Today, my boyfriend of 10 years won’t marry me until all my debts are paid off, which will take me 10 to 12 years to do. To add insult to injury, he’s been using intimacy as part of a reward system for me, and no matter how hard I try to earn it and as much as I initiate like he wants, he keeps turning me down. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my boyfriend is 34 years-old. We’ve been together for 5 years. He refuses to propose to me because “marriage is expensive” and “kids drain your wallet.” That would be understandable if he hasn’t spent the majority of his paychecks on March Madness. FML
Today, I found out why my boyfriend of 5 years won't propose/marry me. He would rather wait for his estranged wife to meet someone, fall in love, decide to get married, and do the filing herself. He doesn't want to pay the couple of hundred dollars for the uncontested divorce filing. FML
Today, it's been 10 months of a sexless marriage. Also my 10-month wedding anniversary. We waited until marriage, and she hasn't wanted me since. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 5 years said that he wants to marry and spend his life with me. But first he wants to go be wild and single for a few years before settling down. Not only does he not see a problem with this, he expects me to wait and be faithful to him while he “gets it out of his system”. FML
Today, it's been a week since my boyfriend has touched me or even paid attention to me, because I refuse to buy him a car. I do everything for him and he owes me $3,000 already, but when I cried about using my savings on him, he said, "That’s not my problem.” FML
Today, my boyfriend, who is 10 years older than me, told me that he never wanted to get married and that he felt bad for wasting all of my time, and he just "doesn't want the responsibility of being in a relationship." After 12 years. I just found out he's dating a younger girl. FML
Today, my boyfriend of two years asked me to marry him so that we can consolidate our student loans. FML
Today, my boyfriend said that being with me was his payment for past sins. FML
Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML
Today, my long-term boyfriend still does not want to get married and file our taxes jointly, but rather wants to claim me as a “dependent” so he gets a bigger refund. FML
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cookiemonster372 1
go find happiness elsewhere. he doesn’t deserve you and he sounds toxic af. set yourself free and don’t hold yourself down to someone who isn’t fully there for you. just keep swimming you’ll get through this.
angus 17
He’s messing you around. Sounds like a manipulative abuse pattern you feel stuck in. Marry someone else who cares and loves you unconditionally
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cookiemonster372 1
go find happiness elsewhere. he doesn’t deserve you and he sounds toxic af. set yourself free and don’t hold yourself down to someone who isn’t fully there for you. just keep swimming you’ll get through this.
angus 17
He’s messing you around. Sounds like a manipulative abuse pattern you feel stuck in. Marry someone else who cares and loves you unconditionally
GoogieWithers 25
He sounds manipulative. Leave him and find love elsewhere.
Chazzster 32
Sounds like bad news on both sides and both would be better off starting over with someone else… BF doesn’t want responsibility for the debts his GF ran up. But he’s being manipulative in how he deals with the situation…. Bad news all around and time for a clean start.
FluffythePink 23
Please register the communist parade of red flags this behaviour is and get out. It's only going to get worse, not better. As Reddit is so fond of saying: when someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
jamburny 1
Form of abuse. Detaching can be hard but you will love yourself and learn your worth more for it