Today, I learned my 40 year old father is marrying a girl barely a year and a half older than me. She told me not to be afraid to call her mom. I was torn between punching her in the face and vomiting. FML
I agree, your life sucks (49062) - you totally deserved it (1359)
On 06/27/2009 at 1:32am - misc - by OfCourse (woman) - United States (Illinois)
... how is isn't it obvious she's rich? We can deduce two things pretty easily:
a. The "mom" is good looking. Why? Because what father would want to marry an ugly girl their daughter's age?
b. The dad is rich or at least really, really, really good looking. I doubt he's that attractive at age 40. Thus, he's more likely than not, rich. Otherwise, why would a girl want to date someone old enough to be their father? And no, I doubt "love" is an appropriate response. I've seen some attractive 30 to 40 year olds, but there's no way I'm going to marry one when I can easily marry a 17-25ish year old girl. (I'm 20)
Stop making assumptions, I know a 30 year old girl, a good friend of mine, who just decided to marry a 50 year old guy. Doesn't mean anything.
@#157: I recently found out that my dad who is 44 (45 in less than a month) is secretly seeing a girl the same age as my own boyfriend (18). My dad is not rich by any stretch of the imagination and he's not young looking. Their relationship is atleast remotely sexual because I (and my mom, his wife) saw the dirty messages that they were sending about bondage and what not (and dirty pictures she sent). So no, it's not obvious that the guy is rich or good looking.
OP, I know it sucks. It really does. I know. Just looking at my father discusts me because not only did he do what your dad is doing, he did it while he was still married to my mom. I understand where you're coming from.
Omg, FYL!! =[ Sorry to hear that your father is a complete ass!
#230 - On 07/03/2009 at 12:20am by alliwannado
@157: nobody gets married at 17, unless they have down syndrome
#231 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:12am by aaaaa12345
Your 20, and you would date a 17 year old? *cough cough* PEDOFILE*cough cough*
#233 - On 07/06/2009 at 4:44am by Vampire_princess
*coughcough* PAEDOPHILE you mean? And how the hell is that a paedophile!? 3 years gap, over age of consent?
#240 - On 12/05/2009 at 3:32pm by Chunchunchun
DAMN RIGHT #4 but she should move out to avoid conflict though
#52 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:10am by xstaticdelta
I agree with #4, what an ass your dad was, and what a bitch that whore was. I would have laughed in her face, then hit her. :P
#232 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:23am by firesspawn
Your dad's disgusting, and the girl sounds like an idiot. Seriously. She could be your older sister or best friend for crying out loud.
#5 - On 06/27/2009 at 6:26am by redbluegreen
Is there ANYONE in this entire thread who can give me a valid argument against dating someone a lot younger than you?
"It's just wrong" is not an argument, just a poor fallacy. So are "it's disgusting" and "she's young enough to be his daughter".
Tell me, when you REALLY think about it, do you still think it's wrong? Or is it just because your culture and upbringing taught you that? Think for yourself instead of just blurting out that it's 'wrong'.
It's perfectly legal and consensual, they are both adults. Why do you people get so upset about it?
#123 - On 06/27/2009 at 12:32pm by crazy_cat_lady24
Well, the fact that the girl is probably much more immature than the 40 year old since she's so young.
Having someone so immature as a step-mom would be insanely annoying, especially if the daughter is still living with them or has to come home from college to stay with them for breaks.
She's also probably gold-digging.
She sounds incredibly stupid to suggest to that the OP call her mom....
The list goes on.
#127 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:29pm by livexlaughxlove1
Think of it this way...pretend he's 20 years older than her. So when she was 10, he was 30. A 10-year-old marrying a 30-year-old? That is just sick.
#128 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:29pm by Doorhandle57
Yes a 10yr old marrying a 35 year old is sick and would have many pedophiia related charges, once both parties are past 18 it doesn't matter as both are adults allowed to consent. So the age difference is the same but the situation is vastly different.
You're missing what the OP is angry about; she's specifically pissed about the fact that the girl told her "feel free to call me 'Mom.'" I would have punched her too.
#139 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:57pm by greatnt249
not only that 139 but the fact that she is around the OP's age.
If it were up to me I would put something in her drink
#171 - On 06/27/2009 at 5:05pm by xstaticdelta
No, I didn't miss that. I wasn't directing my comment at the OP. I was replying to #5 and the others in this thread who seem to find the sole fact that daddy's marrying a 20 years younger girl disgusting.
In my earlier comment (#53) I already mentioned that the 'call me mom'-part is without a doubt infuriating.
#185 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:38pm by crazy_cat_lady24
Sure there's nothing wrong with dating someone as old as your daughter as long, if it's legal and consensual. But just because you're old enough to be screwing her dad, doesn't mean you're old enough to be called "mom." I think that's the bigger issue.
