Today, my mom had a baby shower. When it was over I walked around cleaning up the trash, when I saw a card sitting on the table with a note to my mom saying "better luck with this one." At the moment I am an only child, and the card was signed from my grandmother. FML
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On 04/09/2009 at 5:44pm - kids - by Tim (man) - United States (Illinois)
Perhaps she has had troubles having children between you and this one, and has just been to upset to talk about it to anyone but her mother.
Or maybe it was just entirely irrelevant, and you're thinking too hard. Or possibly your mother had trouble with your childbirth (a lot of pain, complications, whatever), and your grandma's wishing her luck with not having that happen again.
#3 - On 04/09/2009 at 7:56pm by TurtleGenius
Ouch...I'm sorry. But you seem like a pretty nice guy (assuming you're a guy since your name is Tim). since you're helping clean up (I know that isn't much but still). And just wanted to say that I understand what it's like being an only child, since I'm 16 and have been one my whole life (no half-siblings either). So, congrats on your new sibling!
#6 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:01pm by dol567
for those outside america: "baby shower" has nothing to do with
- small rainfall
- bathing an infant
- bathing like an infant
- delivering a newborn in the bathroom
it was confusing >.> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_shower
#7 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:05pm by blland
You're all stupid. Maybe the mother was having problems having another kid, and the grandmother was hoping that wouldn't happen again.
FYL for your grandma dissing you like that, but YDI for going through other people's stuff. That's what you get for being a snoop!
I conquer with #8, she could have been talking about childbirth or hoping it was a girl this time. Btw I think it's a FYMother'sL if you are old enough to use the computer and clean up after a party, she's probably too old to be having kids... which would explain the trouble conceiving.
I think the first few posters were right. It's probably a reference to her pregnacies or childbirth, not to you personally.
#11 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:10pm by FreedomFirst
yall can cover this up all u want, u know granny was being a bitch!
#14 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:24pm by sunshyne84
#10, you're an idiot. Firstly, it's CONCUR, and secondly, you are making huge assumptions. Maybe the mother had the OP at 15 or 16 and the OP is about that age now. That would make the mother 30-32, which is certainly not "too old" to have children.
#8, did you read any of the previous comments? #1s-3 suggested relatively the same ideas.
Learn to read before you go running your mouth.
hehe @ #7, I could see how the term baby shower could be confusing
#17 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:38pm by soulonfire928
even if #1 is NOT right, at least your mom did the right thing and threw it in the trash ;)
#20 - On 04/09/2009 at 8:59pm by shadow_moses
#15 and #21, maybe #10 really did mean conquer, and they regularly team up with #8 to invade and take over small villages and nations.
It could happen.
To the OP, I think the previous posts suggesting difficulty with your own birth or perhaps miscarriages are more likely than your grandmother thinking you're a failure and hoping the next kid's better.
I would assume she is talking about a difficult pregnancy, birth or possible miscarriage. Grandma's just aren't that mean!
#25 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:46pm by 100308
Okay, seriously, grandmas aren't bitches. Anybody ever think that maybe mommy dearest had a problem delivering you? Or maybe she had problems getting pregnant or maybe even miscarriages?
#27 - On 04/09/2009 at 9:53pm by SVelasquez
Maybe you suck at life.
Hey, might as well be blunt instead of trying to cover up for his grandma!
:]
As a mom I can say that no mother (or grandmother) is gonna bitch about a kid who cleans up after his/her moms baby shower. Might seem like no big deal but a LOT of kids are monsters...
It is probably about something that has nothing to do with you.
Yeah, I agree with everyone else. This doesn't mean you're a bad kid... maybe you were a difficult labor, or maybe she's miscarried several times and didn't tell you.
#17 you're a dumbass. It's obvious that the mom was having trouble having another kid, and the grandma was hoping she wouldn't have to deal with that again. Why doesn't anybody get that?
Talk to your grandmother and mother about it! Maybe she was kidding...
#35 - On 04/10/2009 at 12:33am by findingmyself
#7 ur a typical self-centred american, the rest of the world arent all complete retards who dont know what a baby shower is, america isnt the only country who has one
Uhm...isn't the baby shower usually AFTER the baby has been conceived?...so I don't the "Good Luck" was in regards to the mom having better luck conceiving...
it could still be about miscarriages that the OP's mom doesn't like to talk about...or it could be about the OP...grandparent's don't seem to care about the repercussions of what they say
#37 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:04am by save_me_08
#13 is right. If she had a miscarriage while you were very young, you would never have heard about it. Rather than posting here you should ask your mom what your grandma meant. Unless you're a very horrible child (do you beat up people, sell crack and leave the toilet seat up?), your grandma certainly loves you.
#38 - On 04/10/2009 at 1:05am by nicolas
Haha, thanks #7. I was indeed curious what it was.
#1 has a good point. Lets hope grandma was aiming for that one.
