Dude, step up your game

*OP's choice.

*and the father's to some degree. Of course it's OP's body and therefore she has the last say, but it's not only her child so the father's decision should be included. (Although the father in this case doesn't really seem to care, I'm just stating my general opinion)

#18, It is 100% OP's choice. If she wants one, good for her for choosing. If she wants to give birth and raise it, good for her. If she wants to put it up for adoption, another good for her. She doesn't need anyone telling her what to do with her body.

Except that if it's 100% her choice, that gives the father no choices at all. If she wants it and he doesn't he should be able to sign a waiver absolving him of all responsibilities for said child now. How is it fair if he doesn't want it and she just says I do so that's it. Yeah, it's her body, I get that. I'm not saying she should be forced into abortion, but you're basically forcing the father to have the child as well, when nobody would force the mother to. And saying he shouldn't have had sex then is an invalid argument because he wasn't the only one having sex. It takes two to get pregnant, it should require two to make the birth/abortion decision.

Again who said protection was not used. Protection is not 100% all the time.

I'll never understand why people jump to abortions.. Unless you can't physically give birth, you could always just man the **** up and raise the kid, or adopt it out to a couple who want kids, but are not able to. I understand everyone has the right to make their own decision, but there are better ways than to abort.

If you feel that you cannot provide your child with the life that they deserve or don't want to entrust your kid's upbringing to someone else then abortion is an entirely valid option.

Here's something you probably haven't considered: over-population. Isn't there enough poor, starving, unwanted children around already? Carrying capacity is real and we may have already breached it. It's not popular to think about, but it's the truth. And there are plenty of orphans already for those people that can't have kids. Let's not keep adding to the problem.

#47, Says the man who will never know what it's like to have to make that choice

I understand your reasoning and I feel if someone chooses to abort they have every right to. I just personally don't agree with it, except under certain situations. Just trying to state my views on the topic. My apologies if my other comment came off the wrong way.

#63, you don't have to agree with it, that's fine. Just know that it's a very touchy subject for women who are tired of being told what to do with their bodies. And regardless of what people think it's not an easy choice to make

Abortion should be illegal. Tell women what to with their bodies? Why don't women just not have sex. Guys are told that when they don't want a child so women should be to.

You're a Douche Bag. Woooooohoooooooo Just sayin

Because God forbid a man doesn't do what you want, take his money! That'll show him!

No its call child support.

@49 Seriously? It's not a matter of a man "doing what you want". It's called taking financial responsibility for something that you contributed to. OP at least deserves financial compensation if this guy isn't going to actually take any real, physical responsibility over the child. Both parties know what's at risk when it comes to having sex.

hey it takes two to make a kid if he didnt want a baby then he should of used protection !

Cut all ties with that loser. He's probably not going to pay child support anyways and your kids are better off never knowing who their dad is.

45, are you serious? First of all, not having money for a huge flat doesn't mean he won't pay child support or will be a bad dad. Secondly, why would you deny a father his children and vice versa if he never did any harm to them? I really hope you're joking.

Neither of those things are valid reasons to keep a child from a parent. All he needs to do is call an exterminator. They are his kids too. He has just as much of a right to have them with him as you do. It's sad that your hatred towards him is stronger than your love for your twins.

It seems like she's saying he wants full custody.

If she is fighting for full custody, then he has just as much of a right to fight back for full custody, so if that's the case it wouldn't change anything. This is exactly where parents having equal rights to their kids comes in. A mother is not entitled to have more time with her kids and at the expense of their father. Have joint 50/50 custody. It doesn't matter if one parent doesn't want that. What's in the best interest of the kids is more important than a parent's wants or feelings. Wanting to keep kids away from their father because you hate him is the opposite of doing what's in the best interest of the kids. It's a petty, passive-aggressive way of using your kids as pawns to try to enact some form of punishment on the "scum" that you think is so beneath you.

i think alot of you are reading her comment wrong, she was not saying she didnt want to keep her kids from their dad. she said "by a man who thinks her twins ,would be better off without him". that is not her denying him custody ! that is him trying to get out of being a parent, by using the kids will be better off without him excuse.

Read the comment again. It says "...by a man who thinks my twins would be better off WITH him and his new girlfriend IN their two bedroom..." He wants his kids WITH him, not without him. He wants his kids IN his apartment, not out of it. He is trying to take responsibility for his actions and be a father to those twins. Those twins are just as much his as they are hers. If she refuses to let him see his own kids, then he has every right to fight for 50/50 joint custody and he should fight for joint custody.