Today, I took home my grandpa's ashes. I then went out with my grandma, leaving my 5-year-old at home with my 12-year-old. When I got home, my beaming 5-year-old opened the door, covered in white powder. My grandmother asked where all the powder had come from. She pointed to the empty ashbox. FML
I agree, your life sucks (31307) - you totally deserved it (9306)
On 06/17/2009 at 10:40pm - love - by fcnk (woman) - United States (California)
shouldn't the OP raise his kids right in the first place?
#120 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:05pm by ravinderkaler
#179, your grammar is atrocious, and your understanding of what "necrophilia" entails is sorely lacking.
#195 - On 06/20/2009 at 7:37am by Ventriloquisitor
You forget that 5-year-olds can be pretty damn determined if they want to get at something. I know I sure as hell was at that age.
And who locks up the remains of one of their dead relatives? I doubt the OP expected her daughter to cover herself in the ashes of her dead grandfather.
Common sense should have been used here: Keep out of reach of children.
#3 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:35am by riii
That is so awful. Why the hell did you leave something that important where your five-year-old could get at it?? Why was she not informed that this was an absolutely hands-off item? Why was she beaming? There is so much wrong with this. Your poor, poor grandmother. :(
i'm honestly very sorry for your loss, but you shouldn't have left your kids home alone with something that important within the reach of a five year old.
sorry, hope you feel better
#9 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:41am by BlackxSwan
I'm really sorry about your grandfather.
But seriously, that is so insanely creepy.
She is going to be completely weirded out about it when she's all grown up D:
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Am i the only 1 getting turned on?
#13 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:47am by derekjeter92
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Your kid is obviously possessed.
#14 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:48am by IsaacClarke
Your kid will never be able to live this down. Hopefully you swept up what you could and went and threw grandpa over the ocean or something where he could be free.
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LMFAO!!
your kids were dancing in the remains of your grandpa...those cannibals!
#16 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:50am by d4l2w7
Sorry but YDI. What kind of asinine person leaves a 12 year old CHILD to baby sit a 5 year old CHILD? Your luck you don’t lose your kids!
My mother. That's who. I turned out fine, because not all twelve year olds are as irresponsible as yours. If you don't have kids, stop talking because you're too ignorant to judge anyone else.
#205 - On 06/24/2009 at 1:24pm by phatdaddy
Bleh! That's sick. On the other hand, ur grandpa's future is on ur 5 year old's hands.
#19 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:58am by DingusLvl5
Dumbassss. Why would you leave your grandfathers ashes in the reach of a five year old? YDI
#20 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:00am by gingermonster16
honestly, you leave a 5 year old with a 12 year old, WTF did you expect?
#21 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:02am by senorchipotle
I feel sorry for you, but as a parent you should have known better than to leave something like that out of reach instead of leaving that job to the 12-year-old.
#22 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:03am by 18legalawesome
a) lmao.
b) hire a babysitter? 12 is a bit young to be entrusted with the safety of your 5 year old.. or in fact even himself :D
YDI for leaving it in reach. I am sorry for your loss though. Everyone needs to get off your back though because in some states 12 year olds are allowed to watch children. Also at 5 years old the kid probably won't remember it anyways.
well at least she got a chance to connect with grandpa in ways never thought possible.
#32 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:29am by glykoula09
At least after he passed your grandpa got to be with the ones he loved
#35 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:33am by RunZoneFive
Im 12 and when I babysit I keep watch and play with them at all time ;\ that 12yr old was just irresponsible :\ im ashamed to have that 12 yr old represent us... but still my cousin is 6 and she is INSANE at 5 she easily could have climbed somewhere to see the new item moomy brought home ;] especially unattended like that sorry about your grandpa]; and no offense to you for the 12 yr old stuff :D
#36 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:45am by NewLight8421
I won't join the blame giving on here... you probably feel like $hit already. Don't! Stuff happens, you know. As gruesome and devastating the whole thing might seem... would your grandfather be upset? I know that if a kid I loved did this to MY ashes, I'd be having a VERY hard laugh :) And stop the blame game. This is just life.
