Today, my girlfriend missed our date, so I text her angry, telling her if she can't make our dates then we should break up, and generally telling her off. 5 Minutes later I get a picture message of her sleeping in a hospital bed from her mother saying "Shut the **** up, she had appendicitis." FML
I agree, your life sucks (8602) - you totally deserved it (51686)
On 06/30/2009 at 7:20am - love - by annoyedguy (man) - United States (Tennessee)
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owcch... well, you weren't to know I guess
I don't see why he couldn't just ask where she was, and if she was on her way. Guys are so immature.
#40 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:37pm by slydevil11
He couldn't have known she had appendicitis, but he didn't have to just start acting like an asshole without asking about it first. Also, if you're going to accuse someone of something and threaten to break up with them, for the love of Pete, don't do it in a text.
He did say "dates". This has probably become a habit of hers. And if they're in any kind of serious relationship and no one in the family could bother letting him know until there was an opportunity to make him look like a jackass (you would think they knew their daughter had a big date coming up), then maybe there's something bigger to look into here.
Do you always explode over such things? You should consider anger management... that behavior is not normal.
That said, you should have lived up to everyone's expectations and responded to mommy with the following text message:
"I am not a mind reader, how was I supposed to know? I would therefore like to cordially invite you madam, to kindly kiss my entire, big, fat, hairy, pocked-marked, pimple-studded, gerbil-infested, stench-reeking, cellulite-covered, never-wiped, stretched, red-royal ass, you useless sub-human pig of a no-good useless Bi+ch."
Really. You had nothing to lose at that point.
And one more item....
If I had been your girl friend's dad, I would have responded to your text message by inviting you to the hospital because my little girl had appendicitis and was asking for you.
And when you would have showed up in her hospital room, I would have "walked" you into the bathroom, and proceeded to shove my un-lubricated fist up your ass and remove YOUR appendix. And then you could testify to one and all what REAL anger looks like.
No self respecting dad would allow his daughter to be treated that way, not even after she is married.
You got off easy douche bag. You need to have your gonads smashed for even being retarded enough to post what a pathetic, ignorant, and callous person you are.
40, I hate people like you that assume person belongs to group a so they must be b. (example, john is male, so he must be immature)
#201 - On 07/01/2009 at 12:39am by lolzforfun228
#195 lol internet white knight
he sent her an angry text because she keeps missing dates, he didn't rape her...
#224 - On 07/01/2009 at 5:27am by ElMundio87
The OP shouldn't have freaked out but he has a right to be mad if she's chronically late. If they argue about this all the time then maybe in another situation he would've been completely within his rights to threaten to break up. The OP posted no details, so we can't know. Also, even though you might be worried about your date, you don't usually think they have appendicitis and are in the hospital. I agree that the OP was a whiny bitch but honestly the girl's mom was one too. In the circumstances, it's understandable, but still incredibly rude.
way to generalize. i see how 1 guy being a douche suddenly makes all guys immature.
#237 - On 07/01/2009 at 4:30pm by Plumppotato
Does not make any difference to me. I don't care if she is late for EVERY one of your dates. Live with it, or move on, but don't you dare get pissy, nasty, or obnoxious about it.You talk to MY daughter like that, I am going to smash your nuts. Period.
I have a rope, a shovel, and five acres of densely wooded back yard. Do not mess with my daughter.
true, but you can't assume either. as we all know. when you assume...(you make an as sof u and me). which is exactly what happened to him here.
there's also this thing called giving someone the benefit of the doubt. he could have asked first, "where ru?" and if she didn't text back, then send a voicemail saying, "I hope you're alright. I'm leaving the restaurant, because I don't want to wait any longer." but you don't just act like a drama queen and just tell her off for not being there on time.
#98 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:46pm by curryndricegirll
If his first reaction to getting stood up by his girlfriend is "that fucking cunt ditched me" instead of "I wonder if something happened to her", he totally deserves it, whether he knew she was in the hospital or not.
This right here is how you spot a self-centered asshole.
If his first reaction to getting stood up by his girlfriend is "that fucking cunt ditched me" instead of "I wonder if something happened to her", he totally deserves it, whether he knew she was in the hospital or not.
This right here is how you spot a self-centered asshole.
I think it's natural for human beings to always assume the negative. That doesn't make him an asshole.
#204 - On 07/01/2009 at 1:29am by cadre
he could of thought the negative in his mind which is definitely natural, but he shouldn't of acted on it
How was she going to tell him if she was in the hospital? Plus, maybe her mom didn't know of the date at all or she got it before she told her. If I was a mom and my daughter would be in the hospital, I wouldn't think at the first second ''OWAIT SHE HAS A DATE, GOTTA CALL HIM.'' I'd be more worried about my daughter than about her boyfriend. It's his own fault, he should've just called first.
#115 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:33pm by Lillinette
#104 - Let's hang out a week from Friday. And I swear to God, if you use "I just found out I have AIDS" as an excuse for not showing up, we're not friends anymore.
