Today, my future mother-in-law informed me that since she is putting money into our wedding, that all the planning and arrangements are under her authority. FML
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Today, my soon-to-be mother-in-law decided that she is going to be in charge of planning my wedding. All decisions must be approved by her, and anything she doesn't like will be thrown out. She also wants to go on our honeymoon with us to make sure I don't "defile" her son. FML
Today, my mother-in-law became my boss. FML
Today, I was talking to my future mother-in-law about my upcoming wedding. She told me that I wasn't allowed to have the wedding at a church, nor wear a white dress, nor have roses for flowers, because that would mean I'd be "copying" her. FML
Today, my future mother-in-law finally admitted that I'm "not the girl for her son" and that she will do anything to break us up. FML
Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML
Today, I called my mom to make sure she could attend on the wedding day my fiancé and I had discussed. She started off with criticizing the venue we considered, then went on to criticize my fiancé, and then stated she would under no circumstances help out, but demanded to pick my wedding dress. FML
Today, a week after my fiancé and I got engaged, his mother is already complaining that she isn't involved enough in the wedding arrangements. We haven't even set a date yet. FML
Today, I found out my daughter was planning a wedding and invited everyone but me. FML
Today, I'm getting married. A few months ago, I allowed my mother in-law to take care of catering. She begged to be a part of the wedding, so I gave her the caterer's number and order info. It appears that I will not be eating at my own wedding because she decided to order food I'm allergic to. FML
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Top comments
biggary19 3
stand up to the bicth now unless u wanna hear her shit 4 the rest of ur life
chosha_fml 27
Have a smaller wedding and tell her that you can't accept her help if it's conditional. This isn't the way to start a marriage, with her asserting her authority over your decisions.
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Comments (335)
doublebluff 1
just refuse her contribution. easy fix.
Wezl8 0
Agreed, give her money back and send her an invited with a small notation at the bottom stating the event was planned by you.
deputy_g 5
just dont use her $$ but your own. a wedding that's not grandiose is fine
caaklove 0
Then my advice would be to wait until you and your fiancé have enough money to pay for everything for yourselves. If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to make your own decisions and not let someone else make them for you. Even if it is your future mother-in-law. You wouldn't want her thinking she can treat you like that all of the time.
deaper 16
YES to 18
cradle6 13
Well said.
AKALurch 0
that sounds like a smart thing to do, there is no rush for marriage lol
ASHLEYbcddd 0
very well said.
ReynshineCutting 10
The sad reality is that if they have a certain wedding in mind, it might take years and years to save up for it, if they even could. If the bride has been dreaming of her wedding day and had it all planned out since she was 4, there really is no plan B. Yes it's about the guy and not the wedding, but you don't want to be 10 years down the road saying "man I wish I'd had that big wedding" and sad the rest of your life that you didn't get that dream wedding. And not only that, maybe they've already been together a really long time and don't want to have to wait an extra few years. That extra few years can be torture, trust me.
fizzpoplady 3
@ 266 - while it's true that the bride may be one of those people that has dreamed of her big day since she was a little girl, if the mother in law is planning it, she's not going to get that dream wedding - she's going to get the mother in law's dream wedding. I doubt that the only criteria for her fantasy is a "big" wedding - she may want certain flowers, to have it at a certain place, etc. None of that will be possible with some domineering old woman trying to relive her own youth by taking over OP's day. It would be better for the couple to just elope or wait until they can pay for their OWN dream wedding. Shut her down now or pay the price throughout the entire length of your marriage, OP.
titan87 0
There's still time to escape!
Rosa_La_Hermosa 5
She seems like she's going to be a delightful mother-in-law. Lucky you! =]
gkflower 0
you meant horrific right?
tat0slairrr 0
AKA monster-in-law
BlargHonk 0
#67 does not understand sarcasm.
jdengel 0
be glad she is helping pay for it, my wedding put us 5k in the hole
kennababy 0
aww im sorry :( I hope she let's you help!
skulluks 0
She has no say. If you let her ok everything, it is YOUR fault. Give her the wrong day to the wedding or let her pretend to ok everything and then switch it around behind her back.
AmandaLee2320 2
...OR, just be honest with her and stand up for yourself NOW, because things WILL only get worse from here on out. If that's the way she's going to treat you with YOUR wedding plans, can you imagine how she's going to treat you with any other situation?! She will continue to control you all throughout the marriage, and it won't be fun. No one deserves to be treated like that, so put her in her place now.
A7X_LoVeee 10
It's her money.
illmatic2 16
Shouldn't really matter if it is her money.Its not her wedding. I'm not saying that she shouldn't have any say in what goes on, but she can't control everything just because it's her money. You shouldn't put money into someone else's wedding because you want to control it. You should give them money because you want to make them happy. OP: In-laws are one of the biggest causes of divorce. Youshould probably get things straightened out before you tie the knot.
A7X_LoVeee 10
I agree 108. My comment was directed at 25 seeing as he/she was saying the mother-in-law has absolutely no say and that they should tell her the wrong date(although that wouldn't be easy to do).
ChibiChibi_fml 28
Why is everyone missing the fact that the future mother-in-law is only putting money into the wedding? That implies that she is not paying for the whole thing but merely contributing to existing funds. Therefore there is no reason for her to have total authority over what happens. She should at most have some say in the parts she is helping to pay for. That was mostly directed towards #97
A7X_LoVeee 10
#129 Did you not read the comment above? 25 is saying the mother-in-law shouldn't have ANY control. I am saying that since it's her money she should have a say. Not all of the control, of course, BUT she IS still paying. Therefore she should be able to have her part but not 100% her way.
lizh_fml 9
She shouldnt have a say, shes helping her son out in a way many parents do but that doesnt mean she should get to control it. She has every right to voice her opinion but that doesnt mean the people actually getting married have to follow it. Sadly some families are like this but in my opinion if you can afford it just dont accept the money and have a smaller wedding your way.
ChibiChibi_fml 28
Sorry A7X_LoVeee I seriously misread the comment. I was really tired, and quite heavily medicated when I wrote my comment. I apologize.
A7X_LoVeee 10
Chibi, no worries! (:
1goodboyjames 0
RED FLAG!!!! RUN....
Southerndatageek 2
I agree run as fast as you can! This is just the beginning it will never end. It is so true you marry the whole family.