Today, I took my girlfriend to a very nice restaurant. I thought it would be a good place to pop the question. I gave the ring to the waiter and asked him to put it on her dessert plate. When she saw it she picked it up, put it down and said "no". Then she started to eat the dessert. FML
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On 03/04/2009 at 9:18pm - misc - by Noname - United States (Florida)
aww, thats so mean D:
but how long were you two dating? maybe shes just not ready for marriage for example, if you only dated for 1 or 2 years. maybe its a good thing that you two wait, cause sometimes couples marry way too soon, when they're not ready.
#1 - On 03/05/2009 at 6:22am by LMFAOsabrina
what a bitch! picked it up then put it down and said no? was the ring not good enough for little miss priss? its not the size of the diamond that counts. its the thought of wanting to spend the rest of your life with her that counts. that was mean on her behalf.
#3 - On 03/05/2009 at 6:40am by King_of_Kings
Wow. In a way, I always feel bad for people who get proposed to when they're not interested - it really does put them on the spot and unless the one proposing is a complete jacka**, the one who says no is the bad guy. That really, really sucks. My sympathy for her ends there b/c she had no reason to be such a . . . wow. So heartless about it. I would have been tempted to snatch her dessert plate away, say 'no' and stick HER with the bill. Even if you handled t he situation with grace, it's perfectly reasonable to break up with her citing the fact that you don't want to waste your time with someone who sends mixed messages. And I mean: not seeing her at all, not hanging out with her friends, insisting that your friends act like true friends and drop her like a bad habit. How awful! Best of luck to you.
#4 - On 03/05/2009 at 6:43am by everythingtold
#4
i was going to mention taking her dessert. i decided not to. but yeah, i had that same idea about taking the dessert and dumping her. i should have mentioned that. oh well. well said #4. i couldnt have said it better myself.
#5 - On 03/05/2009 at 6:50am by King_of_Kings
Ditto to the above statments. I would have picked up the ring at that point and walked out, leaving her with the bill.
The least she could do if she doesn't think you the one is tell you straight up. Though it does depend a lot on how long you have been going out. If it is over a year or 2 then wtf is her problem? Dump her ass!
If less than 1 year then it could have come across as needy and co-dependant.
Or it could just be that she is a dumb bitch and though the ring was sprinkles on her desert and said no to them. :P
Life lesson learned: Never get married.
Seriously, what positive thing has marriage ever done for anyone? It weakens relationships more than it strenghtens them...
Also, #7, it's quite stupid to think that just because she said no, it means she doesn't like him. She might have certain believes that keep her from getting married or she might just want to wait untill it's the right time.
Whatever it is, it's quite ignorant to dump her just because she said no. After all, not wanting to get married has got absolutely nothing to do with how much you love someone.
my King_of_Kings account was banned? what i do? good thing i got a backup
#12 - On 03/05/2009 at 7:39am by King_of_Kings_2
Dunno. Which mod did you piss off?
Or at least what did you last comment on? I didn't see any moderated comments from you
#13
i last commented the FML about the girls in the movie theatre throwing popcorn at the guy in the wheelchair.
#16 - On 03/05/2009 at 7:56am by King_of_Kings_2
You're supposed to talk about marriage before you propose. It's generally not a good idea to make life changing decisions based on a surprise unless you're in a chick flick.
Guys generally don't do this sort of thing without some sort of indication from the girl that she would at some point in her life like to get married. Perhaps he even said early on in the relationship "what do you think of marriage" or something similar but I bet that the subject has been touched on and she indicated positively to getting married one day.
But generally I would say it is best to live together first to make sure you can stand living with that person under the same roof and their habits don't drive you mad.
While I think it's nice to make sure that the two people are on the same page about marriage, I really want to be surprised. I mean, where's the fun in, "You want to get married? Okay, we'll go pick out a ring together."
But maybe I just view it this way because I'm not in a sensible relationship.
#21 - On 03/05/2009 at 8:36am by pixie_dust_xo
obviously there should be a surprise in marriage proposal.. otherwise it becomes dumb like"You want to get married? Okay, we'll go pick out a ring together."
@10, if she just wasn't ready, she wouldn't have just said "no" or else she was just being a bitch/stupid.
If you get proposed to and you're not ready, you say something like "Oh no... I'm so sorry! :( No, I'm just not ready yet!"