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Nigga made it rain in that ho ahahahahha! but seriously that's nasty
#38 - On 06/18/2009 at 4:54am by TheGrapeApe
It sucks more so for the kid who then realizes what he/she did when they're older. They're going to have to live with the fact that they spread their great grandfather's ashes all over them for fun. That sucks.
why was a 12 year old responsible for a 5 year old?
its one thing if you leave a 12 year old home alone but to have a 12 yr old responsible for another being??
and why would you put that in their reach
YDI!!!!!
#42 - On 06/18/2009 at 5:14am by mixedchick
Shit happens. And what the hell is everyone getting so stressy about. It's just ash's of an empty vessel. People put too much into human remains. As long as you keep that person's memory alive in your heart then you don't need no steenking ash's to mourn over.
A lot of people let 13 year olds babysit their kids for a few hours... There are classes for the that sort of thing that people can take younger than 13...I don't see how 12 is that much different.
#112 - On 06/18/2009 at 11:30am by ihasanintegral
i took a babysitting class when i was in 6th grade, so probably 11. after that i started babysitting my neighbor, who was 4, and nothing bad ever happened. it really depends on the kid's maturity rather than age. i'm 16 now, and i know a lot of 18 year olds who wouldnt even be capable of babysitting a 5 year old
#121 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:19pm by australiaaaa
You can find a lot of those people on this site. Anyone who things your average 12 year old can't take care of a 5 year old doesn't have kids. People used to get married at that age, provided one of their parents had died so they had a place for their spouse to live in the house.
Shit happens. It probably wasn't even mostly your grandpop's ashes. They just scoop out a bunch of gunk at the end of the day and give it to you.
#158 - On 06/18/2009 at 5:02pm by I_am_stupid_also
Why can't you accept that grandpa just wanted to molest his granddaughter one last time?
#207 - On 06/24/2009 at 1:29pm by phatdaddy
a good idea would to put the ashes in a place away from where your kids can get into it. and why the hell would you leave your 12 year old in charge of a 5 year old what kind of parent are you?!
# 44 your right shit does happen...like to this persons head.
thats why i dis like people their so dumb sometimes
#50 - On 06/18/2009 at 5:42am by akfml
I'm pretty sure the age doesn't matter, it's more about the maturity of the older kid. I started babysitting at age 12 and there were never any problems. This is not "neglect" on the mother's behalf, her 12-year-old should have been paying better attention to his/her younger sibling.
#97 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:42am by singachic87
"thats why i dis like people their so dumb sometimes"
Case and point.
Shut your face.
#208 - On 06/24/2009 at 1:32pm by phatdaddy
You completely deserve it for leaving two kids at home on their own! I'm pretty sure that constitutes neglect,
#53 - On 06/18/2009 at 6:30am by Sgt_Schadenfreud
Are you reterded? There was a friggin 12 YEAR OLD there. Not some little kid. We're talking about someone old enough to give birth to her OWN kids.
#209 - On 06/24/2009 at 3:33pm by phatdaddy
That's gonna be SUCH an awesome story to tell at her graduation!
"Do you remember when you were 5 and you rubbed grandpa's dead remains all over yourself? Hahaha. *sigh* Good times..."
wtf? YDI when you fucking a leave a stupid child with a kid who obiviosuly it isnt that smart either? where is ur husband?
Definite "War of the Worlds"-reference! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8KurkYi720 .
Fuck your 5-year-old's life for being Tom Cruise.
Later he will realize grandpas dead remains have been all over him
#58 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:26am by Guyoverhere
get off your high horse, you judgemental prick. You don't even know the girl, and 12 years old is MORE than old enough to watch a kid for a few hours at home, given that she was raised right.
#210 - On 06/24/2009 at 3:35pm by phatdaddy
This will be a good story to tell boyfriends when they visit for dinner.
#60 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:31am by elfuzzo
Maybe gramps didn't like it in the urn and he told her to let him out? Btw that really is somewhat catastrophic!
