Today, my best friend whom I have been in love with for years, called me, proposed, and confessed his love for me. He was at a noisy bar so I asked him to call me back later and we'd discuss it. He called back later, hungover, with no recollection of our conversation whatsoever. FML
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On 06/05/2009 at 10:14pm - love - by Baby_girl (woman) - United States (Michigan)
They say ppl speak the truth while drunk so you'll most likely hear about it again.
#4 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:53am by lostboy910
Seems like something that would happen on "he's just not that into you"
#5 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:53am by karpaltunnell
I'm sure he'll propose, just next time, hopefully he's sober.
#6 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:54am by shazzababes
why did he call back later and hungover?
he probably remembers but isnt drunk enough to have the guts to say anything, I'd ask him about it if I was you and you'll probably get a straight answer
Bring it up yourself - life is too short!
I was wondering the same as #7 myself.
If he doesn't know how you feel about him then he is probably reluctant to risk your friendship or just doesn't want to be rejected.
#10 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:05am by dirtyhippie
well if he remembered he said he'd call you back, he probably remembers at least a little of everything else
#17 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:17am by ixel
I have to agree with #16.
If you're really best friends though, just try and ask about it. It won't hurt.
#18 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:18am by redbluegreen
Either he remembers but is embarrassd how he did it or he'd already been drinking before he called the first time. Either way less he's playing you give him a bit of time and you'll hear from him on that subject again no doubt.
I'm sorry but I'm pretty sure he meant it and then when he was drunk he was "too manly" to "remember"
#20 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:28am by sowhatrockstar
The truth comes out when you're drunk. :)
But I'm sorry hun :(
#21 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:37am by Emilaaay_alexa
Same thing happened to me with my ex
called me up drunk, told me that he loved me and wanted to marry me, stopped talking to me the next day cuz he remembered and regretted it, Just think of it this way, if he does remember and is to scared to say it then bring it up, you've got nothing to lose by just bringing it up. It sucks when stuff like this happens I'm truly sorry, i know how you feel, I really hope it works out for you =D
Keep your head up! If its meant to be it'll happen
#22 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:48am by DieselGirl
So did you tell him you felt the same way? He might think that you don't and that he's made a complete ass of himself. You may as well tell him, "Look--I know you were drunk, but I feel that way about you and have for years. There it is." Get off the damn fence.
So true #5 lol, but you should deffinatly go after him, he prolly doesn't wanna ruin your friendship, which is why he had to be drunk to tell you haha
Today, I got drunk with some friends and spilled my heart out to my best friend who I've been in love with for years. I was so embarassed, I had to tell her that I was too drunk to remember what I said. FML.
#25 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:59am by Awesomesaurus
Drink with him again and have a good time! I agree with most of the people here and think that it was an alcohol-induced truth
#26 - On 06/06/2009 at 5:12am by dyingstart
Maybe because you said 'lets talk about it later' he thought you weren't interested and just pretended to forget about the conversation entirely.
Good luck!
#28 - On 06/06/2009 at 5:41am by RunZoneFive
in vino veritas.
why didn't you ever tell him you're in love with him? maybe you would be together for years now! you should probably just do the same... go to a bar, get drunk, call him and confess your love (without the "i don't remember" part).
#30 - On 06/06/2009 at 6:09am by bittersweets
If it was genuine, he would have said it when he was sober.
Besides, a proposal over the phone? *That's* something to tell the kids.
#32 - On 06/06/2009 at 7:11am by mehwhateverr
i've said before, that's pretty much what happened with my husband. but, minus the "forgetting" part. and obviously that worked out.
i'm sure he remembers. the question is whether he's denying it because he doesn't really feel that way, or if he's embarassed or what have you. definitely bring it up. i bet he meant it and feels stupid now because he doesn't know how you feel.
good luck!
#34 - On 06/06/2009 at 7:55am by fretforyerlatte
you will hear it again. Hey at least he proposed when he was sober.
#35 - On 06/06/2009 at 7:59am by Irefusetosay
he has no recollection but called you back? kinda odd...
#39 - On 06/06/2009 at 8:14am by heavenandhell
They say everyone's true feelings come out when they're drunk. He hopefully will remember.
