Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML
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Today, a week after my fiancé and I got engaged, his mother is already complaining that she isn't involved enough in the wedding arrangements. We haven't even set a date yet. FML
Today, I was told by one of my bridesmaids that she can't afford the travel costs to get to my wedding, after telling me that she didn't need me to organize alternate free travel for her. I'm getting married in less than two weeks. FML
Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML
Today, my wedding is scheduled for next week. Today is also the day my whole family had an epic falling out, resulting in my mother disowning my brother. Apart from having them taking turns sobbing at me through the phone, they're also not coming to the wedding. I paid the hotel rooms in advance. FML
Today, my mom and my step dad decided they're getting a divorce. They've been married for 2 weeks and I paid for a quarter of the wedding. FML
Today, I called my mom to make sure she could attend on the wedding day my fiancé and I had discussed. She started off with criticizing the venue we considered, then went on to criticize my fiancé, and then stated she would under no circumstances help out, but demanded to pick my wedding dress. FML
Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
Today, I'm getting married. A few months ago, I allowed my mother in-law to take care of catering. She begged to be a part of the wedding, so I gave her the caterer's number and order info. It appears that I will not be eating at my own wedding because she decided to order food I'm allergic to. FML
Today, my soon-to-be mother-in-law decided that she is going to be in charge of planning my wedding. All decisions must be approved by her, and anything she doesn't like will be thrown out. She also wants to go on our honeymoon with us to make sure I don't "defile" her son. FML
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lhazz11 23
I would uninvite her until she puts up the cash
d4m4s74 12
And that's why you should always have a backup. Try your dad.
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SammyS2012 21
To my family (and others I have seen) if someone offers money willingly, and you deny the offer (even if it's polite) the person is offended
ElhonnaDS 10
Having been wedding planning myself recently, a lot of the people saying "Just don't have it, then," don't realize that a lot of these places have you sign contracts and will keep the thousands of dollars you already paid- and sometimes make you keep paying a lot of the balance- even if you cancel. It's quite possible that regardless of whether or not you have the party you'll still have to pay beyond the initial deposit. I agree that there can be a lot of unnecessary expense with weddings, but often the families put pressure on the couples to have a more traditional wedding, and it's hard to argue the cost when they then offer to pay. I'm personally having a bigger wedding than I would have planned for myself, and while I have put down most of the money out of my pocket thus far, I am going to need the help promised by parents on both sides in order to pay off the balance of the hall right before the wedding. I managed to skip or get bargain versions of a lot of the expenses of the wedding, but the hall is still going to be fairly expensive. Regardless of whether or not YOU would have spent the money on the wedding, the OP was told that he would have it to spend and obligated himself to contracts as a result. If it were just a matter of cancelling and doing something smaller that would be one thing, but it's quite likely he'll be in debt to the wedding vendors regardless of whether or not he has it now. I personally never asked for any help paying for my wedding, but when my parents and in-laws saw the types of things I was looking at, the offered to contribute to it because they wanted to see us have a "proper wedding." If they were to pull out now, I would still have to pay several thousand dollars that I don't have to satisfy the cost of cancelling the contract.
MackAttackkkk 12
Tell her she's not invited
viau 13
so how it been?
fantasyworld 39
Your mom sucks.
TheSmartAss10 21
She planned it, I would have had them bill her. They'd just repo their stuff and take their house of they didn't pay.
Miss_Unique1031 6
That's HORRIBLE! I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
AmbrosiaFan 19
Why aren't you planning and paying for your own wedding? That way you have the say so, etc... Since she isn't paying for it anymore, sounds like you need to revisit your expectations as well as what truly matters in your relationship with your spouse to be.
AmbrosiaFan 19
Who signed the contract regarding any of the planning? If MOM did, then its on her legally and financially. If YOU did and she said she'd give you the money, then you are SOL.