YDI it for making up an FML and not knowing what you're talking about
Cremated remains are not powder, it's more like small fragments of bone
#65 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:48am by grlwitperlEring
nothing wrong with the child, she's not horrible or anything. she's 5 for god's sake.
u've got issues tho.
#1: why would u leave something very valuable within reach of children??
#2: why did u not tell ur kids that they're not supposed to play with it?
but main thing, put it somewhere safe!
ur child is not to be blamed
you should have not left your 12 year old in charge and it shouldn't have been within their reach too.
#68 - On 06/18/2009 at 8:08am by barlessprison
At least now you know your 12-yr-old can't be trusted to watch your 5-yr-old. Keep it in mind for when you drop off the giant economy sized box of rat poison.
I think this is a FML, no way did they deserve it. when I was 12 I babysat all the time. maybe she has a normally responsible kid.
on the other hand if you left the ashes there without explaining what they were and that they shouln't be touched, them you deserve it.
why would you leave them alone without telling them not to play with the ashes ?
#74 - On 06/18/2009 at 8:33am by almostouttt
why weren't they medically sealed?
anytime somebody is cremated, the crematorium has to medically seal them.
if your five year old could open them it wasn't done right. you should sue.
At least when you look at your daughter youll know theres a little bit of him in (or on) her ; ]
Pffft. Hahahah. FYL and YDI to thee max.
#76 - On 06/18/2009 at 8:35am by BeQuickOrBeDead
this is just probably the worst fml story i have ever heard. her life is so fu"K*D, probably the most ****** story ive heard it's so bad. i cant believe sumthing as horrendous as this could happen. i cant belive it
#77 - On 06/18/2009 at 8:46am by Matthew2708
why would you leave the ashes out and why would you leave a 12 and a 5 year old home alone?!?!?!?
#79 - On 06/18/2009 at 9:10am by starstrukk18
Well, look at the bright side: the kids got to play with great-grandpa one more time.
#82 - On 06/18/2009 at 9:31am by jkjorn
I almost think this is fake...
Firstly, what kind of mom would leave a 12 year old to babysit a 5 year old after a funeral? They probably were confused, sad, had questions, possibly were even scared that the same thing would happen to other people they loved, etc....
Secondly, are you really that stupid to leave something so precious at a 5 year old's level?
Thirdly, I have had to take home the ashes of 5 family members over the past 5 years...those containers they send you home with are extrememly difficult-to-open, and they are wrapped in plastic, then covered in paper...there is no way a 5 year old could do that.
you only deserve this if both you children didnt know that what they were playing with was grandpa's remains.
If you 5 year old did know what it was, then there is something resinsly wrong with her and therefore FYL.
And to all the ppl who are saying she is only 5, 5 year olds are capable of comprehending the meaning of death and the basic things associated with it. I know i was
Apparently you don't watch any television. This plot-line is old hat.
#90 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:04am by Ventriloquisitor
YDI for leaving such a young child home with another child that wouldn't quite know how to handle them. Also, you should have put the ashes somewhere out of reach.
#91 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:05am by Katzilla_dances
you could have expected that. It still sucks a lot though. Fave
#94 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:16am by mylifesucksoften
I'm pretty sure that they make those containers with ashes really, really hard to open, you know...in case they get dropped or whatever. How in the hell did a 5 year old even get it open?
#96 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:30am by SweetieLish
Fake.. one.. those boxes are SEALED.. meaning you CANNOT get in them. two, ashes are not white, they are a dark dark gray.
FML always posts the stupid ones.
#33, If you are 12 you aren't allowed to be using this site. A responsible 12 year old would know that, and would not be visiting here. 12 year olds responsible to babysit also would be too mature to put a nearly pornagraphic picture as their avatar
#100 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:44am by nightowl43
really just an unfortunate accident, the kids obviously didnt know any better,
you should have put it in a safer place ...
#101 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:46am by lnf9ohfour
That is discusting.
But really, YDI. Why would you leave a 5 year old with a 12 year old?
