I feel like we had the same grandmother lol. Mine thrived off shitty things happening in others' lives. All she ever did was talk badly of anyone who wasn't around at that moment. I've never met such a negative person. She had money and she tries to pit everyone against eaxh other by writing them out of her will when they do something she doesnt like. My brother got wrote out for one bad grade and the other one got a DUI once. I lost my share for dating someone she doesn't like ( she doesn't like anyone) Now she has stage 3 colon cancer and cries because no one is there for her. I have a serious issue with older women because of the horrible things she's done.

So your mother could do whatever the hell she wanted and your wife would have to take it? Nice to know. Truthfully, if you don't want someone getting hit why can't the actual family members stand up to the rude person before it gets to that point. Or just stay away from them.

Be happy in blissful argument after another whenever some girl gets so Lonely that she decides that becoming yours and your families doormat sounds like a great idea

Even if your mother was being a nasty hateful little shit to your wife? I was raised in a family where hitting your own parents is basically treason, and I would still do it if I had to.

They are both adults and if MIL is an ass wife doesn't have to be around her, ever.

I'm Canadian. If my mother in law, if I had one, offended me so badly that it deserved a violent response, I would. Besides, I would lose absolutely ******* nothing. Why? I dislike In-laws on principle. You may call it disrespect, but it's more disrespectful for an adult to behave so badly that this needed to happen.

It's not a "disrespectful culture" it's not putting our mother over someone we are supposed to love. Op obviously stated that his mom was rude, disrespectful, and had been for a while. So if they bothered to talk, it didn't work. It'd be nice if words could fix everything, but they can't. Some people need knocked down a peg. When my mom was married to my stepdad my grandpa had cancer and was very sick so she lived with him and took care of him. His stepmom, my moms mother in law, liked to say how she should just abandon him in a home so she could take care of her son and after he passed my stepdad said, at his funeral, "maybe she will have time for me now" or something to that effect. Unfortunately everyone was too busy sobbing to punch him. The point? Some things deserve punching for. Op's mom could be insulting his wife's mother for all we know or saying some really nasty things. I wouldn't tolerate someone hitting my mother, but my mothers a great mom and very caring, loving person. This obviously isn't the case here.

I may get downvoted, but I agree with 63. There is probably a much better way to handle things than to act like you're on Jerry Springer. Everyone involved sounds like trash in this situation.

yes because punching her in the face would solve everything, she'd be like oh I'm sorry i get it now I'll try to be nicer.... all i know is violence is never the answer when it comes to family... you are all driven by anger, try logic once in a while and better civilized ways to deal with things.

I totally agree. Violence is not an appropriate response to rudeness. If someone is rude to you you walk away or you stop talking to them you don't physically assault them. What someone says does not give you a right to hit them. Now if mom assaulted wifey poo she gets a beat down. There are no magic words that you can say that make it ok. There is no magic topic that if brought up makes it ok. Lashing out violently because someone hurts your feelings is not acceptable past age 3.