You need to stop enabling your mom. She needs to learn that she can't keep using you as a source, and grow up. She's supposed to be the parent, not you. This path is going to be your life if you don't change it now. Your mom needs to learn the values of life and her lack of responsibility is wrong, especially when she is dependent on her child.

Well I mean, you could just stop paying the bills until she respects your personal space or she gets a job. Don't be a pushover or she will walk all over you.

If you're old enough to have work clients, and have a job that pays well enough to pay for all her bills, then you're old enough to tell your mom to 'F' off and take your phone back. FYL OP.

You make the dough, you make the rules OP.

I agree with the others. Stop paying your mom''s bills because SHE is the one being disrespectful. If you can move out, do so. And take your phone back, as I assume YOU are paying the bills, right?

Not everyone is made to be a parent, that said sometimes people don't really get much of an option and you just do your best. That being said, everyone has different moments in their life where they need to make a choice. Moving out may not be an option for you as you might be too young to do so safely. Keep your head up and as awful as it may sound, play nice. At the end of the day you know your mother can be irrational, and in a more fair world she might realize and appreciate you helping her out...but its not and she doesn't. I moved out at a very young age and after some time and distance I started to have a better relationship with my parental units. So if you are stuck, do your best to duck and weave and keep smiling, or get out.

I'm assuming you are grown, and not under the age of 18. You are supporting the both of you, so you clearly have a decent job. First step, no matter what else you do, is to cut your mother's access to money. If she has credit cards linked to your accounts, debit cards, etc, cancel them. Don't leave any cash around, either. Not even loose change. Lock up your stuff if you have to. I'd say for me, the second step would be to either move out or kick her out. And change the locks. Because she sounds vindictive enough to sell your stuff. If that's not viable, get photos and serial numbers of the big stuff (TVs, game systems, etc) and lock away the smaller things (jewelry, games, etc). When she steals and sells something, you have viable proof it belongs to you. Charge her with theft if you must. She's being disrespectful; you need to remind her of the adage "Don't bite the hand that feeds you." That might take a while, however, so third step. If you move out, drop all her non essential bills immediately. Just leave her with the essentials so that she can go find a job. If you kick her out, then do as you like. If you stay, cut down the non essentials until it's just necessities and things you both use, like internet or TV. For something like a cell phone, either cut her off completely, or downgrade her to a very basic model. You can also enact dementia protocols on some services. Aside from putting everything in your name, and your name alone, you can tell most companies that she's not on the account for a reason, no matter what she says, and that you are her caretaker, though not power of attorney. Most companies will work with you on that. Good luck, OP!

Dont you pay for the phone? If you do she does not have any right to take it away. Do you pay for hers? If so take hers away.

This is all sorts of F -ed up. Cut the financial umbilical cord.

take her house keys,phone, and car keys and tell her to get a job if she thinks you're disrespectful. carpe diem

Wait...if you're old enough to pay her bills for 2 years aren't you a bit too old to get your phone taken away???

Sounds like your mum may have mental health issues. Wish you all the best with a very tricky situation