#193 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:39am by WeAreAllF_ed
My argument against is, how would her father feel if she was dating someone his age? Not so great. He should have the same respect.
#199 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:41am by curryndricegirll
It's not necessarily wrong. But the fact that she is just learning that her dad is marrying this much younger woman, can definitely be an upsetting thing.
I think it becomes wrong when the parent doesn't care about the opinion of their child, because it seems in this case that the father never really took the time to see how his daughter feels about the situation.
#209 - On 06/28/2009 at 12:38pm by purple_wings
It's easy for everyone to spout about how wrong it is to be upset by the age difference... personally if it were anyone besides my own father, I probably wouldn't give a sh*t. But in reality, until it happens to you and you have to compete with someone young enough to be his daughter, who is also trying to act like a mother to you and is determined to eliminate the memory of anyone before her(ie. my mom, myself and my two younger sisters) no one should pass judgement on OP. I refuse to even call my Dad's wife my stepmother as much as she tries to push the isuue... she had NO part in raising me and I already have a MOM! Thanks =)
#212 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:29pm by jaye_elle_quinn
I think it's just the assumption that the older guy is a "dirty old man" who is physically attracted to dating a younger woman, while the younger woman is a gold digger, probably hoping he'll pass away in 10 to 20 years, at which point she inherits his money, marries the pool boy and runs away to the carribean.
#229 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:38am by apathyisbetter
how old are you?
if you're in your late teens / early twenties, that's just sick. your dad is gross.
#7 - On 06/27/2009 at 6:28am by Shock98
The dad's 40, that means the OP can't be older than 20's. So if they're NOT in their 20's/late teens, (meaning early teens or younger) that's even more gross.
@134, or if the dad waited till he was 25 (most married fathers have their first child at that age statistically; if you don't take teen pregnancies into account), she could be 15, and the mother 16.
I second that, way to go Dad. Your new potential stepmommy is either very funny or rather fucked up.
#44 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:42am by F_Y_Comments
Idk about the funny part. I'd say bitchy part.
If I got along well with my dad, I'd call the woman by a different name every day.
I don't think homosexuality is really comparable with the father's actions. The father probably views his daughter as his little girl. So to have relations with someone the same age as his "little girl" is kind of the equivalent of a pedophile's mentality (with some obvious differences, legality for one).
#32 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:43am by jclark
No, pedophilia is absolutely not comparable to this.
One is misleading, abusing and mentally scarring a young child for life.
The other is a consenting relationship with an adult who happens to be a lot younger than you.
How is that comparable?
I don't see what's wrong with relationships with a big age difference. It's not illegal, it doesn't damage anyone. The only reason people give for their disapproval is "it's disgusting" which is a worthless argument.
You can use the "it's disgusting" or "it's just wrong"-argument for anything, like homosexuality or mixed race-relationships, and never works. I think it's just closed-minded.
The "you can call me mom"-thing is infuriating, though.
#53 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:15am by crazy_cat_lady24
your post implies that homosexuality is somehow "wrong".
why don't you crawl back into your cave and STFU
@65 Actually she is setting an example and then follows it up with "I think it's just closed-minded" meaning to all forms represented in her argument, so you need to focus on reading comprehension.
what's wrong with you #10? Marrying someone 20 years younger than you and being attracted to people of the same sex is not the same thing. it's way more f-ed up to be sleeping with your daughter's friend (or someone her age) and there's nothing wrong with being gay. your post is offensive
#70 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:59am by highlightthat
For all you people who say that a man marrying a woman much younger than him is wrong, who are you to decide? We all have our preferences. If he's forty and still hittin some twenty year olds, more power to him. Like all of your condemnations actually matter...
If it were some 50 year old guy with no kids, marrying a 20 year old girl, that'd be chill
But marrying someone around the same age as his daughter??
He's sexually attracted to someone the same age as his daughter. Small jump to being attracted to his daughter, or at least admitting it.
I'd be weirded the fuck out
Oh yeah, and I'm betting a good half of the people here who are defending the age thing are doing it to get attention.
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whats wrong with it dude, your dad deserve some fun too ey....I mean come on, he cant pamper you his whole life and avoid sex. Get a life dude, you're just jealous of your dad, im sorry. Get over the jealousy feeling dude, get a life and girl too yourself....YDI
lol, did you even read? the OP is a woman. She's not jealous, she just got a girl who's around the same age as her telling her to call her mom. That's not jealousy, that's fucked up.
#23 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:23am by seleneatar
From the amount of the word 'dude' being used I'd guess this person was stoned while typing this.
#58 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:24am by crazy_cat_lady24
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Actually the OPs dad can't have sex with her-if you have sex with anybody more than 5 years older than you, it's rape-no matter what age you are and whether or not you consent......and the OP is a girl!