#43 - On 06/06/2009 at 8:31am by abbulldog1499
#39's got the right idea. If he had no recollection, how would he remember that he was supposed to call you back?
I bet he remembers, just doesn't want to make a fool of himself. Bring it up somehow. He wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it.
A little over a month ago my bestfriend/roommate confessed to me while drunk that he loved me and wanted us to date and that the thought of losing me made him almost panicky and sad. As drunk as he was he usually doesn't remember anything, but he remembered that conversation. We had another one sober and got together. So there is hope!
I would suggest that you text him as it is less in-his-face and gives him some space and time to come up with what he wants to say. Thats what I did and it worked out well :)
Good luck!! I hope you two are able to talk about it and be happy together.
On the bright side, people are more likely to reveal hidden truths than make things up while they're drunk. Chances are he really does love you! :)
If he loved you before, he may still love you. Good luck!
#53 - On 06/06/2009 at 9:59am by GothamKnight
OK if you like this guy so much right why dont you try showing it a little. Suggestions
1. Try to work out or do something different with your style not calling you fat or nonstylish but do something different to grab his attention like wow i never seen you look like that before... it grabs a guys attention and make them think about you differently. Also just make little changes dont try to overdo it and become someone your not.
2. Be a little spontaneous... Spend a day with him like the whole entire day doing something fun different. Plan out a day when its just the two of you talking having fun eating. It will give you that 1 on 1 time to connect. It makes a guy wonder like man i had such a good time with so and so and might start thinking what other cool stuff could happen if you guys went out.
3. This might sound weird but dont be as clingy to him as you are now. Meaning try to do your own thing make moves. When a guy sees a women who looks good and doing something with there life its a big turn on it shows your independence. Not only will he see that you look good a great person to be with 1 on 1 and talk too but he will also see your not always clinging to him every five minutes your independent.
Just some suggestions Good Luck
#56 - On 06/06/2009 at 10:10am by ithedarkknight
Obviously he faked being drunk so he could tell u how he feels and then deny it later if u rejected him
Thats the best way to tell a friend your inlove with them without ruining the friendshhip
He was most likely drunk wen he called you confessing his love
sorry
#58 - On 06/06/2009 at 10:41am by LittleMiss1
if he had no recollection of your convo whatsoever, how did he know that you asked him to call you back?
Apparently people's true selves come out when they're drunk. So you're telling me there's a chance!!
#61 - On 06/06/2009 at 10:54am by meadowlark
Don't feel bad I did the same thing with my crush when I was high. Not bad enough? He said yes. I'm thirteen, he's in his twenties.
#63 - On 06/06/2009 at 11:13am by diabeticgurl
You should have said yes!
Maybe you can propose to him!
#66 - On 06/06/2009 at 11:40am by pommeblossom
Well, at least you didn't agree to it while on the phone, cause you'd see him and he'd be like no... I don't remember asking you to marry me, sorry. Then you'd look like a bigger fool. :)
A lot of people confess and tell the truth when they're drunk because they don't have the courage to do it sober because they feel that being durnk, they won't remember the outcome because they could be used to bad outcomes. For all you know, he could of admitted his true love to you and when you asked him when he sobered up and he denied it, he could of been scared.
#69 - On 06/06/2009 at 12:05pm by Poetry_Puddle
Yeah, i think he does love you back, people speak the truth when they're drunk and he would be embarrassed if you told him what he did last night -that's probably not how we wanted to tell you.
#70 - On 06/06/2009 at 12:17pm by Dutchie2010
# 17 - my thoughts exactly (:
too bad though about him being drunk - maybe he'll ask you again?
#71 - On 06/06/2009 at 12:18pm by sarasarasarasara
He's lying, he remembers and is embarrassed, he probably thought you didn't feel the same way if you told him to call back later, but if he did call you later he remembered to do that much and therefore remembered why, trust me the point to get drunk and forget everything is the point at which you're throwing up and pass out.... he remembers, and oyu should bring it up. Plus, people are more honest when theyre drunk.
doesn't matter if he remembers or not
You've been in love with this guy for years
Go for it
It's worth it
If your friendship is real, it will survive no matter what
You two will figure it out
#74 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:07pm by konstantdreamer8
did you really expect him to remember?
he called you drunk from a bar, who proposes over the phone. if i was him i wouldnt even try again because your an ass
#75 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:08pm by Kira_Jenay
They say that real feelings come out when you're drunk. Talk to him.
