i feel sorry for you, a violent-when-non-medicated mother. how lovely.
You need to contact her psychiatrist and let him/her know what happened. It sounds like your mother must stay on her medication, and depending upon her condition, they may be able to give her weekly or monthly shots, instead of pills to take. Shots are monitored, as the person actually has to come into the office to get them, and then then doctor knows for sure that the patient is taking their medication - which also makes it safer for you. Definitely don't let her know that you're checking up on her, and don't ask her anymore about if she's taking her meds because it'll provoke her. If she can't have shots for her meds, then maybe some in-office thing could still be arranged? Sometimes having the shrink know that the patient is off her meds, and him/her saying something about it, is enough, but that would only work if the person doesn't have a problem with the shrink or authority, and doesn't have paranoid delusions that you are spying on them.
And #42, obviously you've never had a loved one who did something like this. Of course, if a stranger pulled a knife on you, the thing to do would be call the cops, but when you love someone that you know isn't that way when they're on their medication(s), you give them chances to straighten up - rather than trying to get them put in jail. (And threatening with a knife for a first offender wouldn't be jail, most likely, especially if the person has a history of mental illness. They'd just be sent back to their shrink.) It's difficult to be in this type of situation because it's a neurotransmitter problem in the brain, and if only the person would stay on their medication, things would be okay. But similar to an addict, there can always be a battle to keep the person on their medication because, again depending upon the condition, they think they can handle it, or feel so good they think they don't need meds anymore, or the meds stop working. It's up to the person with the condition to realize that they need to stay on meds, or that the meds aren't so good anymore. Or if the person isn't aware enough to do that, and the family hasn't written them off, it's up to the family to step in, which the OP tried to do.
Remember OP, you're not your mother's keeper, and if it becomes too hard or she keeps refusing to take her medication, it's perfectly acceptable to walk away. Please check out the book, "Toxic Parents," as it helped me deal with my own situation. Good luck.
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Speak your mind, but please try and be respectful.
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