@66 Would like to know where you get your info from? In the United States depending on state age of consent is 16-18 once that age is achieved you are an adult in the eyes of the laws as far as sex goes and can consent to sex with anyone of any age over the age of consent in that state.
#66 - I can barely understand what you're typing, but I'm guessing you're trying to explain statutory rape or something along those lines, which only applies to minors.
OP - That is seriously just fucked up. I really feel for you. FYL
So, 66, I know quite some parents with age differences like 39 and 45. Are they illegal?
#74 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:03am by arienh4
#66: my parents are 10 years apart.
so i guess my dad rapes her?
my friends parents are like 15 years apart.
same goes with them then?
#79 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:07am by Phoenix_GAD
66, that's bullshit, once you're an adult, and your partner is too, it doesn't fucking matter what age difference there is
#115 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:57am by loveeisnott
#23 sorry i didnt looked at the OP name or gender, but it doesn't matter if she's a girl. Her dad got a life too and he can live it the WAY he want. I really thought US was different than Asia where society acts as a bitch and you cant do anything you WANT, but heh looking at the number of "Oh your dad is so bad coz he married at age 40" comments, just proves all talk about freedom of speech/action in USA is just crap.
Ok it's weird enough having a step mom that is your age but the bitch thinks it's ok to say that to you? FYL
#10/11 it's not even that it wrong for the dad to be dating someone so young it's the fact that she said don't be afraid to call me mom.... I would probably go apeshit of I had a so called "mom" a year and a half older than me
#15 - On 06/27/2009 at 6:51am by crashtest1205
Did you read properly?? The OP is a girl. Are you suggesting incest? She can't have threesome with her father for god sake!
#28 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:38am by metheonlyb
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If you all stopped to think before advocating violence upon a young woman, you might realize that she was only trying to be friendly to her to-be stepchild. Honestly, don't repay this woman's best intentions with violence. At least she's mature enough to try to start things off with you in a friendly, non-hostile way.
#20 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:15am by wobster109
I agree I think she was just trying to be friendly.
But it's also true than thinking she could be called mom, is stupid.
Think of someone you know who is only a year older than you and whether you think it would be appropriate for her, no matter her relationship with your father, to ask you to call her mom.
I would have laughed in her face.
Oh, I remember a few years back, my cousin had a new girlfriend, and she said to me "Just call me auntie" SHE WAS MY COUSINS GF?! NOT my uncles wife!
I told her to fuck off.
hey this might sound personal but is that girls name stacy by some chance because if it is i know her. do you live in hawaii? because she left me and my story sounds just like this. and im sorry to say. FYL and FML
Honestly, the fact that she told you that you shouldn't be afraid to call her Mom kind of implies that she thinks she's a lot more mature than you are. Now, the fact that she thinks so and STILL says something stupid like that clearly shows she is NOT all that mature (and/or smart...). Punching won't solve anything and your dad would probably be on her side. You could a) make her do stuff a mom would usually do, like give you extra money, pay for clothes and stuff and be all passive agressive about it or b) let her (and maybe your dad) know that you think the situation is rather rediculous and you think there should be some boundaries. Anyway, good luck and FYL.
#27 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:35am by oh_0_0
Yay, one sensible comment around here! :smooch: All in all, no one should ever expect to be called mom/dad, if the age difference does not correspond to this. FYL, OP, but violence solves nothing. Hope your father's future wife (won't call her stepmom, duuh) will... grow up.
That's how I took it. A condescending/stupid way to suggest she's more mature than the OP. Maturity races are lame. How about you actually grow up instead of trying to prove to others that you're grown up?
OP: Set up some boundaries quick. And although I don't think violence is the answer...I don't think many could blame you for punching her.
#143 - On 06/27/2009 at 2:25pm by SomeonePosting
Sounds like your Dad is having a mid life crisis. I hope he enjoys his trophy wife. She will dump him for the pool boy someday.
Well what can you do? I suggest just accept the your life, even though it's fucked for sure. Punching her won't help neither would vomiting. I can see how you feel but that's life, shit happens!
#31 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:41am by metheonlyb
=( I'm sorry, that situation really sucks. And to the people saying "Violence is not the answer", I'm not gonna disagree with you, you're right. BUT I can see where OP is coming from. Imagine some GIRL barely 18 months older than you suggesting that she wants to assume the role of your mother. I can see how OP would be furious. Most people I know who are in the position of stepparents know better than to just assume the step-child wants them to be their new "mom" or "dad". In some cases, the step-children do, but they do it on their OWN terms, in their OWN time, IF they want to. For this child bride to assume that someone a year and a half younger than her would WANT to call her mom shows that she's pretty dim.
OP: Do you live with your father? If so, I suggest you move, ASAP. If she's old enough to get married and you're only 18 months younger, you're probably old enough to be on your own (assuming you're not already). So just make your life easier and get out of there so you don't have to deal with added stress/drama. Good luck!