See how ridiculous that sounds?
During a health issue, the last thing on your mind isn't to make sure your bf doesn't assume you're blowing him off. Instead, if it's a loving relationship, you should probably assume he'd call, worried- Not pissed. His fault. She cannot be expected to drop her health issue just to "notify" him she can't make it. We're not all in HS, there are bigger things in life than not making it to a date.
#123 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:55pm by rayrayy
#104..she could've gotten really bad and needed to go to the hospital immediately and didnt have time to call him or just wasn't thinking about it.
OP: I personally think ydi. You should have asked where she was first before you got angry and threatened her with a break up. Something else couldve happened to her or this could have been really serious.
as someone who has had appendicitis, informing your boyfriend that you can't make your date is the least on your mind. You're kinda focused on the excruciating pain resonating from your side, and trying to walk into the hospital without collapsing or throwing up out of the pain.
#146 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:39pm by painfuldiodes
um sometimes people get rushed to the ER because they suddenly have intense stomach pains, and then they discover its appendicitis. you can't always know well in advance
Half the incidents on this website could be avoided if people would just analyze their situations more carefully.
Isn't that the point though? It's FML, people letting things slip the tiniest bit and all hell breaking loose :]
#31 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:31pm by nu
#31
-Agreed. And then, we get to comment on it down here and more hell breaks loose. Weee.
#266 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:26pm by GreatAwakening
well, you didn't know, but maybe you should at least wait to hear what she would have to say before freaking out on her. sometimes emergencies do come up, such as this one. YDI for flipping before giving her a chance to explain.
#8 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:19pm by fretforyerlatte
ur an ass! she misses one date and u say you should break up?
are you two still together? or did she break up with you like she should have?
#9 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:19pm by missmeliss0309
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most any guy that threatens that is just speaking anger, name one person you know that DOESN'T ever get angry and I will suck your cock(ghandi doesn't count and the pope does get angry). besides the MOTHER should have called before BITCH!!!! :D
The mother was probably too busy being concerned about her daughter's appendicitis to be worried about her missed date.
As well, getting angry and threatening to break up with someone over ONE MISSED DATE are two entirely different things.
(sorry, I screwed up the posting of this slightly. It was a response to #27)
#32 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:33pm by studentwoes
to #27: Actually, there are plenty of folks who have found contentment in life and have therefore learned to control their anger.
#38 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:37pm by GrapefruitZoe
its all good, i think everyone got the jist of it. I mean its understandable about her forgetting the date, but she should have told the BF something. I know my girlfriend's parents would call me immediately if something happened to her.
exactly. the mother shouldn't have flipped out on him, either. it's her fault for not letting him know what happened. yeah, she might have been concerned about her daughter's health, but don't you think the boyfriend would be too? he deserves to know if she's in the hospital, too.
Concern and worry first, things slip peoples minds. I want to see if each of y'all who say the mother should have called him would even remember? And the text he sent, actually warrants her being a bitch. Stop taking up for this dick.
#96 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:43pm by ohhhhshizzz
i don't think she missed only one date. it mentions how she misses dateS, enough for him to want to break up with her at least.
personally i don't think he deserved it because he had probably had this problem before where he was concerned several times but each time she was just not going for some reason. he has probably taken this into account and just assumed she was doing it again. it would really be a ydi for not being perfect/not being forgiving enough/being unlucky.
and if i were him the text message wouldn't really be the thing that would bother me, rather the guilt.
kthxz
So OP goes off on an angry rant without bothering to figure out if the girlfriend has a good reason for missing the date, a distraught mother sees this and replies, and *she's* the rude one? Seriously?
I fear for the world.
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what the hell,, dude,, u fail at life,, poor girl,, fml,, my boyfriend is an inconsiderate lil prick that thinks his soooo smart, well maybe u shud pick up a phone you douche bag, and for all you grammer freaks. What the hell, you fail at life, poor girl, fhl, my boyfriend is an inconsiderate little tool that can't even pick up the phone when im running extremely late for a date, jerk! sorry this message might make no sense to you im a lil tipsy
#11 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:20pm by abbylovesdahlia
what??
*edit: that was supposed to be @ #11, but the sites having problems. sorry guys!
#17 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:22pm by missmeliss0309
Behaving like that starts being unacceptable right about the time you hit age 9. If you flipped out on me for missing a date without first finding out if I genuinely forgot, got caught in a traffic jam, or had appendicitis, I'd fully agree with you on the time-to-break-up thing. And if your girlfriend has a lick of sense, she will too.
So your girlfriend is in the hospital, her mother knows, and NOBODY tells you? How is this your fault?
#19 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:24pm by Stratigenia
No mother I know would say "My daughter is seriously ill and needs medical attention? MUST CALL BOYFRIEND FIRST!!" No. Appendticitis is a relatively common issue and the procedure is relatively routine. She was right to leave it to the daughter in her recovery to inform whoever she saw fit.
