Today, I bailed my brother out of jail for violating a restraining order filed against him by his ex. I dropped him off at the place he told me he was staying at. Turned out it was his ex's house, and now he's in jail again. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I had to bail my ex-husband out of jail. He didn't want his new wife to get mad at him. FML
Today, I had to bail my brother out of jail because he started a fight with a guy who didn't like owls. FML
Today, I got to drop off my boyfriend at his newest place of residence: jail. FML
Today, upon getting the paperwork for my Court Diversion, I found out I had to write an apology letter to my brother. The brother who sent me to jail for trying to get him to stop abusing his girlfriend, and holding him instead of fighting when he charged at me. FML
Today, my brother was arrested for starting a fistfight at a funeral. He didn't even know the deceased; he's just been crashing funerals recently, hoping to hook up with mourners. I'm not sure who's more pathetic: him for doing such a thing, or me for bailing his fucking dumb arse out of jail. FML
Today, my ex got arrested for stealing. His new girlfriend texted me asking if I could lend her money to bail him out. FML
Today, I had to bail my husband out from jail for almost killing someone. What happened? He and my sister-in-law were in an grocery store when she spotted his old high school nemesis, who back then was the biggest bully in school. She thought that it would be "exciting" to see what would happen if their paths crossed again. FML
Today, my boyfriend finally met my brother. He arrested him for drunk driving. FML
Today, my now ex-boyfriend called me from jail, expecting me to bail him out. He'd tried to buy a load of booze at the liquor store and came up short by ten cents. The cashier refused to be short-changed, and he figured the only reasonable reaction was to punch her in the face. FML
Today, I've been guilt tripped, ranted at, called names, ostracized and told what a horrible person I am for, "turning my back on family." My former brother is in jail for unspeakable crimes, yet somehow I’m the bad guy for not standing by and supporting him or offering to help pay for a lawyer. FML
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nickie_94 18
You shouldn't have bailed him out at all. Just leave him in there so his ex can be safe.
Roaster94 5
Sounds like you aren't too close to him, so I'm surprised you bailed him out in the first place.
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Comments (69)
Calingaladha 21
Tell his ex to get a big dog. They're one of the best deterrents for burglars, maybe it'll work on batshit crazy exes.
gracehi 33
Better yet, a gun, provided it's legal where the ex lives.
sirrubberduckie 37
#36, guns are not as good at deterring people as dogs are, and who says his ex knows how to handle a gun? Most people with guns at home end up hurt or killed by those same guns. Not so with dogs.
abnormaalz 7
k are you gonna feed the dog then #27
more4me 27
Dumbass!
RogueWarrior869 23
Did the ex have something your brother wanted or maybe was taken from him? Was he trying too hard to get back together with his ex? I don't wanna immediately jump onto the he's a horrible person with unsavory intentions train because we really don't know the details on that. I do hope he learns from this experience and moves on though. And I doubt the police will allow a second bail. It does suck you lost your money on that first one, but your heart was in the right place. Wishing you the best op!
kafka13 9
well i guess restraining order wasn't filed against him accidentally
GamerG0DDESS 29
If it was something like an item he wanted back, he should've had someone else get it for him. What he did was wrong and very unsettling.
klutzyduck1 24
I know people are going to hate on you regardless, but having arrested many people for restraining orders, the protected party often contacts the person with the RO. I've seen countless people use it as emotional control. It's a mandatory arrest (here), so it doesn't matter who initiated the contact. A RO is a civil order, given by the judge, based on one persons' statement. There are always three sides to every story: yours, theirs and the truth. I'm not saying there are not righteous RO, or a reason they exist. I've just seen them used in petty ways too.
DoomedGemini 38
It IS used that way, but the brother had his brother drop him at the exs house. I doubt she talked him into it with op there and he even said it was HIS house. It sounds more like it's fully needed with his behavior.
FenderM 5
The original restraining order that lasts until the first court date is based on one person's word and any proof they have. The actual restraining order involved a court hearing and is not so simply based on just one person's word. I had to prove we were in danger, which I was able to do with copies of communications, solid documenting, letters from the social workers involved, and ER reports. It is not simply he said, she said, at that point. It does not matter why OP's brother broke the restraining order. It CERTAINLY does not when he did it again, that is terrifying. Many battered partners reach out to their abuser afterwards, it's a complicated situation made worse by the battered partner having been trained to disregard their own safety in favor of their abuser's feelings. That's why it's still breaking the order if she contacted him. Because she is not yet free of the total mind screwage that came with the battering and is not quite ready to be able to keep herself safe from him. OP, please, please do not help your brother terrorize his ex any more. I loved my ex's family, but this is exactly why I cut them all out of our lives afterwards.
legendof90 14
How did you mistake a house for a olive station
tomvertigo 17
Blood is not always thicker than water. He owes you that bail money and you owe him nothing. Let him make his own mistakes.
Ilovelife93 9
Some people never learn! Sorry that happened to you , OP!
funnysht420 4
FML should add 2 new options for votes. "That's hilarious!" And "That's f'd up..." because half the time that's what I want to click!
genshift 8
Lesson learned: leave him there.
LyricaSilvan 30
No offense, but your brother is kind of an idiot.
mrdvs31 3
you big DUMMY