(EDIT: Ummm this was supposed to be a reply to the original poster, I dunno why FML made it a reply to someone's comment. Lol, whoever's comment I'm apparently replying to, disregard, sorry about that!)
#55 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:20am by ihatestupidppl
Ultimately violence wouldn't solve anything you would just create negative feelings with her and your father and most likely he will side with her thinking you just don't like him having a girlfriend regardless of age. I think it is wrong for any step-mother to try to take the title of mom, unless you grew up with her being 'Mom' and obviously you didn't in this case. As far as age goes if she is old enough to know what she is getting into then there is no problem with age and who your father dates should only be for him to decide. Is it a good decision? No probably not, only time will tell.
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wow scary reaction there you seem really selfish
your dad is a adult and can date whoever he likes
and if you punch her I hope you go to jail
#41 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:20am by MetalCraze
It's a punch in the gut, but you will get over it eventually - just like a breakup or a death.
Is it possible that she meant the don't be afraid to call me mom as a joke, poking fun at the ridiculousness of the situation?
BTW, ten years ago, my sister married a man who had a daughter who was a year older than she was. The daughter was passive aggressive for years, even though they were both a lot older than you, but now they get along fine.
#42 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:22am by anonimause
That's disgusting.
My cousin, who is 54, i think, her husband is 60. He ws cheating on her with a 32 year old girl... 32 is young enough to be his own daughter! THAT IS GROSS
#45 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:43am by irishdancer
The old enough to be your daughter argument is kind of retarded. So your saying that a 50 year old can't date someone that is in their early thirties just because they could have a child around that age? They are both adults and they know what they are getting into, it's not like she is in her early teens or something.
I'm sorry but their is a huge difference between "dating someone your daughter's age" when your daughter is in her 30s and when your daughter is in her 20s (as the OP seems to be). People in their 20s and people in their 30s are at way different maturity levels. Then again, I'm assuming a 40 year old isn't dating someone half his age for maturity's sake...
#84 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:22am by ihatestupidppl
@84 was replying to 45. It may be one of your personal beliefs that there is a problem with it but there really isn't. If I were to find out that one of my parents were going out with someone my age it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
Okay, so ALL of you are telling me some shit that you would be FINE with your 60 year old father dating your best friend. Okay... I TOTALLY believe that!
#223 - On 06/29/2009 at 5:30pm by irishdancer
omfg.
that sucks massive dude!
i feel so sorry for you.
your dad needs a reality check or something, thats mega fucked.
#46 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:44am by staciieee_x3
That would be like saying dating someone your sister's age is the equivalent of incest you douche #32
#47 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:46am by F_Y_Comments
You should have punched her in the face & replied with "Bitch i got a mom & your not even close to being as pretty as her, You nasty sluty whore!"
#48 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:48am by ShinyShine
Lol I wonder what /her/ dad thinks.
I can just imagine you going "Hey moooooom, can I get 50 $?" Milk her for all she's worth, after all, she wants to be your "mom" ; )
Since she is so young I am guessing she is there for money and sex, he wants sex and she wants money. But if it really bothers you, tell your dad, if he cares about you he will most likely listen to what you have to say and re-think the situation. But yeah, FML xD
#49 - On 06/27/2009 at 8:49am by Hurricanevenom
#4 is right.
I'd live with my mum,
Or i'd run away in protest.
That is sooooooo gross&creepy.
He mustve been eyeing this friend for a long time- and that brings out pediphile accusations (which probably are true)
FYL.
From the amount of the word 'dude' being used I'd guess this person was stoned while typing this.
#54 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:17am by crazy_cat_lady24
punch and vomit on both of them. your dad is just gross! and that woman, telling you to call her 'mom'... jeez, does she have a sense of shame?
#56 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:22am by pingpongdj
okay, all the assholes who voted "you deserved it" should go to hell. how could she possibly deserve THAT?
some of you are so heartless.
Wow, definitely FYL. I'm all for age-difference relationships normally but when there's a kid involved that kind of stuff can really screw them up. I mean, it's nearly impossible to have a girl a year older than you as a mother figure... but then, if it was legal for him to marry her that means you're probably old enough to deal with her age. I'd say it's worse that she seems to be a bitch though.
That's kinda... I'm not gonna lie, that sucks. Yes, your dad DOES have his own life and can marry, date, and do anyone he chooses. But I will admit that marrying someone in the same age group as your children is messed up. And if they're in the same age range, and I'm going to assume you're in the 17-20 range, is even more messed up. And since the girl actually made a comment like that, she doesn't seem to be all up there, if in fact it wasn't a joke. So, I hope your dad breaks it off, or the marriage lasts as long as possible for whatever short while it'll be as the girl wants to go off on other guys, and your dad realizes that it's probably not too much of a good idea.