Are you kidding? Appendicitis can have serious complications and people usually end up in the hospital for at least a couple of days. It's definitely something a boyfriend should be called about. When I ended up in the hospital with appendicitis my mom offered to call my boyfriend not long after I got there.
#87 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:30pm by _elly_beth_
Some boyfriends have good relations with mothers of their girlfriends and some don't really have any interaction. My mom, for example, is not that great at being a people-person. If anything were to happen to me, she would almost guaranteed still not call my boyfriend to tell him. Maybe it's a language barrier thing as well. That doesn't mean that my boyfriend and I love each other any less or that our relationship is any less valid, btw. It just means people are different and families are different.
By the way, it IS the OP's fault for flipping out like that.
#117 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:35pm by englishmuffin
FML would be a much less popular site if people would think before they flipped out.
#20 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:25pm by mendertorsel
you are SUCH an asshole. guys are supposed to be gentlemen and fucking respect girls...id never give you the time of day. you mother didnt do a very good job raising you.
#23 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:27pm by alexgisforme3
Girls can cuss all we want asswipe. And whore is the oldest insult in the book. At least get a new one.
her parents suck for not telling you she was in the hospital. FYL... they deserve it...
#24 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:27pm by spank_u_veryhard
Has anyone even noticed this guy's alias? YDI and you have no justification for being annoyed. Your girlfriend was in the hospital...asshole! I'm glad her mom told you off.
Why was her mom reading her texts anyways! I think that is such an invasion of privacy, and then to respond! I would be so mad if my mom did that.
But you should have first asked why she didnt go.
#28 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:30pm by adorepink86
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He assumed something and he would have been right 99.9% of the time.
See, if women were responsible and on time once in awhile--and if it was rare for a woman to not show up for a date with no explanation--THEN his first consideration would have been that there may have been an emergency.
He didn't flip out, people. He sent her an angry text and he was right to do so. He deserved an explanation, not to be stood up.
#35 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:34pm by christopherlove
So just because he's angry it isn't considered flipping out? You're absurd. If she was late several times then he should have said so.
And FYI, I'm on time most of the time (usually early, actually) and I'm a woman.
#52 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:42pm by xOpheliacx
You're completely generalizing a stereotype here. I'm a woman and I'm usually on time or early.
It's like me saying that you guys deserve to be stood up once in a while because you're always late since you're too proud to ask for directions to where you're going.
Punctuality is individual. Some people are just late all the time, no matter if they're female or male.
#67 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:55pm by kvgf1484
Sorry to burst your retarded stereotype bubble, but I am a woman and I am NEVER EVER late! Its a pet peeve of mine. My boyfriend is the one who is always late, and we argue about that all the time.
So sorry you stupid prick, not all women are such cunts. Sounds like you're the one with the problem since you obviously only ever date stupid whores who probably take hours and hours to get ready. High maintenance girls fucking suck. How about trying to date a real woman someday instead of a high maintenance air headed whore?
Men. They are all fucking dumbasses.
And the OP deserves to be bitched out by the mother. He's obviously a complete dick and immature as hell to not be able to send civil texts to his girlfriend. I hope she dumped his worthless ass.
if she's missed a bunch of dates it could be understandable but u didn't mention that at all so ydi.
Over reaction much? She missed one date - you should have gotten over it, and left her a polite message asking what happened and if everything was alright. YDI for being a bitch a bout it.
#41 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:37pm by BLNovelist
If this was a repeat I could see it, but if this was the first time, then damn...you gf misses a date and thats what you assume? A simple call would not only have clarified this, but also would show concern. So unless she missed dates several times before (minus the appendicitis of course ;) then YDI.
Maybe next time you should consider asking why she keeps missing your dates instead of having a bitchfit. Now stop hanging around FML, go over to the hospital with a big thing of roses and say you're sorry for being an asshat.
#54 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:42pm by 18legalawesome
Seriously, 54. What is this guy doing on FML? He should be at the hospital begging for forgiveness.
#111 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:25pm by auroraaustralis
I wouldn't say he deserves it.. He should have been one of the first people contacted if she's undergoing an operation.
#59 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:49pm by Cromwellsandwich
i agree with 59, he should break up with her because she didnt care enough to let him know she was in the hospital...
You are so fucking stupid, how could she tell him? She wasn't even awake, and I highly doubt she would have been coherent if she had been.
#99 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:48pm by ohhhhshizzz
i don't think i've seen a guy freaking out over being stood up before.
#64 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:54pm by mister_moops
Appendicitis can happen very quickly. The parents were probably too wrapped up in dealing with the medical emergency at hand to stop and text the boyfriend. When the mother finally got around to replying is probably the first time she had a moment to stop and consider him.
#65 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:54pm by studentwoes
Is this the first time she's missed your dates? If it is, why wouldn't you just call her asking where she was, and if it's not...again, why wouldn't you just call her asking where she was? YDI for being an immature moron and flipping out for no reason at all.
