Today, I met my son for the first time since I had to put him up for adoption over two decades ago. I wanted to make amends and get to know him. Instead, all I got to know was how well he can throw a punch. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I met my biological father for the first time. He seemed to be slightly intoxicated from the outset, and less than half an hour later, he had tried to intimidate me into "loaning" him several hundred euros for reasons he wouldn't tell me. So long, "dad". FML
Today, I saw my son. I didn't know I had a son. FML
Today, my son broke up with his girlfriend. When I asked why, he said, "Because I found out she's adopted. Ugh. I just can't with that, y'know?" Never before have I ever felt the desire to disown one of my kids. It's not a pleasant feeling. FML
Today, after I spent years, and thousands of dollars, searching for my birth father, he changed his mind about adopting me. FML
Today, I located my birth dad and asked him why I was put into care. Turns out my mom died, and since he hadn’t wanted me in the first place, he just gave me away and hoped to never see me again. He didn’t even invite me in, he threw a beer at me and threatened to call the cops unless I left. FML
Today, my son tried to fight my husband, his step-dad, who knocked him to the floor with one good punch. I was ready to throw my husband out, but an hour later they were having a heart-to-heart, and now they get along better than they ever have. HUH?!! FML
Today, after an ex let me know I have a 19 year old-son. I was beyond excited so I spent the weekend with them and I can tell you now, the boy is a complete prick, and I prefer to continue to claim I’m childless rather than admit I fathered that arrogant, rude, selfish, entitled little shit. FML
Today, I met my biological parents for the first time. Their justification for giving me up for adoption was that I wasn't conceived at the ideal time for them. Apparently, the ideal time was six months after the adoption, when they conceived the first of my two brothers. FML
Today, I lashed out at the father of my son for not doing anything for the baby. He replied, “I never did shit for you to begin with, didn’t you watch the preview? You knew what you were getting yourself into.” FML
Today, my mom told me that she had great news: we were going to meet my biological parents. I didn't know I was adopted. FML
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lovertolover 4
Talk about a soap opera in the making.
docscientist 10
You're right, he should've left him in a dumpster.
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kateheartswaffle 0
It's horrible for both of them. Having to give up a child is unimaginay difficult and heartbreaking I'd imagine. Possibly the child (now adult) went through some abuse at bad foster homes or orphanages and is hurt now? I mean.. It's more like F(BOTH)YL
desireev 18
I completely agree with your comment. So don't think I'm harping you in any way. But America doesn't have orphanages. Also, when a child is adopted, they wouldn't go through foster homes or orphanages. Just thought I'd let you know. :)
ladyLALAA 29
How do you know that the child wasn't in some sort of foster care before he was adopted?
K_kanaka 26
Gee OP I'm sorry that happened. Give your son some time for this, it must of been such a shock for him to meet you. There were probably a lot of bottled up emotions inside him about being adopted and he just didn't know how to handle meeting you at the time. If anything try to take time with him don't rush it.
Ergayles 9
Honestly, this is another fml where I ask how op deserves this. Read the fml he put his son up for adoption, which is probably best for the son. He didn't do like some dads and just flat out run away and leave the mother to raise him herself, in that case he would deserve that punch. I think it's good that op if trying to make amends with him. I wish you the best of luck op.
easton222 2
Ydi for having a god damn baby and not being ready to take care of it. Nobody should feel sorry for you.
K_kanaka 26
I bet both OP and his son would punch you for saying that. Don't assume OP deserves it or if he doesn't deserve it. If we don't fully know why OP's son was adopted then we shouldn't be the ones to criticize.
desireev 18
^^^ completely agree with you 101. The only person that OP owes an explanation to is his son. And the only person who can rightfully decide whether or not OP deserved it is his son.
JadeWalker 14
Exactly, sex is a choice and if your ready to have sex, your ready to handle the consequences of sex.
lreiss 0
Me being an adopted child can see why maybe he was so mad but if you gave him up for adoption I would assume it was because you couldn't do it yourself? No need for him to punch you.
graceh316 10
im adopted and ik if i met my real parents i would possibly b very skeptical about eerything -i wont punch them tho ..at least its physical hurt cuz tht will go away he could have said so many nasty things tht would hurt and last longer mentally goodluck!
doumtabarnack 12
God knows that you ******* deserved it....NOW you can make amends
chellyX92 8
I don't see how they deserved it. We don't know why they gave their child up. At least they took the time and effort to locate their child. Sorry the child had bitter feelings for you, we honestly can't blame them but you don't deserve it :-/
meetmewithmusic 0
I'm adopted, you deserved it.
chellyX92 8
What does that have to do with anything?
Medic3 4
Well....at least you hadn't named him 'Sue' (Apologies to Johnny Cash)
Medic3 4
Although in fairness, JC just performed it (well). Shel Silverstein wrote the lyrics.
perdix 31
Boo-yah! You beat me to it! Good on ya!