Anonymous
🌶️ Spicy
Sexless in Seattle
Today, it's become clear I might have married the only man on the planet who doesn't care about sex. FML
Collection
Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Same thing different taste
Unsatisfied
Canada 🌶️ Spicy
Today, I found the only man who hates sex. He's my boyfriend. FML
OverIt
Winchester, United States 🌶️ Spicy
Score!
Today, I talked to my husband about his lack of interest in sex. Apparently his definition is polar to mine; his is along the lines of cuddling. Not only did I wait until marriage to have sex with this man, apparently he prefers a permanent roommate without benefits. FML
nolove
Australia 🌶️ Spicy
Today, the love of my life, and long term partner, sat me down and told me that he feels so comfortable in our relationship that he no longer feels the need to have sex with me, and he doesn't think that that will ever change. FML
newlywed
United States 🌶️ Spicy
Today, I married a wonderful man. Even though both of us were no longer virgins, we decided to wait until marriage to sleep together. He just told me I was the worst he's ever had. FML
Anonymous
United States 🌶️ Spicy
Today, I realized that my fiancé only touches me when he wants to have sex. Any other contact is purely accidental. FML
anonomus
United States 🌶️ Spicy
True Love Waits
Today, my husband and I had sex for the first time because we pledged we wouldn't have sex until we were married. He's terrible. FML
Anonymous
Herndon, United States 🌶️ Spicy
That was quick
Today, my husband told me he doesn't see me in a sexual light. Too bad we've only been married for 3 months. FML
Anonymous
United States 🌶️ Spicy
Not going well, is it?
Today, I've been married for six months, my husband and I are in our early twenties, and not only does he have absolutely no interest in any kind of sexual act with me, he actually becomes angry and irritated when I try to come on to him. FML
Miss_Blaine
Houston, United States
Today, I learned that my husband and I share the same taste in men. FML
ohyey
Norway 🌶️ Spicy
Dead bed
Today, I discovered that my wife isn't cheating on me after all, as I'd feared. We just don't have sex anymore. FML
Top comments
Charlie Given 28
Then its time for a serious talk about your relationship with your husband this is kind of a red flag, it could be for alot of different reasons (sexual confidence issues, impotence, infidelity, asexual, etc.) I personally went thru something similar foolishly stayed for years only to finally realize I was nothing more to her than basically the home "bitch" if ya get what I'm saying.
BadAtPuns 24
First of all, men are just as likely as women to be uninterested in sex. It's not "super rare" as people seem to think. Secondly, have a conversation. Find out the reason; if he's never had a sex drive, it could be hormonal, or it could simply be that's he's asexual. In the former case, there are medical options. In the later case, further conversation required to see if he's the kind who hates sex, or if he's still perfectly happy to make an arrangement to suit your needs, or somewhere in between. Your needs are important to a healthy relationship, but there might need to be some back and forth til you find the least difficult arrangement. Either way, if he covered for this fact, or lied about it, you'll want to hash it out with him that that isn't cool. If it's not that he's never had one, then it's probably a medical issue (there are dozens) and you'll need to discuss with him how much it bothers you and how much it bothers him as to whether he's going to seek diagnosis and treatment. But can we please, as a society, stop thinking of men as super sexual, or that there's something 'wrong' with them if they aren't? It's perfectly fine for people not to be interested in sex, and if it's being caused by a medical problem, making them feel "broken" will just make them that much more miserable and treatment that much harder.
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Charlie Given 28
Then its time for a serious talk about your relationship with your husband this is kind of a red flag, it could be for alot of different reasons (sexual confidence issues, impotence, infidelity, asexual, etc.) I personally went thru something similar foolishly stayed for years only to finally realize I was nothing more to her than basically the home "bitch" if ya get what I'm saying.
RebeccaMcQ 15
or they just dont have any libido
Mara Malayin 4
My husband is the same way. It is maybe a once a week ordeal when I’d prefer to have it at least once a day. We are very happily married, he just has low testosterone and has a stressful job. It doesn’t always mean something is wrong in the relationship.
peachezthelette 22
nope, mine doesn't care for it either
timinator5000 28
Damn :( that's a shame
peachezthelette 22
it really is
demix_fml 32
Same with mine .
RichardPencil 32
Did you not know this before you got married? The good news is finding a side piece is easy for women.
Major_Haywire 7
Depends, she might have a face like a burst Wellington
bl3ur0z3 17
Be careful. My sister in law married a man with zero interest in sex. Except, apparently, with her 14yo daughter. Men who legitimately have no sex drive do exist, but they're rare.
jbuckets_404 39
Have hubby see his doctor for testing. He may just need testosterone-boosting (or his thyroid is out of whack possibly) and he'll certainly be better "off" for it both physically & mentally. Good luck, OP! :-)
Mara Malayin 4
Oh thanks for the thyroid tip! My husband has a super low sex drive and we chalked it up to low testosterone, but he has been having so much trouble losing weight too...definitely going to get that tested.
fmlalldaynow 19
honestly I don't care to much in sex because of the fact of it being ruined and or used as a reward or a materialistic object for instance my ex use to use sex against me saying no sex for a week so I always doubled it saying make it two weeks idk that's how I am I just hate how something sensual and loving gets used like it's a ball in someones court do this and you'll get this or else none at all like wtf is that
Inkoseh 33
That is a completely different subject, AND THAT issue lies in whom you have a relationship with. OP has a husband now who seems to have switched libido overnight. It's not withholding sex in a power position.
fmlalldaynow 19
:)
AmbrosiaFan 19
Was he sex crazed before he married you? I mean, lack of sex drive should be very noticeable... He might want to get checked out.
bass_ftp 12
Have you considered he might be depressed? Even if he doesn’t realize what it is? It’s a common symptom.
rnroy1995 12
You should have a conversation with him about it. Your boyfriend might just prefer the emotional connection over the physical side. If you explain your needs he should understand. I've been here and if he understands then everything should improve, you may just have to be the one to initiate the sexual situations most times though.
BadAtPuns 24
First of all, men are just as likely as women to be uninterested in sex. It's not "super rare" as people seem to think. Secondly, have a conversation. Find out the reason; if he's never had a sex drive, it could be hormonal, or it could simply be that's he's asexual. In the former case, there are medical options. In the later case, further conversation required to see if he's the kind who hates sex, or if he's still perfectly happy to make an arrangement to suit your needs, or somewhere in between. Your needs are important to a healthy relationship, but there might need to be some back and forth til you find the least difficult arrangement. Either way, if he covered for this fact, or lied about it, you'll want to hash it out with him that that isn't cool. If it's not that he's never had one, then it's probably a medical issue (there are dozens) and you'll need to discuss with him how much it bothers you and how much it bothers him as to whether he's going to seek diagnosis and treatment. But can we please, as a society, stop thinking of men as super sexual, or that there's something 'wrong' with them if they aren't? It's perfectly fine for people not to be interested in sex, and if it's being caused by a medical problem, making them feel "broken" will just make them that much more miserable and treatment that much harder.