#61 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:34am by hellobananas
Hey, can't blame him. If he's getting some hot young booty at this age, his life rocks.
#62 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:37am by sikanderimran
Thats so gross, I'd be pissed and feel the same way. My ex bf's uncle who is in his 40's is dating someone who just turned 18, it is sooo fucking creepy seeing pics of them together online X_X I can only imagine how his daughters feel.
And ew #62, that doesn't mean he should marry her! I doubt it would last anyways, shes probably with him for money, and if not then she's gonna end up cheating on him with some hot guy around her age.
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why cant he be with a younger woman? fuck you people
Its not so much the "younger woman" thing. If he's 40 and dating, say, a 30 year old, then whatever. But to date someone around his DAUGHTER'S age? I'm 20 years old, and my dad still calls me his "baby". So for a man to date someone the same age as someone he considers his "baby" is just...strange.
Plus I don't think the age difference would have pissed the OP off so much if it wasn't for the girl wanting to be called "mom".
#81 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:19am by ihatestupidppl
Ok, so your telling me that you would be okay if your dad married your best friend? You wouldn't find that awkward in the slightest bit?
#170 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:56pm by irishdancer
That sux! And even if she wuz trying to be nice, you can't call somebody else your mom-it's not right.
I'd have punched her in the face. But you should milk it "MOM can I borrow $100? MOM can you take me shopping? MOM do my laundry." Fuck her. She's a stupid bitch.
#78 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:07am by 110879
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As long as your Dad's new wife is of legal marrying age WTF is the issue? Yea it may be a bit weird that your step mom is only a few years older than you but if your going to be a selfish baby about it and not think maybe your dad has found someone he is happy with then I think your the one with the issue and YDI for being an immature little snot that only cares about one self and has no consideration for your Dads happiness.
I love the number of people who are getting offended by people's reactions to this post. It appears that there are quite a few middle aged men here who wish they could have (or do have) "young hot booty." Either that or we're talking multiple young men who intend to be bachelors forever and want to be with girls in their 20s until they die. Obviously they see all of these posts against the father as attacks on their person beliefs, lmfao. Not that I'm judging, that's really a personal decision. However, if you honestly don't understand why the OP is upset by this (and why other posters agree with her hatred towards the situation) then you're a moron. And for those of you who think she's being selfish, go fuck yourselves.
The poor girl is going to have to deal with knowing that her dad is probably attracted to many of her friends. If you knew that your parent was doing someone who's the same age as you, you'd be creeped out as well. Most (keyword being most) people here aren't disgusted because the dad is with someone so much younger than him. The whole situation's f*cked up because of the fact that he has a KID. I mean, how idiotic can you be to not realize that marrying someone the same age as your daughter is f*cking weird?
And the woman he's marrying is either absolutely hilarious (although I doubt it because most of the time young women who marry older men are not the brightest) or she's a stupid bitch. Having her be a part of the family must be a terrible, terrible thing.
OP: Fuck. Your. Life. I'm so, so, so sorry. I would probably end up doing both of the things you suggested, however using the fact that this woman wants to be your new "mom" against her would be genius. Seriously, get as much out of the situation as you can. And then, if you already haven't (and you're old enough to) move out. Who knows, maybe she'll want you out of the house and will convince your dad to pay for your new apartment or something.
LOL @ OP using the situation to get her rent paid. I like the way you think, GDinNJ. haha
#87 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:28am by ihatestupidppl
If I found that one of my parents were dating/marrying someone around my age wouldn't bother me, now if it was one of my friends then that might.
# 80 has no idea what *its* talking about because it most likely has parents around the same age! i can understand why you would want to punch her in the face! She could be a gold digger if she is then she deserves more then a punch to the face!
#83 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:21am by Audygirl27
It almosts sounds a little condescending, her telling you to call her mom....I think you need to set up some boundaries ASAP!
#85 - On 06/27/2009 at 10:26am by vanaathiel
@OP
Of course you can't call her 'mom' because that title doesn't belong to her and she's done nothing to earn it. The fact that she said that shows that daddy not only likes them young, but he likes them stupid also. If you don't want to see her again...Cause her some pain. Make her fear you. Then your father will no longer bring his young playthings around you because they'll beg him not to.
LOL. It would have been worse if she was 18 months younger than you.
#92 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:03am by abcdefghiloveyou
I know how you feel. My parents are 15 years apart. Now, my 58 year old dad dates girls in their early twenties.
Same thing with me, my uncle married a crazy person 20 years younger than him. She said call her aunt. I flung a hair elastic at her head(;
#105 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:33am by littlegirllove
Ew that is sick, I'm 20 and engaged to a 38 year old man. He has a 4yr old and a 2yr old and I don't even ask them to call me mom! Never would.