#66 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:54pm by irishlassie731
Assumptions sometimes expose a person's true colors. I would not want to be with someone that told me off before knowing what actually happened. I hope this idiot got dumped after that stunt. That's just totally douchey.
#70 - On 06/30/2009 at 2:58pm by Evilbeagle
And why the fuck didn't you just text her to ask if she was on her way yet, a few minutes after the start of the date? YDI.
I'm tempted to guess you still aren't over not having a date that night, considering your name is "annoyedguy."
Either way, YDI. You couldn't see what was going on before blowing up at her?
lol if this was posted by a girl, people would be commenting on how women are such drama queens, and basically being sexist and stereotypical about it.
Actually, I would view it the same. Can't speak for anyone else, but anyone, male or female, that throws a bitchy little tantrum without knowing the facts is an idiot as far as I am concerned.
#79 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:13pm by Evilbeagle
The OP is a drama queen. And unless this is a lesbian couple, they are male. Maybe the only women you've dated are high maintenance whores. Don't project your stereotypes on the world.
It completely amazes me that stupid like this exists, despite the fact that I am constantly being exposed to the stupid. I have to wonder how much longer my faith in humanity will hold out, seriously.
You're a dumb fuck. You don't deserve a girlfriend if you're going to be that over dramatic in a text message. There's so many things you could've done instead of acting like an immature brat. I wouldn't want to date a guy can't be bothered to ask what's going on, but can instead flame me via text message.
#82 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:23pm by redbluegreen
The girlfriend's parents couldn't have informed the OP? Her parents had her phone, and he is her boyfriend... seems logical the parents would try to make SOME contact instead of leaving the OP out-to-dry. Would the parents have even told the bf if he didn't angrily text his gf?
It's far from a YDI. He may have been over-the-edge, but it's awfully rude of her parents to not inform him.
#85 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:28pm by cheesesoda
I could understand that if the OP and the girlfriend had been dating for a long time, but for all we know this could have been like their third date, in which case it's not unreasonable to think that her parents wouldn't think to tell him, since they probably wouldn't know him that well. In fact the mom might not even have known her daughter had a date.
#156 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:56pm by shananigans
we obviously don't know the whole story.. she could be chronically late and he finally got fed up.
you definitely are going to have to kiss some ass for a while, but you didn't know.
#86 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:30pm by dreamfactory
You're not much of a boyfriend if you weren't notified that your girlfriend was in the hospital.
#89 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:34pm by _elly_beth_
when you are meeting someone and they are not there when they set a date, you don't think "oh, maybe they just have appendicitis...its okay", you think that they stood you up. if you deny it, you are a liar. all those people saying YDI, you obviously think that he is supposed to telepathically know that she is in the hospital...especially you #88!!!
#90 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:35pm by jdylopa0427
He shouldn't just freak out and say he wants to break up with her for standing her up. He shouldn't automatically assume that. Maybe she had a flat tire. Maybe something happened to her sibling. It's not a good thing for him to automatically assume she stood him up, unless it has happened in the past, which the OP didn't specify. He should have asked where she was and if everything was okay instead of telling her off without knowing the situation.
I would not think my boyfriend stood me up, I would think something happened and probably get worried. And I am not a liar or in denial. Not everyone thinks like you.
#100 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:51pm by _elly_beth_
No, genius (#90). A person who genuinely cared about their significant other would be concerned that something bad had happened: car accident, death in the family, broken down car, etc. etc.
The smart thing would have been to call her, since he obviously had a cell AND her number to do so since he sent her a text message. And then her mother would have answered (more than likely since the woman got the text message) and explained what had happened.
#114 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:32pm by auroraaustralis
No. If my boyfriend didn't show up for a date, I would be worried he'd gotten hurt or sick. Not jumping to conclusions, going batshit insane and threatening to break up with him.
you dont derserve her if i was a dude i would call her and if no answer go to her house to see if she's ok. Then text her where she is and that you care. Asshole is what you are.
I don't find it completely his fault because he didn't know and if my boyfriend missed my date and no one told me anything then I'd be upset too. If he didn't know... Youi can't balme him for getting upset. You can't say you'd do this that and the other in that kind of situation beccause that situation turns into a really confusing one. I'm sure he feels shitty. I'd probably text my boyfriend because i was upset he had missed our date but I'm sure it will be fine once he talks it out and apologizes. Jeez. Don't say someone doesn't deserve someone for getting upset over something that any other person would get upset over until they realized the reason.
#92 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:41pm by seniorenyore
OK seriously. YDIIIIIIIIIIIII. I would break up with you after that, even if she didn't have appendicitis.
#94 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:43pm by poiuytrewqlkjhgf
well if I had a bf i would have ask someone to let him know i couldnt make it and hope you would come see me in the hospital. so maybe you're not a complete ass,you didnt know and apparently this wasnt the first time she stood you up.
