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By heycutie / Tuesday 15 April 2014 04:24 / United States - Grand Rapids
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#15 The only reason to "man up" and accept completely unreasonable behaviour like slapping others unprovoked is if you, in fact, do NOT believe in gender equality and think that women are like immature children who aren't accountable for their bahaviour.

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I agree with Shadowbay, sadly though, if he chose to retaliate he would probably have a battery charge levied against him because it's ok for a woman to hit a man, but if he defends himself then he's a woman beater. Double standards........

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48 is right. My friend told me there's a law that says a woman has to hit a man 3 times before he can hit her back. I've never seen a source for proof, but he's a really smart guy and knows a bit about the legal system. Lots of laws favor women with stuff like that, like domestic abuse and rape are taken 10x more seriously when done to a woman. And men get longer prison sentences for the same crime. Most likely because they're seen as more violent so people think they need more time to be rehabilitated. And sorry for sort of ranting about this. I spend too much time on tumblr where everybody separates things into gender issues.

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That analogy doesn't work because those things have nothing to do with gender. It takes three hits because women are seen as the weaker sex. What does stabbing and shooting have to do with gender? Nothing. But hitting does because it's based on muscle which girls usually don't have as much of because they don't produce testosterone (well they technically do, but not nearly as much as guys). I would say nice try, but you really didn't try very hard.

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Really? Down I go? Maybe you should look at the comments... And I don't understand how I'm stupid when I'm pointing out a law that exists, but ok. Yeah. I'm the stupid one.

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The constitution calls for a separation of church and state yet gay marriage is illegal completely on the basis of religion, and it says "In God we trust" on our money. There are many things about our country that go against the constitution. And you can't just "assume" a law doesn't exist when you have no idea about it.

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The "I know I have equal rights" part of gender equality is developing nicely, but the "I know I have equal accountability" part is lagging behind severely.

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#29, I don't believe she had a reason to be angry. If OP was whistling loud enough she should have been able to hear it while approaching him. If he called out to her in a demeaning way after the whistle I could understand, but he didn't.

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29 didn't say it was okay to slap people in response to verbal harassment OR that OP deserved it. She was just saying that street harassment is not okay and she can understand where the girl was coming from. As in, as a girl, you get harassed so often (ranging from whistles and cat calls, to more explicit verbal harassment, to physical assault) that it kind of becomes your default expectation. I would never hit anyone because they whistled at me and even if I thought it was aimed at me I would clarify before I said anything but that WOULD probably be my first thought. It's sad, but it's the reality a lot of women live with.

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Therefore, although she shouldn't have hit anyone (which is what 29 said anyway), I can see why OP might have mistakenly thought it was aimed at her and gotten upset (thus making her defensive and more likely to overreact).

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Well it massed muster with the FML voting community, the mods, and the Mighty FML Deity, plus I see it posted on fmylife.com. So I'd say that does, in fact, make it an FML.

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well not cute enough for OP to whistle at. You look at a girl once and some of them think you're crossing the street to follow them, instead of the fact that you are actually going that way. I have never pulled the gay card but one of these days I will, just to shame a girl.

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I think for a lot of girls it's nothing to do with being conceited, it's just a rational assumption borne of the sexism they DO experience. I don't think I'm pretty or have a great body or anything like that - I actually have a lot of body hang-ups - but it's still something I live with and so come to expect. Doesn't make violence okay of course, but please understand what girls often go through every day before deciding they're all just narcissistic attention whores.

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