#76 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:20pm by InfectedWithDrew
Do you really think that he'd remember if you had said yes to his proposal if he couldn't even remember even having the conversation in the first place?
#77 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:24pm by UrStoopid
If he didn't have any recollection about your conversation, how would he know he was supposed to call you back?
#78 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:37pm by genius_man16
a drunken person speaks a sober mind. so the good news is that you are both in love with each other.
I voted for this one! I feel like i make a difference! Lol jk. But still, that sucks. Try getting him drunk and drive to vegas and get married while he is drunk.
I really hope you go for it.... maybe he just needed that liquid courage, least he was thinking about you. and even if he's not into you like that at least now you'll know for sure (if you talk to him about it that is). GOOD LUCK
#81 - On 06/06/2009 at 2:08pm by kissezxoxo
yeah he'll mention it again, except next time he wont be drunk ..
#82 - On 06/06/2009 at 2:36pm by Mr_Positive
wait so he remember to call you back but not what he said.
he's probly lying and does remember.
#83 - On 06/06/2009 at 2:36pm by BethanyKimberly
i'm sorry! i really hope he was just pretending about not remembering, maybe he was embarrassed and thought you didn't love him back, but when people are drunk they usually say stuff. it was probably true. i hope so, good luck!
#84 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:10pm by rihannalover
maybe he was just disappointed at your reaction, thought you weren't into him, and used "I was drunk I don't remember" as an excuse to avoid bringing up a potential rejection notice.
it was a drunk dial, now you know how he feels and you can say what you want to him..or wait for him to hopefully say it again..this time sober.
#87 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:46pm by kisseshugsdrugs
when you're drunk, you tend to act on things you never would when sober, even if you really want to. If he gets the courage to do it, you'll probably hear about it again. Chances are he might have thought you didn't have feelings for him back, and thats why he says he doesn't remember. Either way, pursue him more, is what I think you should do. Don't give up :]
#88 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:54pm by shilo_wallace
Nah, I think he still likes you, just was too intimidated or afraid while sober. Not FYL.
#89 - On 06/06/2009 at 4:20pm by AfricanChick
dont give up. they say your true feelings come out when drunk (: GOOD LUCK
#90 - On 06/06/2009 at 5:06pm by un_loved3947
if he was hungover and didnt remember your conversation, how did he remember to call?
#91 - On 06/06/2009 at 5:28pm by marvelfett2
maybe he pretended not to remember cause he was worried about how you would react? maybe he does wanna be with you!
#92 - On 06/06/2009 at 5:31pm by newzealander
don't fret, the truth comes out when your drunk. this isnt bad, he really loves you
#93 - On 06/06/2009 at 6:17pm by raincookie
Some people say that truth comes out when people are drunk. My sister wouldn't shut up about a boy she loves when she got caught getting hammered.
Drunken words are NOT always sober thoughts. For instance, I'm a very affectionate drunk, who happens to love EVERYone I see/know.
#96 - On 06/06/2009 at 8:46pm by smalltowngirl88
I question the wording of "best friend." Is he your boyfriend, or just a friend you've loved from afar? Because if it's the latter, why the hell would you get excited over someone proposing to you when they haven't been in a relationship with you yet?
You should of told him what he said and if he asked you why you told him that you'd discuss it later you could've said because he was wasted and you wanted him to think about it.
#100 - On 06/06/2009 at 10:48pm by ElNegroHombre
Fuck. He was drunk don't get 2 happy. Or get him drunk more often so he can continue to say he loves u.
#101 - On 06/06/2009 at 10:56pm by bigbadnews122
ditto to #74.
bring up the night he was drunk in a casual conversation. don't let time pass and wonder about all the "what if"s.