#95 - On 06/30/2009 at 3:43pm by Soniplaystation
Sounds to me like she's broken more than one date. If it's the first time then he's an asshole. If this happened several times then most of us probably would have thought the same thing. Why stay with someone who can't be bothered to keep a date with you.
What the hell.
Okay, imagine for a second your kid suddenly has to go to the emergency room, you're worried sick, and then learn she has appendicitis. You're trying to get her to relax in her hospital bed. An angry boyfriend pissed off about a missed date is probably the LAST thing you want to deal with, especially if he's threatening a breakup and possibly throwing insults at her. And his date is probably the last thing on your mind.
If I was this chick's mom, I would go off on the guy for being such an ass and jumping to conclusions, pulling that stunt on MY daughter.
It's in the middle. They should have told you about her hospitalization but you shouldn't have overreacted.
#103 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:03pm by GothamKnight
well if I had a bf i would have ask someone to let him know i couldnt make it and hope you would come see me in the hospital. so maybe you're not a complete ass,you didnt know and apparently this wasnt the first time she stood you up.
#107 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:15pm by Soniplaystation
I had appendicitis and honestly there's nooo way you can even think or act or do anything. It's horribleeee.
But I guess since the OP didn't expect it its okay...but really you didnt have to jump the gun like that by saying OOO we're breaking up. That's a bit extreme.
#108 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:17pm by frootloop25
How the fuck was the OP supposed to know? But unless this is a recurring thing maybe chill out next time.
You all really need to give the posters the benefit of the doubt. How do you all know if it was just the first date she didn't show up for or the 20th? People don't exactly send a text about breaking up if the other isn't going to be on time for ONE date so it probably has happened many times.
If the parents had told him she was in the hospital or if the girl would have been on time for earlier dates this never would've happened. So FYL, because the girl's parents hate you and it was partially their fault.
Among the other things that the OP didn't specify, we don't know if her parents even knew about their relationship. His girlfriend obviously had other things on her mind at the time (pain perhaps?) and so contacting him was probably not high on her list of priorities. And even if her mother did know about him, having a child in the hospital for any reason can be rather stressful, so contacting some boy would be the least of her worries.
In the future, just make sure to "look before you leap."
#118 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:37pm by Sailorceti
Guess that's what happens when you take your girlfriend for granted, asshole.
#119 - On 06/30/2009 at 4:39pm by kathryn_anne0629
As Sergeant Striker (John Wayne) said in the Sands of Iwo Jima: “Life's tough, it's tougher when you're stupid.”
Heh got to say, her mom is pretty awesome for that one. Next time call or send a text asking where someone is or if they are okay before you pull a go crazy.
He's an asshole for not thinking about what could be going on and calling.
If he called, none of this could have happened.
jerk...why couldn't you have been nice about it and ask where she was instead of bitching her out and threatning that you two break up? don't just assume things. guys are so immature and can be so stupid.
#127 - On 06/30/2009 at 5:13pm by cheerleader95
Well they could've told you she was being rushed to hospital! You only find out by accident when she's already asleep?!
well its not all your fault...
they could have told you
i mean come on you're going out!
but then you could have asked why she didnt go
not just "tell her off"
I fault the mom for not calling you. If you were that serious you should have been at the top of the list.
Who said they were that serious, for all we know they may have only been dating for two weeks. The mom may not have known her daughter had a date, and besides she had bigger things to worry about. The OP should have called first to see where the girl was.
#135 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:02pm by shananigans
If my boyfriend didn't show up for a date, I'd be worried that something bad had happened to him, not telling him off in angry texts.
Anyone who reacts like this is clearly too immature to even be in a relationship.
What is up with people jumping to conclusions, acting like assholes, then whining about it on FML? F your girlfriend's life for having such a jerk BF. Unless she regularly misses your dates, in which case you could've been more clear in the FML, why wouldn't you think something might be wrong, and CALL first, rather than assuming that she just decided not to show up?
#136 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:07pm by shananigans
like I always say "it best to hear reasion, before going over the edge"
I think you skiped a step...
hope you girlfriend is doing ok.
RI
Anger issues?? I wonder what is wrong with you that you got mad at her instead of being concerned that something bad might have happened?
fyl indeed. her mom could have not been a total bitch and called you to tell you she was in the hospital. you can't expect too much from women tho.
#139 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:25pm by Nightfallz
Usually when people have a child in the hospital they're more worried about the child than any possible dates. But you wouldn't know that, since you've obviously never gotten laid and therefore can have no child.
The mother was just soooooo out of order. The mother should say sorry and write FML!
#142 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:30pm by Bradley55265
you can't just go around assuming things and texting shit before you know what happend you diserved it dumbass
Better boyfriend: Hun, where are you? You missed our date- is everything ok?
#147 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:41pm by peanut_dog
#147 - perfect.
When you assume things, you make an ass out of you & me(=
That mother was mean, haha. "STFU" , goodness!
#148 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:44pm by fucklifeee
Yes, yes, yes. If you can't even respect her, don't bother going out with her, asshole.