And, you should have put it in a better area.
#104 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:54am by Heathersaur
i feel bad for you but you left a child to look after a child? and why did you leave the ashes where the 5 year old could reach it?
#106 - On 06/18/2009 at 11:07am by kmckay92
Why the hell would you leave a 12 year old home alone with a younger child?
You deserve not just this but, if your religious preferences swing that way, the haunting of that unsettled spirit til the end of your days.
I babysat my siblings at 12 years old, possibly even 11? When I was in 5th grade me and a friend would babysit by 4 and 2 year old sister when we got home from school a couple days a week so my mom could go grocery shopping or go to the gym for an hour or two.
When I was in 6th grade I started doing evening sitting on the weekends, a family with two kids (pre-school and 1st grade). I was only 12 or 13, but I'd clean up from dinner, give them their baths, get them to bed... it all went well.
Being 12 years old doesn't make you a bad sitter, but this one obviously wasn't watching the 5 year old properly.
#116 - On 06/18/2009 at 11:56am by wickedsunrise
they saw an episode of south park xD
when cartman drinks the ashes of kenny
and kennys' souls gets stuck in the body of eric
so watch out if your kids are doing a little weird :D
#118 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:04pm by crashdevil666
Well, that's what you get for leaving your child in the care of... another child.
#119 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:05pm by wasabipeas
A 12 year old is not a child. They are adolescents, and old enough to watch a kid for a couple hours.
#204 - On 06/24/2009 at 1:21pm by phatdaddy
I wouldn't call this shitty parenting...at all. I was left home alone when I was way younger than 12. If the kid is mature enough, then there's nothing wrong with it. Obviously this person wouldn't leave their child if they didn't think they could handle it.
And come on guys...if a kid wants something, a kid is gonna get it. The older kid obviously wasn't paying attention, maybe the 5 year old climbed on a chair or something. When I was kid, I wanted everything. Hell, I drank my grandfather's tobacco...spit once because I didn't know any better and thought it was soda. The kid saw a box being brought home and wanted it. So, they found a way to get it. It happens.
But that really sucks....I'm sorry.
Ashes are more gritty and sand-like than "powder"... and they should have been sealed. Suspicious.
#123 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:31pm by AdvocataDiaboli
How about not instead of neglecting your kids and leaving them by themselves, you actually make sure they don't get into trouble like this by being around?
#126 - On 06/18/2009 at 12:59pm by mkivsuptt
OMG!
I would have beat my child if they did that to my grandpa's ashes!
Some kids are so stupid sometimes.
#128 - On 06/18/2009 at 1:22pm by LindaBellaKirei
No....it's powder. They don't hand you bone fragments. It's a mixture of ash and bone fragments, which is then run through a machine to create a powder.
Read up, guys!
YOU TOOK IT HOME?!?! THAT'S DISTURBING! YOU KEPT IT IN THE SAME HOUSE WHERE A 12 YEAR OLD AND A 5 YEAR OLD WERE LEFT UN-SUPERVISED? THAT'S EVEN MORE DISTURBING! YOUR AN IDIOT!
#133 - On 06/18/2009 at 1:50pm by happygoluckyhh
Oh my gosh. It's okay because u will remember your grandfather longer than the ashes would have lasted anyway.
#134 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:01pm by Beachbaybe
Crap parent alert! You deserve it for being irresponsible
#136 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:14pm by Schadenfreude14
Wait....so you left a 5 year old....with a 12 year old??? You're lucky that's all that happened- and child protective services should have picked em up while your dumbass was gone- YDI
OMG, i didnt even have an account I made one, just so i could tell you that you're a bad parent!
Who leaves a 5 year old! in the house with a 12 year old? the 12 year old isn't even old enough to be home alone. idiot.
FYL indeed
#139 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:21pm by lorablatesobvz
You wasted your time making an account, because you're a complete tool, and you're 100% wrong. Not everyone has overflowing bank accounts to shell out money for a babysitter or daycare.