Or if she had certain beliefs, hopefully she would have mentioned this before the proposal ... or even after her turn-down. "No, I don't want to get married until _______." Or so on.
Because you do like the guy, and want to keep the option for marriage open. Just saying "NO" flat-out means ... no.
#24 - On 03/05/2009 at 8:52am by coloredwax
In a public place like that, if I got proposed to then I would just say yes and then when we get home talk about it. I'm sorry if thats cruel but it can't be worse than putting him through the embarrassment of me saying no. Although it would cause me discomfort throughout the dinner or whatever we're doing but I rather not do that to him.
you should have just taken it and said, "what? it's part of the desert." then popped it in your mouth and swallowed it. cut your losses and swallow your pride
#27
Give that thing some time and you only swallowed your pride
:D
#28 - On 03/05/2009 at 9:58am by that_one_guy
#27's idea is the worst. There is no good way to turn down a proposal, but lying is THE WORST.
If she's worth it, keep trying. Rejection is not that bad, you'll get over it. Getting screwed over, messing with your head, that's way worse.
#29 - On 03/05/2009 at 10:56am by asdfqewr
at least you didn't end up like this one. rofl http://www.ksn.com/news/also/40547162.html
Wait and ask again if not , plenty of fish in sea.
This is why couples should talk things over before someone proposes...
#34 - On 03/05/2009 at 11:54am by callmedita
If you've been going out for a while and its been serious, then you should consider cutting your losses. If you just popped the question way too soon, then maybe you need to readjust your strategies.
Or she's a fatty and was just way more interested in dessert...
#36 - On 03/05/2009 at 12:24pm by cuttybuddy
Oh man... sorry about that... for real...
I'm about to pop the question too, and I can't even imagine how would it be to get rejected...
#10 "Seriously, what positive thing has marriage ever done for anyone? It weakens relationships more than it strenghtens them..."
I honestly feel bad for you, that your parents and apparently none of your friends' parents have a relationship. It sickens me that the concept of a family is falling apart. Marriage does not work these days because people are immature sluts who can't stick to one person for the rest of their life. At college all I see is a bunch of alcoholics who hook up with different people every week. Where is the fun in that? I can't understand why people don't want to get married anymore...I guess I'm just lucky that I was raised by married parents.
haha you deserved it just by letting her be comfortable doing stuff like that to you! Keep your woman in place!
either she is terrified of marriage or is totally hiding the fact that she still has feelings for someone.
#45 - On 03/05/2009 at 3:43pm by secretlife22
Did she just say no? Or did she say more, and you just couldn't elaborate? If she just said no, that's pretty mean :( I'm sorry. It sucks either way.
#47 - On 03/05/2009 at 5:15pm by carriealana
fuck dude thats brutal. keep ya head up, as tupac would say
#48 - On 03/05/2009 at 5:19pm by crakbbyaparently
Ouch....I mean it does suck to be put on the spot with a proposal when you arent ready, but to respond like that is reallllly insensitive and bitchy. She couldve broken it more softly and talked to you about why she didnt want to get engaged. Id say take this as a sign to find a girl more deserving of that ring.
i mean she has a right to say no, but why in such a bitchy way? i'm sorry man
#50 - On 03/05/2009 at 5:58pm by interventions
you should never propose before you've had the marriage talk and know you both want to get married. Otherwise you are just asking to be told "no" when you do propose
Please tell me you stood up and just walked out on the bitch and broke up with her...
#55 - On 03/05/2009 at 10:01pm by life_is_a_hooker
What a bitch. Does she have any pride? If you turn someone down then turn their gifts down too! I'm sorry, man.
#56 - On 03/05/2009 at 10:10pm by justjayit
Yeah it sucks, but at least she didn't cause a scene and I'm glad you didn't either. She didn't have to accept. Move on to the next girl and you'll find the right one.
Ok so we all agree that she handled it poorly and is taking advantage of that guy's generosity? :/
#61 - On 03/06/2009 at 2:33am by AdventSign
hmm maybe she expected a creative way to be proposed to?
but I'm sorry that was really mean of her :/
#62 - On 03/06/2009 at 3:04am by cutieangel
#39: Good way of showing you are unable to think without prejudice. My parents are married, they have a normal relationship, and just because I said you shouldn't get married, doesn't mean you can't be in a monogamous relationship with someone.
All I'm saying is that marriage has got nothing to do with how much you love someone. Marriage doesn't create more love, the only thing it does is show other people something about your relationship. Since I don't give a shit about what other people think, I don't see why I should get married.