Kudos to the mom.
#152 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:51pm by truthbetoldxx
U don't deserve that! She shud have told u that beforehand, given she's ur girlfriend! Fyl
#151 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:50pm by brunoisbeast
You obviously know nothing about appendicitis. SHE'S IN EXCRUCIATING PAIN. She's not thinking about her date, she's can hardly even WALK.
Excuse her for not thinking about her boyfriend. He's not exactly the most important thing in her life at that moment.
#157 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:57pm by truthbetoldxx
lmao yes. "Uh, honey, I'm gonna have appendicitis tomorow so I'm gonna miss our date"
See the problem with your argument?
Oh wow, you don't deserve that at all. When I had Gangrenous Appendicitis AND Periappendicitis, I still had time to drive home for an hour and a half to my dad's hospital. She definitely had time to call you and tell you what happened. Don't hang out with her for a while, she'll have gas.
YDI for threatening to break up with her cause she missed a date.
#155 - On 06/30/2009 at 6:53pm by OMGlaraFAILS
wow. anger issues. I love that in a man! not... you don't deserve a girl if you talk to her like that....
#158 - On 06/30/2009 at 7:14pm by littlemisslee
Some people don't realize they have appendicitis until it's about ready to burst and they don't have time to make phone calls before going in for an operation.
I can't believe your first reaction was to tell her off in texts and not call and ask where she is and if she's okay. What are you, sixteen? Threatening to break up with your girlfriend just because she missed a date is incredibly pathetic.
I hope SHE breaks up with YOU for being an immature douche.
Wow dude...That was pretty lame...
I'm not gonna talk shit about you,because I don't even know who you are,but to go off yelling at your girlfriend in a texts like that...REALLY LAME.
#163 - On 06/30/2009 at 7:29pm by Doomedkelso
first of all, your a dipshit, i hate when people assume things like that. get over yourself. and second of all, why do people even post things like this on FML? do they not realize people are just going to make you feel retarded?
Nah. Its kinda the girls fault. Its kind of courtesy to text someone if you have a date and an emergency came up so he wouldn't be standing there waiting for hours like an idiot.
The whole point of an emergency is that it needs to be taken care of immediately and therefore becomes more important than anything else. If she'd gotten in a car accident would you still be saying that?
Um, you're joking, right?
I mean, there are emergencies, like having to suddenly show up somewhere else.. Then it's polite to call.
And there are EMERGENCIES such as getting hit by a car or having a serious illness. In those cases it is sometimes impossible to call.
What was she supposed to do?
"Oh yeah baby, I'm sorry i'm late for our date, but I'm being rushed to the hospital in an ambulance and writhing in agony because of a burst appendix. Calling you to cancel the date is the FIRST thing I could think of doing, even though I'm currently half-conscious with pain, having a fever, and possibly dying. Bye hon, hope you're not too angry with me...."
#273 - On 08/25/2009 at 11:43pm by apachecove
Way to trust your girlfriend
Never jump to conclusions. I think I've said that on FMLs at least a billion times.
#169 - On 06/30/2009 at 7:50pm by Avenging_Angel
Hahaha it's pretty funny that her mom would text you that.
Life lesson = always give the benefit of the doubt.
If the person doesn't really deserve whatever you were planning on saying, then your ass is saved. If not, you seem noble for holding out, and can be sure that they deserve it.
poor girl, poor you! Definitely fyl. you didnt know, how could u have? that could happen to anyone.
#177 - On 06/30/2009 at 9:06pm by LetItRock2009
What's wrong with people these days? Whatever happened to if someone doesn't make a date.. you call them to find out why instead of generalizing that the worst happened. If she was 15 minutes or so late.. you could have just called or texted her to find out where she was.
Obviously her family didn't' like you enough to tell you what had happened. Maybe they sensed your douche bage tendencies. Besides, in the heat of her problem, I'm sure as most mothers would be that her prime concern would be for her daughters health and safety, not texting some asshole about anything. There are so many things you have to do when admitting someone into the hospital that I'm sure the parent was very busy. The daughter was obviously too busy to make contact with you as well..
#179 - On 06/30/2009 at 9:20pm by verstecktergeist
She could have called you, or had her mom call you before you were supposed to meet.
#181 - On 06/30/2009 at 9:27pm by AnnieLennox1954
Seriously? She was probably knocked out for the surgery, and her mom probably didn't give a rat's ass about their date, if she even knew about it. The girl's health was more important than anything else at that moment. A burst appendix can kill you. "Mom, I know I'm dying right now, but I need you to call my boyfriend and tell him I can't make it to our date on time, here let me find his number -owww" ... yeah RIGHT.
OP: you're a dick, and I hope she breaks up with you. In a text.
#187 - On 06/30/2009 at 9:59pm by jmgirl
Ooo. YDI, find out the fact before coming to assumptions o_O
#184 - On 06/30/2009 at 9:51pm by littlegirllove
Dude, where do you think you get off getting that pissed off at your girlfriend for missing a date. If anything, you should break up because you're a giant asshole.