My sister baby-sat my 10-year old brother, me (age 8 @the time) and my newborn sister when she was twelve and she did just fine. When my borther turned 12, he was old enough to be left alone with me and my 2 year old sister and he did just fine, and I was able to babysit my 4 year old sister when I was 12, and I did just fine.
Many 12 year olds are mature and reponsible enough to watch a kid for a couple hours. Anyone who knows ANYTHING about kids know that could have happened even if the parents were home. Just because your crappy parents didn't raise you well enough to take care of yourself alone for 2 hours doesn't mean someone who DID raise their kids well enough to is a bad parent. In fact, the OPPOSITE is true.
#203 - On 06/24/2009 at 1:19pm by phatdaddy
Fag my mom works on the weekends ALL DAY and has been since i was 9 and i have been left home alone. And since that age i could cook and look after my self. At age 12 i was babysitting like 3 kids at a time all under 4. Same with bunch of people i know. Just couse you got raised horribly!
where was the 12 year old when this happened? he/she should know better...after all you trusted him/her to babysit...?!
#140 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:22pm by whyohwhyohwhy
He's a young grandfather eh? That must really suck for your grandmother.
#141 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:24pm by GothamKnight
That's so horrible, I'm sorry. But you should have told them what it was. They'd find out eventually.
#145 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:49pm by inarticulate
What is with all these people thinking that 12 year olds have the brain power of infants?
#146 - On 06/18/2009 at 2:52pm by BladeYouStain
aww thats terrible. :'(
I am also very sorry for your loss. God bless .
#148 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:01pm by aquariusbeauty
leave ur 5 year old alone with someone's ashes? I know you're 12 year old was with u, but maybe he/she was listening to music or on msn or sometihng.. like why would they care to watch over a younger sibling lol
oh. my. god. that is horriable. don't tell your kids what the ashes were, that would scar them later in life.
#150 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:24pm by likeduhhx4
Parenting for the loss.
Since when do 12 year olds make good babysitters?
#151 - On 06/18/2009 at 3:34pm by verstecktergeist
YDI for your terrible parenting skills.
First, you should know better than to leave something as precious as the remains of your grandfather in the reach of your children.
Second, you should not be leaving your twelve-year-old with your five-year-old, especially if the kid is as dense as to let the five-year-old play with the ashes.
#159 - On 06/18/2009 at 5:24pm by x3spencerx3
Why do you all seem to think that a 12 year old's brain power runs on a hamster wheel? You all also assume that the OP just left the box on the floor. Maybe she did put the box high up on a shelf but her daughter used a chair to get it?
Beleive it or not 12 AND 5 year olds are capable of thought. This only proves that adults really do forget what it's like to be a kid...
Oh my god . I cringe thinking about that .
Its just so gross .
You should have kept it out of reaach ..
#162 - On 06/18/2009 at 6:20pm by CellophaneFlower
i'm sorry that it happened, but YDI for leaving a 5-year-old in the care of a 12-year-old. a kid that age is barely old enough to take care of him/herself alone at home, let alone a small child. you should have hidden the ashes and/or gotten an older babysitter. then again, since the kids are both old enough to understand consequences, you could have just told them that the box was very important and if anything happened to it you would be really sad/mad, or else that they would both get in big trouble.
#165 - On 06/18/2009 at 6:57pm by idkwtfimdoing
Either the 12-year-old gets grounded for not paying attention, or you didn't brief him on the situation. Someone screwed up here, and it wasn't just the 5-year-old.
Also, Vegetables makes a good point.
#169 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:44pm by WolfgangDS
Remember....oranges don't leave bruises on the kids ;-)
#170 - On 06/18/2009 at 7:59pm by chainsawhutch
when they grow up imagine them asking their parents what ever happened to grandpa's ashes?
imagine their reaction
#173 - On 06/18/2009 at 9:10pm by cmtriplecage
Wow, I'd never leave a 5 year old alone with a 12 year old. >.
#174 - On 06/18/2009 at 9:19pm by misterman2
Recipe for a good time: Lean down and whisper in your daughter's ear, "You're covered in the ashy, burned remains of your great-grandfather. His corpse dust is in your mouth and up your nose." Then watch the reaction.