Then there's the costs. Getting married costs a lot of money, seeing as I don't have a reason to get married, why would I want to spend money on something I think is useless?
Then there's the attraction perspective. One of the things that creates attraction is the fear of loss. Most people probably won't understand what this means, but getting married removes that fear and thus lowers attraction. This is why a lot of marriages fail; they stop trying to keep the relationship going.
Just take a look at the statistics. Take a look at how many people get divorced every single year. Or how many people have been in a succesful relationship for years, then decide to get married and end up getting divorced just a year later.
So my whole point of not getting married has got nothing to do with how I was raised. It's only got to do with logical thinking.
That's f*cked up dude. Dump this ass, if that was here reaction.
It's time to get yourself a new girlfriend.
Good luck!
She can't just say NO and act like nothing happened! That is childish and inconsiderate of her. At the very least she should have told you why did she say no.
Never ask a question to which you don't know the answer!
I agree with #18-- once you've talked about marriage, THEN pop the question... don't just pop it and hope it'll go okay.
#72 - On 03/06/2009 at 12:57pm by Memmy
when the bill came u should've said no... then walked out, leaving her to pay. by how she responded it doesnt seem like she has any respect for u. even if you didnt talk about marriage already or werent sure. if she respected you, she could have been a little less cold.
#73 - On 03/06/2009 at 2:21pm by blinkingstarlet
hahahahah #69
btw you should never have proposed without positively knowing she was going to say yes.
#74 - On 03/06/2009 at 7:18pm by formosababie
I would have done the same thing. That doesn't' mean she doesn't love you, just means she doesn't want to get married. Be fucking happy with what you got.
Today, my boyfriend took me to a nice restaurant. He asked a waiter to bring me a dessert with my surprise, there's a ring on it and planning to propose. I was planning to dump him tomorrow. FML.
don't be mean, if she wasn't ready, she wasn't ready. that's why you don't pop that question in public douche bag, great job now everyone thinks your poor girlfriend is a bitch and it's all your fault.
#81 - On 03/09/2009 at 1:00am by musical_rina
Sucks to be you, but in no way does that make your girlfriend a bitch. The Question isn't rhetorical, and she has the right to say no. At least she didn't freak out and make a scene about it; she gave you an answer and went back to enjoying the meal. Would you have felt better if she ran out crying?
Awww that's just uncalled for. Even if she wasn't interested in marriage at the time, it could have been put so much better than a "no" and then continue like it didn't just happen.
are you sure she wasn't just saying no to the ring being in the dessert? ...
#85 - On 03/12/2009 at 7:56pm by ninjablender11
#3 ur right.
but i dont think she said no bcause of the size of the diamonds..obviously.
its because she doesent want to marry him.
no means no, doesent matter what the diamonds are like.
#88 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:05am by latereflex
i cant imagine what that must have felt like.
its like "wanna marry me"
"no"
*awkward pause*
Sooo.... u seen that new brad pitt movie.. that was cool..
*looks around awkwardly*
something like that huh?
#89 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:07am by latereflex
She's a bitch; you shouldn't marry someone like that anyway.
#94 - On 04/12/2009 at 4:41pm by YouMustBe_Joking
yeah. i agree with the snatching desert thing. snatch her desert, or take the ring and leave her with teh bill.
thats a bitchy things for her to do. she could have at least said, lets think about it some more, or i need more time, or lets talk about this together when we get home.
she should have thanked you and said that she was flattered.
chicks these days, i cant believe them.
its like they cant even see that the fact that you spent time thinking about what it would be like spending the rest of your life with her, spent time out of your day to pick out a ring you think she'll like and spending the kind of money that an engagement ring is worth is extremely falttering and at least deserves some consideration.
#98 - On 06/13/2009 at 12:01pm by skittleface
Awww. You poor baby! I'm sorry.
She was a bitch anyways. You're lucky you didn't marry that bitch. Enjoy being single for now.
TEEHEE
Ouch, what a burn! Never mind, tho, if she's like that you shouldn't marry her anyways. Unless she really loves you and just wants to enjoy dating first for like seven years or something.
#103 - On 07/20/2009 at 3:45am by PschedelicWan
what a fatty. good thing she said no lol otherwise you might have actually gotten married TO A FATTY :O
lol jk.
#107 - On 03/19/2010 at 7:40am by czarofandronia
