Today, my son was crying because he wanted his daddy, and he asked when he can see him. I had no idea what to say, given his dad left us in the middle of the night last year, now lives in another country, and told me he never wants to see us again. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, at midnight, I heard my son calling for his mom. I stopped by his room and asked him what was wrong? He didn't tell me. Instead, he said: "Oh, I don't need you." FML
Today, I saw my son. I didn't know I had a son. FML
Today, I got back home from work and casually asked my dad, "What's up?" He casually replied, "Wishing I'd had a son instead." and stared glassy-eyed at me until I left the room. FML
Today, I was saying goodbye to my 5 year-old son before dropping him at my mom's, as I was leaving for two days, and told him I would miss him. He said, "l won't miss you, I never miss you when you are gone." FML
Today, my son asked if there was a way to make parenting easier. I sarcastically told him he could be a deadbeat who sees his kid every two weeks. He must have thought I was serious because he broke up with his girlfriend and baby, turned up at my door expecting to have his old room, and told my wife it was my idea. FML
Today, I was sitting in my room when my dad walked in to talk. He said I'm not the son he'd hoped for, and that he'd been let down as a father. He said I should change the way I am so that he could love me more. It was the longest conversation I've had with my dad in years. FML
Today, my wife and I realized that we made a huge mistake in allowing our son to stay behind and live with my parents when we had to move cross-country due to work. Our lives are so empty without him and we're missing out on watching him grow up, but he refuses to come live with us. FML
Today, the guy I have been seeing left town to visit his family for three weeks. A few hours later, he called me from the airport to say he is never coming back. FML
Today, my four-year-old asked me when I was going to die. I replied "Not for a long time, why?" He looked at me and stated "Because I only want to live with Daddy." FML
Today, my dad lied and said he was busy working, all because he didn't want to see me. FML
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Top comments
aggiegirl95 7
I'm sorry OP. This happened to me when I was younger and I never understood it. It gets easier for the kid with time, but LOTS of it. just know your ex is kind of a piece of shit for leaving you and your kid and not bothering to be a parent to his own son.
trucker2 33
That's got to be hard, your child will figure it out on their own one day... There are no words, to say to comfort him, just reassure him you will never leave... It gets easier with time..
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aggiegirl95 7
I'm sorry OP. This happened to me when I was younger and I never understood it. It gets easier for the kid with time, but LOTS of it. just know your ex is kind of a piece of shit for leaving you and your kid and not bothering to be a parent to his own son.
nicolai44 12
Kind of? I was thinking her ex is a total and complete piece of shit.
HorrorJr 26
Oh... That's... I'm sorry op D:
ScratchCatPower 32
Oh my goodness, I can't imagine how hard it must be on you. FYL, I'm so sorry that happened.
aguitarperson 7
I'm just wondering. Who would be the person to thumbs down all these comments?
BananEnigma 24
Probably people who left their spouses/children and feel entitled in doing so....
TheTacoMan 24
No.... #51 I don't think anybody should have the "entitlement" to leave their child permanently with the intent of never seeing them again. That's not exactly okay. Even if the kid is still in good hands with the spouse, you're that child's parent and you're supposed to take care of them. It's a moral contract really.
DanielleinDC 34
If you don't want children, have a vasectomy. Don't risk getting a woman pregnant and her wanting to have the baby.
trucker2 33
That's got to be hard, your child will figure it out on their own one day... There are no words, to say to comfort him, just reassure him you will never leave... It gets easier with time..
fohfuucba 21
You can't just refuse to talk about it. That's just going to make it harder in the end, and you don't want them finding out your lie of omission.
WhatHappenedToIt 22
there is no way she can explain it where it makes sense and the child doesn't think it's their fault no matter how much you tell them it isn't. until the child is older he won't understand. it took me until I was 23 to understand why my dad left when I was 9 and it takes a while to build back a relationship, I'm going to be 27 soon and it still feels awkward for me. I'm an adult, I don't need a parent but he missed me being a kid and he regrets it. it's on the dad, not the child but the child won't get that for quite a while.
WCARlover 35
That's low...Especially when there's a kid involved. Took the cowardliest of cowardly ways out...so sorry :/
nellie06 2
Ugh. My son says he misses his dad too and I have no idea what to tell him. I feel for both of you.
batgirlandrobin 14
Wow, that's rough. One day you'll have to tell him the truth, but from the sound of it he's not going to want to hear it. All you can do is be a great parent yourself. If you're awesome, he'll be ok!
Hildy93 21
The truth may not always be a good answer
laden_swallow09 35
The sooner she break me it to him, the better. Well, better than stringing the little guy along to think that he's in the Peace Corps or something.
sohigh10 34
You really think a child can handle being told that his father left him? Lying is not the solution, but the truth is way too harsh for such a young age.
Lilwystynyra 8
Wow. These douche bag people hitting YDI are saying a kid deserves to cry cos their dad left them. Y'all are shitty people.
WhatHappenedToIt 22
yah I don't get the responses either so much. was more clear cut with fml and ydi.
Lilwystynyra 8
I'm on the ap where it still shows YDI.
BananEnigma 24
Maybe you need to update it? Or it's an error... Because I'm on the app too, and what I see instead of "YDI" is "Phew, glad it wasn't me".....
Bob_Gray 6
In this case, the new answer is a rather pointless change. So you have the option of saying, "I sympathize with your plight," or "Better you than me." Not in so many words, of course. But God, that is a horrible situation. My father was always loving and supporting, so I can scarcely imagine what your child is going through.