I would NEVER say that to my girlfriend, and I'd make sure she was ok in a situation like that.
Seriously, stop being a prick. What are you, 12?
you kinda deserve it for jumping to conclusions, but on the otherhand she could have told her mom to text you AS she was going to the hospital.
You were in the wrong bitching her out so soon, but I guess I could see why. But dont sweat it, you had no idea of knowing she was in the hospital. Go buy some flowers and see her, prove to her mother that you DO care for her.
#188 - On 06/30/2009 at 10:18pm by silentlullaby
185- stop bitching, dumbass. he had no way of knowing.
OP, kinda YDI for snapping, but at the same time, what are you going to do, cry and beg forgiveness for not magically knowing she was sick the very instant it happened? i think the mother deserves a verbal bitchslap.
#197 - On 07/01/2009 at 12:00am by podrummer9209
I would have replied back "I had no idea she was sick, because none of you f••kers bothred to let me know bitch!".
It sounds to me like there's a problem with the relationship itself, not just you. If my boyfriend missed a date with me, my first reaction would be to worry that something had happened to him. If you don't feel that way when you don't hear from your girlfriend, and instead feel intense anger and fear of rejection, maybe the relationship's not all it could be...?
I am sorry, but if your girlfriend didn't show up or notify you right away, there is no point in being pissed about it to that extreme of wanting to break up...... that is ludicrous. YDI for all it is worth.
#205 - On 07/01/2009 at 1:47am by thebigslim
her mom rocks, and you need to grow up. YDI, asshole.
#206 - On 07/01/2009 at 1:52am by thedrumsthedrums
....She missed one date and you chew her ass via text? Ever heard of ask questions first, get mad later?
#208 - On 07/01/2009 at 1:57am by musicislife
most (smart) people would ask what happened before they curse someone off. the mother has a right to tell you to shut the fuck up. YDI for not asking simple questions before cursing someone off.
#209 - On 07/01/2009 at 2:12am by EhLasalvadorena
okay yeah it was little messed up to just go off on her like that without knowing the conditions but also its pretty fucked up that her family didnt tell you she had appendicitis. i know if i was in the hospital id have my family tell all my close friends. so next time i wouldnt react as harshly but also hopefully someone has told you the conditions.
Pfft, that aint ur fault being her boyfriend u should have been told. so really her mum is a fucking cunt:)
#219 - On 07/01/2009 at 4:47am by Aussiemate
As I said before the mom had more important things to worry about. When someone's taken into the hospital there's a lot to do, she didn't have time to call the BF.
thank you, i agree completley. i mean seriously, if your daughter was in the hospital for this condition wouldn't you be more worried about her then worried about who you call and tell this too ? of course, they're not going to waste time calling people.
#234 - On 07/01/2009 at 2:04pm by EhLasalvadorena
At the very least, we can say the mom reacted appropriately.
#226 - On 07/01/2009 at 6:52am by dyingstart
Wow, you are so rude and you jump to conclusions pretty damn easily. You didn't even try to see if there was a logical explanation for it? You're such an idiot, and she deserves better than you.
#228 - On 07/01/2009 at 8:36am by purplesucker
Holy crap, you're an insecure douchebag. Who would call when she was running late and ask where she was? Oh wait... a douchebag. And to assume that she was just ditching you, you must have a ton of incsecurities about either yourself or your relationship. Read some Dr. Phil and get over yourself.
#229 - On 07/01/2009 at 9:25am by superdudeman
Nice job, asshole. Jesus christ... you deserved that 100%. Learn to live.
#230 - On 07/01/2009 at 9:35am by livelaughlovinit
I would've been more worried than angry if my girlfriend didn't show up for our date. you are such a douche. YDI
I feel bad that i laughed, but your Girl's Mom is awesome!!
Don't feel bad though, u cudn't have known.
And the Mom shud have let you know if you guys are dating.
Boo her!!
Overreact much? If it's a regular occurrence, that's one thing, but from the sounds of it, you just overreacted at her missing ONE date. Ever think she might have a good reason? I'd just be worried something might have happened.
#235 - On 07/01/2009 at 2:08pm by QueenOfMelodrama
why wouldn't her mom call you to let her know they were at the hospital? that sucks, but you couldve been a little less negative in your firs message.
Asshole. Why don't you try a "Hey, where are you?" next time instead of freaking out like a big insensitive jerkbag?
#238 - On 07/01/2009 at 5:40pm by SwampThing
I feel you deserved that. Why? Because appendicitis is a bitch, and why would you break up with someone just for missing a date?
#239 - On 07/01/2009 at 6:03pm by ShenziSixaxis
Holy geez. You'd tell a girl you should break up just coz she missed a date? There are dozens of things that could have happened. She might have been in a car accident, might have been called to some kind of emergency (perhaps one of her family members might have gotten sick or injured), or, as actually happened, SHE could have been in hospital! What a loser. YDI. Big time. You could have just called her to say "hey are you ok" or "where are you".