It's your life, but those kids could really use a mom as they grow up. Are you not going to be as nurturing as a biological mother also?
#151 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:42pm by I_am_stupid_also
Lol, that's not what she was saying and you know it. "I don't expect my stepchildren to call me mom," and, "I won't take care of my stepchildren," are two different things.
#165 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:26pm by SomeonePosting
You just -know- that their marriage is completely based on money/looks.
#111 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:41am by InfectedWithDrew
punch her in the face. and then punch your dad in the balls.
#112 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:41am by rubmytummy
Seriously why in the world would she think you would call her mom? She's old enough to be your sister!
#118 - On 06/27/2009 at 12:17pm by ImAKlutz15
lol omg.. well if i were you i would have slapped her and then ran away.. that suckss.
and she's like your age... eww what a creeper!
#124 - On 06/27/2009 at 12:41pm by laurbabexx33
F*cking punch her in the face!
That was obviously to disturb and to provoke you. She's really a b*tch wht...
#129 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:30pm by AndreWartyns
Why would it dad marry someone at least 25 years younger than him?
#130 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:31pm by theunluckyleproc
Because he can and everyone keeps speculating the on the high side for age. How do we know that his daughter wasn't born when he was sixteen? In that case the woman he is marrying could be 25-26.
wow stop crying cus your dad is having a good time with a younger female... why do girls always whine when a guy is doing his thing... and gets a younger girl...stop hating on your dad and go find your self a man wow big deal its not like he is fcking a little girl she is a grown women...point black STOP HATIN...im give you a third option punch yourself in the face...
#135 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:48pm by ithedarkknight
She's pissed about the woman telling the OP that she could call her "Mom"; I'd be pissed as well.
#140 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:59pm by greatnt249
people think its wrong for an older man to date a younger woman or vise versa, but if you where older say 40's-50's or something and you could get young girls or guys would you do it? or would you go for people more your "age"
I understand how you feel - 4 years ago my dad was 54 and married a girl 26 when I was 23! She is 3 years older than me! AND to make it worse they have had 2 children together, and she already had a son from a previous relationship! :( So she likes to think they have their own family now and I don't exist! So watch out for that!
#138 - On 06/27/2009 at 1:57pm by UnCensoredBitch
That does suck. Maybe you should have punched her in the face and then vomit on her though. But at least she wasn't being the even more bitchy type and started ignoring you. But that is kinda gross with the age thing.
Have fun with your new "mom" or "sister"! Well, whatever you want to call her.
TEEHEE
I would have punched her in the face, then while shes down vomit on her. at least the rest of her day would be ruined. lol
tell her off because she can only get a man way too old for her because that's the best she can do! and record the conversation in case she spills the beans that she is a gold digger. its a win win
#146 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:12pm by slamdnkindrummer
At that point, I wouldn't even call her mom or even her actual name. She's not your step-mother, she's just some broad who's married to your dad. That's how I see it, and that's what I'd call her if I was in your situation. "Hey dad, hey lady who's married to my dad."
I'd move out ASAP, or at the very least, spend as little time as possible in the house.
#147 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:22pm by Lou_Briccant
That is foul. Punch the hell out of her, then punch your idiot father as well.
God that's disgusting.
#149 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:41pm by ladycoyote
Would the OP have preferred her dad bring home a guy his own age?
#153 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:47pm by I_am_stupid_also
you're just creeped out because his new young wife is actually ( and obviously) your sexual surrogate. he might even slip up a few times and call her by your name........
#155 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:56pm by Invioletlight
If that's the case, I'd privately confront your dad about it, tell him how it makes you feel, tell him that she said that to you, tell him that you feel belittled and uncomfortable, and basically ask him to choose between the two of you.
No respectable, loving father would choose a fling over his own daughter... and if he does, it's not worth staying with your family anyhow.
OR, take advice from #153.
#156 - On 06/27/2009 at 3:57pm by _DANTE_
That's messed up. People- Imagine having a mom somehow leave your life, and then your dad marrying someone who could be your best friend. Imagine her saying, "Call me mom!" It's mentally scarring for the OP. Hell, they probably could have graduated high school together!
I give props to your dad for picking up such a young -insertwordhere-, but I guess he didn't take your feelings into consideration, or if he did, he thought, "Oh they'll be BFFS since they're so close in age!" and didn't find that creepy.
I'd curse my dad out if he married someone so close to my age.
#159 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:04pm by notapplicable123
You know what? Maybe he found someone he loved. And maybe when your wife has left/died you're not going to dump someone who makes you happy because your ADULT child doesn't like her.
#167 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:37pm by pleasetryagain
The dad has to respect his daughter's feelings. She WAS in his life first. The least they could do was talk it over.
