Today, yet another guy friend-zoned me for being overweight when I asked him to hang out. I have Hashimoto's disease and it’s really hard for me to lose weight. I eat decently and take 20 minute walks daily. I wish I could go to an island where less superficial jerks lived so I can have a chance at love. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, a guy I was into and who denied me because he “saw me as a friend only” began to date another girl. I asked him, “Why her and not me?” and he wouldn’t tell me. After pestering him, he finally caved in, saying, “Fine, plus sized girls are not my thing. Happy now?” So in other words, I have to lose weight to find love. FML
Today, I realized that I’m undateable because of my weight. I’m 33. My entire life, I’ve always been dated in secret, guys went out with me to make fun of me behind my back, always got cheated on, always get friendzoned, etc. It’s not fair that I have to change my body type to get my chance at happily ever after. FML
Today, I was called fatphobic for rejecting an overweight man who asked me on a date. I don’t know how to force myself to be attracted to fat people. There’s just nothing there. FML
Today, I realized how fucked up the dating world is when I noticed girls wanting to be all over me once I lost 65 pounds. This girl who put me in the friendzone three years ago is now wanting to latch onto me. It makes me want to not try because apparently, love is conditional. I quit. FML
Today, I heard the guy I love talk to a friend of his. He was telling his friend how he appreciates all my attention, affection, and random gestures such as buying him lunch sometimes, but he’ll never see me in a romantic way because I’m “too fat for his taste.” I was basically used the entire time. FML
Today, I came to realize that dating as an overweight girl sucks. I can’t get a guy to commit/stay to save my life. I go on dating apps, and when we exchange photos or meet in person they abandon me. I know that this will change if I lose weight, but is it wrong for me to want to be loved for who I am? FML
Today, the man I've liked for so long asked me out on a date. Three years ago I fell for him and he denied me unless I "lost 100lbs” Now I've lost about 85lbs (not because of him, but for myself) and he wants to give me the time of day. I still like him, but I feel like I have to watch my weight to keep him if I say “Yes.” FML
Today, the only girl who likes me is a girl who is overweight and uses body acceptance as a reason to get mad at me for turning her down. Call me shallow but as someone who works out frequently, I don't want someone who douses herself with tattoos, thinking guys will fetishize her, instead of self-care. FML
Today, I realized that in order to get a girl, I have to lose 100lbs and/or get facial reconstruction. If I meet a girl, we get close, I do everything to make her happy, only to be told, “I only like you as a friend.” I also get told that I’d make a “great boyfriend” yet they don’t choose me. Being overlooked sucks. FML
Today, the guy who friendzoned me asked me why I’ve been acting distant towards him. I told him that I refuse to give boyfriend benefits to someone who made it clear that we’re just friends any longer. He responded with, “Well, if you weren’t built like Lizzo before her weight loss, I wouldn’t have friendzoned you!” FML
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GoogieWithers 25
Everyone has different tastes. There will be someone who finds you as attractive as you find them.
dreams2383 20
I highly reccoment using a full body pic online so the person will pick you for you and they'll know ahead of time.
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Comments (5)
Rake 18
Not judging you specifically, but lot of over weight people I know do the some to other over weight people. I mean it sounds resonable that people who are in a similar place in life will understand you better. Maybe you should try it out.
copalolita 17
You’ll find someone who looks at your beautiful self. Those superficial jerks who deny you will end up old, alone and miserable for the rest of their lives. People who judge based on appearance rather than integrity seldom make it that far in life - at least romantically. Nowadays people are brainwashed to today’s “beauty” standards and that causes them to be superficial. Their lack of maturity has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. Don’t give up hope.
anony_mouse 5
So in other words, OP is entitled to whomever they want and everyone else is allowed neither agency nor the right to not be romantically interested in OP? God, you sound completely entitled and full of shit.
copalolita 17
No, what I’m saying is that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. Instead of writing someone off for the way they look you should get to know them. Not all that glitters is gold. You sound like a disrespectful judgemental person. Have a quality day.
GoogieWithers 25
Everyone has different tastes. There will be someone who finds you as attractive as you find them.
dreams2383 20
I highly reccoment using a full body pic online so the person will pick you for you and they'll know ahead of time.
Perry Winkle 6
Love yourself first