Today, my youngest of four children turned 18. It was also the same day that my ex-wife called to tell me that after 18 years of paying child support, I wasn't the father. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my son turned 18. He now calls me by my first name instead of "dad" and refuses to stop. FML
Today, on my 18th birthday, my mom told me the man I thought was my father for 18 years was actually not my father, and my real father was in prison for murder. FML
Today, I found out that I'm a dad. My ex from 8 years ago contacted me through facebook. I'm happy I have a kid, but apparently she only contacted me because she wants me to start paying child support, now her boyfriend who provided for them left. FML
Today, it's my daughter’s 18th birthday. Today is also the day that my husband told me he’s leaving me for her, and he wants a divorce. When I threatened to press charges for potentially grooming her as a minor, he told me I don’t have a leg to stand on because, “She’s been at the age of consent anyway.” FML
Today, my husband of four years finally told me he has an eight-year-old son. FML
Today, I was super excited to receive a large inheritance, maybe put it towards a house and a vacation. To my horror, the entire 40k went to my child support arrears. My psycho ex is the one who wanted those three kids, not me. FML
Today, my eldest daughter announced she was getting divorced. She never even told me she was married. FML
Today, my ex showed up to pick up our kids in her brand new car. Last month child support doubled my amount because of a paperwork error. FML
Today, I turned 17. My parents completely forgot it was my birthday, and when I reminded them, my dad thought it was my 18th. He was ecstatic and mentioned that I can "finally get the hell out." FML
Today, my ex started to talk to me again after 3 years. I've been in an amazing relationship for the last 2 years. She let me know she is taking me to court for child support. I didn't even know I had a kid. FML
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mas12806 24
If she knew the whole time, you maybe can sue her
bl3ur0z3 17
Did you love this child as your own? Do you have a relationship with this child? Parenting is about more than the money, you got all the benefits of being a parent too. Focus on that.
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Comments (27)
RichardPencil 32
You should have gone to Maury years ago!
mas12806 24
If she knew the whole time, you maybe can sue her
Ksweety_fml 27
Can she go to jail for that? because that's ****** up.
Memnoc 26
If she knew all along, I would think that could be a felony. At a minimum he should be able to get repaid everything he paid in child support, plus interest over all those years.
bl3ur0z3 17
No. They were married and, in the eyes of the law, he was the father unless his paternity was challenged either by him, her, or the actual father. At least in most states.
bl3ur0z3 17
Did you love this child as your own? Do you have a relationship with this child? Parenting is about more than the money, you got all the benefits of being a parent too. Focus on that.
julfunky 29
Agreed. While it sucks he was cheated on, stolen from, and lied to he still has his child. Blood or not, he is the father and the child will always see him as such. Even if he doesn’t try to sue he can take some solace in the fact that he helped raise this child. The money he spent wasn’t wasted.
alyak98 31
I don’t know if he was mad the child wasn’t his by blood, but rather he paid for child support all those years. I’d be angry too about the child support.
kfchicken 31
he has the right to be angry regardless of his love for the child. his anger doesn't have to be directed at the child, and if it's not then it's completely justified.
tounces7 28
Mother could have kept the kid from him entirely, we don't know what happened. Hell, she could have been ******* raising the kid with the real father and just using him for the money.
acmariner99 25
How convenient. Lawyer up!
GamerChickxoxo 16
talk to your laywer, shes gonna have a nice time paying you back, enjoy your new car house or herion
itsthewayitis 10
sorry but thats your own fault. dna test
pins91 27
I’m sorry, what?! Are you saying every single father out there should get a DNA test, JUST IN CASE. this isn’t his fault, it’s the ex wives.
AmbrosiaFan 19
Sue and get that money back? Or hope that money did actually go to that child and his/her life is better because of it.
ViviMage 40
You need a lawyer to disprove you're the father. However while you can legally do this, the child support probably is paid and over with, cannot be returned, and the real father wasn't notified before the child was 18 and probably has no legal reason to actually pay it either (this happened to my cousin, he didn't know about his daughter until after she turned 18.) No child support must be owed at the time the Petition to Disestablish Paternity is filed; DNA samples are to be obtained voluntarily, or as a result of a court order; If the parents were married at the time of conception, the child must not have been conceived by artificial insemination; The child must not have been adopted while the parents were married, and The petition must be submitted within two years of the birth of the child, or it must be submitted within two years of the time the father is notified he may not be the child’s biological father. https://www.myfloridalaw.com/child-support-law/paying-child-support-not-the-father/
Iamthebanzai22 21
From now until the end of time you will have been an honorable man and she will have been a ****. Also, she will now have to get along without your child support payment and you will have that money available in your budget. I hope Karma rides her hard.