#179 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:07pm by notapplicable123
The daughter may have been in his life first, but we're talking about his PARTNER. I married a man considerably older than me. Yeah, his kids had a problem with it, his son tried that "me or her" bullcrap, and guess what? Hubby told him to either accept it, or not be a part of our lives.
It took a while, but they got over it.
Now, it was entirely inappropriate for the woman in question in the FML to say what she did. I'd hate that bitch, too.
Why would you fuck up a family like that? That is bullshit, honestly. Kids only have their parents and when someone comes and threatens that family it's hell. I get you love him and all, but did you really have to do that?
#215 - On 06/28/2009 at 7:01pm by ohhhhshizzz
Hm, maybe because his kids were already out of the house by the time I met him.
It's not fucking up a family. He was miserable because he'd been alone for so long because every time a woman came into his life, whatever their age, his kids "disapproved", the WOMAN felt threatened, and she took off.
This is why young children today are such shits: people here supporting the idea that a parent should bend to their every whim. THAT is bullshit.
As an adult child of a man who married a woman only 2 years older than me... I have to say "kiss my ass!" Unless you've had your father basically cut you out of his life because you won't let this woman who is YOUR age wants you to treat her as an authority figure, then you can talk sh*t about it! No one should have to be a choice for their parent(s) at any age! Regardless of the ages involved once a parent, always a parent.
#221 - On 06/29/2009 at 6:02am by jaye_elle_quinn
Most people seem to be objecting to the age difference, which is quite frankly none of the OP's business.
Someone asking the OP to call her mom is offensive because of the OP's feelings towards her real mom, and possibly her dad's treatment of her.
#160 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:07pm by I_am_stupid_also
My only problem with this is with the bitch face asking you to call her mom.
As for people saying eww, welcome to the real world. Unless she's under 21, this isn't icky. I used to date a guy 22yrs older than me whose youngest child was older than me with 5 years; it was the best relationship I ever had: he stayed out of my hair. Maybe OP's "mother" is into older men...not taboo in this day and age,you people!
#161 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:08pm by bollywood_rocks
What a dumbass, why would she even say that? Did you ask her if she needed mothering from someone her age a year and a half ago. Ha
I know at least two couples with a 15-25 year age difference. It's not always because of money or sex. They really like each other.
There's no reason to believe based on what's here that the stepmother is a whore. We only know that the daughter doesn't care much about her father's happiness.
#163 - On 06/27/2009 at 4:20pm by pleasetryagain
punch her in the face then barf all over her...thats what i would do:)
#174 - On 06/27/2009 at 5:31pm by lover_dearest
Age differences are okay, but the fact that your father is marrying someone your age is disturbing. And she's a rude bitch to cap it off. Good luck with that one. :/ Move out as soon as you possibly can!!
I'm very sorry that your father's mid-life crisis comes in the form of a new wife your age. If you really feel that way, then let it be known. Tell her mom is a title for a mother. A mother is a respected figure in ones life. Not a cow who's easy enough to be bought out by a 40 year old. Have at it. Your father doesn't care what people think, neither should you. I say punch away!
#178 - On 06/27/2009 at 6:59pm by LogicLover
Wow, I'm amazed at how many people are dissing the OP saying, "Oh lay off your dad...you're being selfish, you should be happy for him" but the OP never said she disapproved of her dad being happy with someone he loves. She's just mad that this girl who is young enough to be her sister or friend is asking her to call her "mom".
And I fully understand that. I'm 17, my dad is 45 and my step-mom is barely 20. Even though she doesn't say that I can call her mom, I would also be very pissed off if she did. So seriously guys, maybe be a little nicer to the OP? Amazing how the internet brings out such hostility in people.
#181 - On 06/27/2009 at 7:33pm by anonymous2323
I'd go with punching her in the face because it doesn't seem like she would say that unless she wanted to piss you off.
FYL if this is true, but it definitely sounds a lot like what was said in That Summer by Sarah Dessen.
#186 - On 06/27/2009 at 9:56pm by xx3_kellyyy
While legal consent can be given at 18, statistics show that the majority of people do not truly see themselves as adults until 28. A 40 year old dating someone who still thinks of themselves as "a kid" is nearly as disturbing as a 40 year old dating a kid. The maturity difference between the two is incomparable. It is a relationship based solely on sex, and when one partner thinks of themselves as a kid while the other is far, far beyond that state of mind, the sexual relationship is inappropriate.
You should probably go with punnching her in the face and then barfing on her. That might sound mean but she deserves it
#189 - On 06/27/2009 at 11:02pm by retardthinkswhat
That's completely wrong on her part, even if she was much older. Step-parents aren't entitled as the same respect as normal parents when they come in the kid's life much later.
Now I have nothing against age-differences. I'm dating a man 10 years older than myself and I typically prefer older men. That being said, I do admit it is a bit creepy to date someone the same age as your own kid. I would never date a man who had a daughter or son my age; that's creepy as hell.