FYL indeed. Why did no-one bother to tell you she was in hospital!?
And everyone saying "You over-reacted", he was probably a bit gutted when he thought that his girlfriend couldn't be bothered. Of course his first reaction is angry.
She missed one date and you break up with her and cuss her out? She should say good riddance to you. If she takes you back, she's stupid.
In all fairness, she clearly had a phone with her and didn't even bother to say "hey mom, now that I'm in the hospital, would you mind sending a message to my boyfriend?" if she couldn't do it herself. I mean, come on. It's not like she was in a sudden coma for three days.
It's like these people who get mad about getting fired because they skipped a week of work without bothering to even call. This happened to a guy I worked with long ago. His sister died in a car crash so he disappeared for a few days. It's not unreasonable to take time off of work or cancel dates, but it IS unreasonable to keep everyone in the dark about it and then bitch about it when someone notices how much of a dick you are for taking off.
Your argument makes sense except for two things:
1) Appendicitis hurts. A lot. So you're usually thinking about the pain in your stomach more than about any dates.
2) She was probably knocked out for emergency surgery the second she got to the hospital. And usually in emergencies normal social rules don't really apply.
However the mother did overreact, but considering the emotional stress she was probably under her response is completely understandable.
It's pretty f'd up that her family obviously knew she was sick and didn't even bother to try to let you know what was going on. Whether they knew you had a date planned or not, they should have enough common courtesy to let their daughter's boyfriend know that she's in the hospital. I understand your frustration completely. Her mom was being a douche. She was understandably stressed, but the least she could do after receiving the message from you would be to explain the situation to you rather than make you feel like a dick.
#252 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:15pm by 88Mustang1
Umm why would your first response be to break up? You obviously don't want to be with her if you're threatening her with that. She deserves better. You're a douche.
As for #252, appendicitis is not something that develops over time. It is a freaking EMERGENCY. They were worried about the health of their daughter and her safety. Sorry, she's more important than texting her freaking boyfriend to make sure he knows. If he cared, he would have called to see why she didn't show up rather than threatening to dump her.
I think the missing dates has been habitual. In which case he would think this was another of those situations, and if this has been a problem before his anger would be justified. It was just bad luck/timing.
It sucks that no one told you, and you were expecting her for a date. However, your first response should be to ask why, not to threaten to break up, unless there had been a pattern of blowing you off. Since you made no attempt to find out what happened before blowing up at her and threaten breaking up, her mother was well within her boundaries to send what she did. You know why you felt like an ass? Because you were one. Maybe if you apologize profusely and respond better the next time, you can still mend it, though.
#255 - On 07/03/2009 at 9:35pm by swagmonkey
@ #2 judging you're name (cause you're apparently a girl for what you're comment said, are you emo? I'm just taking a guess, yes?
wow! haha shme. i hope she doesnt turn up to any more dates! u sound like an @r$e!! y didnt u ask y she was l8 first???
#261? Thats just mean considering shes in the hospital, i bet she was really looking forward to the date, she probably felt bad enough that she couldn't make it, then when her boyfriend texts her angry, shes stuck in a hospital bed not feeling well. she shouldn't have to take him being a jerk and telling her that they shouldn't go out after missing one pitiful date.
#262 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:19pm by roughheart
Well if she is in the hospital then there really is not a better place to have a beaten ass treated, is there?
ohhhhh haha thats a pretty dicky move! does she constantly miss dates??
or was it just that one time? b/c if so you need to take some anger management classes!
If she was your girlfriend, why the hell didn't you know about it?
Her mom didn't have any justification getting mad out you. You merely though you were being stood up while her parents sat lovingly next to her on a hospital bed.
Her parents don't like you. I advise you gtfo of that relationship, 'cause you probably won't get married.
Yeah dude, listen to #270. Cause the only reason people date is to get married. - _ - What are you 12?
#271 - On 08/05/2009 at 5:13pm by This_Quiet_Storm
This is just a generally fucked up situation. I say FYL because you couldn't have known, and from the way you worded the post, she had a habit of standing you up.
#275 - On 11/27/2009 at 9:52pm by pentameter
On one hand you kinda did overreact but on the other hand if you didn't already know and no one ever informed you then how were you supposed to know?
You're all at fault here for being belligerent douche bags.
"Today I became seriously ill with appendicitis. That same day I missed a date between me and my boyfriend. When I woke up I saw my boyfriend had told me off and almost dumped me because I missed a date."
#277 - On 02/06/2010 at 6:26pm by RammsteinFreak
wow were u sopoused to know fuck man not ur falt so dont feel bad.
#279 - On 03/07/2010 at 11:23pm by blademaster23
That's what you get for being a needy bitch.
Needy men/boys are the worst.
YDI
#280 - On 03/12/2010 at 2:18am by KaitlinCuteFace
