Today, I realized how fucked up the dating world is when I noticed girls wanting to be all over me once I lost 65 pounds. This girl who put me in the friendzone three years ago is now wanting to latch onto me. It makes me want to not try because apparently, love is conditional. I quit. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, a guy I was into and who denied me because he “saw me as a friend only” began to date another girl. I asked him, “Why her and not me?” and he wouldn’t tell me. After pestering him, he finally caved in, saying, “Fine, plus sized girls are not my thing. Happy now?” So in other words, I have to lose weight to find love. FML
Today, I realized that in order to get a girl, I have to lose 100lbs and/or get facial reconstruction. If I meet a girl, we get close, I do everything to make her happy, only to be told, “I only like you as a friend.” I also get told that I’d make a “great boyfriend” yet they don’t choose me. Being overlooked sucks. FML
Today, I came to realize that dating as an overweight girl sucks. I can’t get a guy to commit/stay to save my life. I go on dating apps, and when we exchange photos or meet in person they abandon me. I know that this will change if I lose weight, but is it wrong for me to want to be loved for who I am? FML
Today, I realized that I’m undateable because of my weight. I’m 33. My entire life, I’ve always been dated in secret, guys went out with me to make fun of me behind my back, always got cheated on, always get friendzoned, etc. It’s not fair that I have to change my body type to get my chance at happily ever after. FML
Today, I decided to quit dating. I'm a plus-sized girl and I can’t get a guy to save my life. On dating apps they run for the hills when they see my full body. I even tried dating plus-size guys and even they have standards. I fucking hate society’s “ideal” beauty norms. FML
Today, at the age of 34, I realized every girl since high school who has dated me, only dated me because they had low self-esteem or were rebounding. The second they found someone they thought was better, they would leave me. Will I find someone who actually wants to be with me? FML
Today, I saw a girl I haven't seen in 4 years. She used to like me back then. Since then I have lost 50 pounds, and never had the confidence to ask her out. She said I looked really sexy so I decided to ask her out on a date then and there. She said no, she only likes fat guys. FML
Today, a guy I know asked me out after me losing 75lbs. I declined because I don’t want to be with someone who only wants me for my body. I asked him, “Where was this energy two years ago when I was 75lbs heavier?” He replied, “Can you blame me?” And people wonder why us women choose the bear. FML
Today, I heard the guy I love talk to a friend of his. He was telling his friend how he appreciates all my attention, affection, and random gestures such as buying him lunch sometimes, but he’ll never see me in a romantic way because I’m “too fat for his taste.” I was basically used the entire time. FML
Today, yet another guy friend-zoned me for being overweight when I asked him to hang out. I have Hashimoto's disease and it’s really hard for me to lose weight. I eat decently and take 20 minute walks daily. I wish I could go to an island where less superficial jerks lived so I can have a chance at love. FML
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DLBL 23
You just now figured that out. Girls know this from 5th grade.
copalolita 16
So whats gonnna happen if your SO gets in an accident and becomes disfigured? You’re gonna leave them?
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catalysty 23
unfortunately for many people, physical attraction comes first and if they arent attracted to you, they arent interested in being more than friends.
copalolita 16
So whats gonnna happen if your SO gets in an accident and becomes disfigured? You’re gonna leave them?
catalysty 23
i said attraction comes first - not if physical attraction fades, so does love. People dont agree to date people they arent attracted to for the most part. Once love develops in the relationship physical attraction can become secondary because you become more attracted to who they are than what they look like.
copalolita 16
So basically judge a book by its cover. If people’s attraction is on physical appearance, they could overlook someone who could actually be good for them which is self sabotage. People are more than their physical appearance. That said, if you only noticed someone for their looks and not their personality your relationship wont go very far. Especially not when looks fade over time.
SAgirl 23
So what you are saying is that you are upset because girl think you look better?
DLBL 23
You just now figured that out. Girls know this from 5th grade.
copalolita 16
Yeah unfortunately people are shallow pricks. People wanna overlook you and then spin the block when you have a glow up. Finding someone who isn’t a superficial jerk is like finding a needle in a haystack. Don’t quit. You’ll find someone who appreciates you inside and out and not your looks.
JasonThorn 23
One. "Love at first sight" uses one sense of the human body. SIGHT. Two. There is ALSO the chance that they thought you had no interest in improvement until you lost the weight. The unfortunate truth is that much of the time, being successful in dating means becoming someone people want to date. (Note: this usually means someone making the effort to improve themselves in at least one way.)
GoogieWithers 25
Women go through this all the time. If they lose weight, wear make-up or start to look after themselves they get more attention. At school girls are judged by their physical appearance rather than who they are. Have you realised that now you have lost some weight, you are probably happier and more confident too?