If my own parents decided to date someone my age, I would be at first put off, but in the end it's not my choice. I don't care as long as whoever they date is respectful. This girl is not respectful to the OP at all.
Okay here is the shit. Stop being stupid, she is in her twenties. I doubt the father would marry a 16 year old. The OP has to be at least 18. In most states you cannot marry unless you are 18 or your parents sign off. Since the OP thinks this is sick then we can cross out her being part of a culture where older men marrying younger women is tolerated. I feel for the OP because while the father and potential step mommy might be in love, lust, after each others pocket books or looks, whatever, the daughter is the one with the problem. The girl who is marrying the father is being selfish. By telling the daughter to "call her mommy" she is either being stupid and attempting to be funny, or being cruel.
The problem with this has nothing to do with age. The problem is OP feels that she is having her father taken away by this other girl. IN a sense she is losing her father. Not only that, the girl does not seem to care about the OP. I am not sure if the OP's parents are divorced or her mother is dead, but to have to watch your mother replaced and then be replaced by a "daughter" dad can screw seems sick and cruel.
#196 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:23am by LaceyPatrickson
You should've punched her in the face then vomited on her.
#197 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:27am by danineteen
So what did you do? Vomit on your fist and punch her with it?
#203 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:20am by koala_king
Your dad is having male menopause. by the time he's "cured" he will also be broke. Bribe the DJ at the wedding to play the Kayne West song "Goldigger". She'll get your message.
Sounds like your dad and mother had you when they were really young, and so this isn't unusual. A 40 year old guy marrying a 21 or 22 year old girl can work. Just forget about the age. Move on - but you don't need to call the girl "mom". That's just dumb.
#207 - On 06/28/2009 at 10:22am by LikelyYourFake
I am 37... my father starting dating a girl just 2 years older than me when I was 18(he was 42)... I'd known her since I was 9 and we even went to the same schools... didn't like her then, don't like her now... she's been trying to "mother" me since day one... they've been together for 18 1/2 years. It sucks!=P
#211 - On 06/28/2009 at 2:13pm by jaye_elle_quinn
IF the guy didn't have a daughter, I'd say it's not that bad. However, the fact that he has a daughter and is dating someone very close in age to her is wrong because he knows what it's like to be a parent and should consider her and girls in her age group to be "children," but instead he is showing that he finds 'children' of that age to be potential sexual partners. That is definitely on the pedophilic side, and that's what's wrong with it.
#214 - On 06/28/2009 at 6:54pm by nuga
That must suck. It's like you tell her your secrets and then she grounds you.
#218 - On 06/28/2009 at 11:58pm by GothamKnight
haha whoever wrote #4 is my new hero :)
and haha if she gets knocked up before they get married her parents could sue him for rape
#219 - On 06/29/2009 at 12:27am by sw95volleyball
Well, my dad's dead, so I couldn't say for sure how I'd react.
But I'm pretty sure I'd give him a high-five!
Then again, I'm a guy.
I can understand why the OP is upset about the woman wanting her to call her "mom"(I would have been quite annoyed, myself), but the age difference is far from "disgusting".
I'm dating a man that's 19 years my senior (23/42), and we get along splendidly. I simply like older men, and that's not disgusting, nor is it disgusting for my boyfriend to want to be with me, because I'm so much younger than he is.
Two adults are unable to love each other based on the age difference? That's an absurd notion.
Ouch, that's got to make family time awkward. I'm sorry.
#226 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:14am by ihateslife
More like don't be afraid to call her a gold digging whore who obviously can't make money for herself.
I'm so sorry OP.
Oi, you poor thing. D:
My parents are going through a divorce now, and I'm so scared that that will happen to me. DX
I don't mind relationships with large age differences, but when your kid is the same age as your wife?
*headwall*
*hug*
#235 - On 07/13/2009 at 2:21am by RequiemYoukai
my moms best friend is 35 and she married a 70 year old man he's a retired western actor and he wasn't rich
#236 - On 07/21/2009 at 4:14pm by jdubbs2009
I agree with 180... and doesn't her marrying a 40year old or whatever make HER feel old, and by telling someone a year younger that they can call her mum (well, you peepz say mom, but whatever), doesn't THAT make her feel old? and I thought NOONE wanted to feel old! lolz
#238 - On 07/30/2009 at 1:03am by xXBlackHorse666X
First, I totally and completely agree with you that her comment was idiotic.
I'm simply curious: Why are so many people angry and "creeped out" by this relationship?
#241 - On 12/06/2009 at 7:25pm by fmylif3account
i say kick her fucking ass already. what a stupid bitch. if my dad did that i'd be pissed. that bitch isn't your mom and nor will she ever be. what a fucking slut.
#242 - On 01/27/2010 at 12:44pm by TandRomeo4Ever
