Today, during my weekly search through my daughter’s phone, I found out she joined a number of Facebook groups I didn’t know about. They were all about surviving toxic and abusive mothers. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I found out I have a daughter. How did I find out? She added me on Facebook. FML
Today, I logged onto Facebook and found out that my own mother unfriended me because she didn't want her new boyfriend to know that she had a daughter. FML
Today, I'm ashamed at ever having become a parent after I found out my daughter has been leading an online bullying campaign against a girl at her school who has disabilities, both mental and physical. Some of the language she was using in the online messages were just disgusting and unforgivable. FML
Today, my daughter posted a poem on Facebook about how her father and I abused her for years. It's a complete lie and an obvious attempt to impress her boyfriend, whom she thanked for "rescuing" her. I've received several hateful messages already, along with threats to report me to CPS. FML
Today, I found out that the man I met online was a fake Facebook account, made by my daughter and her friends. FML
Today, some girl's mom gave me a load of abuse for endangering her daughter's health. How? By deleting my Facebook account, which caused her to have a serious panic attack. Apparently she thought we were best friends, and that I was ditching her. I'm confused too. FML
Today, I found out that my mom uses my Facebook account more than I do. FML
Today, I found out that my daughter has a hit list. There are over thirty names on there. My name is on it as well. FML
Today, I Googled myself. I found my mugshot and a blog my mom had written about how much of a problem child I am. FML
Today, I discovered my husband has a secret Facebook where he is a member of many step dad support groups. I thought it was sweet he was asking for advice, until I read some of what he posted. It was purely ranting about how much he hates my kids to other dads, who also hate their step kids. FML
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Top comments
turnabouttrial 21
Easy YDI. Your children are humans, and humans need privacy. Helicopter parenting teaches kids how to hide things from you, not good behavior. You love her, right? Then trust her to make good decisions and be there for her when she makes mistakes, and then MAYBE you'll earn her trust too.
Justkidding100 41
never voted YDI faster in my life
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Comments (16)
Rake 18
If she knows you look through her phone, she is probably trying to tell you something. If she doesn't she is probably right.
ImperialAgent 2
Honestly well deserved if you are spying on every aspect of your daughter’s life. You are teaching your daughter how to hide things especially snooping through her phone.
Taurus_ChicKa 37
The fact that you're going through her phone - WEEKLY - shows exactly why she feels the need to join such groups. I get wanting to look after your kid, but depending on her age, she is entitled to privacy. But this sounds like you're being a horribly overbearing helicopter parent. Sounds like you both need help.
great_nate 26
I guess you don’t understand irony.
rebelwithmouseyhair 18
Wow the fact that you could write that and not realise how bad it makes you look ... You are toxic, in case you hadn't understood. Your daughter will be learning to deal with your toxic behaviour from those groups. She'll put you on an information diet, she'll learn to hide what she doesn't want you to see, and at the earliest opportunity she'll go no or low contact. Unless you take this as a lesson and a warning, and learn to behave decently towards her. I suppose it might be possible. Get to it now, start by googling "how not to be toxic".
idragosani 17
Why are you expecting sympathy here?