Hey at least it will distract from her nose right?

I got the friends reference

that was all I could think about when I read the post. gotta love friends.

I'm pissed off just reading this FML

As a mother, I approve this comment. Also OP, I'd take them out and let them close.

My baby girl is just 4 weeks old and reading this pissed me off also. I can not put into words just how ******* mad I'd be if my mother-in-law or mother did this.

I'd be pretty pissed too and so would my boyfriend. We both agreed that we want our daughter to be older when/if she gets them pierced. She's 2 now and so far we haven't had this issue and hopefully never will.

Why is it always with the in-laws that seem to ruin everything in FMLs? They seem like they feel like they can do whatever they want because they're "their parents."

Count me in with feeling angry just reading this! I would go completely ballistic at her. And then make sure she is kept out of my children's life as much as possible.

I feel like you should have to prove beyond all doubt that you are a childs parent or guardian before you are allowed to make any decisions regarding their body. If that makes it too difficult for some women to get their babies ears pierced I can't see it being a bad thing. There's no reason at all that you can't wait until they are old enough to want it for themselves. I asked to get mine done when I was 6, and my mum told me I could get them done for my 7th birthday to make sure it wasn't something i'd decided on a whim.

The problem is that sometimes if you take earrings out too early (usually 6 week minimum) the hole doesn't recover properly and is prone to infections. FYL and your daughters life OP. I hope everything heals okay.

Some place do make you, we went to the mall with my best friend, and beforehand his little sister (11) got permission from their mom to go get a second piercing on her ears. So we get to the mall and despite us all being 21 and him being her brother, they wouldn't do it.

agreed take her to a professional piercer see when it will be safe to remove them.

*you AND your husband's

My kids (boy and girl) both would eventually like to get their ears pierced, and I've told them that's fine; but they have to wait until (a) they're old enough that the pain of it won't bother them very much; and (b) they're old enough to look after the piercing properly, both when it hurts to put the rubbing alcohol on it several times a day; and when it doesn't hurt anymore but still needs to be done even though it doesn't seem to be doing anything. When they are old enough to look after it responsibly, so it heals up properly, then, sure, if they want them pierced they can get it done. But not before then, and certainly not when they are a baby because it *does* hurt, and it's strictly cosmetic, and you can't explain to a baby why it hurts, and they can't consent to undergoing that completely pointless pain. I mean, even after it's healed up, the studs can be uncomfortable to sleep in and dig into your head; and if they're pre-verbal they can't even tell you about it! It's a cosmetic procedure, not a vaccination. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to do it to a bloody baby! And you know what? Both my kids (6 and 11) agree with my reasoning.

I agree. OP, I'd suggest tracking down the piercer and giving them a big piece of your mind. Tell them what she did, and that she was NOT the baby's parent, and had NO say in it, and did it behind your backs and without your permission. Insist they see ID proving guardianship of any minors being pierced.

I don't even have kids yet and I am pissed off right now. I think permanent or at least semi-permanent things should alwasy be decided by the person it concernes when they're old enough to do so. Usually when I see kids with pierced ears I just forget about it. However it wasn't even their child. The mother-in-law just pierced someone else's baby without their knowlege or approval on a whim. I can not express how mad this makes me!

So because it happened on a show means that there's no way for it to happen in real life...?

Furthermore most people take their babies to Claire's or a kiosk like Piercing Pagoda and get their children's ears pierced with a piercing gun by someone who probably just started working there that day instead of bringing them to a professional. Not sure why babies need their ears pierced in the first place.

I agree. My parents waited to let me get them pierced until I was old enough to decide if I really wanted holes in my ears forever. I just wish they had gotten it done at an actual piercing places instead of Claire's; the healing would have gone so much smoother and my ears wouldn't have so much scar tissue. PSA: if you don't have your ears pierced but want to get them pierced so you can stretch them, getting them pierced with a gun will make it a lot harder because of fact that shoving a blunt object through your skin really messes that skin up.

