Today, my son was crying because he wanted his daddy, and he asked when he can see him. I had no idea what to say, given his dad left us in the middle of the night last year, now lives in another country, and told me he never wants to see us again. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, at midnight, I heard my son calling for his mom. I stopped by his room and asked him what was wrong? He didn't tell me. Instead, he said: "Oh, I don't need you." FML
Today, I saw my son. I didn't know I had a son. FML
Today, I got back home from work and casually asked my dad, "What's up?" He casually replied, "Wishing I'd had a son instead." and stared glassy-eyed at me until I left the room. FML
Today, I was saying goodbye to my 5 year-old son before dropping him at my mom's, as I was leaving for two days, and told him I would miss him. He said, "l won't miss you, I never miss you when you are gone." FML
Today, my son asked if there was a way to make parenting easier. I sarcastically told him he could be a deadbeat who sees his kid every two weeks. He must have thought I was serious because he broke up with his girlfriend and baby, turned up at my door expecting to have his old room, and told my wife it was my idea. FML
Today, I was sitting in my room when my dad walked in to talk. He said I'm not the son he'd hoped for, and that he'd been let down as a father. He said I should change the way I am so that he could love me more. It was the longest conversation I've had with my dad in years. FML
Today, my wife and I realized that we made a huge mistake in allowing our son to stay behind and live with my parents when we had to move cross-country due to work. Our lives are so empty without him and we're missing out on watching him grow up, but he refuses to come live with us. FML
Today, the guy I have been seeing left town to visit his family for three weeks. A few hours later, he called me from the airport to say he is never coming back. FML
Today, my four-year-old asked me when I was going to die. I replied "Not for a long time, why?" He looked at me and stated "Because I only want to live with Daddy." FML
Today, my dad lied and said he was busy working, all because he didn't want to see me. FML
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Top comments
aggiegirl95 7
I'm sorry OP. This happened to me when I was younger and I never understood it. It gets easier for the kid with time, but LOTS of it. just know your ex is kind of a piece of shit for leaving you and your kid and not bothering to be a parent to his own son.
trucker2 33
That's got to be hard, your child will figure it out on their own one day... There are no words, to say to comfort him, just reassure him you will never leave... It gets easier with time..
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Comments (64)
chicagossirish 7
this is the saddest fml I have ever read. OP I hope you ex get dysentery while stuck traffic
Suaria 38
What a douchebag. I'm so sorry OP :(
dontknow1 19
I'm so sorry op, maybe you can smooth things up by telling your son that his dad is gonna be working outside the country for while. I really hope things get better for your family.
missnettymarie 25
Lying to the child will not solve any problems. Sure it may help in the moment but the child would just resent the mother for lying later on in life. Also, the father left a year ago and saying he is out of the country for work would only be a feasible story if that's what OP was saying all along.
PurpleMyth 28
I've never felt sad about not knowing my dad. Hopefully your son doesn't take it personally.
cheshireau 26
For the first time in my life, I'm speechless. I'm so sorry OP. Much love to you and your son.
cupcakebruh 21
My neice is in a similar situation.. she's 7 now and hasn't seen her dad since she was 3 or 4. She misses him like crazy, and he actually wants to see her and be in her life, but he has a criminal past, and for all we know he could be in jail right now. Nothing serious like murdering or something, just drug related, but still not an environment for a 7 year old to be in. She would have nights like those where she'd cry all night for her dad. She's doing a little bit better now, my sister got married and she calls him daddy. She actually says alot "He's not my real daddy, but he's a good daddy." My point is, there will he will come to terms with the situation he's in and accept the fact that his dad's not around. He may have some resentment towards his dad and father figures, as to be expected, but he should be fine, just give it time, and keep reminding him that it'll be okay.
TabooSushi 24
I'm so sorry OP. :( But you know, the best thing here is honesty. Will it hurt your son to learn of his father's abandonment? Of course it will. But you can help ease the hurt by assuring him that you will never leave him like that, and that sometimes grownups do things that aren't nice and hurt the people that they're supposed love. Depending on the age of your son, I reccomend maybe setting him up with a therapist to help deal with the emotional backlash.
xrayspecs 6
Wow. But, and I know this is easily said, in the long run you and your son are better off without such a scummer in your lives. Time to move on and find somebody who is a good partner to you and a proper father to your child. Sounds like the original was only good for sperm donation.
murph_fml 21
What a ******' ********.
wrongmove 11
Tell your boy the truth. Tell him that you don't know when or even if he's going to see his father again. Tell him that you don't understand why he left in the first place. Tell him that his father did what he did because he didn't know how to be a dad to him. That he didn't know how to be a husband/partner to you. Tell him some people just don't know how to cope with themselves or how to leave a situation that they don't feel comfortable in without hurting others. Tell him that his father very well may have left as an act of love because otherwise he may have ended up hurting you two more. Tell him life isn't fair. Teach him that it's better to love and show compassion than to carry resentment towards someone who is incapable of reciprocating.