Op might not want to seem like an untrustworthy wife in the future. They should just talk things through and decide if they are ready to have a child.

That's bull. She needs to leave him. He helped make the baby, it takes two people. If he can't handle it and she wants it, she needs to find a better man.

Not act like she got pregnant from someone else; he doesn't deserve to have a child.

The child doesn't deserve to have him.

#14 - sense of humor failure much? this is an awesome #1 comment.

'she' should have?!? it takes two, accidents happen! and theyre engaged, surely he shouldbe ready to settle down.. then again if he thinks ignoring it will make it go away then hes obviously an idiot...

Wow guys, give the lad some time to get used to the idea. It's harder for men to feel close with a baby until it is actually in front of them. (Plus, I too thought #1's joke was funny. Note the word "joke".)

#52, it is still entirely possible to get pregnant when having protected sex.

#61 men aren't allowed to have feelings or be slightly gunshy about having babies. They have to be ecstatic from the second they hear the news or else they are evil bad people who deserve to be left and spit upon. For those of you who are slow, that was sarcasm.

There's got to be a better way to tell your SO your afraid of being a dad.

Few people stop to think that maybe her fiance was joking. A bad joke, but still joking.

Yea My sister was born through Birth Control & Condom.

A little late to be deciding that now. She needs to have a serious talk with him though, maybe he's just really nervous and is acting inappropriate without realizing it. I've known men to make bad jokes when they don't know how to express what they're feeling.

Best answer. OP You don't sound foolish enough to be with a guy like that. Poor baby. I have a 3 month old and love him dearly. The only thing I'm sorry for you is that baby has your ignorant fiancés DNA.

#31 Your comment intrigues me. The child doesn't deserve a father?

Aye.

Because telling the dad he isnt the father always keeps them around.....i think you should rethink that....

I'm pretty sure the fiance was joking... in fact, it's pretty obvious that he was. how do people not see that?

Husband?

Husband, fiancé, whatever.

oh the jokes ppl can't take

More of an idiot, but whatever.

#3 Can i just take this moment to inform you of how wonderful your profile picture is.

#46- I think it's a tie. Kids are something you should discuss prior to engagement.

If you don't want to be a parent--and there are a lot of folks like that--then a baby is NOT a gift. Someone needs to tell OP's fiance to grow up. Pretending a problem isn't, there will not make it go away.

Babies aren't a gift if you don't want them or are tokophobic. Then their a evil monster curse.

All a matter of personal opinion, 4. One person's gift is another person's 18-year minimum prison sentence.

Dang people, 4 is right :) babies are a gift from God if you don't want a baby, then don't have sex :O or at least be more careful

47 luckily though there is abortion.

Not every gift is a blessing, some gifts are a curse.

That seems even less likely than the original idea he had

Your username and your comment are amazingly contrasting.

Our perhaps she'll take the hint and at least consider his suggestion on the pro choice topic before burdening herself with a child the father clearly did not intend to make and does not want.

#45, a fetus is a living, breathing, human being. It's been proven.

I don't always refer to human beings as burdens, but when I do it's because a lazy dead beat moron doesn't want to be a father to his own child.

As much as I am pro choice this seems like a case for adoption over abortion if after the birth they still don't want it

While I think the wording needed work, I'm kind of with Drifter on this. If they didn't discuss kids beforehand and he's really deadest against being a father, she's still got some time to consider whether or not she wants to be a single mother and take appropriate actions if she doesn't. (Waits for down votes from the "Babies are a gift from God" crowd, but responders be warned, 1) I don't believe in God and 2) I only like gifts that come with a receipt.)

@#45 - If she wants the baby, how would it be "burdening herself"? Just because he doesn't want it, doesn't mean that she doesn't.

@9 "man up"? So if he doesnt want kids at that point in his life hes not a real man? What an ignorant comment.