Today, I caught my boyfriend messaging flirty texts with one of the nurses who cared for him while he was in inpatient rehabilitation at the VA Medical Center for alcohol abuse. Not to mention he is back drinking daily. I suck at relationships. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I caught my boyfriend trying to dispose of several empty alcohol bottles, leading to a discussion how dating me and putting up with my insanity has given him a drinking problem just so he can get through the day. Me catching him seemed to be the wake up call he needed, because he dumped me. FML
Today, I realized I willingly support my boyfriend's alcoholism, because the only time he says "I love you" is when he's blind drunk. FML
Today, I found out that while I was attending AA meetings to help understand how to help my boyfriend of 7 years when he got back from rehab, that he was not in rehab at all. He was on vacation. With his wife. FML
Today, my boyfriend gave me grief about my drinking. This would be fine, if he were sober. FML
Today, I reached a new low in my relationship: my boyfriend got so drunk I had to help him take a piss. FML
Today, my fiancé refused to talk to me because I'm "an alcoholic". I only started drinking like this after we moved in together and he brought me alcohol every day, because he's an alcoholic. FML
Today, I got a drunken call from my boyfriend, which consisted of him telling me that he, "does man things like fuck bitches and roll with hoes," and that I've been, "trying to turn him into a half-ass girly man," but, "that shit ain't right." Then he threw up. FML
Today, I already felt like shit for no reason, only to find out my boyfriend been drinking again, even though he knows it worries me. He lives two hours away and I don't have a car. Apparently he's had two bottles of vodka, and he started getting nasty over the phone with me. FML
Today, my friend got drunk with me and texted my boyfriend, saying she was in love with him and missed him. Her brother came to my house since she got caught drunk and gave a “lecture” on responsibility. I don't know what’s worse, the lecture or the fact that he’s my boyfriend. FML
Today, I called my boyfriend over and over again and he never answered. His mom just called me and asked how I was holding up. I asked her what she meant and she had to tell me he checked himself into rehab because he was addicted to heroin. FML
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SAgirl 24
You mean ex-boyfriend right? ... right?
FluffythePink 24
You can't save an addict, sweet heart. Only he can save himself and he's clearly not ready. He's going to treat you like shit, cheating, verbally breaking you down and then treat you worse and worse until you have your come to Jesus moment and get the hell out. Unless HE has a come to Jesus moment about the drink and turns himself around there is absolutely NOTHING you can do for him except enable his addiction and behaviour. This is the evil of addiction. It doesn't just destroy the person, it tortures everyone who loves them as well. He's texting other women and drinking again. Walk away on that alone. Now. Before he drags you under with him and you waste x years keeping his hell together before he hits you or you wake up one day and realise just how much of yourself you have wasted on holding him up. If this is not the first bad relationship you have found yourself in then you need to stay single for a while, find a therapist and figure out why your subconscious thinks these sorts of guys are attractive. Once you figure that out, you can deal with it and move on to much better guys who you will enjoy so much more than this. 🫂
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SAgirl 24
You mean ex-boyfriend right? ... right?
FluffythePink 24
You can't save an addict, sweet heart. Only he can save himself and he's clearly not ready. He's going to treat you like shit, cheating, verbally breaking you down and then treat you worse and worse until you have your come to Jesus moment and get the hell out. Unless HE has a come to Jesus moment about the drink and turns himself around there is absolutely NOTHING you can do for him except enable his addiction and behaviour. This is the evil of addiction. It doesn't just destroy the person, it tortures everyone who loves them as well. He's texting other women and drinking again. Walk away on that alone. Now. Before he drags you under with him and you waste x years keeping his hell together before he hits you or you wake up one day and realise just how much of yourself you have wasted on holding him up. If this is not the first bad relationship you have found yourself in then you need to stay single for a while, find a therapist and figure out why your subconscious thinks these sorts of guys are attractive. Once you figure that out, you can deal with it and move on to much better guys who you will enjoy so much more than this. 🫂
DLBL 23
I am a retired RN from a big city VA hospital, but you don't need me to tell you that RNs are not allowed to fraternize with patients. If this story is true, you'd be within your rights to notify the VA because this is unacceptable. Also, dump that loser.
bigredmonkeybutt 30
Let her have him.