Usually a card accompanies a gift. Maybe the grandma was referring to the gift she'd gotten your mom for the shower?
whether or not you deserved that comment..its rude to put that in your mothers card..she should be sending positive energy her way..not telling her how fucked up her 1st child is...people have no class or concern for others
#44 - On 04/10/2009 at 3:01am by arismell
HAHA #7
Well this kind of depends on the situation - I agree that you seem like a nice kid, so your grandmother probably meant something else - pregnancy troubles, or maybe you were difficult as a child, or something. Maybe ask your mom about it? But don't sweat it :)
#36, I didn't get what a baby shower means, and it seems like a very silly and unsuitable name for it. thanks #7.
#7 don't be ignorant...I'm not american and I know what baby shower means. Just because you're not american doesn't mean you don't know what things are.
OP, this could mean many different things. So don't worry.
Anyone ever think think that maybe the grandmother was just joking??
#49 - On 04/10/2009 at 6:46am by wiggleworm
I agree with #49. As a second child, I've joked with my older brother "The firstborn was experimental. I'm the one mom and dad got right!" and this reads as a joke meant in the same spirit.
#50 - On 04/10/2009 at 7:17am by elfuzzo
#49: nope. Grandmas I know don't joke in ways that are mean about other people.
- Maybe I've been hanging out with the wrong kind of grandma?
#24 wins for funniest and most whimsical post.
Thanks #7 for the translation - at least some some folks were generous enough to think you were being helpful.
It's not like you said: "you want .. I translate ... ching-chong?"
That's sad... I hope you'll figure out that the case was something like what #1 said.
#52 - On 04/10/2009 at 8:42am by itsTiffany
Um, you people are stupid. #7 clearly states "it was confusing"
(S)he isn't being a patronizing American... (s)he wanted to help other people who couldn't understand...
#53 - On 04/10/2009 at 8:48am by PTERONOPHOBIA
why is your mom having a baby shower for the second kid -- isn't that greedy? one kid yes, two?
#54 - On 04/10/2009 at 9:01am by erisfreenici
I would ask her. Maybe she did have birth complications or a history of miscarriage that she didn't share with you when you were younger. Or maybe your grandma is just a toxic and thoughtless woman. If you know the latter to be true- ignore it.
#54- it's not uncommon to have a baby shower after such a long time between children. The OP is probably at least in their teens, it is not a stretch to think that they might not have any of the original things anymore. Even if they did- a lot of older baby items would have deteriorated, expired or be completely useless. Think carseats- they expire after just 6 years due to deterioration of materials. It makes sense.
#55 - On 04/10/2009 at 9:20am by knowitall
Maybe you should have been a better child. What was with all the crying you did between the ages of 0 - 3 anyways?
#56 - On 04/10/2009 at 10:02am by rukusrazor
Did she have complications during childbirth with you? Did you consider that maybe it's not because of who you are, but how you came about? Why don't you ask your grandma about it?
#58 - On 04/10/2009 at 11:34am by Fields4mint
I was going to say the same thing #3 did, maybe she had a difficult labour before, maybe she even lost a baby or something and never told you =/ there are a lot of explanations, some of which don't even concern you. If you are worried maybe you should ask your mum or grandmother about it.
awe that's sad,
it could mean just about anything though,
maybe it was a hard child birth or something?
idk, i wouldn't take it to personal.
ask her what she meant by it, see what her reaction is.
Look on the bright side, that's one less funeral you have to go to now.
#63 - On 04/10/2009 at 6:24pm by OdinsRaven
Now, hang on. What was the gift that went with the card? Maybe it was something that didn't work when you were growing up, and she got her a new one for this kid. Something stupid like disposible diapers. Maybe she tried it with you and it didn't work, so her mom is like "Better luck with this one." Or some other baby item. She might not have been talking about the child itself, but probably whatever gift came with it.
#64 - On 04/11/2009 at 1:42am by MichyGeary
Two logical reasons:
Your grandmother, a wise woman, was simply poking humor at the difficulty of being a mother.
OR
Considering your name is Tim (a male) your mother most likely wanted a female child - and your grandmother had remembered ever since.
#36.....#7 wasn't an "arrogant American"; they are from somewhere else and didn't know what a baby shower was and had to look it up themselves; they said that.
sorry, but YDI. there has to be a reason your family doesnt like you........again, sorry to be so blunt, but many teenagers (my peers) are disrespectful asses. i hate my generation......
#69 - On 04/14/2009 at 8:44pm by WildBill1337
dude lets pray #1 is right, but if not i'm sorry man...
#72 - On 04/19/2009 at 5:52am by johnnyramone
i would confront both your mother and your grandmother. that is not ok to say about anyone at any time, new baby or not. your mother should not let your grandma say that about you, and at such a tender time in your family it is vital that there aren't any cracks in the foundation of your family tree.
#10
maybe his mom had him young?
my mom had my brother shane when
she was 18 thank you. and he was about
12 when my other brother was born.
and he was like 4 when I was born.
#77 - On 05/14/2009 at 12:13am by amandaMALICE
Everyone could be right on this, I didn't even think of the fact that there could have been complications you don't know about.
But if she really was talking about how much of a screw up you are, then OUCH, Grandma Burn! It's rare, but grandma burns are intense.
#78 - On 05/22/2009 at 5:27pm by charginasaur
That was dumb of Granny not to think that you might see the card.
#83 - On 07/29/2009 at 11:59pm by iFruit