In vino veritas, darling! People say their true feelings after drinking. Hopefully things will work out for you :)
#103 - On 06/06/2009 at 11:28pm by milkradio
he probably meant it, most people have more courage to say what they feel when they are drunk. It's unfortunate that he doesn't remember what he said, but he probably meant it
YDI, solely because you told him to "call you back later to discuss it". These types of things definately should be talked about IN PERSON.
would you rather him remember and be apologizing for the drunk call?
#108 - On 06/07/2009 at 2:42am by mylifeisfuckeddd
Well he probably just got the courage to tell you because he eas drunk, but couldnt remember he did it. But not remembering doesn't mean it wasn't true. You should bring up your feelings. There's a big chance he'll feel the same
Go for it. He probably took it the wrong way when you didn't immediately tell him you loved him and now he thinks he's screwed up.
TELL HIM! TELL HIM! TELL HIM!!!
My best friend/ex gf and I have liked each other on and off for years, just never at the same time. I never told her how much I love her and last month found myself standing as #8 groomsman in her wedding.
TELL HIM!!!
wtf how did he remember to call you back but not what for, i reckon he does remember saying it just didnt mean it sorry x
#113 - On 06/07/2009 at 6:48am by Gumboots
If he had no recollection of your conversation, how did he remember to phone back? :S
#114 - On 06/07/2009 at 5:55pm by joshiladlfc
the truth comes out when you're drunk
he loves you :)
#115 - On 06/07/2009 at 6:22pm by weezybabey123
I call BS. Remembering to call back, even after forgetting everything about the conversation?
#116 - On 06/07/2009 at 7:44pm by godyourethick
You'll need to coax this out of him again, as he probably thinks you have no reciprocal feelings. Dress sexy, and go get him.....
If he didnt remember it at all, then how did he remember to call you back?
I call B.S.
#119 - On 06/08/2009 at 12:06pm by jw987654321
So now you know you're in love with a person who gets so drunk they don't remember what they did.
FYL if you don't dump him.
#121 - On 06/08/2009 at 1:44pm by NonchalantSavant
You are a douche OP. If he is worth it, so what if it is noisy? Go for it.
#122 - On 06/08/2009 at 5:24pm by the_effed_life
OBJECTION!
How'd he call back if he had absolutely no recollection of the conversation to begin with?
They say people let out their true feelings when they're drunk. Don't worry, he was probably telling the truth! Approach him about it :]
If he called you it means he does remember the conversation because you told him to call you... he's probably afraid of telling you again... confront him about the conversation!!!
Its impossible for a man to be "best friends" with a woman unless, unless he really just wants to get with her and is just too afraid to say it. His drinking obviously caused him to lose this inhibition, so no surprise there. It looks like neither of you have balls to be straight up about say how they feel.
#126 - On 06/09/2009 at 10:42pm by Pharmacyst
Call him on it. And if it makes you feel any better, he'd have just woken up and not known why he was engaged so it's better this way not to get your hopes up. Think how many people you would have called and told the good news to just to reverse it. Now THAT would have been an FML.
#127 - On 06/10/2009 at 12:15pm by mzmaverickd
So what's the big deal? That's great, you're both in love with each other, call him up & have sex or something.
How could someone possibly construe finding out the person they love loves them back as a bad thing?
Man, if that was me and I was so in love, I wouldn't have just been like "That's nice, call me later!", I'd have been like "WHERE ARE YOU I'M COMING"
K, think im the only one thats noticed this... But dude, how does he remember to call you back, but NOT remember proposing to you? I dunno, but if it was me, i woulda remembered proposing to you rather then to call you back...
if he remembered to call you, didn't he have some recolection of the conversation?
#137 - On 08/16/2009 at 1:31pm by theroofisonfire
ouch...I know how that one goes. never at all pleasant.
#138 - On 08/31/2009 at 12:21pm by xXxHopelessxXx
Hm, he remembers to call you back...but doesn't remember saying those things? I find this one hard to believe..
#139 - On 09/08/2009 at 12:48am by shineyourlight_x
at least you know that when people are drunk, they tend to tell the truth.
#140 - On 09/22/2009 at 10:50pm by SirAlto