I got mine done at Claires, both lots. I didn't realise that they were oddly spaced out until I went to put in a larger earring with a smaller earring, and it wouldn't fit on one ear. One finger has a gap between the holes which I can fit my middle finger, the other a gap for my little finger. I had issues with the backs of earrings going into the hole when it was relatively new and the skin healing over it (that was fun to get out) along with my earlobes swelling up. Now I wear earrings once a year :/

Honestly, I think it looks tacky. There's no need for babies to have pierced ears. It's better to let them decide when they are older. My parents pierced my ears too at a young age and now I have these shitty holes in my ears forever.

That's what my mom did! I will forever thank her for that!

I can't say that I didn't pierce my daughter's ears for purely selfish reasons. I just got tired of people asking "boy or girl?" despite her being dressed in all pink. I did have it done at a pediatrician's office when she was 6 months. Figured she had less risk of infection if she wasn't older and fiddling around with it or taking them on and off. I'm lucky she's happy about my husband and my decision. It could have been an issue.

I totally understand that, however I love the fact that my mom pierced my ears as a baby. Those are the only piercings I have that I can leave without an earring in for a long period of time that won't start closing, unlike the second holes I got at 14.

I just got my baby's ears pierced today, following the tradition of having my ears pierced at the same age, and my mother before me. Growing up, I always loved that my mom had my ears pierced when I was a baby and too young to remember. I have nothing but positive things to say about it. I don't care if people disagree with it or thinks it looks tacky. My kid, my family traditions.

I totally agree, but I found out recently that some cultures do it as a tradition. One of my friends said it's common where she's from for the moms to take their babies to get their ears pierced and then the grandmother gives them their first pair of earrings. While I don't necessarily support it at such a young age, I thought it was an interesting point of view.

I'm glad my mom got mine done when I was a baby...I'm such a sucker when it comes to pain, I don't think I ever would have gotten them of my own decision. I love having them pierced and I've wanted multiple piercings since high school, but I'm too chicken to do them now. T_T

#60, If it is tradition to get ears pierced in OP's family, I would think that OP would want to be there for that special moment. But the problem is, this was made without OP's consent and from the sound of the FML, it was something that she didn't want done in the first place. All that aside, I think that's a pretty interesting tradition in your family!

I let both of my girls decide if they wanted their ears pierced and they did so we went to a tattoo parlor that had a professional piercer. They love it and were old enough to take care of the piercings. But I let them have the decision that I never had. I do like my pierced ears and have 4 in one ear and 3 in the other.

You're an idiot.

Prostitote? I believe you mean prostitute.

So give her an earful.

I think they're trying to make that illegal in the US at least. I do believe it's wrong to pierce a babies ear without consent of the parents.

#15 it could be classified as assault. pericing is body modification and mutilation (even if minor) and it was done without the childs or parents consent. the child was harmed, if you can't smack a child why should you be able to put holes in a child for aesthetic purposes.

except in some states like Oklahoma, ear piercings aren't considered an actual piercing. Which is why places like Claire's can legally pierce ears for minors. The fun part is if you want to have your child's ears pierced in a safe professional environment (an actual piercing shop) you have to bring your child's birth certificate to prove you're the parent or they legally can't pierce your child's ears.

I mean I think that's very extreme. she did something stupid. if it's to spite the mother, depending on their relationship, then yeah I'd get banning her from seeing the child and arresting her, because if she's willing to do something like that you never know what else she might do. but if she did it honestly thinking the op would like it or somewhat as a gift, which I understand it is absolutely not, but some people's brains don't think exactly like mine and I recognize that, then she should cut her some slack. she could have not even done it to intentionally hurt anyone, maybe did it to her own kids when they were babies and thought op would appreciate it. jumping to arresting her before figuring out the reasoning behind it is beyond extreme.

Don't see how Bedazzling your *baby* behind your back is acceptable.