Today, because my fiancé is criminally incompetent at budgeting, I'm now having to pay the first installment for my own wedding ring. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML
Today, I had to sell my wedding ring to help me pay for my divorce. FML
Today, I was shopping for rings with my fiancée. We spent over two hours selecting the perfect ring and diamond to match. When filling out the paperwork I discovered I left my wallet at home. She had to pay the 20% down payment for the ring. FML
Today, my fiancé pawned off my engagement ring so he could buy himself a PS4. FML
Today, I was out with my boyfriend, when he started browsing wedding rings. He found a ring, proposed to me right there in front of a crowd, and then was promptly denied a payment plan. We left without a ring. FML
Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he's prepared to commit to marriage, but only if I buy my own ring and tell everyone he surprised me with it. FML
Today, my fiancé told me he wants to buy an engagement ring for his mother, so that she doesn't feel left out. FML
Today, I found out that my engagement ring was actually my husband's ex-fiancée's. FML
Today, I found out my boyfriend, who is buying me a ring for my birthday, is buying my best friend a ring that cost 10 times more than mine. FML
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Top comments
expertsmilee 26
I understand how love is a complicated thing, but something in your brain has GOT to be saying this is a bad start and is probably a sign of how things are going to be going forward.
thestoryofacaleb 14
You chose to say yes, OP.
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Comments (88)
Bragi 12
Ummmm....? OP, that's a warning. If you go through with this you'll regret it. Leave now or YDI.
Bluepies 24
Sad to see so many comments encouraging dumping a fiance for the sole reason that he can't pay for expensive jewelry.
iiTzNeeNerz 26
It's more along the like of buying something you can't afford. It could lead to more financial troubles later on.
Corey122726 17
I'll play devils advocate here and say that maybe she pushed him into buying it and prior to this ring he had his budget figured out. We don't know everything about them from one FML post.
thenetflox 4
That's stupid because why would she be complaining if she was the one who pushed him to get that specific ring? She's complaining that he picked out the ring then couldn't properly pay for it which is a bad sign in a relationship when you can't budget
ShadowLor 19
It doesn't say he picked it out either. Honestly she could be a self entitled brat who demanded a huge sparkly wedding set and destroyed her fiancée's budget with her extravagant tastes OR he could have decided to splurge on a hundred Twinkies or something and wasted a couple paychecks. We don't know.
rykelmb 12
I paid for my ring and my husband's. He'd just put down a huge down payment for our truck. He surprised me with a beautiful guard for my ring for our anniversary. Now he manages our budget and I'm a SAHM. I wanted to stay home for our son's first year and will work soon. It's not always a bad thing.
9a_1z 12
Could you swap it for a cheaper one while he saves up for the expensive one? I know it isn't ideal but you can get some nice simple ones to act as a placeholder, surely it's better than starting married life struggling to pay for it?
suri23 11
Seems like there is a conflict in your financials styles. IMHO,straighten this out before the wedding.
Core5555 9
My first husband picked out and surprised me with an expensive engagement ring. He couldn't pay for it. Our entire marriage was me bailing him out of debt. I finally left him after he'd sunk us hundreds of thousands in debt. We both made just over minimum wage. I was homeless for a year, paying off all the debt he accrued in my name. It took me 5 years to get back to square one again. And he wanted the engagement ring he didn't pay for back. Don't marry someone who can't manage their own finances. You will regret it.
kenyrabit 25
Marriage is a partnership. You'll both need to learn that if you want something, it's a shared expense.
moodyreallyrocks 27
Love trumps all obsticles!!
Talis99 26
Maybe you all ought to rethink jumping into something that pools your finances. Unless you get a prenup or something, he could drag you into mountains of debt. I may not personally buy into this whole "men are responsible for all the finances" and the engagement rings having to be so expensive and stuff, but this shouldn't happen regardless.
Beepee04 10
My mom helped my dad pay for her engagement ring & she didn't care. I don't really think it's a big deal to split the cost. When you're in a relationship that serious the money belongs to both parties anyway so his money is her money & vice versa.