry so much about the appearance, OP. Everything will work out just right!
Bibliovore 26
Exactly, #13! OP, what can you downscale or cancel at this point, like catering or music or decoration or flowers? Some things like a reception hall or banquet plan may have a nonrefundable deposit, but sometimes that deposit plus the cost of a cheaper alternative is still less than the full price of the original. Maybe you can send a shout-out to friends or family to organize a pot luck instead of a catered meal, or have a gathering to make favors or decor yourselves, and so on. But don't feel obligated to stick with what your mother wants/planned if she won't pay for it. Why run up a lot of bills for one day and start your life together with a big debt burden when you can instead have a wonderful, joyous, lower-key party that will be just as memorable? Or heck -- elope. 8)