Granted, you'll have to pay all the therapy bills, but who said fun didn't come with a price, amirite?!
#175 - On 06/18/2009 at 10:36pm by interruptive_cow
Kids do the darndest things. My great grandmother died when I was 4, and all of us great grandchildren got a small handful of her ashes to spread out along a field of wildflowers next to her house. I didn't really understand. And I figured the dog needed some coating. Needless to say, within 5 minutes, my handful had converted our Scottish terrier into a bichon frise. RIP, granny.
Interuptive Cow--Lmfao
OP-- How could your 5 year old open what ever container the ashes were in, was it a ZipLock bag?
I can't believe how many people are saying its bad parenting to have the older child babysit... I took a babysitting course and was being paid to watch many different family's kids when I was 12. I was baby sitting a 7 and 4 year old most days after school, and I did a damn good job. Not all "kids" are idiots, you know.
If this truly happened you should know that when we, humans, are cremated our ashes become toxic so if I were you I would bring your child to the emergency room.
#184 - On 06/19/2009 at 2:11am by Achluophilia
Not exactly the smartest thing to leave at 5 year old with a 12 year old. 5 year olds are old enough to cause major mischief and a 12 year old is not exactly old enough to be able to deal with it.
#185 - On 06/19/2009 at 9:25am by xitsbananas
What are you an idiot?! Never leave your kids at home without a babysitter. First of all, the 5-year-old doesnt know any better and second, the 12-year-old kid won't really watch the 5 year old. So YDI for leaving your kids without a babysitter, with an urn full of your grandfather's ashes within reach.
#186 - On 06/19/2009 at 1:56pm by BreezyPear
That's disgusting..... I would not have left a 12 year old to watch a 5 year old.... also keep your grandfather's ashes in a safe place, AWAY from a five year old's reach, it shouldnt be that hard
and your surprised?
People wonder whats wrong with the younger generation. it's because air heads like you raise them.
For christ sake watch your goddamn kids your lucky their alive.
#193 - On 06/20/2009 at 4:54am by bordemstirs
A 12 year old watching a 5 year old? That's not bad parenting, that's down-right stupid.
#197 - On 06/20/2009 at 11:08pm by monkey314159
YDI for leaving the ashes in a place where your unsupervised children could play with the. Parental fail.
#198 - On 06/21/2009 at 12:58am by Lazyninja420
wow, why wasn't the 12 year old watching the 5 year old? and for the people saying that a 12 year old watching a 5 year old is stupid it's not really, i've been baby sitting my sister since then and we're 7 years apart
#202 - On 06/23/2009 at 7:29pm by duchesse427
no it's not. the bone fragments are ground into a powder during the cremation process.
#211 - On 06/24/2009 at 3:44pm by phatdaddy
omg!!!!!! that sux!!!! :-( FYL
@ #2: i think 12 is an old enough age to leave a kid alone... he/she is in middle school, so i'd think they'd b mature enough to handle a 5 yr old...
neways, OP that really sux... im srry for your loss. R.I.P
#212 - On 06/26/2009 at 1:59am by Nacirema20
@#212 that sentiment might sound better if you used a little proper spelling. Just a suggestion but hey feel free to treat this like a personal attack on you and flame me as you will.
My grandfather just passed away. We buried his ashes with a tree we planted yesterday. I was close to him. I'm sorry that happened to you. I would have beat the kid's ass. :( R.I.P. G-Pop
#213 - On 07/02/2009 at 1:26am by nonamedollface
My grandfather just passed away. We buried his ashes with a tree we planted yesterday. I was close to him. I'm sorry that happened to you. I would have beat the kid's ass. :( R.I.P. G-Pop
#214 - On 07/02/2009 at 1:28am by nonamedollface
Aww maybe not so bad. The grandpa might have loved the kids alot... But sorry about that! And WHY IS SHE STUPID!!??? Maybe the grandma was upset so went out to talk for a while !
